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100Level?
Okay, keep to your number 3 for now........

We are just "greeting" friends, we don't talk much, just greet once in a while. And I try to act as uninterested as possible.

That is the Best I can tell you now. Make your course rep your platonic friend.
Your Books first my dear: Thay is the most important thing for now.
See ya!

Jamariwolff:
thanks. I'll keep this in mind

GODPUNISHUNA:
Jamariwolff so you are in 100 level?

Chai, see children I have been playing with on Nairaland

Jamariwolff:
First, i want to be clear that this isn't a case of forming hard to get.
I've been broken once before by a crush and I had to learn the hard way of keeping it all secret.

So I'm a 100 lvl student in a Nigeria university and my course rep is extremely handsome, friendly, tall, and very dope- he walks like a God, dresses with aĺl prestige, and smells like fresh dew. He has nice smile, what i love most is his skin, which is always glowing and very beautiful to look at. He turns me on like stupid.

But here is a problem I DON'T WANT HIM TO KNOW I HAVE A CRUSH ON HIM.

it never ends well, I'll enhance his self esteem at the end and he'll start to avoid me altogether. I also do NOT want to stop crushing on him. Yes, I know 90% that it'll not work out at the end.

Thus, to avoid him knowing I'm crushing. I do the following

1. Avoid looking at him, ever. On the streets, i pretend to look at my phone when passing him.
Although I take a peek with my peripheral side vision sometimes, that's that.

2. I sit faraway in class, where I can focus 100% on myself. I sit in front of him normally and I never look back. Ever.

3. We are just "greeting" friends, we don't talk much, just greet once in a while. And I try to act as uninterested as possible.

4. I once tried getting him a gift (candy)last semester to make him know I exist, and that's how the friendship started, i havent given him any gifts since then. In fact, i simply ignore him.


but he doesn't know I like him and I must be really careful.

I don't know what to do.

PS: don't tell me to confess my crush or give him GREENLIGHTS, because I would rather die than do any of the above options.

Jamariwolff:
thanks. I'll keep this in mind

Rayhandrinni:
see fine girl is dying for course rep when I can love you for free...save you off all these stress.
Nawa oh

MariaLavina:
Focus on your books!

amaniro:

firstly, wanna say I feel you sis.

and am currently dealing with the same problem, thus, we're in a delema, not ready to let go and not ready to form a "relationship"


instead, my Ernest advice is that you guys become friends, lower your ego become close friends eventually
.... couples one day.

Onyiridike:
@OP You may end up losing him to a serious girl who is more courageous than you. Every man respects a woman who behaves like a woman but thinks like a man.
In-as-much as you don't intend to have sex with him, you will not lose anything eventually.
1. You can find a way of establishing the closeness with him by discussing a difficult course with him. Please don't argue with him, talk less and listen more but ask intelligent questions.
2. In the course of the discussion ask him personal questions so that you can get to know him better. All that glitters is not gold. He may be ungodly, in a relationship or have questionable character.
This is all I can say for now. And I pray his goodlooking has not beclouded your sense of reasoning?
All the qualities you mentioned are not enough to consider starting a relationship with someone. Unless you just want to brag before your friends that you are dating the most handsome guy in your class.
You should start thinking of getting a man that could be your husband eventually.
Meanwhile, your studies should be giving priority now.

OneSentence:
this is hard reality but age won't make you accept it easily. this crush u feel will fade, then you'll crush on another and another and...I just hope u don't spread as the crushes keep coming. you must learn to suppress and kill it. find something of hire desire than a guy...ask a lot of the ladies here they'll tell u that's how it starts. take the last sentence of the poster above as your best advice

Jamariwolff:
you know how guys can behave. If I try forming friends, my crush can surface easily

Jamariwolff:
so books 247 right?
In your uni days, u didn't flex a little? You didn't enter a relationship? Just books?

Jamariwolff:
you know how guys can behave. If I try forming friends, my crush can surface easily

Rayhandrinni:
see fine girl is dying for course rep when I can love you for free...save you off all these stress.
Nawa oh

you do know that's person u are crushing on is a man right a gay one at that

Jamariwolff:
children keh. I'm 20, definitely not a child.

yasolan:
If you don't want what you put in "PS" Then what's the point of this post..