DeGuyNxtDoor:
There's this girl whose parents are divorced and she now stays with her strict dad while her mum married immediately after the divorce. This girl who happens to be a virgin, good character and naive revealed something so bad to me yesterday (which is same day this thing happened). She trusts me, takes me as her guidian, she takes me as her brother and everything, although we got to know each other from this ponzi stuff back then and since then, she asked me to be her friend which I agreed. She discusses everything with me, she calls always to seek for advice and so on.

So yesterday, she flashed me, I called her back and asked how she was doing and she said she's fine and that she wants to tell me sormething, I asked her if its good or bad news and she said its bad almost crying, immediately, I ran outta airtime and she asked me to wait so she can get airtime to call me back.

When she called back, I asked her what it was and she said (I did it today) I asked her what did she do? And she replied ( I had sex today, I was forced "crying" ) I calmly asked her how it happened and she said her so-called dad asked her to deliver something to a guy who's 22years of age, And when she got there, delivered it and was about leaving, then the guy asked her to come in and say hi to his sister. Immediately she stepped in, he bolted the door and forced himself on her and after he was done he said he loves her.

I asked her if she's told her dad and she said no simply because she's scared of him, " should parents make their children feel uncomfortable around them? Shouldn't it be the other way round?" I asked her if she struggled or screamed and she said the guy overpowered her and moreover there wasn't anyone in the compound then.

Now she's been crying over this and saying she doesn't know if he came inside her or not, or if she's contracted a disease or something, and that she never dreamt of losing her virginity in such manner. She said she trusts me and that's the reason why she told me so I can help her, but as her father doesn't know about this do I have anything to do in this

You better be careful sir...don't go playing superhero here.

First of all, gather enough evidence to clear yourself. Get her to text something or record her on the phone.

Secondly, what did her dad send her to deliver to a 22 year old man?

One on one it would not very easy for one man to rape a woman without really beating her up first... is she carrying bruises?

If she knew there was no one in the compound, why would she think the sister would really be in?

Does she know this guy or is he a stranger to her?-is there a potential relationship going on here?

Why exactly is she afraid of her dad?

What does she expect you to do?

she came to confid in you.....but you can't keep your mouth shut.....ameobo now everybody knows and useless blogger will start recycling it with salt and pepper....what a friend you are OP

Let her go to a hospital n get checked. She should try and open up to her dad. She needs d love from her dad.

Watch ur steps with her too. Pray for her

ezteem:
She was not RAPED !!!
Who ever forced himself on her is actually having something with her previously. It's obvious with your story. But what do I know.

I agree with with you in a way, how can you rape someone you barely know and tell them you love them afterwards. she is not even filled with rage she seems calm. my take this isn't the first time she ll be having sex. and op u haven't even taken any step as a guardian if truly she was raped. you don't like her as a sister as much as u think if say na your sister u nor go done take steps?

Girl plays the pity card,you fell for it,girl didn't tell you the real story obviously.

slyrone:
I agree with with you in a way, how can you rape someone you barely know and tell them you love them afterwards. she is not even filled with rage she seems calm. my take this isn't the first time she ll be having sex. and op u haven't even taken any step as a guardian if truly she was raped. you don't like her as a sister as much as u think if say na your sister u nor go done take steps?

which kin yeye guardian be dat? If the whole thing fall on me at last nko? Her own father doesn't even know about this cos she never told him...why should I dive in?

why is she afraid to tell her father. abi no be her father sent her to the boy house ni

op i smell her lie from here

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You for direct her to the nearest police station

Op where is ur location? She should visit international center for reproductive health and sexual rights for counselling and or any similar NGOs for proper follow up. shalom

OP, this is a simple case that shouldn't boiled u... Lemme drop ma views and advice based on your story OP.. First, this girl trust u and thats y she let u know about this whole stuffs and second OP this girl expect u to help issues wisely.. Well to me the best you can do is not what somma this guys saying here, just try and let her understand its not her fault such happened and try to encourage her to tell the issue to her dad cos failure to do that OP whatever u do in the name of help may bounce back on u infact negatively. Infact if its a wise girl this issue could have been dealt with since, simple lets she tell her mom if shes scared to tell her dad directly let the the mom do tha appropriate that need to be done.. Still typing OP........................ In the spirit of sharp OP start advicing this girl to tell her parents about this issue cos they are more of responsible to tackle this fragile issue at hand not you OP COS YOUR JUST A FRIEND..... STILL TYPING .................... Ah ah who log in into ma account and type all this. ;DOP, this is a simple case that shouldn't boiled u... Lemme drop ma views and advice based on your story OP.. First, this girl trust u and thats y she let u know about this whole stuffs and second OP this girl expect u to help issues wisely.. Well to me the best you can do is not what somma this guys saying here, just try and let her understand its not her fault such happened and try to encourage her to tell the issue to her dad cos failure to do that OP whatever u do in the name of help may bounce back on u infact negatively. Infact if its a wise girl this issue could have been dealt with since, simple lets she tell her mom if shes scared to tell her dad directly let the the mom do tha appropriate that need to be done.. Still typing OP........................ In the spirit of sharp OP start advicing this girl to tell her parents about this issue cos they are more of responsible to tackle this fragile issue at hand not you OP COS YOUR JUST A FRIEND..... STILL TYPING .................... Ah ah who log in into ma account and type all this.

did she enjoy it

That girl is manipulating the op, but he doesn't know. Girls are naturally trained that way.

