connectpoint:


You're posturing. While your points are very educative you're seeing it from a lone perspective, now answer this question, have you personally not turned off guys with less than okay finance? How many ladies will give love a chance if not for old age without financial stability? How many? 95% of Nigerian ladies don't even notice the guy without finance / would freeze themself from loving a guy who doesn't have financial worth hence the display by the able guys to make themselves look like the prince in the shiny armor... first females want guys with heavy pocket, so they don down the other guys, then when heavy pocketted guys come, they take money and run like you agreed. it goes back to the saying that ladies don't know what they want. You don't want the poor guys, or not well to do guys, you can't settle with the a bit okay/rich guys, then is it now solely a masculine problem or a problem with the perception and the perspectives of the average Nigerian female. See i've interacted with women across the world, the problem isn't Nigerian guys but Nigerian ladies and the Nigerian economy their moral teacher

funmisticqueen:
I sense a fixed mindset in you, i will answer your question to the best of my ability, not to impress you or sound intelligent.

There are many qualities that makes a woman a high and mighty queen, a woman who carries herself with dignity, knows that she is responsible for her life and the life of those in her sphere of influence,traits like elegance, class, etiquette, financial independence/responsiblity, a woman who knows what she wants and gets it. A woman with a vision for her life covering all aspects of it be it, physical, emotional, spiritual, financial, mental and so on. The list is endless. One thing you and i will agree on is that you will know a queen when you see one.

As to your second question, the worth of a woman, depends on the woman herself, the way you see and treat yourself determines how others treat you, if queen elizabeth woke up one day and looked in the mirror and saw herself as a hoe everyday, oh boy forget the fact that she is seventy something, people will start to treat her as a hoe and vice versa.

People are not goods and services, that you can get in the market at a certain value, the goods and sevices themselves dont have a say in their value.
Each person determines his value.

I forgot to add in my previous post that the same way we have page boys is the same way we have scullery maids, what i said concerning pageboys also applies to them. Have a lovely day

connectpoint:



from your comment you're talking from head knowledge and have never dated, i can see from my end.. the reality is far from what you think..

Gerrard59:


EOD.

However, it is important to note that women love money (not theirs) to spent on them. It is nature and simple psychology.

superNOVA1995:
still coming up in the game though

Mcowubaba:

Lwkmd.
Women are high and mighty queens
Kings are scarce.
I guess you're living in a fantasy world..

All you misguided Feminist, you deliberately did not address the fact that the Girls left the men, after the spent so much on them, u just started blaming men for everything bad in your life, and started labeling them page boys...

Leaving out the multitude of hoes, gold diggers and sex objects in the female populace

What's your definition of a man being a King
The write up says a man spent 500K for a girl, something I strongly believe her Father couldn't afford, shouldn't such a man be accorded respect..

..

Anyways, Na for people wey dey patronize Nigerian girls market.
Majority of una are not worth it. Only 3% which includes our lovely Mothers

funmisticqueen:
Let me answer, for every two poor men i turned down, i turned down five rich men. It is easier to find a poor man with character than a rich man with character. Money is like a pregnancy so hormonal, rich today can be poor tomorrow. A lot a rich guys today are all that glitters not being gold, they still have poverty of the mind.

True the economy has made girls to stop fearing God and start collecting any awoof that comes their way with or without strings.

funmisticqueen:
Let me answer, for every two poor men i turned down, i turned down five rich men. It is easier to find a poor man with character than a rich man with character. Money is like a pregnancy so hormonal, rich today can be poor tomorrow. A lot a rich guys today are all that glitters not being gold, they still have poverty of the mind.

True the economy has made girls to stop fearing God and start collecting any awoof that comes their way with or without strings.

connectpoint:


Let yourself grow, don't enter relationship with a bias mind...the world is far changing the younger generation are becoming more enlightened and i have hope your generation will get it right

SmartyPants:


Alright, this is sound. I'm sorry if i cam across as a bit rude earlier. You sounded like you were saying all women are automatically what you would call queens.

At the end of the day i must still disagree with you on the point that there are more "queens" than "kings".

If you look all around, the number of responsible men who are out there laboring to make something out of themselves and their lives is more than the number of women doing the same. Most women who we see as being decent are just those who are somewhat homely and fit for marriage but still lack the drive to do anything for themselves.

A roughly proportionate amount of men and women graduate school but there are disproportionately more male entrepreneurs than there are female entrepreneurs. Most men are held up to an exacting and unreasonable standard.

connectpoint:


Funmi, i concur but fear God oh.. for every 2 poor men ke... abi you've dumped 20 for every single rich guy... are u sure your numerical keys are intact?

funmisticqueen:
No i actually turned down 3 poor men and at least nine rich men, their flaws in character easily give them away.

connectpoint:


Oshe..Poor men is another rut in Nigeria.. after corruption poor mentality is the next big thing as many men would not believe their lives is their product of their terrible upbringing and through the ages, they didn't notice their flaws to correct it.. e go better

SPEEDEPITOME:


The sense of entitlement ish is one of the problems I have with ladies and sadly guys help in enforcing that mentality. A guy breaks up with a girl and the next thing you hear is 'he used me'. Someone on this thread already said the guy should be able to take care of her while she does what? probably, Nothing.
Now I know guys have their own problems which is not what I'm addressing now, this is me talking from a guy's angle.

Cutehector:
Watelse entices women?

funmisticqueen:
I am no feminist

connectpoint:


If it is not saving a life or medical bills i don;t give female money...my mind on this won't change too easily.. if love is there, then money aint an issue..but i feel money should be taken off the table in relationships in Nigerian settings..many femals are carried away and many times miss the good guys and settle for " the evans of this world " because of ojukokoro

judgedredd22:

so... you are royalty?

funmisticqueen:
So i impressed you, wow, true, i will not blame anyone for what you said you are right, but how many women are trained with the mentality to take charge of their lives. Men are naturally expected to fend for themselves so it sounds easier.

Not many women want to take that bold step and kick fear aside, it is easier to depend on men.

rheether:
You need to show me say you fit take care of me

SPEEDEPITOME:
I hate to hear stories of guys falling victims. shine your eyes and make sure money is not your only 'weapon'.

funmisticqueen:
Yep

SPEEDEPITOME:

30-35

SmartyPants:

You made a lot of sense and i admire your outlook on life.

judgedredd22:

since when, and by whose/what standard?

connectpoint:


Fantastic, brilliant Ma.Now i have hope for this country. I always sermonize about scarcity of quality men is the backbone of relationship issues...great to see my like mind lay it out beautifully.

rheether:
You need to show me say you fit take care of me

SPEEDEPITOME:
I hate to hear stories of guys falling victims. shine your eyes and make sure money is not your only 'weapon'.

luminouz:

Well I don't have money!!! Don't u have too
Take care of urself then Niko!!

funmisticqueen:
Since i was born and by my standards