I am his only son with two siblings. We have never been close as he has been so harsh and abusive towards me growing up both physically and emotionally, I HATED HIM AND STILL DO.

Shortly before my wedding, he tried to make amends for his misdeeds e.g calling me bastard anytime he is angry and how he had told me severally while in medical school to drop out and start hustling. I remember how he still tried to flog me after I graduated from medical school while at home waiting for housejob just because I had earphones on and according to him, "he called me more than once and I didn't answer".

I introduced my fiance to him on phone as I reside in another state 18 hours from where he stays. The day we were supposed to meet him at the church he pastors as no one knows where he lived (he sold our family house and absconded to an unknown place with a prophetess from his church), he gave excuses of how he was busy with church activities can't see us yet. I asked him to send his address severally but he refused to, stating that when he is ready to see us, he would. But he never did.

We tried to consult him to fix a date for the introduction but he asked us to liase with mum and other members of his family and let him know the day we have chosen, which we did. He still cooked up several excuses to miss the introduction saying they are having crusades and all. After the introduction, I still gave him a call so I could take my wife to him but he said he was fully busy and fully booked till the next few months. We returned to our base and intimited him that the wedding preparation had kicked off, we also carried him along every step of the way.

Shortly before the wedding he called my fiance one day and threatened that she dare not marry me without him seeing her first, she asked him when he would be free so she could visit but he never sent address or gave a time. We are both medical doctors with very tight schedule but we were still willing to make out the time. He called again a few days to our wedding and told her that the wedding will not take place and has to be cancelled, that he wanted to teach me a lesson for treating him as if he is unimportant, the phone was on speakerphone and I heard everything, my lady was already getting apprehensive so I walked away with the phone and raked for him so stop the joke.

He later started calling everyone in his family that we invited and many of our family friends not to attend and even warned them that their children too must not attend or else they would pick up curses. They all absconded from my wedding, thank God for my Mum's family and wifey's relatives, they filled up the entire space. The wedding took place and their absence was not felt. I made up my mind that I have had enough of his physical and emotional abuses and I completely cut him off.

The day my wife put to bed he called congratulating, I snatched the phone and warned him never to call my family again. I told him when he dies, I wont even attend his funeral. He reported me to his family elders, the ones that boycotted my wedding and they have been on my case since then telling me I have to come for a reconciliatory meeting bla bla... I received a call from him recently, he told me he had no regrets for not attending my wedding and that whether I like it or not, I would still come back on my knees begging for his forgiveness (I wonder what my sin is). My younger sister's wedding also took place recently and he didnt show up. He has gone to her house to apologise but he thinks I owe him an apology. He is now very sick, very broke, homeless and lonely and seeking for forgiveness especially from me. I have no pity for him. Mum has called me severally to mellow down and forgive him, BUT THAT AINT GONNA HAPPEN!

I have decided to deceive them and agree to the meeting and not show up on the day. I am relocating abroad in a few weeks with my wife and son and I guess I am excited that this would further create the much needed distance that I need from him and his useless family.

Some people may call me wicked but thats OK, and I wasn't joking, if truly he dies before me, my absence would be conspiquous at his funeral. Only then can we be even!

GO AHEAD AND JUDGE ME!

no time to Judge you bro.... KARMA is there for you..


NEVER REPAY EVIL FOR EVIL. Overcome Evil with GOOD.

Like the above person said, overcome evil with good.

Let's see what the person below me has to say!

Forgive him that's all i ve to say
He's still ur father regardless

This is strong o, I don't know what to say but I will talk. This my mouth ehn.......

Wait Op is this your wife the same person you talked about in a post around February? Going by that post, are you sure your father's haven't done something? We never can say though. Has your wife changed? If not I will advise you to run to your father, he needs to undo some things he has done before he dies because after death, na sai gobe.

Wait again self your story is based on what that happened almost a year or more than a year ago. I know it really hut you but you have to let things go, I also know it is not easy but he is still your father. Go and see him, take your wife and son along not minding his jack ass behavior. Since he is asking for your forgiveness, he has come back to his senses.

extraSMOOTH:
I am his only son with two siblings. We have never been close as he has been so harsh and abusive towards me growing up both physically and emotionally, I HATED HIM AND STILL DO.

