khiaa:



Hmmmm! I didn't know that grown Nigerian men needed permission to marry the woman that he loves. This is a bad look for you guys it makes you look immature, a grown man is supposed to know what he wants and go after her without permission from mommy and daddy. I couldn't marry such a man.

I tire ooo. When no be say na she wan help me marry am.

katoto:
If my mum says no to my marrying any lady,then it is no.It doesn't matter the number of years we dated.

Wow you self na man too smh

Omogbhollahorn:


I tire ooo. When no be say na she wan help me marry am.

What

Stevengerd:
E get as e be ooo.. am sure u mom saw something. just tok to her bro!

Forget......u have been with a girl for 9year and u did not see error...... ur mom see girl for 1 day and she don already see thousand thinz........guy abeg wife her joor

gratefulheart:
She know what you don't know.
Try and discuss with your dad for way out.

Stop being ridiculous, he's known her for nine years and mommy just laid her eyes on her. Mommy knows nothing about this woman and mommy should be happy that a woman cares so much about her son that she was willing to stick with him through thick and thin for nine years without being his wife

Even though I find it cruel of you to date a girl for 9 whole years without taking her home for once or even letting your family know there's a lady in your life but a spirit that can not sense that there's someone "purportedly" bad sticking with you through thick and thin for 9 years, is that one a spirit ?
Your mum must have her reasons, maybe she has some other girl in mind for you and has been putting things in the works for that assuming you were single. She will tell you some day what actually is wrong.
The decision is yours but if I had a girl that stuck with me for that long, I'm hers.

How can a lady date a man for 9 years without marriage? Smh, I rebuke this nonsense in Jesus name

Passy089:
I've dated my fiancee from my year 1 in the university that's 9years now, she stood with me through thick and thin, never left me for ready made guys, she trusted and supported me and I promised myself no woman will make me happier than her so I proposed to marry her....

So I took her to see my parents for the first time, but I got the shock of my life when my mum rejected her at 1st sight for no particular reason her word was "my spirit just don't accept her" my dad was cool about my choice as long as I'm happy, I've been begging my mother to reconsider but she has made it clear she won't have anything to do with her or me if I go ahead and marry her.

I'm just confused,the last person I'll leave is my fiancee but my mum too is very special to me.
what should I do??


MOD please help forward this to FP

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I need to talk to you

Get a marriage counselor to speak and reason with your Mum

katoto:
If my mum says no to my marrying any lady,then it is no.It doesn't matter the number of years we dated.

LOL!
This one too will beat his chest that he is a man.
Go inside and suck mama breast, let men talk about this issue.

bayulll011:


matured woman,I like ur view not all these ladies that can't watch their panties on Nairaland giving advice on relationships

Mumu, omo mummy!
It is wash.

Have you prayed about it if God says yes then you should go ahead with it just make your momma see reasons why it has to be her cos listening to the voice of God is better off to the opinion of men

khiaa:



Hmmmm! I didn't know that grown Nigerian men needed permission to marry the woman that he loves. This is a bad look for you guys it makes you look immature, a grown man is supposed to know what he wants and go after her without permission from mommy and daddy. I couldn't marry such a man.

Different strikes for different folks.

mofeoluwadassah:
you dated her for nine years and you have not for one day taken her to your house? then it means you dont love her

Why you dey think like this na,he no love her but he want to marry her.Does it correlate

khiaa:


Stop being ridiculous, he's known her for nine years and mommy just laid her eyes on her. Mommy knows nothing about this woman and mommy should be happy that a woman cares so much about her son that she was willing to stick with him through thick and thin for nine years without being his wife

And when the marriage is about to break, people like you will gladly advise the woman to quickly pack her loads because marriage is not a do or die affair. By that time it will only remain his mother who will always be there for him. I can never because of this new generation women fight my mum or disrespect her. It has nothing to do with being a man. A man is somebody that can set his priorities right. Until you are married your mother is your first priority. Talk her into accepting your choice....never ever for once disrespect her cos of all these so callled FIN SISTERS

supersystemsng:


I hope he listens...In marriage God by-passes parents to give the blessings they withhold out of jealousy, i hope he bypasses that his selfish mother and will listen...

As long as there is no concrete reason why a parent is saying no to ur spouse, I think u should go ahead and marry. what does the mom mean by her spirit just doesn't accept her? dumb reason. some parents think that because they gave birth to u, they have to make all ur decisions for u. its crazy

If deep down in your heart you are sure that you would be happy with her, then Mr man, grow some balls and marry your wife. How can you make a decision and not stand to defend it? Weane yourself off your mum's breasts

helpee:
And when the marriage is about to break, people like you will gladly advise the woman to quickly pack her loads because marriage is not a do or die affair. By that time it will only remain his mother who will always be there for him. I can never because of this new generation women fight my mum or disrespect her. It has nothing to do with being a man. A man is somebody that can set his priorities right. Until you are married your mother is your first priority. Talk her into accepting your choice....never ever for once disrespect her cos of all these so callled FIN SISTERS

I couldn't continue to read this because the op clearly stated that his mom said that she would have nothing to do with him if he married the woman that he loved so how could you conclude that this woman/mother would be there for him when she was the problem from the beginning?

Passy089:
I've dated my fiancee from my year 1 in the university that's 9years now, she stood with me through thick and thin, never left me for ready made guys, she trusted and supported me and I promised myself no woman will make me happier than her so I proposed to marry her....

