Greetings my friends.... I actually entrusted my feeding and some other things to a girl I pay well for her services ""#15,000 a month"" (even though she's yet to receive her first pay as I just employed her yesterday). I have a small place at work too where I sleep whenever i worked late hours of the night, so my cloths and a little important belongings are there. In fact, I spent the Sunday there yesterday. {Pics added}


So this morning, I wanted to have breakfast, I asked her to make me some which she did and brought to my room, asked her to come in and she didn't, I had to go to the door my self before she gave me the food with this heavy frown on her face lol, I wondered what the matter could be but still can't remember where I've wronged the girl who's proly in her early 20s. I collected the meal and headed back in to eat before going downstairs to start work. I washed the plates my self when done and she didn't even bring me water which I did my self.


Now yesterday's evening before heading up to sleep, I washed some cloths which I dried outside. Then this afternoon when it was about to rain, I remembered the cloths and called her on phone to go get the cloths for me to avoid it being beaten by the rain. She did actually but brought it straight to my office, imagine! I calmly asked her to take it upstairs where my colleagues have their mini places too. She got the frown as she looked at me with the heap of cloths in her arms, she collected the keys and went upstairs to drop them.

She's gone home already but then, I keep wondering... What's with this attitude of hers? I never did anything to her, I don't even give her much attention or whatever looks like that. But I'm wondering, if she thinks the pay's too small for a girl her age... I'm confused.

it's a very sensitive situation uve got here

I'll suggest you either
1. Sack her - b4 d appointed tym to kill u reach

2. Talk to her - some people just want to be reasoned with

3. Take her to the pastor for Deliverance - some deep spirits at work whooosh

Jst pass d sack letter.... ... She means harm in d future

Ehen she thinks you have that tendency to demand sex from her..

Tinnytony24:
Jst pass d sack letter.... ... She means harm in d future

I've been thinking about that but will have a talk with her first before taking any further action.


Thanks bro

dingbang:
Ehen she thinks you have that tendency to demand sex from her..

hahahaha... She's sick to harbour such insane thoughts man


Hahahaha...I'm far from that.

DeGuyNxtDoor:
hahahaha... She's sick to harbour such insane thoughts man


Hahahaha...I'm far from that.

is normal for her to feel that way just talk to her about her attitude n assure her u don't v such in mind then watch her

vivypretty:

is normal for her to feel that way just talk to her about her attitude n assure her u don't v such in mind then watch her

Sure, would do that. Thanks

Well the people above have allk said it all.............you just have to talk to her about it


and errrmm did someone recommend her to you?

And was she frowning on the day she got the job?








*Whispers* Ok this is an off thr records question............is she pretty at all? And is she dark too?

Loool @ op. I think she doesn't trust you enough to go into your room or your intentions towards her as she is a younf adult and mebbe, so are u. Dealing with domestic staff, you need to tell them what is expected of them from the onset. She needs to trust you and I sincerely doubt she will ever do that. My advise, pay her for the days she has worked and get an older maid. A mama kinda maid that you will even enjoy so much better because of their maturity level

she has myopic mind of you...

she hates men

Aint you the same person who sent your tenant, a lady packing for putting to death one of your wild Turkeys. To be very honest with you, you have a way of reading all kinds of NEGATIVE MEANINGS into things.Its so, simple!!! Ask her what is wrong?! "WHY HAVE YOU BEEN FROWNING"? "IS ANYTHING THE PROBLEM?" Infact it may be that its that monthly period of theirs called MENSTRUATION, which some feel so much pain and uneasy, while it could be something totally different. And it could be she's the type that doesnt keep a smiling face. Instead of all these speculations. Why dont you politely and with wisdom ask her and also tell her how you want to be served, i mean job description, THAT IS WHAT MAKES A REASONABLE BOSS. www.nairaland.com/3939423/ever-since-she-left-nobody Was it not you who opened that thread? I HOPE YOU WONT END UP SAYING THAT THIS GIRL TOO, IS FETISH OR SOMETHING. YOU ARE ALWAYS BEING SUSPICIOUS AND HAVE A MENTALITY OF SUPPERSTITIONS. I hope you find a spouse of your like mind who you both be suspecting one another and all kinds of supperstitous beliefs. IF NOT, SHE IS GOING TO SUFFER BECAUSE YOU WILL NEVER GIVE HER A RESTING MIND.

