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7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by importexpert(m): 10:29am On May 31, 2017 |
Many people once envisioned that their relationships would lead to something that would last forever. They expected that they would walk down the aisle with someone who was their partner at a point in time. Ever have this expectation too? If you did, feel at ease that many people also had the same kind of expectations. Unfortunately, life does not just consist of roses; it has thorns too. And those thorns can be piercing and painful. Likewise, many beautiful relationships have broken up. The partners probably never saw it coming. Their friends may not have ever expected it. But it happened anyway. Here is a list of the major causes of break-ups in our world today. They are what I have observed and analyzed from events that happen around. 1. Cheating: This probably deserves the front position on the list. Most relationships are caused by the infidelity of one of the partners. The infidelity may be sexual or emotional cheating. In emotional cheating, your partner gets so tied up emotionally with the opposite sex till it seems they should be in a relationship with that person and not you. It can manifest through frequent calls, chats, outings, etc. Ultimately, when the partner finds out, trust is torn to shreds. There may be begging, and forgiveness but the trust is gone. Most times, it is only a matter of time before someone calls it quit. 2. Abuse: What is the point of being in a relationship where you should find happiness, yet you are getting abused every day? Abuse is not restricted to physical aggression; it can also be verbal. And both are equally dangerous. Physical abuse can leave you deformed or even make you lose your life. Verbal abuse on the other hand tears down your confidence, self-esteem, and peace till you become weary of life. By observation, women are mostly subject to physical abuse while men are more prone to verbal abuse. Either way, people are starting to muster the courage to leave abusive relationships for good. 3. Indifference: This is one of the worst causes of break-ups. What happens here is one partner struggles to make things work while the other partner just watches on. The partner is not necessarily asking for a break-up or seeking to build the relationship. You can call it a lack of devotion or commitment to the relationship. No matter how hard you try to make such a relationship work, one day you will get tired. No matter how hard you stretch to keep the relationship, one day you will snap. The reason is that your partner’s indifference will eventually lead you to a state of frustration where you just let go everything. 4. Exploitation: When most relationships start, it begins with love as an emotion. The feeling is indescribable. At this point, you can climb mountains for your partner. Soon, the feelings would die down, and reality would set in. The feeling dies down because it is erratic. This is where you are presented with facts about that person. Once you decide to love that person irrespective of what you notice, you have entered the real phase of love. The sad thing is that: by the time most people get past the initial feelings, they realize that though they loved their partner, that partner was merely taking advantage of them. What they termed making sacrifices for love was actually exploitation. Exploitation could be in the form of sex, money, fame, power, material possessions, etc. And once this is discovered, the relationship crashes. 5. Dead feelings: Many people today dump a relationship when they cease to experience the sweet feelings they felt at the beginning. They think a relationship must always thrill them and stir their excitement. They often forget that relationship may be fun, but it is work. Real work. It may come with its excitement, but it also comes with responsibilities which are necessary to sustain it. Their challenge is that they only want the excitement and not the responsibilities. As soon as they sense the feeling is gone, they quit the relationship too. 6. Ego: This is a rapid destroyer of relationships. When someone insists they are always right and want always to have their way, it is a bad omen. Refusing to apologize or refusing to yield to the opinion of your partner shows that feelings and views do not matter to you. Someone people can bear long and hope that their partner would change. Others have a low tolerance for such egocentric fellows and prefer just to end the relationship. 7. Unsettled issues: As you probably know, no relationship is perfect. The reason is that both partners have flaws and can make mistakes. Truth is: you will get hurt in a relationship. It may be through the words or actions of your partner. But it takes wisdom to settle the score and allow it to heal. Sadly, most relationships today have wounds that are left unattended to. When one partner gets hurt and hides it rather than allow it to heal, the wound festers. It doesn’t go away; it just gets worse with time. One day, such a partner would just decide they’ve had enough already and call it quit. It is better to settle issues quickly rather than ignore them and pretend they don’t exist. Conclusion So, there they are! Our past experiences cease to hurt us once we learn from them. Knowing the above can help you spot a red flag in a relationship and know how to handle it when the need arises. So, what’s your story? You probably have experienced any of these. You can share your views and experiences in the comment section. I Remain yours: ImportExpert 60 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by pocohantas(f): 10:32am On May 31, 2017 |
"I missed my period"... Say the above and some guys will run out of your life faster than Usain Bolt. ![]() solomix10: Ladies, once he responds like this...just know the relationship is on battery saving mode. We'll search for it together dear, in the presence of your parents ![]() 71 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by Equal2DeTask(m): 10:33am On May 31, 2017 |
@Op ![]() To the Slayqueen above me... How can U miss what u dnt Have? ![]() 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by flexxyworld(m): 10:33am On May 31, 2017 |
Keep asking the broke/struggling dude for money. 7 Likes |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by solomix10(m): 10:35am On May 31, 2017 |
make i siddon here first |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by solomix10(m): 10:36am On May 31, 2017 |
pocohantas:then search for it.. Or do u need a torchlight 2 Likes |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by solomix10(m): 10:49am On May 31, 2017 |
pocohantas:i dont do raw , so wetin concern me with searchin ..u rather ask momma "can i miss my period after sex with latex"? 2 Likes |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by pocohantas(f): 10:52am On May 31, 2017 |
solomix10:It's no concern of yours then, the people that do raw know how they react to that statement. 9 Likes |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by solomix10(m): 10:56am On May 31, 2017 |
pocohantas:but dnt tell me you do raw with ur bf 1 Like |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by pocohantas(f): 10:58am On May 31, 2017 |
solomix10:No, we don't. There hasn't been any need for such so far. |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by solomix10(m): 11:07am On May 31, 2017 |
pocohantas:if u need more ecstasy?... last time i checked it was x3 more pleasureable |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by Kingpinukecy(m): 11:17am On May 31, 2017 |
True tlk....
