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Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by shaibu123: 3:44pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
Something is wrong somewhere and you need serious prayer.A friend was in this kind of relationship,just about to marry.But whenever he dreams and see a snake the contract on the completion will be cancelled. He called on his pastor and was told that the girl has a spiritual commitment in her family and will never allow whomever is her husband to have money more than her.Which is you as a man will always be at her mercy, this friend did confront this girl and she said yes.It might not be your wife but could be family thing. So ask her questions and dig deeper in her family issue. Goodluck 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by thiscounts(m): 3:45pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
Look inwardly,the source of your wealth or an atrocity you had commited in the past.Heaven could use anything be your wife,children etc as instrument of torture to pay you back.Be faithful to acknowledge your past that you can not relate to anyone then go on repentance that is when you have the new you 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by streetzdreamz(m): 3:45pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
I don't believe in all this spiritual,metaphysical stuffs but I know they exist,I don't even think about em cuz it makes no sense to me, ops story ain't the first ama read or hear about , I personally witnessed one first hand, when I was younger we had this family friend that was quite rich, a bachelor then with lots of apprentice working under him,his woes began when it was time to take a wife,the woman was lovely and homely but it was a sad/cruel coincidence cuz things took the wrong turn for him,his business crumbled,lost his cars,apartment, even lost a part of him, well I think we always have a way of putting the blame on an individual or on something,whenever issues like this arises,all cloudy and no sane excuse or reasons to be attached to the downfall, the way out of it? I really don't know,ain't religious .....its just best one doesn't go on a nosedive cuz people hardly recover from it. |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Chukazu: 3:46pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
you have already seen the handwriting but you pretend as if everything is ok. take or leave it...the spiritual realms control the physical. confront the situation not necessarily your wife . go seek God's face .you can go for a retreat(camp) |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by 0m0nnakoda: 3:46pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
PaperLace:Do you know that insurance companies pay for real in Nigeria? Many do not know or believe and that is ignorance but they do. Ignorance can be costly |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by pastorsmiling(m): 3:46pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
Op,may God help you out of this situation Don't leave your wife Don't keep anything from her From your explanation you don't have any personal problem with her you love her But sincerely this is purely a spiritual matter She need to break up with the spiritual husband and break the ties all will cost you serious prayer and time See you will still enjoy her there is a glory attached to her that's why she's been attached Great destiny provoke the devil if you leave any man that fight the battle will surely enjoy her glory you have suffer for this long in silence but I pray for you may God release his camp of angels to fight your battle in Jesus name Beloved, seek divine help, seek God diligently and you get your desire result I can foresee you getting time three of what you lost in Jesus name The only solution to this case is spiritual spiritual spiritual and you soon start smiling again in Jesus name Peace be unto you my bro 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:47pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
mecussey:lols @ mosquitoes and wild animals. Even different types of snakes. We come black on top with little hair on our head- male and female. Yet some of us go dey form foriegn even the foreigners we are copying know there are adversaries. |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Rajosh(m): 3:47pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
you have not learnt your lesson. Before I got to the part where you talked about spirit husband, I already knew. I won't advice you divorce the woman. instead, take her for deliverance. T B Joshua is a specialist in that field. Do the needful before it's too late. |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by seangy4konji: 3:47pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
u have entered one chance...never tell her your plans again...you need a breather from her...she might not ne physically wishing you ad but once you tell her plans ![]() OMO.. one chance...serious prayer needed 2 Likes |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by TheKingIsHere: 3:48pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
majekdom2: Where you there that you know that she lied? Na wa for una o |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:50pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
0m0nnakoda: Of course I know that, though Nigerians prefer to cover their cars/business with the blood of Jesus. Then look for who to blame when things don't go well. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by YelloweWest: 3:50pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
allenroundabout:For reasons like this I thank God Almighty I didn't marry my ex who is Igbo. Cos all igbo men seem to blame their wives for any misfortune they pass through. U have a good supportive wife who is feeding u yet u and ur pastor are isolating her and blaming her for things she knows nothing about. What is happening to u is simple. It's called life! It has its ups and downs! If u feel there is any spiritual impediment go to a Bible believing church for deliverance. Stop blaming ur wife. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by talk2bity: 3:52pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
