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Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by fufuNegusi(m): 3:23pm On Apr 28, 2017
EnigmaticEnigma:
I used to think I wouldn't be comfortable with my future wife earning more than I do, but due to all this feminism bs going around, I'm starting to have a rethink undecided

I mean men and women are equal right

As long as I have my money, I really can't give 2 fvcks about what my wife has.

I buy her a car, she buys me a car; and I think to myself, what a wonderful world smiley

What if she becomes overly pompous and wouldnt do anything in the house,
she becomes very disobedient and unruly, she neglects and ignores your stern instructions


will it still be a wonderful world?

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Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by Laple0541(m): 3:28pm On Apr 28, 2017
Mynd44:

Part of the reason why men dont like when their wife is richer is because they want to dominate the woman but the more financialy independent a person (male or female), the less possible it is to doninate that person. So they say a richer woman will be proud but it is that she will not agree to be subjugated.

They also seem to think a richer wife won't have time to take care of the home. They want a maid as a wife who will be in the kitchen or in the bed.

Personally, if I have a wife that's richer, better for us as the family have more disposable income and the standard of living rises. I dont see the need to control my wife as we are partners, we can just be ourselves.

And on the issue of taking care of the house, my wife is not a maid. I will rather employ a maid and pay the maid to do that. Heck, aint nothing sexier than your wife going for a board meeting and coning back to "thank" you for supporting her prepare for it.

But then again, what do I know? I dont even have a GF.

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Easier said than done,...we men are naturally arrogant, it's unbuilt (even the so called religious men are not exempted).
Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by timilehin007(m): 3:28pm On Apr 28, 2017
it is fate jare..my wife earn than me...and she is trying and respect herself alot
Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by Lillpo(m): 3:29pm On Apr 28, 2017
Presh900:
I rather die than be poorer than my wife... [url][/url]
smh for the woman to marry your type

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Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by peterjero(m): 3:30pm On Apr 28, 2017
INTROVERT:
Questions is, who sent her packing?

LET ME SPEAK FOR THE GUYS before you answer the above.
First of all she, like many others may have lost respect for our husband because 'richer' than them. She suddenly becomes proud and pompous to do household chores etc because she dishes out more dough.
This your response is legend. Hope you are still single because ..............
Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by laurel03(m): 3:32pm On Apr 28, 2017
Presh900:
I rather die than be poorer than my wife... [url][/url]
if ur wife carry f alakija destiny nko
Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by DEBJOCH1(m): 3:33pm On Apr 28, 2017
That word "Using of some one star can only happen in Yoruba where to attached every event to juju, where i come from, the husband will even recommend the wife to go and get a chieftancy title, If my wife earn higher or if she is richer than me, there is no big deal there, so long she gives me my due respect.
Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by juman(m): 3:35pm On Apr 28, 2017
Would call her mumsy. grin
Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by Nobody: 3:37pm On Apr 28, 2017
Forget all this she'll become pompous, it's just a story to help their insecure ass. Who doesn't get pompous with money? Why do you think some women don't want their husbands to make excess money? I don't know why most Nigerian men are like this. A woman has to keep belittling her achievements to inflate one man's ego.

Do you know how many wives buy themselves a car and lie to people her husband bought it, just to make him and society feel better. Both of them contribute to build a house and she has to act like it was all his doing?? Ain't taking that shitt from any man born from a woman.

The problem is, the only thing lots of Nigerian men use to hold their wives and kids down is money. Once they lose that, it bruises their ego, they start feeling useless and carrying out the frustration on the innocent woman.

Are there no pompous rich men? Men that brag to the whole world how they made their wives. I keep saying, I rather sell my kidney than allow any man train or feed my daughter in the name of marriage!! Abegiii, talk another thing.

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Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by metroid(m): 3:39pm On Apr 28, 2017
EnigmaticEnigma:
I used to think I wouldn't be comfortable with my future wife earning more than I do, but due to all this feminism bs going around, I'm starting to have a rethink undecided

I mean men and women are equal right

As long as I have my money, I really can't give 2 fvcks about what my wife has.

I buy her a car, she buys me a car; and I uthink to myself, what a wonderful world smiley


5 bottles of Star Larger Beer for you

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Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by Afonjashapmouth: 3:39pm On Apr 28, 2017
Omotayor123:
I just witnessed a scene where a woman is sent packing from her matrimonial home because she's allegedly "using her husband STAR"
A Star that couldn't buy him a Bicycle before the Marriage.cheesy

Even if she was using the Said Star isn't it just better for her to Continuegrin

Jokes Apart,


This is the Gist:
The couple both work in a Big company But the wife is more financially stable compare to the husband. she's currently building a house with her husband supervising the whole thing. she got a car of recent in her husband's name but the family and the Society won't have any of these.

Her kindness have been turn to wickedness and she's being sent packing in a humiliating manner. (They have a kid)

Now, my question is:

When you were using your own star you can't afford a bike.
When your wife bought you a new car,you and your family said she is spiritually using your star.


