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Wife Submit To Your Husband Or Husband Love Your Wife. Which Is Tougher? by fumisko(f): 1:05am On Jul 16, 2017 |
"Wife submit to your husband or "husband love your wife"...which really is tougher?? OK...I know deep down you must have responded with the "wives submit to your husband phrase". Fair enough, it is actually not easy to lay down your desires, wants and needs as the case may be as a woman. I mean we are all humans and we all enjoy doing what makes us happy (who doesn't). Infact, when I was younger, I used to always say that Male and female were formed the same way so there was no way I was going to accept one gender boss over the other....lol ( yes I was seriously angry with all the men in the world). Well needless to say...the issue of "woman submission" is well flogged by most church pastors. I mean they lay so much emphasis on this already. Yes, we hear the theory of wives having to submit everywhere. In some serious cases, some women are not even allowed to lead prayers even in the family altar or come up with useful suggestions for the growth and development of the family ( I mean who are you to that when the Bible had told you to submit...in their own interpretation) Eph 5:22-23. Please try not to get me wrong...I am 100% in support of wives submitting to their husbands. It is scriptural, biblical and besides two people cannot drive a car at the same time. As a matter of fact, I personally cannot stand a man who can not actively be at the forefront in handling family affairs because as a woman, I was not created to be the leader (at least the stress was lifted off the shoulders of women way back from creation...lol). So with that clarified, my only amazement or should I say concern lies in the fact that very little or no emphasis is placed on the role of the man "Husbands love your wife" (seriously, even most church pastors never really educate future husbands on what this entails). In my own point of view, I believe "Husbands love your wife" is the tougher of the two. How you may ask...well I would try to explain it as best as I can. So What exactly is this love duty bestowed on a husband from scriptures?? Please cut off some crappy definitions of love we usually give. 1 cor 13:4-8 gives the true definition of the love a man was charged to give his wife. infact it expatiates that short phrase some preachers never really address. I also got to find out that "loving your wife" is much more work than "submitting to your husband" (as usual God always leaves the harder work for the stronger vessel). So here is what loving your wife entails (1 cor 13:4- ![]() Love is also kind ( that means you should be kind to your wife at all times) what is kindness? Help her, assist her, be there for her as a husband...you name all those little things that actually sound unimportant but actually depicts true kindness. Love is also not envious (should in case your wife becomes very successful...would you tell her to quit that business or job simply because you may be slightly jealous and cannot stand her being as equally successful as you are?) Love does not boast neither is it proud ( yes...as a husband, you do not have to keep repeating how much money you spend in taking care of the home and her inclusive in case you have a wife that is not working. Do not make her feel like a piece of trash)...simply put, love does not dishonor others. Love is also not self seeking ( so it's more like a man is commanded to do what makes his significant other happy rather. A man should not be self centered that he becomes caught up with pursuing his own desires/ needs. In other word he must work at putting his wife's happiness first...sad but true...the "husband love your wife" phrase just happens to be this deep gentle man). Love is also not easily angered ( I won't even lie...your wife would do so many annoying thing and you would just wonder what exactly is controlling her at that point in time) but it remains a duty for a husband to remain calm and be in control (you are commanded to resist any form of physical or emotional abuse at such trying moments...lol) at least thats if you are a husband fulfilling his own part of the deal. 1 cor 13:4-8 further goes on to expatiate that this love you are to have for your wife should never delight in evil. This love always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres and also keeps no record of wrongs. This simply means that a husband must learn to trust his wife (don't suspect her of cheating on you with that cute guy in her office simply because they are in friendly terms and you are slightly insecure about it). You are also compelled to forgive and forget her wrongs as a husband ( don't keep track of the number of times she has mistakenly put excess salt or pepper in your soup...lol). The deepest part about the love a man was commanded to have for his wife in that 1 cor 13:4-8 is the fact that love is said to never fail (oh boy, don't even try to say you have fallen out of love with your wife as a husband...lol) it says prophecies would fail, even this heavy speaking in tongues spirit filled Christians do while praying would cease/fade. But the calling of love God had given a husband to showcase to his wife is compelled to live for ever ( till death do you part in this case that is, come what may happen...what she does or doesn't do...divorce