cococandy:
Only a nag will ccome online to whine about a Facebook post when the said Facebook account has been entirely deleted.
Says a lot about the level of seriousness of the other non-issues they have.

You pity someone whose feet you're not worthy to clean? Mumu. Don't go and get your life in order. You dey pity who no dey on the same level with you.
Misplaced priorities

you are a waste of time. No point in engaging with a senseless and irresponsible woman like yourself.

abescom:
The height of disrespect. The op is even gentle asking and wanting to go and beg her. I will never beg such a woman. Never.

and he thinks he has a wife for that matter

the guy's a weakling, that's it.... I didn't bother to read the rest, the Facebook part just weak me

lilmax:
and he thinks he has a wife for that matter

the guy's a weakling, that's it.... I didn't bother to read the rest, the Facebook part just weak me

You need to read the comment of so called women on here. It is alarmingly pathetic.

They have fully lost it.

Let us hear the other side of the story o!!!

Oga Angel. Commissioner of men who can do no harm

cococandy:
Only a nag will come online to whine about a Facebook post when the said Facebook account has been entirely deleted.
Says a lot about the level of seriousness of the other non-issues they have.

[s]You pity someone whose feet you're not worthy to clean? Mumu. Don't go and get your life in order. You dey pity who no dey on the same level with you.
Misplaced priorities [/s]

Crap!

@Guitarlife wat is wrong with lagosian ladies biko watch wat u write/say

op base on d writeup u are both at fault,she is disrespectfull & u r a nag,i hate men dat nags she might not be cheating

Preetiex:
@Guitarlife wat is wrong with lagosian ladies biko watch wat u write/say

Take for example the kind of response you gave. I do not need a prophet to tell me that you are a lagos babe.

Lagos babes do not have a problem with adultery and divorce as long as they can point to 1 or 2 weaknesses of the man. What happened to forgiveness, what happened to long suffering ?

The only language lagos babes understands is money. That is why most lagos men run mad looking for it cos the typical lagos wife will not respect a man without money.

Lastly, your response is shocking. Granted the man is guilty to have hit her. But we are talking about a wife who packed out of her own home. And abandoned her children ? Do you realise that she has made money her god just like most lagos girls ?

The equally disturbing part is the fact her parents are in support . Imagine, I rather stay single than marry a girl raised in Lagos.

I was raised outside of lag but I work in Lag now in case you wanna know.

@Guitarlife i blame d both of dem marriage is not a bed of roses,dat is becos u are raised out of lag & those babes are d 1s u know,city of excellence babe are respectable, biko if d girl is ur sister will u send her back to d mike tyson hubby

Preetiex:
@Guitarlife i blame d both of dem marriage is not a bed of roses,dat is becos u are raised out of lag & those babes are d 1s u know,city of excellence babe are respectable, biko if d girl is ur sister will u send her back to d mike tyson hubby

You keep validating my assumption about lagos babes. You are indirectly justifying her action to pack out of her home because of a one off physical abuse abi ?

I asked you a question what happened to long suffering, forgiveness ? This woman abandoned her own children, this will tell you her action is premised on her intention to find the slightest excuse to pack out of the home and not necessarily due to the husbands physical abuse.

Its possible the man may have hit her yes, but your full consent that a woman is justified to pack out of her husbands house due to a mistake of physical abuse is very disturbing.

Marriage is not a tea party and most lagos trained ladies were probably raised by lesson centres and in shops. Most grew up in boarding schools without having the necessary grooming by parents most likely due to parents gettimg home late from work and all hence most grow up lackimg the right mental mindset to make a marriage last.

They never saw thier parents quarel amd reconcile probably they were raised by single parents too
What do we have now ? A toxic cycle of matured ladies who are grossly inadequate at home management.

Wo I stop here jare.

@Guitarlife my dear ole stop joo,i proportion d blame to d right places now,e be like say u get beef wit lag babes

Preetiex:
@Guitarlife my dear ole stop joo,i proportion d blame to d right places now,e be like say u get beef wit lag babes

You wrote jamb in April, sorry no offense you are not fit for this post.

I wish the op can provide us an update.

abescom:
You wrote jamb in April, sorry no offense you are not fit for this post.