As for the girl you just employed. She is at the moment trying to be cautious. ENTER YOU ROOM TO GIVE YOU FOOD?! At the moment you are as good as a stranger to her, NO TRUST. While her frowning is a sign that she wont subscribe to being your mistress ............... ITS NOT SO DIFFICULT TO DECIPHER IN A WORLD OF PERVERTS EVERYWHERE, WHO DO YOU WANT TO TRUST.

DeGuyNxtDoor:
[b][b]So this morning, I wanted to have breakfast, I asked her to make me some which she did and brought to my room, asked her to come in and she didn't, I had to go to the door my self before she gave me the food with this heavy frown on her face lol, I wondered what the matter

And then, Oga you sabi complain o!!! Her first day at work?

DeGuyNxtDoor:
hahahaha... She's sick to harbour such insane thoughts man


Hahahaha...I'm far from that.

she isn't sick bro... Men will always be men... So just don't invite her into your bedroom again..

thepussyhunter:
Well the people above have allk said it all.............you just have to talk to her about it


and errrmm did someone recommend her to you?

And was she frowning on the day she got the job?








*Whispers* Ok this is an off thr records question............is she pretty at all? And is she dark too?

lol...you this crazy guy


Anyway, she pretty but fair complexioned.


No bro, noone recommended her. I saw her as a decent girl and employed her and no, she was actually all smiles when I finished talking to her about the pay and every necessary things yesterday.

WORDWORLD:
Aint you the same person who sent your tenant, a lady packing for putting to death one of your wild Turkeys. To be very honest with you, you have a way of reading all kinds of NEGATIVE MEANINGS into things.Its so, simple!!! Ask her what is wrong?! "WHY HAVE YOU BEEN FROWNING"? IS ANYTHING THE PROBLEM? Infact it may be that its that monthly period of theirs called MENSTRUATION, which some feel so much pain and uneasy, while it could be something totally different. And it could be she's the type that doesnt keep a smiling face. Instead of all these speculations. Why dont you politely and with wisdom ask her and also tell her how you want to be served, i mean job description, THAT IS WHAT MAKES A REASONABLE BOSS. www.nairaland.com/3939423/ever-since-she-left-nobody Was it not you who opened that thread? I HOPE YOU WONT END UP SAYING THAT THIS GIRL TOO, IS FETISH OR SOMETHING. YOU ARE ALWAYS BEING SUSPICIOUS AND HAVE A MENTALITY OF SUPPERSTITIONS. I hope you find a spouse of your like mind who you both be suspecting one another and all kinds of supperstitous beliefs. IF NOT, SHE IS GOING SUFFER BECAUSE YOU WILL NEVER GIVE HER A RESTING MIND.

As for the girl you just employed. She is at the moment trying to be cautious. ENTER YOU ROOM TO GIVE YOU FOOD?! At the moment you are as good as a stranger to her, NO TRUST. While her frowning is a sign that she wont subscribe to being your mistress ............... ITS NOT SO DIFFICULT TO DECIPHER IN WORLD OF PERVERTS EVERYWHERE, WHO DO YOU WANT TO TRUST.

And then, Oga you sabi complain o!!! Her first day at work?

if only you knew what I went through in the hands of that lady before she finally left my house.

But thanks for your opinion.

dingbang:
she isn't sick bro... Men will always be men... So just don't invite her into your bedroom again..

aaight bro...will do as you've suggested.


But I really don't have those intentions.

Please let her go now.

