risingrainboll:

My long term goal is to quit. But six months too short. I need more experience and capacity building. And develop a good exit strategy. Wouldnt want this to repeat it self elsewhere. But my main concern is the errands, not my colleagues.

risingrainboll:
My team mates of five have these in common: Language and Religion. This is affecting my performance on the job as they often communicate in their local dialect, leaving me out. Sometimes, I am marginzlised in the process.
Also, my HOD (though of my religion) singles me out for errands such as buying him food even when I am seriouly busy.
What do I do as I always feel depressed over these each day I go to work? I am really worried. Please I need professional counsel.
Also, I think I might need a counselor/mentor. I feel I need someone to help me package myself and develop a professional deamenor.
Somebody HELP ME!

truthsayer009:


I honestly don't know what to say about the errands. You shouldn't start what you can't continue with. He will now feel like you are being proud.

digitalheadline:

This is pure bullying. It is unfortunate we don't take cases of bullying in work places seriously in this sphere. If there is a higher office you can complain to, please do.

risingrainboll:
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Obviously it is. Have been having sleepless nights for months over this. It's an emotional and psychological abuse. I hardly talk because of it. Always quite and watching. It's affecting my performannce.

digitalheadline:

I understand. That is why you have to speak to someone high on the rank so it doesn't degenerate into something else. You can also talk to your colleagues about it, let them know how you feel about their actions, if they are professional enough they would adjust.

risingrainboll:
My team mates of five have these in common: Language and Religion. This is affecting my performance on the job as they often communicate in their local dialect, leaving me out. Sometimes, I am marginzlised in the process.
Also, my HOD (though of my religion) singles me out for errands such as buying him food even when I am seriouly busy.
What do I do as I always feel depressed over these each day I go to work? I am really worried. Please I need professional counsel.
Also, I think I might need a counselor/mentor. I feel I need someone to help me package myself and develop a professional deamenor.
Somebody HELP ME!

esere826:


Get someone he respects ( maybe a mentor if you find one here) to talk him out of this habit or let the person make him understand that it is a favour that he shouldnt take for granted

gbagyiza:
Don't know the nature of your job but I will advice that you channel your energy n time to develop your self, learn those things that will make u outstanding n gives u a better leverage than your team mates.It could be skills on d job or anything related to the job that your team mates r ignorant of.Assess your team mate capability n challenges on the job, go and learn those things they r not good at in order to add more value to your self n take charge when it comes to your job. My job is technically in nature but what kept me going on is my ability to use all means of self development to learn more abt my job.when you know your job no body will intimidates u.

risingrainboll:
My team mates of five have these in common: Language and Religion. This is affecting my performance on the job as they often communicate in their local dialect, leaving me out. Sometimes, I am marginzlised in the process.
Also, my HOD (though of my religion) singles me out for errands such as buying him food even when I am seriouly busy.
What do I do as I always feel depressed over these each day I go to work? I am really worried. Please I need professional counsel.
Also, I think I might need a counselor/mentor. I feel I need someone to help me package myself and develop a professional deamenor.
Somebody HELP ME!

risingrainboll:
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Honestly, I am in a different part of the country other than mine.
Could you share your strategy with me? Thanks

musicwriter:


The best thing to do is talk to your "team mates" and "HOD", these are the people you have issues with, not Nairalanders. Talk to them about these things and you'll get an instant result. I don't believe in "suffering and smiling" faking and managing bad situations when I can simply say my mind and be free.

Again, the best thing to do is talk to the people you have issues with, and face the consequences, of course.

maxiuc:
I can relate that with the AfonjAs they are good at that

This happens to me severally but my 5yrs staying in Lagos wasn't a waste I pretend as if I don't hear their language but ignore their ass

My dear just focus on your career do your best and watch them marvel

Very annoying sets of human beings

JohnXcel:
The OP must be IGBO; always complaining of marginalization, always the 'victim'.

SMH!

If you are not comfortable with your colleagues speaking their native tongue, then leave...PERIOD!

MasterKim:

It's only pride that'll make you live somewhere for 5yrs and not wanting to speak their language.
and it's common among igbos.

But you'll go to Germany or Netherlands and within a week you're speaking their language like you're born there.
Hypocrisy at its peak

MasterKim:

No mind dem, dey re d worst set of people.
they will go to Europe and within a week, they will be speaking d language dere like they were born there.

hypocrisy and pride is killing dem

JohnXcel:
Na we dey give dem mouth now!

Seriously, we Yoruba's dey f*ck up with this 'accommodating' nonsense.

What they do 10x to the majority of others at their home, they cry 'marginalization' for far less.

risingrainboll:
My team mates of five have these in common: Language and Religion. This is affecting my performance on the job as they often communicate in their local dialect, leaving me out. Sometimes, I am marginzlised in the process.
Also, my HOD (though of my religion) singles me out for errands such as buying him food even when I am seriouly busy.
What do I do as I always feel depressed over these each day I go to work? I am really worried. Please I need professional counsel.
Also, I think I might need a counselor/mentor. I feel I need someone to help me package myself and develop a professional deamenor.
Somebody HELP ME!

ollah1:


keep quite. It happens everwhere, the same thing happens in the East and most of them are Christians. So yu have no point

lagosrd:


Grow up. The HOD obviously trusts you more than Other . Learn their local dialect silently and use it to your advantage. I hate people complaining. Don't forget about their religion too. You don't have to be of the same faith.

lagosrd:


Grow up. The HOD obviously trusts you more than Other . Learn their local dialect silently and use it to your advantage. I have people complaining. Don't forget about their religion too. You don't have to be of the same faith.

risingrainboll:

My initial thought was that he likes and trusts me until he started asking me to replace. replace.Truth is, he is taking advantage of me. I gave him a step and he is taking a mile. I think it will be wrong for me to assume he will stop. Infact, I think I should expect more errands, leading to more frustration.
There was even a day he felt disasfied with what I bought him and he told me he would have asked me to eat the food had he not been hungry.
Since I am not happy, there is no need to indulge. Will end in frustration.

risingrainboll:

My initial thought was that he likes and trusts me until he started asking me to replace the water dispenser. Truth is, he is taking advantage of me. I gave him a step and he is taking a mile. I think it will be wrong for me to assume he will stop. Infact, I think I should expect more errands, leading to more frustration.
There was even a day he felt disasfied with what I bought him and he told me he would have asked me to eat the food had he not been hungry.
Since I am not happy, there is no need to indulge. Will end in frustration.