There is more to this,i am not clear wit this.your wife handles 75% of the feeding and stil told your former boss that u beat her 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Chiomajesus77: 3:52pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
Your advice is the most ridiculous I have come across this year. Next time if you lack decent advice, please don't open your mouth uote author=newyorks post=60749753]hmm what are u living for then if truely u saw urself caged and u still hav hope of getting on the marriage. the truth here is that they caged u and made u incapacited so can't help urself out but u must act fast.; i can't loose everything for marriage and still stay without solution, and u acted like someone under a spell for marrying a lady with her only surviving mother unacceptance. she told u she's not in terms with mother and u went ahead with the marriage, who trained her in school? [/quote] |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:52pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
baby124: He said his wife physically came to his office and said some things leading to his sack and you said, he was lieing. You are funny to say a 37 year old man does not know what he is saying.. If you doubted that aspect, you should have also doubted that he once had 2 houses and 6 trucks. In advicing people, do not make them appear stupid because of their predicament. Nigeria is not good economically now because 5 years back, in my type of biz, one could easily generate 100,000 in a day but story has changed under APC, yet that is NOT enough for one to say it is spiritual. But for this man, what he is going through is not physical. He even sold his houses. Yet under DEBT. Does that not look like HE WAS UNDER SPELL coupled with bad dreams ? In fact, the first place a man sees how successful he is or will be is in his subconscious mind which plays out in our night dreams. The Bible said Joseph dreamt and saw his brethren sheaves bowing to his. He saw the Sun and Moon and 11 stars bowing to him, yet he was just a boy when he dreamt all that. And one atheist comes to tell us that dreams do not happen. 4 Likes |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by talk2bity: 3:53pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
?There is more to this,i am not clear wit this.your wife handles 75% of the feeding and stil told your former boss that u beat her |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Hyzy: 3:53pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
allenroundabout:. My brother your wife's spiritual husband is your problem, she may not know so don't blame her, both of you should go for deliverance. Ask about omega fire ministry Lagos they can help you. |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:53pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
0m0nnakoda:you are mixing a whole lot of things up. No one says Christians must be rich, no one says one person is involved in some issue. Yes, self reflection is key and what makes it perfect is checking thoroughy associates. Did you see where he pride himself on his past success of acquiring 3 extra trucks? Will you say he didn't have the right attitude? He is only being advised to get sensitive... yes, him and his wife. Question is, is the woman teachable and does she listens... I am not sure. See, demons exist.. even Muslims talk jins. I was watching a Chinese film last night, the religion potrayed was Buhda and it was about demons. |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by 0m0nnakoda: 3:54pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
euromilion:You nailed it. I cannot begin to count here what I have lost in business but it all comes down to me . I did not fully understand what I was doing and paid dearly for my ignorance.Sometimes you are successful by luck when in reality you do not know what you are doing but sooner or later you are found out. One thing I am very conscious of is that I do not associate with superstitious people AT ALL. By superstitious I mean anyone who is suggesting visiting a man of god or suggesting that this and that is "spiritual" or anything magical or supernatural. They tend to have a way of finding themselves to propagate their nonsense I just do not associate with such people or allow them to influence me. Your mind is your most important asset and just like you will not open your mouth for anyone to defecate in it so do not allow even by joke anyone to induce superstitiousness in you. Such people are to be avoided like HIV. 2 Likes |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by YelloweWest: 3:54pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
mazimee:He is a typical igbo guy. 2 Likes |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:54pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
dudu200:question is, is his wife a good listener and teachable? Whilst I understand the frustration of penury in marriage, I still don't think it is normal for a woman to go to her spouses' office and make a scene. |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:55pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
Evaberry: So you can be reasonable? I thought there's a curse following you, try and keep this up |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:56pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
scooby12:even in 2011 when the economy as it were was booming and subsidy money flowing in. Oil price was about 100 dollars ![]() |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:57pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
generationz: She is not an witch. She may not even know what is going on. Both of them need deliverance and the man needs to change business. Transport no be am. A lot of business threads we encountered on Nairaland frontpage led lots of us into wrong businesses. Businesses propounded by excited and inexperienced people.. I won't advice an enemy to invest in transportation. I have first hand experience in it. |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by aziaka111(m): 3:58pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
