liz4eno:
Seriously first time attitude, he knows how much our communication mean to me, especially with the distance.

Airforce1:
He's not good for you

His actions doesn't speak well of him.

He threatened you with a "revenge" for not coming to assist him park his things in a state you're not even at.. Please look well o.


You sef wey go spend a month In the house of a guy thats not married to you, Na wa for you

tosyne2much:
Give it a trial till Monday.

Mind you, tomorrow is another month, so I will advise you use that as an opportunity to blow his mind with a fascinating new month message. You should know the right thing to compose

liz4eno:
I'm feel he might get upset for involving his mum, I might just give it a try, if he doesn't speak to me by Sunday.

Aderola15:


Airforce?

tosyne2much:
Maybe because I don't know the right word to use sha

Aderola15:


Na why relationship dey tire me at times. I don't even want to drop any advice on this thread

You'll saying she should involve his mum in this minor issue, na like this e dey start nii... Sha don't bring my mother in-law won't stop interfering in our marriage thread here oooo because na una dey drag the woman into this unnecessary drama.

liz4eno:
Lol tnx aniway

tosyne2much:
Shey you know you shouldn't take any slight issue with levity especially when you're in a fruitful relationship. Little things like this has ruined many relationships, so I will advise she gives it all she can at the expense of keeping her man

Sleekfloyd:

dont lose him abeg

tosyne2much:
Oga Airforce1 I hail oooo

Sleekfloyd:

dont lose him abeg

liz4eno:
I won't, I don't want to, tnx.

naijaboiy:
Just give him space he will come around. But why are you taking permission upandan just to travel to go and see someone your relatives know already?

That one me I don't understand.

Airforce1:
He's not good for you

His actions doesn't speak well of him.

He threatened you with a "revenge" for not coming to assist him park his things in a state you're not even at.. Please look well o.


You sef wey go spend a month In the house of a guy thats not married to you, Na wa for you

dacovajnr:
Coming from a guy wey dey always struggle to keep relationship Serious Relationship ain't meant for toddlers...What's wrong about her travelling to help her Husband to be move his stuffs to his new apartment?? And the apartment she'd definitely move in with him after Wedding for that matter ...


Madam Op just keep pleading and ask your sister to plead on your behalf coz you're @ fault here coz as date for intro is being fixed I see no reason why you should seek your mom's consent to to help your husband to be be!Would you need your Mom's consent to cook for your man when you're married to him? Do the needful.

BiafraBushBoy:

Your signature is the best I have seen in a decade!!
Brilliant Tosyne!!
I love it!!

liz4eno:
The truth is my Fam so strict, they knw him on calls not in person yet, tnx I'll give him the space jus dat matters of the heart not easy.

naijaboiy:

Okay...but on a normal you should be Able to travel out of the house na with a credible excuse.

You're graduate and an adult so I don't see any reason why you shouldn't be allowed to travel once in a while for genuine reasons.

liz4eno:
U right, I just don't want him to think I'm desperate my life doesn't depend on him, but seriously if he jilts me I won't commit suicide but I'll cry, I'll give him space sha, if he chop another kpomo and e sweet pass he should man up nd tell me park well daz all, lol.

liz4eno:
I've been an addict nairalander, posting for the first time, pls I need advice on what to do because I'm confuse, might be lengthy pls bear with me.
Where do I even start?
In summary I've been dating this guy and we are to go for introduction by September, I served in Delta state while he was working in Benin, when I passed out I stayed with him for a while like a month plus before I left for Lagos to be with my sister she's kind of heavy and need me around. He was transfered to Akure I still came down with him before I left.
The main issue here is he called me sometime last week to come and help him pack completely from Benin to Akure but I told him to seek permission from my big Sis, He did nd she told him she also have to ask my mum if I'm allowed to go,,obviously mum refused on d basis that he has not come home and I already stayed for awhile with him, he should be patient and do the right thing.
He was upset I didn't come, in a nutshell now he isn't picking my calls, not returning them nor replying my messages, seriously I'm going out of my mind,the last time we spoke was on Tuesday and kept saying me I refuse to come he'll get his revenge.
Pls is this how to revenge? His silence has been eating me up, my Sis she's also worried but don't want to get involve, I speak with his mum daily is it proper I tell her? Pls I need advice, I know its deliberate act but I'm emotionally down, can't think straight, help me fellow nairalanders, should I go,I'm tired of this,tanks a lot, insults are welcome.

pabostt:


I love your Sis and Mum's approach. Your mum was trying to be on your side to ensure that the guy take a step further to affirm his love for you. Moreover, you acted right by obeying your mum since he hasn't done the needful.

I think the way the whole issue was communicated was a little bit faulty, howbeit, the guy should have been at the top of the situation. If you mean a lot to him, he shouldn't have acted childishly.

I will advise you get a little bit patient and try to make him understand that it wasn't intentional. However, if you guys get back, you should make sure he gets over that childish behavior, if he continues acting like that your marriage with him will be on a time bomb (my 2 cent).

SirJeffry:
Slow down your love for that dude at least for awhile. Be on your guard and get your heart ready for any unforeseen eventuality 'cos I don't see a good day ahead. Good luck all the same.

yhemster:
Firstly, he's just bittered that your assistance he counted on wasn't there. I feel his pain. Anybody in his shoes will be bittered. As for his actions, it's quite extreme. But just calm the heck down. If he's ur husband you'll surely marry him. @OP, you need to ask urself a simple question. Can you deal with this kind of man if he truly mean his words? Most time y'all ladies get carried away by the thought of being married without continuously looking out for urself.
Secondly, you're panicking cos he stopped talking to you? If he breaks up with you that means you're going to faint.
Just calm the 4k down

yhemster:
Firstly, he's just bittered that your assistance he counted on wasn't there. I feel his pain. Anybody in his shoes will be bittered. As for his actions, it's quite extreme. But just calm the heck down. If he's ur husband you'll surely marry him. @OP, you need to ask urself a simple question. Can you deal with this kind of man if he truly mean his words? Most time y'all ladies get carried away by the thought of being married without continuously looking out for urself.
Secondly, you're panicking cos he stopped talking to you? If he breaks up with you that means you're going to faint.
Just calm the 4k down

Aderola15:


I don't want to say what's on my mind

Op, please continue begging him oooo. What the Lord has joined together, let no Rola put asunder.

liz4eno:
I will tnx a lot, really missing him, just want to hear his voice, if it persist till next week, I might just travel, I no get strong mind