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Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Excuzeme: 12:34pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
BuariCopyPaste: I suspect you are just looking for somebody to tell you what you already have in mind: To go prostrating like a Wuss, so your punnany can comeback! ![]() ![]() Do whatever butters your bread Mister. On another note, l detest "men" who cant take simple decisions that affect their life so deeply....unless they come and ask faceless, probably under-age and ignorant Nairalanders like me! ![]() ![]() ![]() Dont worry you hear, in five years time, we would also read about how your wife plumbed your head with Pestle and her Mama says "You should have run faster so she cant catch up with you"! :o ![]() Just imagine he had the nerve to write the bolded...so we can ask him to go and beg, using the son as an excuse! ![]() Umu-riffraff. Gerrahea before l slap you. BTW: get this Book and read it, maybe your head go korrect again: The Manipulated Man, by Esther Vila 3 Likes
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Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by DeRay98(m): 12:34pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
palsenator: Bingo! |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by agarawu23(m): 12:34pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Marriage wahala for guys ![]() Being single pays ![]() Her mum should be blamed. ![]() ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by emmydee(m): 12:35pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
You dated very long enough for u to understand each other. This what happens especially when a woman controls her daughter. Marriage is packed with a lot of surprises. Taking a swift nagetive action is not ALWAYS the best option. Calm down. Go and apologise to your inlaws and take your wife back! And be ready to OVERLOOK a lot of minor issues like this, by God's grace, your marriage will last. Goodluck. 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Pritypussi(f): 12:35pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
repogirl: Those who rush to give advice like this are worse off. Are you any better or truthful to your husband? mtcheew |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by 46arcadez(m): 12:35pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
BuariCopyPaste: Did u monitor the traditional wedding preparation or have some have someone on ground to make sure everything is in place? Did u give them detailed information on how u want the event ground to be decorated? Did she call u while she was still in her parent house to tell u what was delaying her? Did u call her also to ask what was keeping her? U must not marry ur baby mama but how were you people living before the traditional marriage? I mean were u people living in peace and harmony? if yes I will advise u to calm down and talk sense into her. But for her and her families to say that they are not interested in the union again, I advise u to hold onto the little boy, forget the past cuz they have another richer guy that has promised to marry her. I guess their family is not all that rich 3 Likes |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by logica(m): 12:35pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
waywardpikin:Are they not Igbo? |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Nobody: 12:36pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
DeRay98: So true. 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by floflo12: 12:38pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
@OP ITS NEVER TOO LATE TO RE START ANYTHING IN LIFE... YOU NEED TO MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE.YOU ARE A MAN AND NEVER BE SENTIMENTAL IN MAKING YOUR DECISIONS,MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by repogirl(f): 12:38pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Pritypussi:fudge off! 3 Likes
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Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by REDDEVILS1(m): 12:39pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Nna I thank God for your like. God has revealed it early enough for you. Biko move on with ur life. Pls I take God beg let her go oh. God will provide ur better half. This one na Just temptation. That ur mother in law and her daughter is the devil himself. Am sure she killed her husband. Pls no marry again. Demand for the dowry you paid. Or u forget it. Your Joy and peace of mind is more important than any other human being 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Vikky014(f): 12:39pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
PaulKillerman: Your name is Saul not Paul. please don't bother to reply. |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by ryut: 12:40pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
You have lived with this lady for two years and can tell more.But one thing i want to tell you is that the worst marriage is trying to manage marriage(character).YOU CAN NEVER CHANGE THE PERSON's CHARACTER even after marriage.The mistake people used to make is that...:you know marriage is not easy,marriage is not bed of roses,na small small,with time .....,make una dey manage am,bla bla bla.Thats nonsesnse.I fall into this "normal talk" from people and today,it never help me out despite all i tried to manage and change her.Its like a hell.Oga,please take your time and look into the marriage and know whether you will continue or not.Marriage institution suppose to be a happy one and not a hell fire.I am telling you the truth,look into the matter,then decide. 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by mazizitonene(m): 12:40pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
BuariCopyPaste:op 1. never, never, never you marry out of pity! obviously you saw this signs earlier and you choose to ignore maybe because of your son or you thought love conquereth all. Now, you have seen the kind of family you married into and you are beginning to get a taste/bite of what/who killed her father, i'll advise you, run before it's too late, for your own life and for your safety. but if you insist on saving this so-called marriage then........the choice is yours. But most homes where women call the shots are doomed 3 Likes
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Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Nobody: 12:40pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
BuariCopyPaste:Dear OP, I don't pity u @ all. Look @ ur siggy, U av no respek for constituted authority, making mockery of our amiable presido. Its Karma B1tcH. Moreso, I feel u av got ur match. So make ur stupid decision and leave with. Nairaland is not a counselling ground. We ain't therapist. |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by hardbody: 12:40pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