Shortly before my wedding, he tried to make amends for his misdeeds e.g calling me bastard anytime he is angry and how he had told me severally while in medical school to drop out and start hustling. I remember how he still tried to flog me after I graduated from medical school while at home waiting for housejob just because I had earphones on and according to him, "he called me more than once and I didn't answer".

I introduced my fiance to him on phone as I reside in another state 18 hours from where he stays. The day we were supposed to meet him at the church he pastors as no one knows where he lived (he sold our family house and absconded to an unknown place with a prophetess from his church), he gave excuses of how he was busy with church activities can't see us yet. I asked him to send his address severally but he refused to, stating that when he is ready to see us, he would. But he never did.

We tried to consult him to fix a date for the introduction but he asked us to liase with mum and other members of his family and let him know the day we have chosen, which we did. He still cooked up several excuses to miss the introduction saying they are having crusades and all. After the introduction, I still gave him a call so I could take my wife to him but he said he was fully busy and fully booked till the next few months. We returned to our base and intimited him that the wedding preparation had kicked off, we also carried him along every step of the way.

Shortly before the wedding he called my fiance one day and threatened that she dare not marry me without him seeing her first, she asked him when he would be free so she could visit but he never sent address or gave a time. We are both medical doctors with very tight schedule but we were still willing to make out the time. He called again a few days to our wedding and told her that the wedding will not take place and has to be cancelled, that he wanted to teach me a lesson for treating him as if he is unimportant, the phone was on speakerphone and I heard everything, my lady was already getting apprehensive so I walked away with the phone and raked for him so stop the joke.

He later started calling everyone in his family that we invited and many of our family friends not to attend and even warned them that their children too must not attend or else they would pick up curses. They all absconded from my wedding, thank God for my Mum's family and wifey's relatives, they filled up the entire space. The wedding took place and their absence was not felt. I made up my mind that I have had enough of his physical and emotional abuses and I completely cut him off.

The day my wife put to bed he called congratulating, I snatched the phone and warned him never to call my family again. I told him when he dies, I wont even attend his funeral. He reported me to his family elders, the ones that boycotted my wedding and they have been on my case since then telling me I have to come for a reconciliatory meeting bla bla... I received a call from him recently, he told me he had no regrets for not attending my wedding and that whether I like it or not, I would still come back on my knees begging for his forgiveness (I wonder what my sin is). My younger sister's wedding also took place recently and he didnt show up. He has gone to her house to apologise but he thinks I owe him an apology. He is now very sick, very broke, homeless and lonely and seeking for forgiveness especially from me. I have no pity for him. Mum has called me severally to mellow down and forgive him, BUT THAT AINT GONNA HAPPEN!

I have decided to deceive them and agree to the meeting and not show up on the day. I am relocating abroad in a few weeks with my wife and son and I guess I am excited that this would further create the much needed distance that I need from him and his useless family.

Some people may call me wicked but thats OK, and I wasn't joking, if truly he dies before me, my absence would be conspiquous at his funeral. Only then can we be even!

GO AHEAD AND JUDGE ME!

Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us. Forgive him. Let it go. What you are considering in ur heart is a taboo. Funeral and wedding ain't d same. What doesn't kill u makes u stronger, besides your dad might have been bewitched by that prophetess.

I can relate with wht u are going through. Op jst do wht ever will make yr home happy nd yr wife @peace

Your dad seems to be suffering from Alzheimer's disease. Always forgetting every gaddamn thing.

Forgiving him seems like an absurd thing to do, hell yeah I'd wish him dead, six fūçkīñg feet below the ground but that isn't right. Forgiving him only sets you free

He missed your wedding and introduction, missed your sister's wedding too... Now what sort of a father does that?? Maybe an enchanted one.

That prophetess enchantress comes to mind. She might be laying a siege on your family

greatnaija01:
no time to Judge you bro.... KARMA is there for you..


NEVER REPAY EVIL FOR EVIL. Overcome Evil with GOOD.

Nothing like karma, or is he his dad's KARMA?
Very good then. Don't threaten him with KARMA abeg...

Op, forgive...some people will come here to threaten and curse you, they don't know the pain you feel. Find a place in your heart to forgive, it mustn't be drastic. A little call here and there, with time...you guy will pick up communication.

Adaumunocha:
Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us. Forgive him. Let it go. What you are considering in ur heart is a taboo. Funeral and wedding ain't d same. What doesn't kill u makes u stronger, besides your dad might have been bewitched by that prophetess.

