SalamRushdie:


Make sure you marry that girl and see how u will Prosper

Help us tell the brother my brother....

Passy089:




In My family ....you are not allowed bring your girlfriends to the house except if you re ready to marry the person .perhaps I studied far away from where my parents live .

Wow but you could have call home and let her say hello to her then.... but I must say this you need your mother's blessing in a union. Try persuade or tell your church priest

mofeoluwadassah:
it means he never loved her....cos if he does he would av taken her home b4 now

He said it's not allowed in his family, the next thing and best now is to tell their church priest about the whole thing

supersystemsng:


No, i disagree, he knew the consequences when he was getting wifey treatment...he may have gotten sex over a hundred times, they may be celibate too, but he was gotten preferential treatment...i.e she must have turned down over 50 guys for him... see, there's a scripture in the book of Romans, i always played it in my head now and then..it says ignorance is not an excuse, see my dear, our actions and inactions in life carry a consequence...I can't date a lady for 9 years without taking her home...it's lame.....

This applied to both sides oga. There's something inbetween that the guy is not telling us here anyway.

Bibyken:
I hear u. but can't let any nigga and his momma destroy my life and go free. I no go fit exchange blows na only swear I go swear for dem.

na wa oo aunty

vivie01:


This applied to both sides oga.

More to him madam, he's the man who ought to have initiated it...Ask him, you will hear the girl has been telling me to take him to my parents for years...you try asking him..

Guy if you love your babe and you are happy with her and she loves you, i beg carry on. If your folks are not alive won't you make your own decision. Mothers can be very difficult to persuade especially now that she does not like your babe.

But remember you must have the balls to face the challenges that comes with it and your babe must be on the same page with you.

Passy089:
I've dated my fiancee from my year 1 in the university that's 9years now, she stood with me through thick and thin, never left me for ready made guys, she trusted and supported me and I promised myself no woman will make me happier than her so I proposed to marry her....

So I took her to see my parents for the first time, but I got the shock of my life when my mum rejected her at 1st sight for no particular reason her word was "my spirit just don't accept her" my dad was cool about my choice as long as I'm happy, I've been begging my mother to reconsider but she has made it clear she won't have anything to do with her or me if I go ahead and marry her.

I'm just confused,the last person I'll leave is my fiancee but my mum too is very special to me.
what should I do??


MOD please help forward this to FP

Be like say your mum and the lady de same coven.
But truth be told your mum de over protective.
You and your friend needs to do serious prayer.
Me don see small for this world; some mama no go wan a girl too big for their control, also she might have gone to a spiritualist to check. Please dont degrade your mum to your girl friend, because if you eventually marry her against your mum's wish. You would have lost two women you love on the long run.
God will give you wisdom to solve the puzzle.

Passy089:
I've dated my fiancee from my year 1 in the university that's 9years now, she stood with me through thick and thin, never left me for ready made guys, she trusted and supported me and I promised myself no woman will make me happier than her so I proposed to marry her....

So I took her to see my parents for the first time, but I got the shock of my life when my mum rejected her at 1st sight for no particular reason her word was "my spirit just don't accept her" my dad was cool about my choice as long as I'm happy, I've been begging my mother to reconsider but she has made it clear she won't have anything to do with her or me if I go ahead and marry her.

I'm just confused,the last person I'll leave is my fiancee but my mum too is very special to me.
what should I do??


MOD please help forward this to FP

Mummy's boy..... And that is how ur mum will continue making decisions for you till you are 70yrs.
O boy you better put your foot down and be a man or is it your Mummy u want to marry? If ur mum cannot give u any cogent reason(s), u better marry her. All this rubbish about her spirit does not flow with the girl is nonsense.

supersystemsng:


More to him madam, he's the man who ought to have initiated it...Ask him, you will hear the girl has been telling me to take him to my parents for years...you try asking him..

You ask yourself. Its really sounding as if you are the one with this story.

Op your MUMU don do, just leave the poor girl while it's not too late for her to find a matured man to marry because you and your mother are bunch of wicked people::::: you came here to tell us that your family won't allow you to bring a girl to the house but you had the gut to date her.

vivie01:


You ask youself. Its really sounding as if you are one with this story.

Well.. i see lots of messed up relationships, anyways to everyone his/her own perspectives...

If I were you I will not ignore my mother's opinion. I will not. I will go on fasting and prayer. Your mom might be a spiritual person (evil or Holy Spirit) ,that's why you can't ignore her. Remember, she's not seen or interacted with this lady before. Please be careful. God will lead you.

supersystemsng:


Perhaps you need to give yourself some coaching first. I don't need your counsel, place the op's action on a scale, place yourself in the scenario and ask yourself if he has done well. Than give him a massage for reckless acts committed..Peace out

He's not stuck. I'm a minister, a son of the most high, when parents don't release blessings in such scenraio, we know how to collect it from God direct and give it to the couple... go do your findings...ask your pastors, they will tell you...

what's this one saying? are you in anyway reiterating that he shouldn't involve God?Everything in life requires prayers.so your points are baseless, null and lacks logical content.meanwhile,i can never be in a relationship with a man for 9 solid years without meeting his family because I don't love blindly.I consult God before I embark on anything..Do have a wonderful weekend

maybel:
If I were you I will not ignore my mother's opinion. I will not. I will go on fasting and prayer. Your mom might be a spiritual person (evil or Holy Spirit) ,that's why you can't ignore her. Remember, she's not seen or interacted with this lady before. Please be careful. God will lead you.

