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Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by hope4life: 6:51am On Apr 08, 2017 |
professorfal: May you not marry a demon possessed woman. That's when you will appreciate being single with little is better than being married with much. You will have heart attack and live a shadow of your real self. God knows why he says no divorce for Christians except in a case of adultery. If not so, more than 50% will have divorced including pastors. Many cover a lot of things under suit and put on costimetic smiles outside. Op, when you see her true pix while dating her why did you marry her?Women,women,women.Dont listen to men whose destiny has been shattered by women, you will run when you see one. Ask Adam, Samson, David, Solomon. Nevertheless there are good ones among them Prov. 31.Men surrender to Jesus because you will attract your own kind. Pray for her and endure. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by robotix: 6:58am On Apr 08, 2017 |
Dexema:this is not a case of olosho bro. If na olosho, she for dey fork different dicks. It's just a case of a woman not loving a man. He is just there for the "Mrs" title. I don't forgive people who play on my intelligence. I don't! You can commit any other crime against me BUT when it seems you played on my intelligence, you are a gunnnnneeeeerrr. QED. @Olubee22, how was your night? Hope you slept well? Omo da da, Omo to bi re (hope I go I spoke it well?) lol. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by onitshaman: 7:03am On Apr 08, 2017 |
o'boy,u are the bigest mumu/utobo i have ever seen,that akwuna told U in practical terms that u mean nothing to her but u mumu,u went ahead and married her.I am sure that guys go de screw am for ur bedroom when u no de for house.Onuku!! one day she go born aboki picken for U mpama! |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by rilla64: 7:03am On Apr 08, 2017 |
eejo: Best advice ever. Marry a second wife and she'll start crying wolf on joros blog. |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by kaboninc(m): 7:09am On Apr 08, 2017 |
So much to say.. If no kids, I'll just leave her for a while.. Don't know how trust can be rebuilt.. .years of lies.. . I can forgive but can't forget. And if I forgive, may not want to continue. But if there are kids... .i just don't know. |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by BrainnewsNg(f): 7:09am On Apr 08, 2017 |
Benita27: Let it go! Don't mind this kids on NL 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by kapiola: 7:11am On Apr 08, 2017 |
quit the union because she will still keep sleeping with him at ur back 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Firstcitizen: 7:13am On Apr 08, 2017 |
Ademola2017, Going by the comments, I hope you have learnt your lesson for bringing your relationship issues to Nairaland. You have been hurt and in pain but coming here will lead you to depression with such brutal comments from imbec.iles and minors who hover round this thread like bees. You have done nothing wrong by falling in love and following your heart. Even those that use their heads rather than hearts miscalculate a lot hence the marital social media drama we witness from our role models daily. You are bold for following your heart. You are a man. The man. A strong man and you will handle this like.....a real man. We all had past relationships and some are friendly with their exes even overly friendly. Some people tolerate it some don't. It does not mean something is going on but it can hurt a man's pride which is the case here. First thing is to take advantage of the present situation and put a total end to that. Now the issue of past cheating before marriage and discovered after signing the dotted lines have been a controversial issue with divergent views from even relationship experts. I will break it down to the Nigerian context. Even the holier than thou in Nigeria does so especially among the ladies who are competitive with peers when it comes to getting the 'perfect' suitor. I will try not to be politically correct. The average Nigerian lady has one or two backup relationships in case things go pear shaped. It's now our way of life and somehow become acceptable. Marriage is the start of a new type of relationship and not a continuation of the other. That is why you are asked to forsake others when making your vows. Do you forgive such?. Yes absolutely. As young adults we all follow the trend, want what is acceptable to others who sniff us and wish us to fail and want to show off. We make mistakes in the process but there is always time for redemption. This is it. Forgive this and move on. Now the most tricky part which is her attitude towards you. You both share the blame. The greatest love is the one that is learnt. Her attitude does not mean she does not love you. It's just a bad habit you guys allowed to fester. Having 2 relationships means one treats you good and the other is a bad boy. All women are drawn to the one with a little bit of danger. So she gives all the bu.llsh.it she gets to the good guy to ease up her strain or to keep the relationship at a level it does not get too serious and spoil both. It's a hard job and some play it well while others mess it up. When you got married you should have helped her correct her habits She acquired to manage both relationships but you ignored it. Now She chose to marry you. Forget all what your mind tells you about being second choice. If she did not love you she will keep hoping for another Mr perfect. Respect that and move on. Your wife made mistakes like we all do. This is an opportunity to correct all the faults in your marriage and enjoy it. Punish her a little, read out loud that riot act but still pamper her with moderation and forgive her. I think you just got presented with all the opportunity in world to have a blissful marriage. Caveat: Take relationship advice on the internet at your own risk 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by luminouz(m): 7:15am On Apr 08, 2017 |
Cusan:
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Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by BrainnewsNg(f): 7:16am On Apr 08, 2017 |
@ademola2017 i feel your pain In a relationship, there is nothing as worst as loving and not being given the love in return My advice: As you narrated in this thread, it seems you don't have any kid with her, am i right? Simply vacate the house, maybe to your friend's house for some weeks But, before you leave, drop a note for her Tell her that since she is not giving you the comfort you deserves she should enjoy the entire house If after like two weeks or a month you got no attention or an apology from her for you to return Simply send her back to her parent Don't tell her parent about this, go ahead and let your parent know about it Goodluck! 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by DIKEnaWAR: 7:17am On Apr 08, 2017 |
