"Don't tie all your happiness to anybody, not even your husband"
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Yes, I know I am looking for trouble but it is what it is, do not tie all your happiness to anybody.

It is very common to have people who have either been mis-sold the concept of love or who are naïve enough to claim all their happiness is tied to their partner.

You need to be selfless in love, true.
You need to give your all, true.
However, you also need to be sensible in love and that is the biggest truth hidden away.

Love can be parasitic where one person truly loves another who doesn't reciprocate but that's not love you are getting, you are just giving it.
To get love back while you are giving it, the relationship needs to be symbiotic, you give, you get.

You can tie your happiness to a man or woman and it will go well until he or she starts to hurt you emotionally or even physically.
What happens then?

A better way to go about it is to love yourself first then let the love you have for your partner be because you love yourself enough to want him or her. While we don't pray for anything to happen, if it does, it just becomes one vacant branch of love.

Will it affect you? Yes, a bit.
Will it take you down? No.

Say you have a wife, children, passion, parents, etc, but you tie majority of your happiness to one person or thing (say 70%). What happens if that person suddenly hurts you in a manner that's relatively irreparable? You are left with 30%. It will break you.
On the other hand if it is split equally and it's just 20% loss, you have 80% left of your life.

Don't mix it up, give 100% of the allocation for partner to him or her. But let that be only a portion of the total happiness in your life.
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Scenario:
2010 - Get a source of income: "my husband takes care of me"

2013 - Develop your skills: "what am I looking for?"

2015 - Go back to school: "I am already married and comfortable, what am I looking for?"

2017: "He left me with all the children, where do I start from?" Is it at this age I will start looking for a job with a BSc and no experience or skill. Where do I get a capital if I want to start a business? How do I cope?

The slay mamas won't like this. They want a guy who drives ferrari and wears gucci

Ishilove come and read this.

Do you agree?

lafflaff123:
Ishilove come and read this.

Do you agree?

1000 likes for the post.

Even the bible says it is a grievous sin to put all your hope in man. That man, that woman who you want to tie all your happiness to is also a human being like you: fallible and flawed.

Would you like someone tying all their hope on you, knowing you are but a flower in the sun?

Love should be symbiotic. What waters love and causes it to grow is love in itself.

Love them 100%, but also love yourself 100%.

Copied verbatim with no acknowledgement to the original Facebook post.
Pathetic!

Word

Ishilove:

1000 likes for the post.

Even the bible says it is a grievous sin to put all your hope in man. That man, that woman who you want to tie all your happiness to is also a human being like you: fallible and flawed.

Would you like someone tying all their hope on you, knowing you are but a flower in the sun?

Love should be symbiotic. What waters love and causes it to grow is love in itself.

Love them 100%, but also love yourself 100%.

So what happened to us sharing all those wealth together?

Now that you want to love yourself 100% only.

Wrong theory.... Your write-up is not applicable to reallfe situation. Where is the trust if you dont give it all?

I have always maintain my stand that when it comes to wife/hunband/girl/boy relationship, anything that makes you happy is welcome even if other people see it as bad/wrong.

ako1tse:
"Don't tie all your happiness to anybody, not even your husband"
****************************************

Yes, I know I am looking for trouble but it is what it is, do not tie all your happiness to anybody.

It is very common to have people who have either been mis-sold the concept of love or who are naïve enough to claim all their happiness is tied to their partner.

You need to be selfless in love, true.
You need to give your all, true.
However, you also need to be sensible in love and that is the biggest truth hidden away.

Love can be parasitic where one person truly loves another who doesn't reciprocate but that's not love you are getting, you are just giving it.
To get love back while you are giving it, the relationship needs to be symbiotic, you give, you get.

You can tie your happiness to a man or woman and it will go well until he or she starts to hurt you emotionally or even physically.
What happens then?

A better way to go about it is to love yourself first then let the love you have for your partner be because you love yourself enough to want him or her. While we don't pray for anything to happen, if it does, it just becomes one vacant branch of love.

Will it affect you? Yes, a bit.
Will it take you down? No.

Say you have a wife, children, passion, parents, etc, but you tie majority of your happiness to one person or thing (say 70%). What happens if that person suddenly hurts you in a manner that's relatively irreparable? You are left with 30%. It will break you.
On the other hand if it is split equally and it's just 20% loss, you have 80% left of your life.

Don't mix it up, give 100% of the allocation for partner to him or her. But let that be only a portion of the total happiness in your life.
****************************************

Scenario:
2010 - Get a source of income: "my husband takes care of me"

2013 - Develop your skills: "what am I looking for?"

2015 - Go back to school: "I am already married and comfortable, what am I looking for?"

2017: "He left me with all the children, where do I start from?" Is it at this age I will start looking for a job with a BSc and no experience or skill. Where do I get a capital if I want to start a business? How do I cope?

Mr Man/Miz Woman, if you're not the original writer then post the source link. Acknowledge the writer and stop this apalling plagiarism.

lafflaff123:


So what happened to us sharing all those wealth together?

Now that you want to love yourself 100% only.

"Love them 100%"

Na wetin I talk. Love your partner with all your heart, but don't tie all your happiness to them. In loving them, also love yourself so that your relationship doesn't become parasitic.

lafflaff123:


So what happened to us sharing all those wealth together?

We will still share it na. We will turn them to beasts o' burdens and use them for revenue generation

Ishilove:

We will still share it na. We will turn them to beasts o' burdens and use them for revenue generation

I am happy now

Mama Mukaila rice go don ready. Make I first go secure my own before all these keke guys go come buy every thing.

My phone dey with me anyway.

lafflaff123:


I am happy now

Mama Mukaila rice go don ready. Make I first go secure my own before all these keke guys go come buy every thing.

My phone dey with me anyway.

Hold your phone well before those ipob yoots will slap you and collect it from you

lafflaff123:


So what happened to us sharing all those wealth together?

Now that you want to love yourself 100% only.

na wa

Ishilove:

Hold your phone well before those ipob yoots will slap you and collect it from you

I will turn them to turtles.

Search for this moniker Riwo11

Click on her name and follow her link to her website,which has same name.

Many female educative things there. It was not as If i even read those stories teaching women how to wash inside clean and other girly stuff.

I did not even read the story of the best part to touch a woman,and how to use my fingers.

You know that's true right?

neva advice anyone to do da ......people fail

Story....why must you marry then,if you can give 100%?.....if you want to split your happiness,trustband loyalty...stay single!!!!!!..marriage is for those who give all