I may be wrong sha

This is an easy case .If this is true :
#SideNote how are we sure it wasnt you who actually.......never mind .... the wicked cannot go unpunished ,it may tarry but surely punishment would come.

-First she has your trust and has confided in you : Awesome
-She needs help but scared to tell her father :Telling her father is the only way out actually .
-It could bounce back on you :You need a way to protect yourself if things go south.
-She needs to protect herself from diseases or pregnancy :Which she only has few days to do since contraceptives have a time frame of effectivenese.

Solution :
Make her very calm and try to reduce her fear before you start talking .
Find a way of making her narrate the story again that you really need to understand ,this time make sure you record the call,if its a physical meeting record the audio,discreetly of cause ,she must not know !!!! (Your way out if things go south).

Try to convince her to tell her dad ,as much as possible .
Make her understand the risks and the reasons she has to tell him ,diseases ,pregnancy prevention,internal bleeding etc.

If she refuses to tell him ,try to make her tell her mum .
If she still refuses .

Tell her she has left you wit no choice .
Approach the least harsh parent ,narrate the story and play the audio.
Its for her own good.

Then back out !!!!!.

Anoda rape matter..... Crazy. Bt this is serious if true.... The girl wud be feeling rapeninbsubsequent blowing time

vargasvictory:
Now, this is a fragile case. First off you should try and let her know it wasn't her fault, whenever people hear rape the first thing they do is turn on the victim and try to push the whole blame on her like, what was she wearing? There's absolutely no right you have to take advantage of someone else.

Secondly, she would be down emotionally and mentally, you've got to be patient with her. Most of the victims in this case are afraid of dealing with the stigma once It gets out. If she told you then she trusts you. She'd require your time and comfort if it's true


Lastly, she should visit the hospital to ascertain she's not pregnant and see a therapist, this stage is very important for healing.

The way u people mention ttherapist ehn,e go be like say Nigeria naa jand. Nobody goes to a therapist in Nigeria. Wake up from ur dream

ezteem:
She was not RAPED !!!
Who ever forced himself on her is actually having something with her previously. It's obvious with your story. But what do I know.

I concor wit u She was never RAPED.. Imagine her 1st statement.. That "she did it today".. Dat statement means consent.. She jus want u to knw she's fit for sex nw incase if u r interested so u won't see her lyk a spoilt child.. And again.. Dat incidence ws nt her 1st

DeGuyNxtDoor:
There's this girl whose parents are divorced and she now stays with her strict dad while her mum married immediately after the divorce. This girl who happens to be a virgin, good character and naive revealed something so bad to me yesterday (which is same day this thing happened). She trusts me, takes me as her guidian, she takes me as her brother and everything, although we got to know each other from this ponzi stuff back then and since then, she asked me to be her friend which I agreed. She discusses everything with me, she calls always to seek for advice and so on.

So yesterday, she flashed me, I called her back and asked how she was doing and she said she's fine and that she wants to tell me sormething, I asked her if its good or bad news and she said its bad almost crying, immediately, I ran outta airtime and she asked me to wait so she can get airtime to call me back.

When she called back, I asked her what it was and she said (I did it today) I asked her what did she do? And she replied ( I had sex today, I was forced "crying" ) I calmly asked her how it happened and she said her so-called dad asked her to deliver something to a guy who's 22years of age, And when she got there, delivered it and was about leaving, then the guy asked her to come in and say hi to his sister. Immediately she stepped in, he bolted the door and forced himself on her and after he was done he said he loves her.

I asked her if she's told her dad and she said no simply because she's scared of him, " should parents make their children feel uncomfortable around them? Shouldn't it be the other way round?" I asked her if she struggled or screamed and she said the guy overpowered her and moreover there wasn't anyone in the compound then.

Now she's been crying over this and saying she doesn't know if he came inside her or not, or if she's contracted a disease or something, and that she never dreamt of losing her virginity in such manner. She said she trusts me and that's the reason why she told me so I can help her, but as her father doesn't know about this do I have anything to do in this

Sorry to ask bro, how old is the said girl and how is her spiritual life?

Afonjashapmouth:
From your narration i can tell you have little or no experience with girls. she is ready to have sex with you and to cover up her lies about the virginity poo she has been feeding you, she has to come up with a nice pile up story. tell her to narrate the story again and figure out addition and subtractions. her father sent her to a 22 yrs old boy unknown to her or known?? and the boy lacks the regard for the father to rape her or they both planed the rape?? d story is lame as far as i am concerned. No matter how hard hearted your father is, you being raped by a person he sent you to would not be taken likely by him cos you didn't just go out on your own account. Guy forget nursing all this snakes forming miss innocent hardly is any of them innocent, its the new world.

