illuminated93:
Guys often make the mistake of appearing as beings with low self esteem. Most guys think of the female as a high and mighty queen that should be pleased at all times,so they go as far they can,even borrowing money from friends just to make her happy. If a guy considers himself special,he has his self esteem intact, he is in control of his relationship,he is the man,he knows that his girlfriend is lucky to be with him,just as he is lucky to have her around, when he wants to spend big, he does, when he wants to spend small,he does, he doesn't act wholly according to the dictates of his girlfriend,he has his common sense intact. It's about time guys know that the girl they love is truly lucky to gain their love and trust. A guy should help because he wants to,not because she's compelling you to or because you think,by helping she would love you more, that's a lie. Guys, don't beg for love!

funmisticqueen:
Since i was born and by my standards

funmisticqueen:
you actually want me to type story of my life in a pulic forum. Haba na.

rheether:
You need to show me say you fit take care of me

Backinfront:
So true. I just laugh at gullible guys who have bought this fallacious "money rules women" shitt.

If I was a woman I will do exactly what these goldiggers are doing if opportunity presents itself. You lure me with money, you finished.

Lesson: Money cannot buy love or genuine affection. It can only get you her presence.

And just like many people are present in your life without really being into you, So are the women you are luring with material gifts.

pocohantas:

I don't, be careful with generalisations. I become very wary when a man is willing to throw money around. This even extends to the airtime he might wanna claim he used to call me. Surprisingly, they say I am proud.

That has made be believe, some men, if not most men actually believe money is the only way to show love.

rheether:


Unfortunately for your poor soul, I'm financially independent.

funmisticqueen:
I hope by weapon you dont mean sex, cos i will need something to keep me after menopause if you get my drift.

preccy69:
seconded, but sadly if u take out money most guys have nothing to offer

connectpoint:

what if i pinch yu for this comment ?

mystery22:
very useless girl

Gerrard59:


"To live comfortably, it’s natural for a woman to prefer a man with money because, together, they can afford to live a better life. And this does not mean she’s materialistic. People always say that “money can’t buy happiness” but every single woman I know wants to travel, and to the best of my knowledge, this isn’t free"
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/christopher-lai/why-women-prefer-men-with-money_b_8079750.html

Science confirms it. (psychology).
https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007%2Fs11205-014-0756-x

Gerrard59:


[b]"To live comfortably, it’s natural for a woman to prefer a man with money because, together, they can afford to live a better life. And this does not mean she’s materialistic. People always say that “money can’t buy happiness” but every single woman I know wants to travel, and to the best of my knowledge, this isn’t free

SPEEDEPITOME:

I said earlier 'By my definition, seeking financial stability is different from gold digging. The former is something both sexes look out for in a partner, the latter is a problem. There's a difference between trying to see if someone can complement your income and solely dumping your responsibilities on someone else's shoulder.'

Gerrard59:


Note: I'm with you on the post. But not the side that says men should not spend money on women/ladies.


At the end of the day, with all the talk on gender equality, women love (want) money to spent on them by men. Note: Not her money.

It is foolhardy to say no lady wants money to be spent on her by her man. Yes, it should be at discretion, but money must be spent on a lady by her man. It is why women marry up not down.

Psychology and nature.

legba1:
I really don't think its a bad idea spending on ur GF. I will not over do and won't be compelled.

We will have nice time together and won't be her ATM.

OrireSA:
So if we're in a relationship and I take you out to a restaurant will you pay for yourself? Or if I take you to a hotel will you pay your own way or will you expect me to pay as the man?
This is an unwritten rule in every relationship the lion must hunt for his woman and family.

Would you date a poor man?
1. Love won't buy you a house
2. Love won't pay the bills
My point is sometimes love isn't enough, if I can afford your lifestyle and you like me than why can't I be your man?

SPEEDEPITOME:

I guess you didn't read the part where I wrote that other things should follow. I'm not in any way trying to downplay the place of money in relationships as you have pointed out.
My point is: if a girl is not into you, no matter how much you spend, she'll either leave you or stay and cheat on you.

SPEEDEPITOME:

I guess you didn't read the part where I wrote that other things should follow. I'm not in any way trying to downplay the place of money in relationships as you have pointed out.
My point is: if a girl is not into you, no matter how much you spend, she'll either leave you or stay and cheat on you.

pocohantas:

It's one thing to say women love money that's not theirs to spent on them and women would PREFER to marry a man who TOGETHER they can afford a better life.

I say no to the former. Hope you get it now?

rheether:
You need to show me say you fit take care of me

aaronxy:
[color=#006600][/color] a guy that spends 500k on a lady n still left is an Eda... girls like being handled with strong hands mine or not, act as if u wan
ng to beat her, Buh dont, scare her pretend cheat on her n she'll b scared of losing u. have never fell in love b4 so I dont know how it feels. just b cold hearted n spend if uve the money (wisely)

Gerrard59:


Let me presume you did not read the study.

Additionally, why do women marry up?

SPEEDEPITOME:

The comment below you answered your question. All women are not the same. You entice some with money, they'll never see you beyond your money.

pocohantas:

There is nothing new in the article. I have read tones of articles on marrying up...being the hypergamous nature of women.

My point to you was simple, don't generalise.
There are women that prefer guys of a lower social class or same class with them. I do hope you get it this time.

rheether:
You need to show me say you fit take care of me