nobody seems to understand dis man, bro take ur wife to a good church for deliverance,u will be glad u did. |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Nukilia: 3:58pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
0m0nnakoda: I think like you in time past, but now I realised the tussle that takes place in the lives of people. You're right when you say weak mind, but the truth is the strategy involved in demobilizing strongmen is to attack their mind and the rest becomes easy. The OPs mind has been attacked and he needs counselling from a strong mind. Spiritual stuffs can't be exempted, but once the ops mind can be restored to default configuration and upgraded with the right information, he'll be fine. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Nobody: 3:59pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
They way someone else marriage is analyzed puzzle me. Quote me anywhere, " if you marry a woman and lose your job afterwards, divorce her because she is not your second half" It's biblical, " he that findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtaineth favor from God" God's word can never be upturned or mocked or changed, once you get otherwise from God's word, then you have a problem. I can tell you strongly that I understand how you feel because I was in same shoes with you, I mean exactly same shoes, I have two exotic cars, had wonderful job, was about building my duplex on one of my several landed properties but ask me where all these are now.... Advice: first move is to stop all business communication to your wife, and but only discuss your welfare with her, care for her ...mine is worst because she is mannerless ( mum thought her nothing from cooking to cleaning house) Second, always make her relax by painting a wonderful future and that you have money now. Just create an impression that you are doing well to deceive anyone using her to get at you. Everything will eventually open to you. Try this two first and thank me later. And go back to arrange your life, stop thinking about your wife now .... Distract yourself always but provide food at home for them. I rest my case 3 Likes |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Klington: 3:59pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
bros the earlier you run as fast as ur legs can carry you.. .. .. The better for you. You already have the revelation of the source of ur predicaments and a perfect solution in mind, but u're worried about people will say. Unfortunately, many of these demonic and satanic ladies are everywhere on nairaland and won't see anything wrong with ur wife. Ndi oso chi egbu Even the Bible is very explicit on this,,, "he that finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favor from God" 3 Likes
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Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by 0m0nnakoda: 4:00pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
majekdom2:I am not mixing anything.If you do not understand me seek clarifications Some do say Christians must be rich so if you don't know that educate yourself and quit dissembling. In fact some churches announce that doctrine as their signature Yes I will say he has a superstitious attitude because he believes his wife can magically influence his wealth. Now we may not agree on that as a reality but that is my opinion and belief so do not come at me talking rubbish saying I am mixing things up. Demons exist for people like you not me. That is a fundamental reality you fail to grasp.Everyone's reality is not the same. In yours their are demons but not in mine |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by room089: 4:00pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
Bro, I really understand your plights and predicaments. I'm glad you know God and believe in Him - He doesn't fail. Please disregard the comments of those saying 'your problems aren't spiritual'. It's only the animal that uses its teeth to climb a tree that can dictate a bitter tree. Who no go no know. You prayed to God to reveal your source of your predicaments and He did; are you still doubtful? Even your pastor confirmed your fears, do you still need a soothsayer? We are often taken aback whenever we hear that a committed and prayerful christian is possessed by an evil spirit - but it's true. I'm not totally happy with the pastor you visited, he need not to rouse your tension only. As a man of God, he should have prescribed a perpetual remedy to that malaise. Please separate (not divorce) from her for a season while you sort things out and wriggle out from this mire of hardship. As the pastor enthused, don't tell her your plans for now. Going back to eat from a calabash having tasted food from a china is bad. If you find yourself in such a similar situation, do everything manly possible to return things to status-quo. Keep praying. Don't relent. Keep loving her as usual; remain supportive too. The most needful thing to do is to look for a good bible believing church run by a genuine man of God where deliverance (just prayers) will be carried out on her, you and son. Please do not lose hope; God is still on the throne. He doesn't fail. No matter how long the evil days lasted, good and better days must come. Trust me, it must surely end in praises. I greet you! 1 Like |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by Nobody: 4:02pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
PaperLace: blame spiritual husbands and wives |
Re: My Marriage; A Blessing Or A Curse. Please Advice by 0m0nnakoda: 4:04pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
Nukilia:I agree as long as we do not pretend it has to be of a religious coloring. There are many sound teachings in the bible that can help here but they exist in many other places too and are Natural laws that apply to ALL men. The statement as a man thinketh is fundamentally true. Your life today reflects your thinking yesterday. The way to change your tomorrow is to change your thinking today. Dangote is a billionaire because he was thinking it one day. Buhari lost presidential election how many times with this same wife ![]() 1 Like |
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