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Lol. Op must be a learner. This girl simply wanna fcvk you but she's a "virgin" hence this made up story. What she wants from you is consolement which will lead to sex.

Oga some people don dey ask of spiritual life. Na op be hin mother or father in the Lord. Her age is clearly written.

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Why is she lying now?

DeGuyNxtDoor:
There's this girl whose parents are divorced and she now stays with her strict dad while her mum married immediately after the divorce. This girl who happens to be a virgin, good character and naive revealed something so bad to me yesterday (which is same day this thing happened). She trusts me, takes me as her guidian, she takes me as her brother and everything, although we got to know each other from this ponzi stuff back then and since then, she asked me to be her friend which I agreed. She discusses everything with me, she calls always to seek for advice and so on.

So yesterday, she flashed me, I called her back and asked how she was doing and she said she's fine and that she wants to tell me sormething, I asked her if its good or bad news and she said its bad almost crying, immediately, I ran outta airtime and she asked me to wait so she can get airtime to call me back.

When she called back, I asked her what it was and she said (I did it today) I asked her what did she do? And she replied ( I had sex today, I was forced "crying" ) I calmly asked her how it happened and she said her so-called dad asked her to deliver something to a guy who's 22years of age, And when she got there, delivered it and was about leaving, then the guy asked her to come in and say hi to his sister. Immediately she stepped in, he bolted the door and forced himself on her and after he was done he said he loves her.

I asked her if she's told her dad and she said no simply because she's scared of him, " should parents make their children feel uncomfortable around them? Shouldn't it be the other way round?" I asked her if she struggled or screamed and she said the guy overpowered her and moreover there wasn't anyone in the compound then.

Now she's been crying over this and saying she doesn't know if he came inside her or not, or if she's contracted a disease or something, and that she never dreamt of losing her virginity in such manner. She said she trusts me and that's the reason why she told me so I can help her, but as her father doesn't know about this do I have anything to do in this

Of cuz,u gat to play ur part,maybe u should jst arrest d guy,diz is a rape case.

it's a good thing seeking for advice on this platform, but other times I think it's not worth it.As typical Nigerians,few tend to say meaningful things while a whole lot are too stupid to contribute anything

Afonjashapmouth:



Its easy to find out the truth my dear brother, wisdom is the key to everything in life. Tell the girl to take you to the guys place, that you have arranged for his arrest by a sars friend and they are ready to charge him to court scoping her she wouldn't have to show up for protection sake. lets hear her 50 shades of defense. this girls is lying as far as i am concerned. girls being lying about rape since 1620AD for unnecessary attn

i love your opinion bro...
This girls of nowadays can go to any length to lie about lossing their virginity..
I just pity this guy ..he no get scope atall...
if i was the one she is telling all this shit, i will be like hmmmm you were raped nd no bruises, you are nt ruffled, u didnt even shout... Deguynxtdoor you are the MUGUNEXDOOR

ezteem:
She was not RAPED !!!
Who ever forced himself on her is actually having something with her previously. It's obvious with your story. But what do I know.

You are sick!!!!

op the solution to this is investigation and eye witness accounts of what happened on that day. Police report should be obtained and the girl placed under protective custody. The father should be fined for negligence. And you should be detained for proper questioning with bail placed at N25,000. The accused 22yr old should be detained without bail and the case should be brought to court after she has been properly examined in a reputable government hospital.

You are being manipulated @ op
Girls lie about rape all the time, from what I've seen I'm guessing you have taken a romantic liking to this girl.
She may have been smashing the guy behind your back and now that things have turned sour, she feels guilty/sorry for you(the patient dog) and now she is playing the pity card.
Be smart and ensure she is telling you the truth before doing anything!
#bewise

Why can't she tell her dad?

She didn't go there by herself

Wait, how did she know the guy's age?

Did she shower after she was raped?

This girl is fucking lying to you to cover something up "if" she can't tell her dad

Caustics:
op the solution to this is investigation and eye witness accounts of what happened on that day. Police report should be obtained and the girl placed under protective custody. The father should be fined for negligence. And you should be detained for proper questioning with bail placed at N25,000. The accused 22yr old should be detained without bail and the case should be brought to court after she has been properly examined in a reputable government hospital.

Can someone tell this guy we are in Nigeria?

swiz123:
it's a good thing seeking for advice on this platform, but other times I think it's not worth it.As typical Nigerians,few tend to say meaningful things while a whole lot are too stupid to contribute anything

What have you contributed Sir?

Hypocrisy at its highest

@op she confided in you thinking you can keep secret , but you can't keep secret cos you are here sharing it with the rest of the world in a public forum.

Mtchew only if she knew u will share her Secret with the rest of us Hmmm! You are more than.. .