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Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by jenti: 7:30pm On May 23, 2017 |
Fathers must learn to save enof for their future. As long as you are financially relevant & wont be a burden to the children & ur wife , you can still earn ur respect. Some of the illtreatment fathers get is the poisoning of the children's mind by d mothers. I believe a good father meant well for his family. His method may not be the best. It is callous and ungodly for a child to forget d one who laboured to pay all his/her bill to get to where he or she is. Most children do not know there is a FATHER'S BLESSING which a child must get to excel and live long. My advise to all men is this 'as u labour 4 ur family, always remember to put something aside 4 urselfto secure ur future. It is known as "Paying Yourself First" so at ur old age u wont hv to wait until u get pocket money 4m ur children. If ur hv an inheritance 4 them , they know there is something beyond u I thak God Im a man. I couldnt hv wished 4 anything less 2 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Ngokafor(f): 7:31pm On May 23, 2017 |
quentin06: ...and other women..please include mistresses and side-chicks amongst those they should not involve themselves with .,thanks. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by jenti: 7:32pm On May 23, 2017 |
Fathers must learn to save enof for their future. As long as you are financially relevant & wont be a burden to the children & ur wife , you can still earn ur respect. Some of the illtreatment fathers get is the poisoning of the children's mind by d mothers. I believe a good father meant well for his family. His method may not be the best. It is callous and ungodly for a child to forget d one who laboured to pay all his/her bill to get to where he or she is. Most children do not know there is a FATHER'S BLESSING which a child must get to excel and live long. My advise to all men is this 'as u labour 4 ur family, always remember to put something aside 4 urselfto secure ur future. It is known as "Paying Yourself First" so at ur old age u wont hv to wait until u get pocket money 4m ur children. If ur hv an inheritance 4 them , they know there is something beyond u I thank God Im a man. I couldnt hv wished 4 anything less 1 Like |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Ngokafor(f): 7:39pm On May 23, 2017 |
Shrekjhon: ...Keep yapping about 'feminist',a word you have no idea what it means while refusing to learn...Your kids will simply abandon you in your old age to perish in hunger and poverty...its your call. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by bencarson007(m): 7:47pm On May 23, 2017 |
Ngokafor:. Babe eh, thanks for ur empathy and advice but that forgiveness card is a very hard one to play. I forgave him a long time ago but I just never want to have anytin 2 do with him... We are world's apart. He has done more harm than good including ruining my first marriage and creating so much issues I can't really relate with online... I am in my early thirties and feel so terrible... Call me and tell me my dad is at the point of death, I won't move an inch... Its that bad between us. I have not spoken to or seen him in a year even though it will just cost #400 to see him... I don't go to his house and when I want to see my mom and siblings, I tell them where to find me... Babe, I have scars - physical and emotional that will never heal - thanks to popsi... And marriage is even a no go area for me cos I don't even know where to start from after the last one... He choose to be a tyrant and made a mess out of my life but I survived and stood for my younger ones so they don't pass thru what I had to pass thru... God be praised, they are all doing well... But for dad, it is a lost cause... We are just father and son by name... To him, I died a long time ago... 4 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by bencarson007(m): 8:02pm On May 23, 2017 |
jenti:. You are missing the point... What good will it do to pay your child's school fees and still torture them emotionally... They will just fail. It is a rare incident for moms to turn the kids against their father... And even in such situation, a loving father always wins the day... Be a responsible and loving father at home and not a war general to ur kids... Your home is not a war front... Stop all this pay urself first mentality... It shows weakness... Haba even in the bible, Esau and Jacob took care of Isaac in old age, Joseph took car of Jacob, Abraham took care of Terah and a lot of other cases... Its is cheaper to show love than pay urself first... I guess ur saved up money will give u emotional support when u are old and grey ba ? Money can't buy love or happiness... It may buy u a bed but only peace of mind can get u sleep... Be wise. Have a great evening bro 7 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Gr8amechi: 8:10pm On May 23, 2017 |
lovelygurl:nice write up but you got some things wrong, I agree must dads go too much to the extreme but I blame the mothers more, it's very wrong for you as a mother to spoil your husband before your children, any mother who can't build the bridge between her kids and husband has failed 1 Like |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by bencarson007(m): 8:13pm On May 23, 2017 |
rossyc:. Ur dad is the true definition of a father - DISCIPLINED and CLOSE TO HIS KIDS,CARING TOO... To some, a father is anyone who donated sperm to bring you to life and have a manhood dangling between their legs... WRONG 7 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by bencarson007(m): 8:15pm On May 23, 2017 |
Gr8amechi:. I said it is rare for women to do that not that it does not happen... What I am trying to say is that majority of the fathers we have today see their home as a war zone which they have to conquer and this is VERY VERY wrong... 3 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by bencarson007(m): 8:25pm On May 23, 2017 |
YTderin:. Seems you are a prophetess... You just decribed my home and my dad...don't wait to see dad come in, you will be shot on sight... 2 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Ngokafor(f): 8:31pm On May 23, 2017 |
bencarson007: ..I may not have your experiences but i understand how you fee bro..I pray you find happiness and healing eventually..cos you deserve it.,stay strong. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by MarieSucre(f): 8:53pm On May 23, 2017 |