Isn't it a Low self esteem If your wife's income and financial status is affecting your confidence as a man

If you Make her life miserable and not make her happy just because she's richer than you, does that not mean you were never in love with her.

Love is peace,not competition. Whoever makes more money shouldn't
be a problem as long as we knows and respects each other as husband and wife.....


What's your Take on This





Nowadays most of.us just throw jabs without digesting a story... My question for u Op since you know them well.

What has the husband been doing with his own salary that we believe must be wasteful, however still made the wife trust him with her building project?

Marriage is not a life of assumption my dear Op many things happens in.our marriages that we don't discuss with people but when there is an outburst people push forward their opinions. Esp when one party wants societal pity.

Before a man that depends on his wife for a beautiful existence can send the wife packing or support families sending her out then it's out of the ordinary my dear. For me there is always a three side to a dem say story. The story, the narrator and the real truth

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Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by neocortex: 3:40pm On Apr 28, 2017
LanreDaMan:

Reminds me of a Particular Couple The Wife has a very flourishing pure water business that as at January 2017, She had 14 Water Deleivery vehicles. Husband works with Lawma as a Field operative (A Street Sweeper). Wife drives a Sienna 2012 and Hubby doesn't have a car. recently My wife pointed the House she was building which isnt far from where we are staying You would think its a Government guest lodge that is being built there.

I know for a fact the man used to be a Mid level Civil servant with a Good salary with a Federal ministry and the wife used to Sell stuff on the road side

Spiritual Evil Does Exist, lets not pretend Like it only exist in Nolly wood and stephen king books

People lose their job, wealth and positions and it has nothing to do with being married, single
or divorced. Life happens and it is not some evil spiritual people that are responsible.
It is easy to point fingers instead of taking responsibility for ones failure.
I am sure you won't blame the man if the wife was the civil servant who lost his job and
the husband becomes a wealthy pure water merchant.

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Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by Brainardc(m): 3:41pm On Apr 28, 2017
Op, i doubt if this your story is real grin
Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by Merceline(f): 3:41pm On Apr 28, 2017
INTROVERT:
Questions is, who sent her packing?

LET ME SPEAK FOR THE GUYS before you answer the above.
First of all she, like many others may have lost respect for our husband because 'richer' than them. She suddenly becomes proud and pompous to do household chores etc because she dishes out more dough.
chores ke did he marry her only for chores? is the chore meant for any special person? anybody who has the chance can do it. children belongs to man and wife, same as the house. everyone who is an adult should clean after themselves. if the lady happens to make more money it means absolutely nothing. the man should be humble enough to accept it and the lady humble enough to know that their marriage is not because of money. once they are married they are one and the same irrespective of who makes more dough. both of them need to cut their ego. humility, love and respect apply to both of them in that situation not the just the woman.
men are allowed to be pompous and proud and order women around when they have money.
once the position reverses the man's ego becomes sensitive to everything the woman does.
not that I support it but it is the reality.

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Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by OLAJADON: 3:41pm On Apr 28, 2017
Bumbae1:
Whats wrong with the woman being the rich one
Shebi na same thing
Is not the same thing, when a woman is richer than her husband it bruises the man ego, this is natural let put society issue aside. It make the male feel less of a man, it is only a man that they have jazz that will allow his Wife more wealth than him without doubling his hustle
The question you should have asked is that how was the woman behaving to her husband knowing fully well that she is more wealth than him, there must be something the society or the guy's family see that made them make those conclusions.
Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by Merceline(f): 3:44pm On Apr 28, 2017
OLAJADON:

Is not the same thing, when a woman is richer than her husband it bruises the man ego, this is natural let put society issue aside. It make the male feel less of a man, it is only a man that they have jazz that will allow his Wife more wealth than him without doubling his hustle
The question you should have asked is that how was the woman behaving to her husband knowing fully well that she is more wealth than him, there must be something the society or the guy's family see that made them make those conclusions.
if he cannot be happy and thank God for his wife's success and support her the way it is expected that a woman should support a man, it is simple let him be the MAN by going out and making more dough. nobody locked the door to money against him.

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Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by repogirl(f): 3:45pm On Apr 28, 2017
What do men want sef? If you buy property in their name, they are not satisfied... If you hide your money they are still not satisfied.

Wetin una want finally?

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Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by Bukayot: 3:45pm On Apr 28, 2017
Lobatan
Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by Eazybay(m): 3:45pm On Apr 28, 2017
Bumbae1:


Hmmm thats a valid point ... its true some turn their husband to houseboy because they earn more
But still
Make them give us chance nao grin


This info is not correct @ all ooo. Op just gave an expository via her own prism. There are irresponsible men everywhere who don't care if their kids eat and they also belabor their wives to death. Even steal from them, beat and abuse. Yet the women stay submissive and u are surprised as to how dat works. Believe me, dis scenario I've pointed out is more common Dan the one op has pointed out.
Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by Nobody: 3:47pm On Apr 28, 2017
"she's currently building a house with her husband supervising the whole thing."

