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Re: by thorpido(m): 11:17am On Apr 07, 2017 |
You should have decided on where you wanted to live before settling down.As it stands now,you just have to stay back there except you want friction in your marriage. I understand how home sickness can be.It will be hard to fight off.Your best bet in this case is to come,stay for a few months and go back. |
Re: by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:23am On Apr 07, 2017 |
thorpido: Such union would never last. |
Re: by thorpido(m): 11:25am On Apr 07, 2017 |
MrBrownJay1:It's a trial.If it doesn't seem to be working,then she drops it. |
Re: by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:42am On Apr 07, 2017 |
thorpido: Unless they BOTH go to Africa, how is it gonna help to try it alone? |
Re: by thorpido(m): 11:46am On Apr 07, 2017 |
MrBrownJay1:She's in a quagmire then.Her body is in America but her heart is in Africa. |
Re: by InyinyaAgbaOku(m): 12:06pm On Apr 07, 2017 |
KanwuliaExtra |
Re: by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:47pm On Apr 07, 2017 |
thorpido: Unless she follows her heart, she will always be miserable... Whether as a gf, wife or mother. She MUST follow her heart. 2 Likes |
Re: by Blissquare(f): 1:34pm On Apr 07, 2017 |
Nice to knw that u love ur country. The best option is to come and go from time to time b4 u make ur final decision. 1 Like |
Re: by Nobody: 2:07pm On Apr 07, 2017 |
MrBrownJay1: 1000 likes |
Re: by twosquare(m): 2:32pm On Apr 07, 2017 |
Titi03:These are just nostalgic feelings..I know how you feel...seriously but please, stay where you are and visit occasionally if you want to relieve that pressure. But to move here is a bad move, since you are doing well over there. Trust me and heed to the warnings. 1 Like |
Re: by aariwa(m): 2:42pm On Apr 07, 2017 |
Nigeria is a lovely country if you have the right attitude to life. Avoid unnecessary show offfs to avoid attracting criminals to yourself |
Re: by Acidosis(m): 2:48pm On Apr 07, 2017 |
There is no place like home. Yes, it is true Nigeria is bad but no other place can replace your home country. The fact that my village doesn't have stable electricity, companies, good roads, etc. won't stop me from going there whenever I so desire.. It is not enough to condemn Nigeria because of bad leadership, OP is interested in something deeper (emotional), and unfortunately, a lot of posters didn't see that. Money, wealth, good food, etc., are not the only factors that drive our attitude and actions...but I'm not surprised, the average Nigerian is driven by, first, money, before we start talking about family. That's why someone will kidnap his own relative or neighbor for ransom. Meanwhile, the average poster here also hails from a bad and terrible village with many witches and wizards. If you've never cursed your people back in the village, then spare her and allow her make her decision. Life is too short to live a miserable life. However, @OP, you need to make your first visit as short as possible. Reason being that you need some time to acclimatize and weigh your options. The relatives you knew 20 years ago are not the same people you used to know... I may be wrong though... thanks to globalization (WhatsApp, Facebook, etc.) Lastly, you're not the first to relocate from a foreign country...only in the entertainment industry in Nigeria, I can count more than 5 celebrities today who only became celebrities because they made same decision some years ago. so I'm certain you'd cope pretty good. Come visiting, make yourself comfortable and make a mutual and final decision with hubby. 1 Like |
Re: by ednut1(m): 4:55pm On Apr 07, 2017 |
i knw exactly how this feels, was taken abroad by my mum a while ago, would dream everyday of nigeria, seems my spirit never left. Madam uve been there for too long and ur a married woman , abeg no try am. |
Re: by heavensown: 5:46pm On Apr 07, 2017 |
I suppose this was one of the things that should have been discussed with your husband before you got married given how important it is to you. Anyway given that, it appears your husband won't budge on this matter given what he went through in Nigeria and the success he enjoys now. You may have to chose between your marriage and returning home to Nigeria. As most people have said, it's better to give it a trial first and see how it goes. Also if I may ask, how often do you visit Nigeria? How familiar are you with the environment and career prospects for your field? What's really in it for you if you return to Nigeria besides just being physically close to your family and friends? Will it really be worth moving just for that? Do you know how your family and friends in Nigeria really hold you in their hearts? I'm saying this because it's so easy for people to feign friendship on social media, whatsapp etc. But when you are physically there with them, you may find yourself struggling to even generate a conversation or even find things in common to do. As a new returnee from abroad, people will flock around you for the first few weeks (or months if lucky) and after that, they may hardly even have time for you except for the ones who genuinely care and want to be part of your life. You need to really think about all these before you make your decision. 1 Like |
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