KevinDein: I understand this but honestly this saying rings true "if it's important people will make time for it, if it's not people will make an excuse for it" I have lived in the same neighbourhood with single mothers and have cousins who are single mothers. They are there hundred percent for their children; birthdays, graduations, sleeping overnight in the hospital while being sick, helping them with their assignment, going to the market to get them their things for school, discussing with them about their lives and not just "what do you want to be in the future", being their confidant when they're down etc while also PROVIDING for their needs ALONE. If these fathers want to make these memories and this connection with their children they will make the effort. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by bencarson007(m): 8:54pm On May 23, 2017 |
Ngokafor:. Thanks and amen. 1 Like |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Ifebazz(m): 8:55pm On May 23, 2017 |
megareal:'Singlehandedly' you think, do you know the countless number of times the man would have given her money for the kids while they will never be in the know? 1 Like |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Ifebazz(m): 9:04pm On May 23, 2017 |
MarieSucre:Very easy to see it from the woman's angle alone and pass judgement. Do you know how many women who are thorns in the flesh of which ever man that come their way? Or do you think all or most men love philandering for no just course? More men in marriages are there for the sake of their kids alone, not happiness or peace of mind. So cut some errant dads some slacks as those kids will grow up to see exactly what their fathers passed through in the hands of their mothers when they themselves get married. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by classicblue234(m): 9:18pm On May 23, 2017 |
my dad was a disappointment. when he collects is monthly we hardly see till after like 3days when he has finished spending the money. mum will be left to cater for her 3 kids. Though both of them are late, I only missed my mum. my dad is a disappointment to parenthood. if there is a way I can replace his name with that of my mum's name I would have done it long time ago even if he were alive. Some men are useless 4 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by sleuthhound: 9:24pm On May 23, 2017 |
bencarson007:wtf, mehn i feel ur pains bro. Dats y i dont jump into conclusion by attacking pple who hv issues wit dem parents. Dere is something deep inside dat hurts & one may nt understand! Until he/she asks, digs deep & finds out. Some pple r not worthy 2 be called parents! I av seen dat in some families too! 2 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by dangotesmummy: 9:29pm On May 23, 2017 |
smithsydny:very true |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by bencarson007(m): 9:30pm On May 23, 2017 |
VanBommel:. Those scars take time to heal... 1 Like |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by bencarson007(m): 9:33pm On May 23, 2017 |
sleuthhound:. Mehn, it aint a pleasant thing men... At past 30, my wounds have still refused to go away... 1 Like |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Nobody: 9:37pm On May 23, 2017 |
bencarson007: Try n let go. I know its hard. Buts it's for you. You need it. |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by bencarson007(m): 9:39pm On May 23, 2017 |
obikirinoni:. Wise advice... Thanks bro |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by fizziea(m): 9:42pm On May 23, 2017 |
megareal: this is me bro |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Gr8amechi: 9:58pm On May 23, 2017 |
bencarson007:yea I get your point, but that's why marriage is for two, that's when the lady needs to help the man, until ladies discover that they are mothers to both their kids as well as husband some of these little issues can't be solved |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Sterope(f): 10:17pm On May 23, 2017 |
Not true, my dad once taught me how to solve a mathematical problem over the phone. Let's ask those men what they do with their kids whenever they are able to go back home. KevinDein: 1 Like |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by missyadorable(f): 10:19pm On May 23, 2017 |
chukzyfcbb: Never! my own was always "I diat! Foool! Baskard..I disown you,its better to train a dog than have you as children" Chai! my father made my childhood terrible now,am an adult but we can't be close he pushed me too far away,i dont need him the only memory of him I have is a "wicked,heartless man barking out harsh painful abusive words,holding rod of correction" And the scars on my skin I got from the unending regular beatings...Gosh! To hell with such devil. Tufiakwa!! |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Sterope(f): 10:21pm On May 23, 2017 |
You must find a way to blame women. So it is women that ask men to act like tyrant because they are men abi? Gr8amechi: 3 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Sterope(f): 10:24pm On May 23, 2017 |
Let's blame women again....Last time I checked it is not women that go about on this forum to prove how and why men are polygamous in nature. Your argument is dead on arrival. Try again! Ifebazz: 2 Likes |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by Sterope(f): 10:26pm On May 23, 2017 |
Someone has been lying to you sir. lenghtinny: 1 Like |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by missyadorable(f): 10:29pm On May 23, 2017 |
mctowel01: it's over 4 years I asked my dad to give me a total of what he has spent on me.I am ready for full refund.I don't want it to look like I owe him anything.. I don't want any form of association with him.Its too late |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by MarieSucre(f): 10:51pm On May 23, 2017 |
Ifebazz: I think you're replying to the wrong person because what you're saying has no correlation to what I wrote. What does a woman being a thorn in a man's side have to do with him bonding with his children? What concerns a man philandering up and down with him being there 100% for his children? The summary of my comment is simply SINGLE MOTHER'S WORK AND PROVIDE EVERYTHING ALONE FOR THEIR CHILDREN AND STILL FIND TIME TO BOND WITH THEIR CHILDREN SO IT SHOULD NOT BE AN EXCUSE USED BY SOME FATHERS SHIKENA. Make time to bond with your children. And now that you mention it, I will not cut errant father's any silly slack, I cannot support such nonsense. What's the point of being the "superior gender" or the "stronger vessel" or the "head of your family" if you cannot take responsibility for your actions and attend to issues as appropriate. A parent is a child's role model. Stop supporting bad thing. 1 Like |
Re: Why Fathers Are Neglected In Old Age. ( A Must Read For Guys) by MarieSucre(f): 10:54pm On May 23, 2017 |
Gr8amechi: Mother to your husband?! Contradiction loool. He is your head. The end. If he wants you to act like his mother, then he must take orders from me like he would from his mother. 2 Likes |
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