Apparently the man had too much time on his hands. I'm sure he comes back home to report back to her everyday. It doesn't take a lot to lose the respect of a woman.

I'm inclined to believe her earning more isn't the problem in a relationship where the woman earns more, most men have mentally conditioned themselves to be sissies around those women.

I earn more than my man...once I told him to come work with me since I could pay him a bit more than he currently earns. He smiled and told me NEVER to bring it up again.

If she's got more money, don't go kissing her arse because of it, Man the hell up.

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Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by Merceline(f): 3:48pm On Apr 28, 2017
I pity any man that gets intimidated by a woman's success. that man doesn't belong in this century. times have changed. if a man can't rejoice and support the success of his wife, he is worse than a jealous friend. if care is not taken, his own ego will kill him

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Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by Nobody: 3:48pm On Apr 28, 2017
Omotayor123:
I just witnessed a scene where a woman is sent packing from her matrimonial home because she's allegedly "using her husband STAR"
A Star that couldn't buy him a Bicycle before the Marriage.cheesy

Even if she was using the Said Star isn't it just better for her to Continuegrin

Jokes Apart,


This is the Gist:
The couple both work in a Big company But the wife is more financially stable compare to the husband. she's currently building a house with her husband supervising the whole thing. she got a car of recent in her husband's name but the family and the Society won't have any of these.

Her kindness have been turn to wickedness and she's being sent packing in a humiliating manner. (They have a kid)

Now, my question is:

When you were using your own star you can't afford a bike.
When your wife bought you a new car,you and your family said she is spiritually using your star.


Isn't it a Low self esteem If your wife's income and financial status is affecting your confidence as a man

If you Make her life miserable and not make her happy just because she's richer than you, does that not mean you were never in love with her.

Love is peace,not competition. Whoever makes more money shouldn't
be a problem as long as we knows and respects each other as husband and wife.....


What's your Take on This



Lol yoruba thinking at work
Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by Nobody: 3:50pm On Apr 28, 2017
repogirl:

What do men want sef? If you buy property in their name, they are not satisfied... If you hide your money they are still not satisfied.

Wetin una want finally?
Don't mind them.
Buy property in which name? Naso! grin
I was with a friend recently, she works in an oil servicing firm...asked where her car is, she said her guy took it. She started telling me how she has tire, a nice girl o...Very few of them can handle a strong woman...very few.

They don't know what they want.

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Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by OLAJADON: 3:53pm On Apr 28, 2017
Merceline:
if he cannot be happy and thank God for his wife's success and support her the way it is expected that a woman should support a man, it is simple let him be the MAN by going out and making more dough. nobody locked the door to money against him.
You not getting my point, men are not again so successful women but the moment when she is fronting it to bruise his Ego is what am saying, these lead to my question how was she behaving, to make the society and his family make those accusation.
Generally , the good you women learn to understand that we men are egocentric the better, it will really save a lot of Marital issue#fact
Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by jgbemson1: 3:53pm On Apr 28, 2017
For me I can't do such a thing instead I will b praying for her n no third party will know any going on between us
Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by Jabioro: 3:54pm On Apr 28, 2017
The husband is a fool, is not the same husband feeding his family of what going on his family.My first plot land was. bought by wife,..He is a fool I repeat OP if know the husband help me tell am
Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by iamuye(m): 3:56pm On Apr 28, 2017
Omotayor123:
I just witnessed a scene where a woman is sent packing from her matrimonial home because she's allegedly "using her husband STAR"
A Star that couldn't buy him a Bicycle before the Marriage.cheesy

Even if she was using the Said Star isn't it just better for her to Continuegrin

Jokes Apart,


This is the Gist:
The couple both work in a Big company But the wife is more financially stable compare to the husband. she's currently building a house with her husband supervising the whole thing. she got a car of recent in her husband's name but the family and the Society won't have any of these.

Her kindness have been turn to wickedness and she's being sent packing in a humiliating manner. (They have a kid)

Now, my question is:

When you were using your own star you can't afford a bike.
When your wife bought you a new car,you and your family said she is spiritually using your star.


Isn't it a Low self esteem If your wife's income and financial status is affecting your confidence as a man

If you Make her life miserable and not make her happy just because she's richer than you, does that not mean you were never in love with her.

Love is peace,not competition. Whoever makes more money shouldn't
be a problem as long as we knows and respects each other as husband and wife.....


What's your Take on This


Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by YelloweWest: 4:00pm On Apr 28, 2017
Presh900:
I rather die than be poorer than my wife... [url][/url]
Low self esteem. I pity who will marry u
Re: When Your Wife Is Richer Than You by YelloweWest: 4:01pm On Apr 28, 2017
EnigmaticEnigma:
I used to think I wouldn't be comfortable with my future wife earning more than I do, but due to all this feminism bs going around, I'm starting to have a rethink undecided

I mean men and women are equal right

As long as I have my money, I really can't give 2 fvcks about what my wife has.

I buy her a car, she buys me a car; and I think to myself, what a wonderful world smiley
LG life is good grin

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