listenersky:

Wedding preparations already done. Hall booked, cloths bought, both families already preparing, what will people say? How will she move ahead if I leave her?

DukeNija:


Forget the responses. The question is, will you sincerely advice him to continue with the wedding? How will he say the 'I Do' looking at this woman who betrayed him for years.

stunningjudy:

Are you one of those who sleep with married men?

nrexzy:
I see you dying of rat poison in a few months after marriage
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Laura136:
If she's genuine abt d forgiveness then pls do, u could b d one hu might err in future, u never can say, set a platform of hard forgiveness

Staunchhedonist:

I don't know if these people will suffer with you later.

egorov:
Some ladies tho, u have a guy who's responsible, Who loves u, who's docused and even planning the future with u, still u have been sharing what should have been his alone with one old pot-bellied id1ot.

Believe me, stories like this on nairaland have been the reason y I find it so hard to trust any lady.

They come in angelic packages but the inside is full of shit.

Guy, if I were u, I'll not go ahead with the marriage, the people u are considering won't live with u after d wedding, they won't be there for u when the problem starts. Ur happiness should be ur priority, I doubt if u will ever have a stable marriage with her, u can forgive but can u forget? Forgiving her doesnt mean u must marry her. She lied for.years, she probably did more than what u saw

DO NOT MARRY HER!!! Run for ur happiness

Gabbysky:
Bro, in all honesty, run for your life, terminate the plans and don't give any gaddem reason.
There's more to life than just a mare marriage.

I married out of pity (big mistake) and I'm still paying for that mistake 10 years down the line.
It is well.

NEVER marry any lady out of pity, NEVER!!!

clarocuzioo:
Please flee, God just did you a great favour to expose what is happening, come to think of it, what If you did not catch her, what is the probability that they will not continue after the wedding ceremony, there's every posibility that somebody will sleep with ur newly wedded wife two weeks to one month after wedding without you knowing, and there's also the possibility of you "fathering" another person's child, to even think she's doing it with a married man is more disgusting, please leave her and thank God for showing you such rare love of exposing what millions have not been able to see till date.

Adegbenro7643:
Ha,,,dis one strong o

Only God could console u, bro.
I'm afraid u can't truthfully 4giv her until d man dies.
It's hard wishing such a person a long life.

Abeg,,,,let her go,,,to her advantage though

babythug:
It's a tricky and sticky quagmire to be in! Ultimately only you can decide for yourself

Ponder on these though- if the reverse were the case would you expect her to forgive and move past the incident?

Are you one to be vindictive or to keep referring to "sins" like this?

Why did she say she dated the man? For love or financial gratification?

Do you still love her despite this?

Is she a good person who's been caught in a bad spot/situation?

Is it a case of multiple philandering?

When you can answer perhaps you'd be able to move forward or not!

listenersky:
I just discovered my fiancee has been cheating on me. I discovered the chats she had with a married elderly man ,she initially denied it but she confessed after I showed her the evidence i had. We have been dating for six years and we did our intro early this year. We have picked the date of our wedding which is in few weeks time. People have been invited.

Her relationship with this elderly man didn't start now, she made me to understand that it has been going on for years. Now she has been begging me to forgive her and not put her to shame because PEOPLE are already looking forward to our wedding day.

Wedding preparations already in place. Infact preparations already 80% done. I'm really in a state of confusion right now because I don't know if I should go ahead with the wedding out of pity. And I am also scared that if I marry her out of pity, I might not love her the way I should as the thought of her being unfaithful over the years will never leave my head And how am I sure she's not cheating with more than one man?

Pls nairalanders, matured advice needed at this time.

Tahrah:
No,i'm not.

pcguru1:


You would honestly settle down with a cheat, as in a guy who cheats on you. Mehn you "friends" need to learn to love yourself more.

listenersky:
I just discovered my fiancee has been cheating on me. I discovered the chats she had with a married elderly man ,she initially denied it but she confessed after I showed her the evidence i had. We have been dating for six years and we did our intro early this year. We have picked the date of our wedding which is in few weeks time. People have been invited.

Her relationship with this elderly man didn't start now, she made me to understand that it has been going on for years. Now she has been begging me to forgive her and not put her to shame because PEOPLE are already looking forward to our wedding day.

Wedding preparations already in place. Infact preparations already 80% done. I'm really in a state of confusion right now because I don't know if I should go ahead with the wedding out of pity. And I am also scared that if I marry her out of pity, I might not love her the way I should as the thought of her being unfaithful over the years will never leave my head And how am I sure she's not cheating with more than one man?

Pls nairalanders, matured advice needed at this time.

listenersky:
I just discovered my fiancee has been cheating on me. I discovered the chats she had with a married elderly man ,she initially denied it but she confessed after I showed her the evidence i had. We have been dating for six years and we did our intro early this year. We have picked the date of our wedding which is in few weeks time. People have been invited.

Her relationship with this elderly man didn't start now, she made me to understand that it has been going on for years. Now she has been begging me to forgive her and not put her to shame because PEOPLE are already looking forward to our wedding day.

Wedding preparations already in place. Infact preparations already 80% done. I'm really in a state of confusion right now because I don't know if I should go ahead with the wedding out of pity. And I am also scared that if I marry her out of pity, I might not love her the way I should as the thought of her being unfaithful over the years will never leave my head And how am I sure she's not cheating with more than one man?

Pls nairalanders, matured advice needed at this time.

Cinderella5:
my point is, if it were the woman who caught her man cheat days to the wedding, will you advise her to leave him because he cheated?

Answer honestly.

listenersky:

Wedding preparations already done. Hall booked, cloths bought, both families already preparing, what will people say? How will she move ahead if I leave her?

Paulscholari:
hahahahahahahahahaha chukwuuuuuuuudi, wetin na, haba pity D guy na.

exlinkleads:
Hmmmmm

Forgive her ok, is a one time thing. You know is not easy to start eating one particular food for the rest of your life.

Is scary. But forgive her.

listenersky:
are parents are aware already because the man she cheated with is her Dad's friend

nrexzy:

Na eziokwu I talk na

Inanna:
You men are full of shvt! Just look at the flimsy reason why you want to call off your wedding. Abeg fvck outta here with that bullshit!
You that has drilled multiple holes or is it because she never found out. This even serves you right. Call off the wedding, you pussie.

listenersky:

Wedding preparations already done. Hall booked, cloths bought, both families already preparing, what will people say? How will she move ahead if I leave her?