TheLordIsGr8:


Marriage has been and will always be an achievement worth celebrating as much as intellect. Without marriage we'd all be gone in a short time. "Leaving father and mother" is part of human nature as much as intellect. There is no point celebrating one and thrashing the other. If we all became unmarried intellectuals we'd all be gone in a short time.

The concerted effort to bastardize marriage that we see today should give you a pause. I guess you come from a married home where dad and mom had your back. Isn't that an achievement worth celebrating?
Team-work is all the vibe in the workplace today. But guess what. You think you've mastered the art of team-work? Get married and see (I am not in anyway suggesting "everyone" should get married).
Would a woman be any less a woman if she is not an intellectual? I would answer no. Commonsense is enough. Anyone can write a book. We can talk about quality another day (just following you)

The rate of failure of marriages today should tell you that it is not easy to stay married. So when a man and a lady stays married, that is part of their worth.

Pataricatering:
All this grammar is too much for the cause . There is absolutely no need to wrap feminism in the false garb of intellectualism so you can determine that only women who are above a certain intellect can be involved in it . Feminism is quite simple , any woman can be a feminist - You don't have to be a chimamanda to be a Feminist . You simply have to see the need in standing up for yourself as a woman.
This is one of the ways closet misogynists muddy the waters to invalidate feminism . If only people like chimamanda can be feminists then we should all simply pack up and go home .
When will men see the need to do articles like these advising themselves on how to be better human beings and leave women to advise their own selves ? You concern yourself with women and their issues as a means to keep controlling the narrative about women , their bodies , their sexuality , their roles within society etc . Uche , face your work , Abeg! Leave women alone.

Ariel20:
Bullcrap..... Typical long trash objectifying the womenfolks

Kayceenaz:

With the barrage of supposed "slammings," has Oby Ezekwesili given up or withdrawn to passivity? She has instead persisted by advancing a cause, through the Bring Back Our Girls group, that would make a difference in the lives of others.

So, in your view, Dora Akunyili fulfilled the "Nigerian expectation" by positively deviating from the status-quo of partially condoning fake drugs and toxic food substances, which stood her out and almost cost her life while in office as NAFDAC DG? Think again. She still made a difference even in an unfriendly environment.

Okonjo Iweala, despite her academic sojourn abroad, has spent most of her life in Nigeria. Her uniqueness is underlined by the fact that not necessarily all Nigerian women who grew or schooled up abroad end up making a tangible difference. NOI's courage to contribute to development of society through her expertise in Economics, merits mentioning and emulation.

Quit saying it is impossible, because it is actually not. Realities testify that your conclusion is a hasty generalization. Regardless of what society thinks, the determined Nigerian woman can stand out from the crowd by sheer resolve and persistence to make a difference. That resolve is lacking mainly due to misplaced prioritization, and my article attempts to close that gap by creating awareness among the women folk and inspire them to rise and shine. We, the average right-thinking Nigerians, are eager to see them do so.

Kayceenaz:


The grammar is too much and yet you used the quite unfamiliar term "garb" to make your point. Isn't that hypocritical?

However, you simply misunderstood my point. In the article, I clamoured for the emergence of women who think like Chimamanda Adichie in terms of making a difference by contributing to advancement of society, not women who are to become exactly like Adichie in all ramifications. Mother Theresa, Jane goodall, Angela Merkel, can also be emulated.

More so, I have a valid right, which originates from my nature as a human, to advocate for the optimization of human potentials regardless of gender. That is the motivation and validation of my article.

safarigirl:
you are advising Nigerian women to emulate unmarried and childless Angela Merkel?

You think Angela would have even won LG election in Nigeria? You are not even taking into cognizance the societal factor, you're just reeling out names as if the apparatus has been put in place for the Nigerian female to be all she can be

It's like you people really don't understand the struggle....anyway, you're a man, your understanding of the struggle must be vague.

Kayceenaz:
Equating marriage with intellectual worth is out of place, because the latter solves more human problems.

Kayceenaz:
Would marriage by itself have facilitated the birth and growth of science which is helping us solve problems?

Kayceenaz:
Also, most times, a well-cultivated intellect is critical to sustaining a marriage, as seen in the key role professional marriage counselors and psychotherapists play today.

Kayceenaz:
Therefore, attention needs to be paid more to grooming problem-solvers who are actively existing and not merely basking in the euphoria of having a ring on their finger.

safarigirl:
The society defines what a woman is.

safarigirl:
If you are unlucky enough to be in a patriarchal society like Nigeria, just know that you will never really be an Adichie no matter how much you try

BreezyRita:

Exactly!

ashjay001:



How do u justify ur attitude to Wale with d statement u av as ur profile pics!