no b lie. grant me permission to use dis write up |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by Nobody: 11:19am On May 31, 2017 |
Someone should summarise abeg 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by Nobody: 11:21am On May 31, 2017 |
I believe these issues existed and people stayed together because splitting up was not an option. If couples made time to know each other instead of hooking up on a superficial level. 3 Likes |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by NwannekaUloma(f): 11:30am On May 31, 2017 |
What abt social media post...? 2 Likes |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by Kingpinukecy(m): 12:30pm On May 31, 2017 |
vargasvictory:The summary of d long episode 1 is dat; in several relationship, there is alwz ups and down, lack of trust, nagging, cheating, Exploitation, indifference, abuse and others not mention in the episode. between one partner or from d both. so therefore, It takes God alone to help us guide, secure and direct us to find our right and trustworthy missing Rib , flesh of our flesh. dats all . #IRestMyCase WhizzyPro 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by olaolulazio(m): 2:28pm On May 31, 2017 |
Unhealthy diccck |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by nattyjay(m): 2:28pm On May 31, 2017 |
8. MONEY: when the guy is broke 9. SEX: when u can't satisfy her sexual urges 10..... 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by Nobody: 2:28pm On May 31, 2017 |
That is why I'll rather be single 3 Likes |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by ShitHead(m): 2:29pm On May 31, 2017 |
Please add Chimamanda Adichie or Feminism on the list. Thank me later. 6 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by Jh0wsef(m): 2:29pm On May 31, 2017 |
1.. MONEY 2. MORRNEY 3. MOURNEY girls have this problem i love independent ladies.. you can't brag thrash about spending for her Even girls wey their support their Guys A BIG SHOUTOUT TO UNA ![]() 4 Likes
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Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by TINALETC3(f): 2:29pm On May 31, 2017 |
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Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by guywitzerogal(m): 2:29pm On May 31, 2017 |
NwannekaUloma:wat about it ![]() |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by Nobody: 2:30pm On May 31, 2017 |
ever since i quit been someones boyfriend... 2015 i been all up my 90degrees just got this Tag heuer cr7 tachymeter chonograph
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Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by RealHaute: 2:31pm On May 31, 2017 |
pocohantas: Wassup crayfish girl? |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by Ihutomi: 2:31pm On May 31, 2017 |
Tribe and religion |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by LifeIsGuhd(f): 2:31pm On May 31, 2017 |
Igbo vs Yoruba ![]() Or Covfefe ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by crazyABO(m): 2:32pm On May 31, 2017 |
Abegi add brokenness to it pls ![]() |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by TheBlogSavvy: 2:32pm On May 31, 2017 |
Many relationship crashed because of infatuation and Ego, some are too proud to say 'I am Sorry' while other Go Into relationship for selfish and extraneous reasons. Big boobs, butt, height, fame, body shapes, money and more, the are blind to real love and often times fail. If you want your relationship to succeed, you should put love first.. Thanks to the Op for This insightful article, i also have some similar article you'll love HERE 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by Michelle55: 2:32pm On May 31, 2017 |
hmm. I dey come |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by DEIFIED(m): 2:33pm On May 31, 2017 |
something like covfefe... |
Re: 7 Major Causes Of Break-ups Of Today’s Relationships by Nobody: 2:34pm On May 31, 2017 |
Recession |
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