jobaltol:
The sincere truth of the matter is that the society influences what the female gender counts as being important


Luckily adichie was lucky to be flown abroad at a tender age...if not we would not be celebrating her like how we are doing now

babyfaceafrica:
When a gal has magaa and mugus ,why should she care?..when she can get the best car,cloths latest phones and gadgets,mighty houses by just opening her legs.. Why should she care?..until.women stop seeing sex as a bargaining chip to power,affluence and wealth..the story won't change....

lovelygurl:
I love the way you write, lol. The linking words were just flowing

I do agree with most of the things you wrote except you saying, there aren't many Adichies out there. It just depends on which country you are talking about. As for Nigeria, especially Nigerian women (this might sound harsh) but to me most of them are cowards. I have my reasons, I am just too tired to explain

sekem:


But what if it is actually nature that made women to use sex as a bargaining chip?

Do you think anything can be done about that?

Men will always want sex from women because men usually and naturally have higher libido or propensity to want sex. They will be ready to give anything to have it including paying for it.

Women, in most cases, will have no other option than to play ball.

This sets the stage for natural demand (of sex mostly by men) and supply (of sex mostly by women) giving birth to the sex market that has been with us from the beginning of time.

That's just the way it is.

That's the way it will always be.

Or don't you think so?

Kayceenaz:
Going through one of the Groups on Whatsapp social network that I am fortunately a member of, yesterday evening, exposed me to the thought-provoking speech delivered by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, a literary juggernaut, titled "Why We Should All Be Feminists," in an event few years ago. Reading each line was a voyage of discovery, as I was amazed the more by the wittiness of the author and her articulate redefinition of feminism. Few days earlier, I came across a topic in a textbook bordering on feminism, which piqued my interest and was perceived as a means to enrich my-inquisitive-self on the much talked about feminist school of thought. Without further ado, I immersed myself in it, hoping to be cured of my feminism ignorance. Feminism is not an uncommon word in the female sphere and this is not unrelated to its etymological reference to female folks. This is becoming the case in the male sphere, too mainly because of the idea that it is diametrically opposed to status-quo and aimed at undermining the male folks. Whether feminism is valid or invalid is a topic for another day.

The focal point is the relentlessness of this woman of difficult virtue to carve a niche for herself, and contribute meaningfully to the evolution of global thought amidst a society where priorities are being ill-defined. It is no breaking news that this misunderstanding of what a lady or woman should feed her attention on is a thorn in the skin of our socio-political well-being. This sheds light on the crave for fashion, relationship/marriage, and money that is widespread among most ladies today. Although all the aforementioned are worth having, problem creeps in when they become the be-all-and-end-all of most females' consideration and dominate their scale of preference. The distance between what truly matters and themselves is so wide, and yet they remain unaware.

Sadly, it is a rarity to see Chimamanda Ngozi Adichies today in this part of the globe that are willing to break free from this ugly trend, enhance the society via their talents, and envision to leave their footprints in the sand of time; ladies that are committed to touching lives and exuding emulative virtues. Making your existence count is a product of re-prioritizing your priorities. It entails calling yourself to order, re-evaluating your interests reflective in your actions, and weighing them on the scale of difference-making/purposefulness. Brandishing your body shape or figure, clothes, relationship status, or material acquisition puts a very big question mark on your person, values, and inevitably the female agitation to be taken seriously summarized in feminism. Aligning yourself with the "happening babe" notion depresses, rather than impress. It depresses your spirit-man, self-esteem without you in the know and supresses your potentials to a great extent.

However, Jane Goodall, a reverred UN ambassador, said "You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you. What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide the kind of difference you want to make." So become a lady or woman that her worth transcends her physique or ring on the finger. One that is appreciated due to the beauty of her intellect, character and not primarily the beauty of her body. A lady that growing kids, guys and ladies, men and women would look up to and come to value her values. A woman of substance and societal relevance that resonates hope to all. Would you become one? Yes? Make it happen.


Kaycee Naze
(Rational Pen)

babyfaceafrica:
are you saying they are helpless?....

sekem:


Who are the they you are referring to?

The men or the women?

If it the men, then, yeah... men, most men anyway, are totally powerless when it comes to the superior bottom power of women!

babyfaceafrica:
I mean the women?.. Since you said its nature

sekem:


For the women, I guess, it's more like common sense

Yeah

Naturally, people will like to take advantage of any situation they find themselves in

For the women, it is a plus for them that men always want sex

Look at it from this view

Let's say I run a restaurant

Do you think I will be sad or happy that people always feel hungry?

babyfaceafrica:
looz..but it is bad

sekem:


It can only be seen as bad depending on where you stand.

As a guy, it sucks

As a lady, it means more and more power

Afrobasic:
Feminism is cancer. EOD

sekem:


But what if it is actually nature that made women to use sex as a bargaining chip?

Do you think anything can be done about that?

Men will always want sex from women because men usually and naturally have higher libido or propensity to want sex. They will be ready to give anything to have it including paying for it.

Women, in most cases, will have no other option than to play ball.

This sets the stage for natural demand (of sex mostly by men) and supply (of sex mostly by women) giving birth to the sex market that has been with us from the beginning of time.

That's just the way it is.

That's the way it will always be.

Or don't you think so?

babyfaceafrica:
well.am sure some.ladies have dignity and won't compromise ,no matter what

4FACEADELEKE:

it depends on the individual. Am a man most people call egocentric.you know why? am unconventional in thinking and behavior. There is one thing I can't do in.my life and till date I have never done, is to plead to a woman to give me sex or pay money to have it.I maintain a very reasonable amount of self control and personal integrity that cannot be shaken easily.I hate to be manipulated.

sekem:


Dignity wetin?

Dignity my foot!

Everyone has a price

For the right price, you won't believe what some ladies are willing to do or how far they are ready to go!!!

It's not necessarily money that can get these women tripping

For some, it could be the fame, it could love, it could be smartness and intelligence, for some it could even be as simple as honesty or trust

Thus as men, we always have our own bargaining chips towards getting sex from the ladies

But fortunately or unfortunately depending on how you see it, money is a universal language that most people understand.

babyfaceafrica:
what is men s bargaining chip towards getting sex

Sapiosexuality:
No, it is not. Your understanding of it is. Read this to understand what it really means.

http://www.mortalpoet.com/men-chill-feminism-not-think/

sekem:


Do you want the easy one or do you want the hard one?

Afrobasic:


Yes it is.

You can have a textbook definition of a movement and completely be something else in reality.

So I re-iterate that feminism is indeed cancer.

amokeme:
Well, there are a lot of young women doing great things right now... many men don't just see it or rather they choose not to see it.

babyfaceafrica:
both

Sapiosexuality:
Lol. Just like that? So what exactly is feminism to you? Define it.

Afrobasic:

Cancer.

sekem:


Nwanne idi bad

Anyway sha, as per the easy one, start promising so many women marriage

That marriage of a thing has a wonderful way of turning their brain

As per the hard one,

try and become the next dangote

They will naturally start throwing themselves at you