is not an option...that is, it is your job as the husband and leader to have you both work on it...guide her...correct her...change also if need be in securing that you fulfill your part of the deal). Remember love never fails and as a husband you have been commanded to "love". I do hope the church expatiates on these teachings someday and equally educate both parties on the depth of what they have been commanded from scriptures. Trust me if both parties are equally taught to fulfill their own part of the contract...or better put this mutual commandment (and not just the one sided teaching they dwell on this days). We would have much more happier homes. So before you kneel down and give that lady an engagement ring, ask yourself if you are really ready to do the serious work love entails (forget the feelings) and ask her if she is willing to submit to your leadership for the rest of her life. So at this point I ask again, which is the tougher of the two, "wives submit to your husbands" or "husbands love your wife" ? http://diaryofalovergirl..com.ng/?m=1 |
Re: Wife Submit To Your Husband Or Husband Love Your Wife. Which Is Tougher? by Nobody: 2:11am On Jul 16, 2017 |
I think the title of this topic is the tougher one here ![]() Please can we get a summary ![]() |
Re: Wife Submit To Your Husband Or Husband Love Your Wife. Which Is Tougher? by Nobody: 2:43am On Jul 16, 2017 |
1st, the epistle is too long 2nd, anybody who comes here and says one is tougher than the other is not only unwise, but not mature enough for marriage yet. Including you op. Your business at this stage and age with all the life experience you've gathered both from yourself and from people around you, this isn't what is next for you to start canvassing about. If you still see the role of a man and a woman in marriage as a competitive thing, you will certainly be overwhelmed by the challenges of marriage.. the most little ones sef. Playing ur role properly shd be ur headache and not which is tougher. Your business is to start preparing yourself for what it takes in spite of the wrong instincts even our parents may have made us believe about marriage, to deliver our responsibilities as God desires it (not just as our partner desires it)...that's what is strong enough to pull thru thick and thin. When you have this desire, then God will answer your prayer for the right man or woman who will fuel ur decision to make God happy as long as marriage is concerned. That's my view. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Wife Submit To Your Husband Or Husband Love Your Wife. Which Is Tougher? by ikp120(m): 6:07am On Jul 16, 2017 |
With feminism everywhere, forget about submission from any woman. Go get yourself a sex robot |
Re: Wife Submit To Your Husband Or Husband Love Your Wife. Which Is Tougher? by fumisko(f): 11:44am On Jul 19, 2017 |
ikp120:I have been deliberately trying to live a life of submission. God help me |
Re: Wife Submit To Your Husband Or Husband Love Your Wife. Which Is Tougher? by ikp120(m): 1:44pm On Jul 19, 2017 |
fumisko:Hmmm. That's really cool. I hope you get a guy who deserves you. |
Re: Wife Submit To Your Husband Or Husband Love Your Wife. Which Is Tougher? by fumisko(f): 10:54pm On Jul 19, 2017 |
ikp120:Amen....thanks so much God bless That was a really cool comment ![]() |
Re: Wife Submit To Your Husband Or Husband Love Your Wife. Which Is Tougher? by Nobody: 11:17pm On Jul 19, 2017 |
people can use Bible the way they like ehn. husband's hammering on this verse forgetting thou should not commit adultery and all the other commandments. see marriage is different for everyone. some like a submissive wife others do not. some men cook while wife does other stuffs. whatever works for them is okay. all these set standard sef |
Re: Wife Submit To Your Husband Or Husband Love Your Wife. Which Is Tougher? by Nobody: 11:22pm On Jul 19, 2017 |
Husband be faithful to your wife only is tougher. |
Re: Wife Submit To Your Husband Or Husband Love Your Wife. Which Is Tougher? by fumisko(f): 12:16am On Jul 20, 2017 |
Is there any man who doesn't like a submissive wife ? HannahHitler: |
Re: Wife Submit To Your Husband Or Husband Love Your Wife. Which Is Tougher? by fumisko(f): 12:17am On Jul 20, 2017 |
Lol....they would say they are polygamous in nature now Rorachy: |
Re: Wife Submit To Your Husband Or Husband Love Your Wife. Which Is Tougher? by Nobody: 1:27am On Jul 20, 2017 |
fumisko:Google bdsm and dominatrix. there In lies your answer. |
Re: Wife Submit To Your Husband Or Husband Love Your Wife. Which Is Tougher? by fumisko(f): 12:56pm On Jul 20, 2017 |
HannahHitler:Nigerian men o Not oyinbo And not sex related |
Re: Wife Submit To Your Husband Or Husband Love Your Wife. Which Is Tougher? by Nobody: 4:55pm On Jul 20, 2017 |
fumisko:bdsm is a life style and doesn't end at just sex. yes I know Nigerian man who like to be dominated by their wives. |
Re: Wife Submit To Your Husband Or Husband Love Your Wife. Which Is Tougher? by fumisko(f): 6:30pm On Jul 20, 2017 |
HannahHitler:wow!!! are you serious? Me I don't want that one abeg o...lol |
Re: Wife Submit To Your Husband Or Husband Love Your Wife. Which Is Tougher? by Melonny(m): 6:44pm On Jul 20, 2017 |
i think husbands loving their wives is tougher. the verse states "love your wives as God loves the church that he gave his only son for it". |
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