Theyveedo:
OP, it's been a while

Toks2008:


Nah hustling things o but I can't just run away from my passion...thanks dearie.

Oyindidi:
That other thread about date of birth, you didn't tell me mine

Toks2008:


Oh I must have skipped it...please go there and repost. .I will respond tonight.

Oyindidi:
Deactivated, trying to find the thread

greatgod2012:
@op, Kudos!

I always love reading your posts, even though I may not agree with all but I'm quite sure I agree with bulk of your posts most time!


@post, I agree with you and the best way to move on especially if one is already married is to love yourself a great deal!

Anyone who truly and greatly love him/herself will find it easy to move on without feeling bad about the other person, there will not be any need begging for love from anyone because you're already full with self-love! And believe me, that's when the other person will realize that you can actually survive without him/her, by then, he will spontaneously learn how to show love!


However, it's somehow difficult for anyone who's dependent on the other person to find it easy moving on or loving oneself truthfully and greatly, therefore, it is advised that each and everyone be independent, especially ladies...... every lady should be self dependent, so that no man will think you can't survive without him!


Love should not be forced but flow freely!

May God help us all!

Toks2008:


That was what I wrote about in my last thread about ladies empowering themselves ...housewives inclusive...

When you are financially independent you will have a greater self worth.

Toks2008:
There is one absurdity i have seen in romantic affairs...it's the act of unbalance feelings of love and affection from both parties which usually leaves one party feeling unloved and in many cases will lead to sadness, depression, anger, nagging when they feel they are not getting the love and attention they deserve....If you find yourself expressing the aforementioned then you are clearly begging for love.

If you ever observe this just pause and ask yourself why you are begging for the love and affection...if there is something you are doing wrong then adjust but if it is just your partner who is not just connecting with you please move on.

Stop crying and begging for love from someone who is not willing to give it. Stop begging fot attention,compliments, praise,admiration,hugs,kisses because at the end it will lead to serious depression and you will start thinking you are not good enough and this destructive mindset will prevent you from artaining your goals and dreams in life.

If you are dating someone who makes you beg for love and affection please close your eyes and leave that union...*MOVE ON* cos you are too special to beg for love from anyone because in the real sense. ...such person is not worth it but if you go ahead to marry such with the hope that he or she will change then you are on a wild goose chase cos it will most likely get worse.

And if you are married yet see yourself begging for love and affection please get a grip of yourself and channel your energy on yourself and your kids if any. ..
the constant nagging makes you look desperate. Deal with it by learning how to love yourself, and take care of yourself (mentally, physically, and spiritually).

Stop waiting for that other person to grab your hand, and motivate yourself by moving forth in your life and acknowledging that you are a dynamic, unique, beautiful, talented person with or without the love or attention from another individual.

The problem is that rather than move on,many people would rather remain in that affair hoping things will change thereby sinking deeper and deeper into a sorry state.

Remember that there is always someone out there who is ready to give you all the love and affection you can ever dream of so stop wasting your time and life with someone who does not deserve you.

The strange twist is that in most cases,if you care less and focus on yourself,the other party will realize how valuable you are and will most likely give you more than the attention you deserve.

Don't know if this makes sense.

Ishilove:
Toks2008, take this

greatgod2012:



Well, I didn't see your previous thread! You're absolutely right! Financial independence for ladies/women is very very important in order to have a great self worth!


Not financially independent coupled with not loved by one's partner is the gateway to excessive brooding which is usually the foundation of depression!

Toks2008:
There is one absurdity i have seen in romantic affairs...it's the act of unbalance feelings of love and affection from both parties which usually leaves one party feeling unloved and in many cases will lead to sadness, depression, anger, nagging when they feel they are not getting the love and attention they deserve....If you find yourself expressing the aforementioned then you are clearly begging for love.

If you ever observe this just pause and ask yourself why you are begging for the love and affection...if there is something you are doing wrong then adjust but if it is just your partner who is not just connecting with you please move on.

Stop crying and begging for love from someone who is not willing to give it. Stop begging fot attention,compliments, praise,admiration,hugs,kisses because at the end it will lead to serious depression and you will start thinking you are not good enough and this destructive mindset will prevent you from attaining your goals and dreams in life.

If you are dating someone who makes you beg for love and affection please close your eyes and leave that union...*MOVE ON* cos you are too special to beg for love from anyone because in the real sense. ...such person is not worth it but if you go ahead to marry such with the hope that he or she will change then you are on a wild goose chase cos it will most likely get worse.

And if you are married yet see yourself begging for love and affection please get a grip of yourself and channel your energy on yourself and your kids if any. ..
the constant nagging makes you look desperate. Deal with it by learning how to love yourself, and take care of yourself (mentally, physically, and spiritually).

Stop waiting for that other person to grab your hand, and motivate yourself by moving forth in your life and acknowledging that you are a dynamic, unique, beautiful, talented person with or without the love or attention from another individual.

The problem is that rather than move on,many people would rather remain in that affair hoping things will change thereby sinking deeper and deeper into a sorry state.

Remember that there is always someone out there who is ready to give you all the love and affection you can ever dream of so stop wasting your time and life with someone who does not deserve you.

The strange twist is that in most cases,if you care less and focus on yourself,the other party will realize how valuable you are and will most likely give you more than the attention you deserve.

Always remember that the wrong person will make you beg for affection, attention and commitment but the right person will give you very effortlessly because he or she truly wants you.

Don't know if this makes sense.

firstking01:
Love has always been unballanced since the inception of the earth unless except on a very few occassions.

Oyindidi:


Love is a funny feeling, those you fell head over heels for, feels nothing about you and the one you feel nothing for is ready to die for you.

MyPicsSaysItall:
There are no few occasions. Love is ALWAYS unbalanced in a relationship.


No partner's love for each other can be equal