Did you have to quote the whole thing? Just type his sobriquet and he'll get the mention

SirMichael1:


Did you have to quote the whole thing? Just type his sobriquet and he'll get the mention

It affected you in what way?

There's no such thing as Karma, the Universe is indifferent

Adaumunocha:
It affected you in what way?

I'm teaching you twàt what you failed to acquire because you've got no common sense and yet you rebuff it like the pungent disgusting ignorant cretin you are.

Your ilks are found no more, couldn't survive 'cause they're so dumb. I'm right here trying to salvage you from going extinct, yet you wouldn't want that

SirMichael1:


I'm teaching you twàt what you failed to acquire because you've got no common sense and yet you rebuff it like the pungent disgusting ignorant cretin you are.

Oh my God Michael you finished me! better calm down. Darn see yab. That was unnecessary and immature of you.

Adaumunocha:
Oh my God Michael you finished me! better calm down. Darn see yab. That was unnecessary and immature of you.

You had better requote my prequel post to claim your insult. I've got not use for your ilks.

Now scurvy back into that black hole of ignorance you tried to escape from, sot.

SirMichael1:


You had better requote my prequel post to claim your insult. I've got not use for your ilks like you.

Now scurvy back into that black hole of ignorance you tried to escape from, sot.

Really itching to insult the living daylight out of you. I guess you think you've bested me in your apparent show of lack of home training right? Next time pls mind your bloody business. Nwa teacher. Tell me something I don't already know. That hatred in you will continue to eat you up anuofia.

How come most posters here are always tagging themselves "only son" ? Anyway, OP forgive him because when he is gone you won't regret it

Op tell him Bleep YOU and watch the old man die. Meanwhile attend the funeral without your family and don't eat anything. I would do the same if I was in your shoes.

You may die before your father.

I'm still waiting for those that'll say his mother pushed the father out onto the hands of an evil prophetess.
It can never be the father's fault

Pidgin2:
How come most posters here are always tagging themselves "only son" ? Anyway, OP forgive him because when he is gone you won't regret it

Contrary to what you believe, it is not uncommon for people to have one son or none at all!

greatnaija01:
no time to Judge you bro.... KARMA is there for you..


NEVER REPAY EVIL FOR EVIL. Overcome Evil with GOOD.

Abeg shift with your bag of karma. Where was karma when the dad is jollofing with his prophetess mistress?

Forgiveness is for your own good. The mistake I we make is that we think forgiveness is for the other person, no , it is actually for our own good.forvive him and let him go with his wahala.

@ Op, only those who are in your shoes will knw exactly how it pinches so I won't judge coz I've not been in such situation nor pray to b in such.
Reading ur story almost made me shed tears coz emotional trauma is one of the worst thing to pass through but thank God u finally overcome it.
Forgetting all the pains he subjected you to in life might seems impossible buh just try to forgive him. Even his death won't bring you the revenge you crave for, forgive him and let his conscience be the judge between d 2 of u.

Many nigerian fathers have one k-legs or the other.

Forgiveness is divine.

Nothing new.
Guys absconds from his family with a new woman.
Ignores his responsibilities
Hurts his wife and kids over and over and over.

When he's sucked dry, old and broke
He comes back for the final mugu stage. The salt on top of injury as some people would say.

He comes to take final advantage of them. He never lives up to his responsibility. He never pays for the damage he's done. He knows he will get away with whatever terrible behavior he has meted out on his family in the past because they will most likely be blackmailed into forgiving him.

But is he really sorry? Why do they only 'repent' after the kids are grown and all the work has been done.

juman:
Many nigerian fathers have one k-legs or the other.

that's the thing. I and my mom had to go drag my popsy from osogbo after 3 years of staying with one useless mistress.

numtums:

that's the thing. I and my mom had to go drag my popsy from osogbo after 3 years of staying with one useless mistress.

You see.
Thank God he followed you home.

A distance relation, the husband left home one morning and refused to return home for many many years.

He was not missing o. Neither died but just decided not to return home. But he was in touch with his aged parents to put their mind at rest.

He left for another city. From there to another city. Just moving around the country.

juman:


You see.
Thank God he followed you home.

A distance relation, the husband left home one morning and refused to return home for many many years.

He was not missing o. Neither died but just decided not to return home. But he was in touch with his aged parents to put their mind at rest.

He left for another city. From there to another city. Just moving around the country.

all iz well... I wonder what is always wrong with them