DeGuyNxtDoor:
if only you knew what I went through in the hands of that lady before she finally left my house.

But thanks for your opinion.

You are welcome! Its good to always put up a POSITIVE CONSTRUCTION when speculating until these options are exhausted then one can start thinking otherwise. And in life its MOST IMPORTANT that whatever kind of relationship one tends to have with another human being, due to privileges at our disposal. WE SHOULD BY ALL MEANS DO OUR BEST NOT TO END IT ON A SORRY NOTE. I mean, a state of unended malice or quarrel. ITS A VERY DANGEROUS SEED FOR THE FUTURE SO UNKNOWN. Lets always learn to forgive and always apply wisdom to all that we do. I wish you the best with your new girl. TREAT HER KINDLY, ALL THAT WE HAVE ARE PRIVILEGES WHICH SHOULD NOT BE ABUSED EXCEPT TO BRING OUT THE BEST IN THE LIFE OF THOSE LESS PRIVILEGED THAN WE ARE BY MAKING LIFE MEANINGFUL TO THEM TOO. What is practiced almost all around the world is MODERN SLAVERY.......In the name of salary that makes you cry.

Mcowubaba:
15K nd u say u pay her very well, lol...
You're trying sha, things are very hard, people work for way less.

I think the issue is,
1) As u said, you just employed her, she may be still kind of timid nd trying to adjust properly into the new environment and new Oga, which is you

2) At her age she is very sexually conscious, so she maybe skeptical about entering your bedroom, you can't blame her for this.

My advise, give her sometime, then try talking with her, make her understand your intentions and her job description, if she continues to act up, baba sack her immediately, no time for unnecessary drama

thank you for this bro...


We'll see how it goes tomorrow when I see her again.

How sure are u that she doesn't even spit in Ur food or even mix menstrual blood with Ur tea...u bera send her out asap nd stop forming mr nice guy..naija was nt like b4 wen u can let a complete stranger stay in Ur home.

What is her job description? is it part of her job to serve you food, take care of your cloths etc?

DeGuyNxtDoor:
lol...you this crazy guy


Anyway, she pretty but fair complexioned.


No bro, noone recommended her. I saw her as a decent girl and employed her and no, she was actually all smiles when I finished talking to her about the pay and every necessary things yesterday.

oh i see

well there you have it..........as far as she was all smiles yesterday when she got the job it only means shes just being careful with you or something...........i might be wrong though

just talk to her tomorrow and errmmm do give us the feed back o


dammn!! Too bad she aiint dark skinned

thepussyhunter:


oh i see

well there you have it..........as far as she was all smiles yesterday when she got the job it only means shes just being careful with you or something...........i might be wrong though

just talk to her tomorrow and errmmm do give us the feed back o


dammn!! Too bad she aiint dark skinned

lol.
.no dey put bad thing for my head bare...

FortuneTeller:
I don't trust you. Why did you want her to enter your room?

I was still laying back on my bed then, she knocked and I asked her to come in...how's that wrong?


I didn't even go ahead to force her to come in by asking her to come in (a second time) but rather I went to the door, opened it (cos she didn't even want to open it in the first place) and collected my food. Where did I go wrong?

FortuneTeller:
I don't trust you. Why did you want her to enter your room?

if you don't trust a guy like me, you can NEVER trust anyone in this world...believe me on that.

DeGuyNxtDoor:
if you don't trust a guy like me, you can NEVER trust anyone in this world...believe me on that.

Why are you asking her to enter your room? As a young woman she did the right thing. If you would have attacked her, people would have asked her why she entered your room. Please use your head. There are too many perverts out here.

FortuneTeller:


Why are you asking her to enter your room? As a young woman she did the right thing. Too many perverts out here.

well I'm not a pervert and I asked her to come in with a clean conscience.

DeGuyNxtDoor:
well I'm not a pervert and I asked her to come in with a clean conscience.

It doesn't matter because she is not a mind reader. Conduct yourself well sir.