God bless you sir..... you made a lot of sense

karrengold:
what's this one saying? are you in anyway reiterating that he shouldn't involve God?Everything in life requires prayers.so your points are baseless, null and lacks logical content.meanwhile,i can never be in a relationship with a man for 9 solid years without meeting his family because I don't love blindly.I consult God before I embark on anything..Do have a wonderful weekend

You just want to argue. You're ignored...

frankgreat:
I tell people something... Your mother is more important than your wife.. No matter what you do to your mother she will never leave you, but your wife have an option of divorce she can leave anytime.. Do they listen to them.. Talk to your mom and if she still insist then find another person... Your mom is your family your wife is external family believe me on dis..

Bro, this your mentality weak me oooo

My dear I don't have much to say but will let you know that your mum has lived her own life and don't do what u will rejected not happy @ all in ur life by saying it's ur mum.
just follow your mind and put her in prayer to ask God to grant you assess with her in life. Dem when your will is granted by heaven then u mum don't have say.

Take it to God in prayer and ask for wisdom to deal with this issue........

supersystemsng:



You just want to argue. You're ignored...

argue on what and with who precisely?self acclaimed minister,i think you need to start seeing things from the spiritual and not the physical alone... the guy's mother might be right or wrong in her perception, only prayers can unravel the deep secret things..

Passy089:
I've dated my fiancee from my year 1 in the university that's 9years now, she stood with me through thick and thin, never left me for ready made guys, she trusted and supported me and I promised myself no woman will make me happier than her so I proposed to marry her....

So I took her to see my parents for the first time, but I got the shock of my life when my mum rejected her at 1st sight for no particular reason her word was "my spirit just don't accept her" my dad was cool about my choice as long as I'm happy, I've been begging my mother to reconsider but she has made it clear she won't have anything to do with her or me if I go ahead and marry her.

I'm just confused,the last person I'll leave is my fiancee but my mum too is very special to me.
what should I do??


MOD please help forward this to FP

Never allow marriage destroy ur family.

Stevengerd:
E get as e be ooo.. am sure u mom saw something. just tok to her bro!

let her say what she saw......

If my mum says no to my marrying any lady,then it is no.It doesn't matter the number of years we dated.

DeadRat:
Dont make me insult u... Are u one of those mummy boys... Ur mother cant choose a woman for u neither can she dictate for u without a logical reason. My frien, as long as am concern u have no problem abeg

wrong approach few years before now I wou av supported yr view,but your mum needs to 've explicit why u can't marry her,maybe she sees something we don't See.

she needs to be persuaded to open up.

assured the babe u will marry her,but u need to be sure what your mum want.

woman generally a silly being maybe they know each other from their meetings we never can say.

Talk to your mother

karrengold:
your mum must have seen something, I'm talking from experience.... several years ago my uncle brought a woman home to meet with our family, my mum rejected his choice of wife outrightly..we were all surprised but then this uncle got the lady pregnant and that was were the problem started.. the so called lady turned out to be a devil incarnate who wouldn't want to see any member of our family.. today, they are no longer together..my uncle learnt his lesson the hard way.. @op... please go to God in prayers... if she's God's will for you, go to your mum and have a heart to heart talk with her and back it up with serious prayers... the effectual fervent prayer of the righteous availeth much.

matured woman,I like ur view not all these ladies that can't watch their panties on Nairaland giving advice on relationships

Passy089:




So many ppl have talked to her but she wouldn't bulge

Probably she already had someone for you in mind... That's why it would have been good to have introduced ur gf since to them as a girlfriend... At least they would hv known you had someone in your life...
My dear 9 years no be beans o... That your girl really deserves an award... Just keep talking to your mum and make her understand that it's this girl or nobody else.... She would come around....also beg ur dad to talk to his wife....most importantly.. Keep praying and pray for God to soften your mums heart

Both of them are possessed, infact she senior ur mother in the cult.. Ask ur pastor.
Rejection at first sight is questionable.. Oro Awo ni.

Raptor15:
You are very stupid for telling him to ignore his mother. Is only fool that will ignore his or her mother when it comes to marriage. You can ignore your mother when you want to marry because, most of you are desperate when it comes to marriage. This is why am always against people bringing sensitive issues to Nairaland. Because we have a lot of senseless advisers here.

You are also stoopid and senselesss.
Mummy's boy.

No confusion here. Your mum shouldn't dictate to you who you should be with. It's your life, your happiness at stake here. And what does that even mean "spirit doesn't accept her" are we in the 80's?

See as ur mama dey control u Anaele. Shame on u.
She has moved on anyways. Leave d poor girl alone.

Passy089:
I've dated my fiancee from my year 1 in the university that's 9years now, she stood with me through thick and thin, never left me for ready made guys, she trusted and supported me and I promised myself no woman will make me happier than her so I proposed to marry her....

So I took her to see my parents for the first time, but I got the shock of my life when my mum rejected her at 1st sight for no particular reason her word was "my spirit just don't accept her" my dad was cool about my choice as long as I'm happy, I've been begging my mother to reconsider but she has made it clear she won't have anything to do with her or me if I go ahead and marry her.

I'm just confused,the last person I'll leave is my fiancee but my mum too is very special to me.
what should I do??


MOD please help forward this to FP

My question to you young man is, how did you date a girl for 9 years without your mother knowing?. It's impossible. I am sure you just want to use your mother as an excuse not to marry her. Plain and simple. Search your conscience