waywardpikin: You are indeed very wayward ![]() ![]() ![]() But my waywardness is legendary and surpasses yours ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by frubben(m): 12:41pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Fifthcolumnist:then after doing this deep down he is not happy. Dats falacy. When dem go dey disturb us with pre wedingg photo up ND down |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Bants(m): 12:41pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Probably you were not her Johnny so she went looking for her Johnny...Not a big fan of marriage |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Prettiepearlz(f): 12:41pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Op, you started this yourself when you lashed your wife to extent of making her cry on her wedding day. Who does that? Even if the mother didn't do what is expected, I think on your wedding day, the joy of getting married to the love of your life should cover up the anger but you allowed anger to cloud your judgement thereby causing you to say hurtful words to her on her wedding day! A day which was supposed to be her happy day turned out to be a day she received great lashing from her husband,haba! And from your post, if not that you had to save face, you would have sent her back home with your son too. Get a grip on yourself man and learn to control your anger! Yes I agree she was wrong for not following the tradition of coming back the same day but she obviously did it because she was angry and you then spoilt the whole thing with your anger to the extent that her family have supported her decision, it says so much about you, you know. I believe the whole family wouldn't have made that decision of there wasn't something about you. Go make peace because you are both at fault but you are the one with the greater fault here for allowing anger to cloud your judgement. Try to make the marriage work for your sake and the sake of your son. And to the women on this forum who are so quick to judge and speak ill of their fellow women, Wehdone ma! Don't judge people especially if you haven't walked a mile in their shoes. There are three sides to every story his side, her side and the truth! 2 Likes |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by aloobright17: 12:42pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
They wronged you and they still expect you to apologize? Brother you will keep apologizing till end just bear that in mind and they will keep causing you wahala. save yourself further stress now and enjoy later before it is too late. |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by ifyain: 12:43pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Next time organise things yourself. Do not out source things to other people. secondly this is not a big issue sort out your problems with your wife. 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Junkab: 12:43pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Every marriage has its own challenges. We will continue to manage ourselves as couples till end time. Just calm down, call her attention to all ur grievances, initiating peace between the two families does not indicate that you are subtle or you did not know ur rights but remember that ur little son that will eventually suffer the consequences being trained alone by either of you. Just forgive all her shortcomings, dont listen to anyone that advises to divorce her finally 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Laple0541(m): 12:43pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Aye nse yin. 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by palsenator(m): 12:44pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
BuariCopyPaste:I am married and I think I can help a bit from experience. It is obviously you don't want to face the truth. The signs are all over but you chose to ignore. Your wife wanted divorce are few days of marriage and you are fuming cos of something else (though important) . If you beg her to stay, one day she will still go. I see no reason why you should beg her not to go.. You can sought an audience with her and talk to her to change her mind but begging her is out of it. I pity your child in the middle of this mess but am sure your baby will be fine. As per your wife, and your mother in law, be ready to face a tougher future with them even if she eventually decides to stay. back in your marriage. |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Toks2008(m): 12:45pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
BuariCopyPaste: There are three sides to a story...side A,B and the truth....but if all you wrote is true I will advice you go to her mum respectfully and ask her what is going on and also open up on your grievances. ..that is the first step so go ahead and do that with hope that things will work out... |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by REDDEVILS1(m): 12:45pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
I forgot to add. Pls hold onto that child. He/She can stay with any of ur well meaning relatives that ur ex wife and her mother don't know of. At least for |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by Nobody: 12:46pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
From experience, I deduce she's playing away matches with connivance of her mum! She's got OPTION(S).....shine ur eyes! A word is enough. 2 Likes |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by willibounce1(m): 12:46pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
You better go and do DNA before claiming the child. E go shock you say na another man pickin you dey take care of. |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by alizma: 12:47pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
waywardpikin:this case is ajokuta maamomi's not ofe mmano's so better leave n.gbati n.gbati out of it |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by frubben(m): 12:47pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
limamintruth:the op is not the problem here, he just told u guys that they have being together for 2years before marrige. Meaning the girl knows about his anger issues so that's not a problem for her because she went ahead to marry him. Now the problem I why the girl dey vex yyamayama vex now after she Don marry. Dis somebody that u tay with for 2years with the anger issues and even born for am now she want to dey say she cannot cope. Another guyy Don enter matter lock up.m 1 Like |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by bnovative(m): 12:48pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Op you goofed and from your story you have no iota of respect for your wife. Why would you embarrass your wife because you feel her mother didn't spend her money the way you wish? Also it is clear you are paranoid towards your mother inlaw; and this is bad for you. You disrespected her first by impregnating her daughter without proper marriage and when you finally decide to do the proper thing, you went there to harrass her daughter without caring to find out why things were the way you met it. You are such a proud fellow. If you like seek divorce because there was no dj in your tm. 2 Likes |
Re: Married Last Week, Already Set For Divorce. Help A Nairalander Make A Decision by nedum87(f): 12:50pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Fifthcolumnist:God bless you, sure u will make a gud husband |
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