Splinz: Nonsense! Until the day she arranges with her ex to come and stab him and cart away his belongings ba? 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Cutie09(m): 7:20am On Apr 08, 2017 |
Pieromania: Well said agreed |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Cutie09(m): 7:21am On Apr 08, 2017 |
BrainnewsNg: Get rid of her she will.meber change trust me she doesn't love you bro using you to cure time. But as s Christian you need tò try work things out with her |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Cutie09(m): 7:23am On Apr 08, 2017 |
DIKEnaWAR: The guy should go in opposite direction she doesn't love you at all 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by watered(m): 7:24am On Apr 08, 2017 |
I still fear women till date. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by xest(m): 7:32am On Apr 08, 2017 |
SmellingAnus:U don't even knw what to say here. This one that they showered with love and respect how did she behave? A bad and ill mannered girl can never change even if u respect n love her. |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by rafindo(m): 7:35am On Apr 08, 2017 |
@ op I really felt for u but I can was disappointed in you.love doesn't exist, it is a creation by man in order to make sure the world those not turn to chaos.u allowed the society to determine ur form of happiness this is the result you get.Mark my word a bitche will never change becos she is just a bitch.well I I will humbly ask you to dump ur cloak of the so called marriage status and embrace the divorce division of Nigeria. As a counselor. 1. Life as no universal measuring tool to check how people could change as such you need to create ur own measuring tool for allowing people come close to u. 2.she lacks respect for who u are to her,since this was an initial symptoms .she would always disrespect u. 3.she is blackmailing you not to divorce her reason been that ur side of the story may be a stigma and a label to her.the society will see her like a cheat which she is. Lastly you could be the problem oh.may be she lacking something you can't provide for her.women are design to receive be it care,emotions, feeling, money,sex,attention,cuddling or been sympathetic to her fantasy or dreams check your urself thoroughly and give it an answer. I repeat do not visit a pastor if not u will be given an artificial advice 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by tifany89(m): 7:40am On Apr 08, 2017 |
pussyAvenger:Dude is it your ass? Well it's all jokes sha. |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by jedyjedy(m): 7:42am On Apr 08, 2017 |
This is what happens when a man is weak. Women love strong men. Bros, u never marry o. |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by lailo: 7:47am On Apr 08, 2017 |
SmellingAnus:Forget this love and respect u are talking about,a lady will always take them for granted and turn men to houseboy. |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by speezyWears: 7:50am On Apr 08, 2017 |
ademola2017: Marry a second wife. |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Tinyemeka(m): 7:59am On Apr 08, 2017 |
ademola2017: You are part of the evil of this world. Not worthy of my getting a ban if I actually tell you my opinion of yourself. Kindly delete that first post of yours and go kill yourself please. Tua! |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Nobody: 7:59am On Apr 08, 2017 |
ThatIgboBoy:No signs o wish I saw... |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Adexchelsea19(m): 7:59am On Apr 08, 2017 |
raphemmanuel:my gf is like that too but we are not married yet. I am hoping she will change and if she don't I will just let her go when is time for marriage. I can't be in the same house with such person. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Nobody: 8:01am On Apr 08, 2017 |
Realhommie:Yea we are happy together but when he chooses to be mean, he can be very mean and wicked dat u will forget you once had happy moments... |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Codes151(m): 8:01am On Apr 08, 2017 |
Only someone who has similar experience can tell u the truth! She was always accusing u shit because she was cheating on u! That's the point! Sometimes, they put themselves in positions they can do anything about, for money, or sth.... most of times they regret! See, cheating is a choice! When it's once a and she tells u then it's a mistake. When it's once and she's scared of telling u, she might do it again or she's lying.... But in your case She dated and cheated over and over! Well, let's say it was before u married her! Doesn't matter.... now u have to watch her closely...! If shit occurs again u have to leave her! With what u wrote, I can't conclude she really loves u. A girl can be crazy depending on your lifeStyle or her past! It's okay to suspect if u truly love but when it's too much especially when u have given her your passwords Then sth is definitely wrong! Not talking for months(two)....wicked! U guys should sit down and talk! U act like the man and man your house. Give her the option to leave to find her peace and clear her mind, it's better to be single than be with someone that doesn't give u peace of mind!!! Talk to her! Don't let her innocence deceive u! Girls are secretive! High bp dey start like this o! Goodluck |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Lord3point5: 8:07am On Apr 08, 2017 |
AreaFada2: Well said, AreaFada2. Ademola2017, please read this piece carefully. Lotta sense in it. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by bayocanny: 8:09am On Apr 08, 2017 |
AmazingElla:Aunty, I need your expertise on something its all about relationship, I would be glad if you can be of help in the regard. Thanks |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Olubee22(f): 8:09am On Apr 08, 2017 |
robotix: It was fine ,hope you had a pleasant one yourself ? This your Yoruba get K- leg o |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by Nobody: 8:10am On Apr 08, 2017 |
WOW, love can block people 6th sense ohhh, I really don't take poo from ladies not to talk of this type you just described. She apologized right? Bro it's easier said than done, it's a pity you found out later , after marriage she actually double dated ,it's left to you, if there's no kid on the way, like I said it's easier said than done. If she's apologizing because of the problem with her ex or whatever, you have to tread softly. It's either you forgive and forget and trust her as before or everything ends there. |
Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by ThatIgboBoy: 8:11am On Apr 08, 2017 |
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