ToriBlue:
Why should he discontinue the marriage cos of ordinary salary issue? knowing fully well that most married women don't disclose their salary.



Its his work as the head of the family to cater for his family's need so he shouldn't be complaining.

byvan03:
I will need a breakdown of the domestic chores this man helps his wife with before I can comment.

YemyTemmy:



No domestic chores involved since househelp and nanny is responsible for all the chores, weekends the husband mops the floor since thatz too hard for the wife to do. He allowed the wife to work cos she complained of boredom and the need to exercise her brain.
She hardly cook and the husband pardoned her for that cos she leaves very early and gets home late (though the husband is not the food type, he trives mostly on bread and pasteries have no issues with that)

sisisioge:



Even wife dey scam husband now, how much more Ponzi and Nigerians. Biko no vex. I will suggest the husband communicate his disappointment about her deceit to her. Its really not her fault, a lot of women are yet to see the memo that states finance is no longer a one-sided show in a marriage. Its now a joint venture. No need to think about punishment, just talk to her. Bring all the cards to the table.

By the way, hope you know her money is still technically hers, she's just going to help you with obligations here and there. I had to add that in case you begin to propose major financial responsibilities for her. Na you still go win bread, she go just help you with jam or butter or even ketchup if you groove it . It is well.

YemyTemmy:


she was not even to help the guy with ordinary purewater, let alone ketchup, yet keep demanding...she jokinly said it that the guy has money nah

YemyTemmy:


she was not even ready to help the guy with ordinary purewater, let alone ketchup, yet keep demanding...she jokinly said it that the guy has money nah

byvan03:



If this is true, then she is unreasonable. The man should let her take care of herself with her money and stop enabling her by footing transport bills. He can't punish her without appearing irresponsible as she is not a kid. Let him do his part as a man and leave the rest. Leave the house girls salary for her to pay.

sisisioge:



Even wife dey scam husband now, how much more Ponzi and Nigerians. Biko no vex. I will suggest the husband communicate his disappointment about her deceit to her. Its really not her fault, a lot of women are yet to see the memo that states finance is no longer a one-sided show in a marriage. Its now a joint venture. No need to think about punishment, just talk to her. Bring all the cards to the table.

By the way, hope you know her money is still technically hers, she's just going to help you with obligations here and there. I had to add that in case you begin to propose major financial responsibilities for her. Na you still go win bread, she go just help you with jam or butter or even ketchup if you groove it . It is well.

eyinjuege:


I really don't believe that women cannot handle major financial responsibilities. It sounds nice if a man can do everything, but seriously, I believe we all should be accountable to one another.
The person with the higher earning power does more naturally, and that can be the woman.
However, one has to apply sense in everything. I don't expect a woman to be footing the bills while the man goes about town drinking and forming big boy with his own money, neither do I expect a man to be footing all the bills while the woman is doing slay queen about town, wearing the latest weaves and clothes in town, and the husband hasn't changed his 5 shirts in years.
That's wrong on all levels.

olrotimi:
There is obviously zero trust or a breakdown of same. I know some ladies who would come on here and say "why is he bothered with her salary, it's a duty of the man to be the breadwinner of the home".
IMHO, that argument is as impotent as a eunuch.
True that the man is the head of the home and should strive to cater for his family needs, but it also takes a good wife to recognise the limits of her husband and provide assistance where necessary.
That said, if a woman hides her salary from her husband, it's either he is irresponsible with finances (by her judgement) or there is no love between them.

nnamdibig:
You give your wife transport to work yet she hides the salary from you and someone here said most women hide their salary(which is a big fat lie). That her salary no get transport, wardrobe & feeding allowance?

Some people really don't understand the meaning of honesty and openness in marriage.

ToriBlue:
Why should he discontinue the marriage cos of ordinary salary issue? knowing fully well that most married women don't disclose their salary.



Its his work as the head of the family to cater for his family's need so he shouldn't be complaining.

pcguru1:


Not today if anything most prepare for things like this how to deceive their husbands. Trust and being open is old school. This is new marriage lifestyle taking advantage of the other

pcguru1:


Yep pending he loses the job then the useless husband can suffer the consequences of not keeping up with being a man.

YemyTemmy:





wife can be without work and live with husband for 10 years, but husband wont survive 10 months without work..he will be tagged useless, marriage seems to be overrated truely

Husband can live 100 years without entering kitchen, bathing the kids, going to the market, washing, sweeping, cooking...but most wives won't survive 3days only without doing these things. She would be tagged very very useless!!!!

In short, don't dare table her matter on NL, they will tell you to divorce her! Uncle, we all have roles that rests on each gender in a family unit. As it is now, this woman no follow.

Acidosis:
The woman is f00lish...


Send her back to her father's house.

ToriBlue:
Why should he discontinue the marriage cos of ordinary salary issue? knowing fully well that most married women don't disclose their salary.



Its his work as the head of the family to cater for his family's need so he shouldn't be complaining.