So I took her to see my parents for the first time, but I got the shock of my life when my mum rejected her at 1st sight for no particular reason her word was "my spirit just don't accept her" my dad was cool about my choice as long as I'm happy, I've been begging my mother to reconsider but she has made it clear she won't have anything to do with her or me if I go ahead and marry her.

I'm just confused,the last person I'll leave is my fiancee but my mum too is very special to me.
what should I do??


MOD please help forward this to FP

Boss I feel your plight, how is your mothers attitude towards siblings,cousins,relatives getting married. Is she always hostile or cool with them, most especially the male folks like you. Try to remember their own scenario right from childhood or talk with them privately concerning the issue, how was your fiancée reaction when your mother rejected her. Does your mother have issues with tribe,village,state.You know your mother better or observe her closely.
Being with this lady for nine years is a sign that you are responsible wether you take her home or not. Pls reply accordingly for further ??

IamEmem:
OP u mean u dated a girl for 9 years and never took her home to meet ur family!! You are the architect of ur troubles now, I only pity the poor lady who stood by you and u must marry her cos her world is built around you. Just find a way to persuade ur mum cos u need her now than never before.
Goodluck.

Exactly bro. Exactly. In fact what kinda woman would date a guy for 9 years without meeting his mum.

Even if witches in the village are doing her. It can't be up to 9 years. Habba! They would have left her in the 5th year lol.

You know your mom better than any of us online.
Possibly, your mom knew the girl's background. Or maybe there is a secret between them. Otherwise, she should spill the beans or remain quiet forever.
I love my mom, but if she chooses to be unreasonable, she is on her own. In the final analysis, it's your life.

khiaa:



I couldn't continue to read this because the op clearly stated that his mom said that she would have nothing to do with him if he married the woman that he loved so how could you conclude that this woman/mother would be there for him when she was the problem from the beginning?

I think the story is false. I mean, in this day and age. A girl would date you for 9 years without asking to see your parents.

Habba! 9 years na beans? If na play make dem stop am abeg !

Ur mom n ur fiancee fit kn for coven.u can't tell.
Let me b going

supersystemsng:


If a girl can have a guy's back for nine years, is there any other characteristic that should be too big to discredit her from being a good wife?

non really.

mofeoluwadassah:
you dated her for nine years and you have not for one day taken her to your house? then it means you dont love her

Lool, wc kind philosophy b dis one now?

Passy089:

I'm just confused,the last person I'll leave is my fiancee but my mum too is very special to me.
what should I do??

This is a childish statement.


The fact that you are contemplating whether to stand with her or not magnifies the fact that you are a deadly betrayer.

PLEASE PROVE ME WRONG.

Tell mummy to say whatever she has against your union or forever remain.....

OkunrinMeta:
Which kind of woman is your mum. Is she intuitive or is she the type that likes drama. You may have known your babe for 9 years buts you've known your mum for thrice as long.

So this is not a decision about your fiance persey. Its about whether you trust your mum's instincts or judgement. For example, if i want to marry someone and my mum says no, i will just find a way to manage the drama and still go ahead. However, if my dad says no, i will have reevaluate and reconsider to be sure i am accurate in my assessment. At the end, it is YOUR decision


Just think deep, you know the answer you are looking for.

Woow
This is a genius and informed comment, coming frm an experienced and enlightened mind...

OldBeer:
LOL!
This one too will beat his chest that he is a man.
Go inside and suck mama breast, let men talk about this issue.

I know I will get alot of mentions.I know my mum.My mum will always want the best for me.She has never intruded or bludgeoned into any of my private/intimate matters.She encourages my relationships.For her to object against any lady means something ominous which I know she will definitely inform me about her misgivings.This issue is more than being a man.It is forestalling future regrets.

greatmarshall:
my brother you know what is good for you and what you want... Your mum can not choose a wife for you... Wife her man...she's been with you for nine good years through thick and thin...

Women have six sence men don't.

As much as i wud advise you be ur own man n stew ur own soup, Neva take ur momma's foresight for granted!

This is no war times gee. This is wisdom time because d worst time to make a decision is war times.

Momma don't hate u, she wants d best for u. Yea, given, they reacts most times wen they come to d crude realization that some gurl is gono be hvin d bulk of your luv now that does not mean she wud be this blunt!


Op, take it from a gee that hates momma's awkward inputs into his life, but u can't take this for granted!
The woman is seeing things you n ur dad aint.

Apply wisdom, sweet up to her wen she least expect n try to pick her brains why she isnt down wit your choice.

YOU MUST DO THIS BEFORE U TAKE UR NXT STEP

supersystemsng:


Stop spreading panic...God is higher than all mothers even mine

The truth is always bitter.....

But Chairman how could you hold a girl spell bound for 9 years without showing her to your parents? Being fully aware that your parents can influence your choice of a mate should have made you present her to your family much earlier. That's already bygone, I think you shouldnt cancel your plans with the girl just based on some flimsy reasons from your mum, ensure that she states solid reasons for her objection. 9 years is no joke especially for a lady!

chukagates:
am not surprised i knew a lady will say what u jst said ...no be una again?? pple wy dey find man wey im mama don die..

Hahahahaha ...somebody should tell me to stop laughing .....hahaha lwkm