I wish the op can provide us an update.

wat da Bleep do u mean,wat if i wrote jamb,do u know if i am married?

What i see here is lack of unity and communication. She is a banker and needs to leave home on time. As a banker too,some branches wont let u meet ur target especially when u have more prospects and customers where u are.
Husband is being denied sex and his authority in the house is taken for granted.

It just seems like they are both living together but living their lives separately. They need to talk and be understood. Explain each situation well and stop acting like strangers. There shouldn't be power tussle.

So people want an update on the matter?
I'll provide more than that.
I want to let you in on some of my mistakes so you'd be better equipped when choosing a life partner.

Courtship
I entered into this relationship with wide open eyes despite the fact that i never met her mother.
She never showed up during the wedding and six years on I'm yet to set eyes on her or even engaged her in a phone conversation.
Reason is, she left her four kids (including Wifey) and their Dad at their tender ages and has since not returned.
She is alive and well, remarried and started another family with another man in same Lagos state.
News has it that she now has cancer or had a stroke or both.
Shouldn't i have bailed?
She was replaced with two other women who she grew up to know as step mothers.
Naturally, a mother will focus her energy on the upbringing/welfare of her own child not her step child.
Probably where she lost it.

Physical Abuse
Domestic violence here was initiated by yours faithfully.
No pride derived from doing that but i assure you some situations require a bit of letting out, some release, although they yield no good results.
No sane man in black Africa can pride himself of not having at least fantasized about hitting a foul tongued woman.

About the facebook account, it was not deleted but deactivated.
You can deactivate your facebook account one minute and be invisible to all your facebook friends.
Once you log on with your username and password you're back online with all your contacts,messages and pictures intact.
I found her account with the controversial picture on it and commented thus:
Looking so available.
Voila!
Facebook account gets deactivated.
Wonder what other comments must have followed or what prompted that quick action.

When you say career woman, I'd prefer a highflying woman who has a job with future prospects.
One with certifications to secure her area of speciality in her chosen career not first degree equivalent.
A seven digit salary if you like.
Official car to cap it all.
Why risk family for a job that hasn't given you a raise or a promotion in 5 years?

I'll have to sign out from this thread after this time out.
I'm feeling naked on here.

You commented "looking so available" on your wife Facebook picture? She should have blocked you instead. I know I would.

Also you hit her and you're waiting for her family to come apologizing to you? You're not a nice person. That her mom left them whe they were small doesn't automatically translate to her (your wife) being a bad person. You're the bad guy in this scenario.

ijapa888:
So people want an update on the matter?
I'll provide more than that.
I want to let you in on some of my mistakes so you'd be better equipped when choosing a life partner.

Courtship
I entered into this relationship with wide open eyes despite the fact that i never met her mother.
She never showed up during the wedding and six years on I'm yet to set eyes on her or even engaged her in a phone conversation.
Reason is, she left her four kids (including Wifey) and their Dad at their tender ages and has since not returned.
She is alive and well, remarried and started another family with another man in same Lagos state.
News has it that she now has cancer or had a stroke or both.
Shouldn't i have bailed?
She was replaced with two other women who she grew up to know as step mothers.
Naturally, a mother will focus her energy on the upbringing/welfare of her own child not her step child.
Probably where she lost it.

Physical Abuse
Domestic violence here was initiated by yours faithfully.
No pride derived from doing that but i assure you some situations require a bit of letting out, some release, although they yield no good results.
No sane man in black Africa can pride himself of not having at least fantasized about hitting a foul tongued woman.

About the facebook account, it was not deleted but deactivated.
You can deactivate your facebook account one minute and be invisible to all your facebook friends.
Once you log on with your username and password you're back online with all your contacts,messages and pictures intact.
I found her account with the controversial picture on it and commented thus:
Looking so available.
Voila!
Facebook account gets deactivated.
Wonder what other comments must have followed or what prompted that quick action.

When you say career woman, I'd prefer a highflying woman who has a job with future prospects.
One with certifications to secure her area of speciality in her chosen career not first degree equivalent.
A seven digit salary if you like.
Official car to cap it all.
Why risk family for a job that hasn't given you a raise or a promotion in 5 years?

I'll have to sign out from this thread after this time out.
I'm feeling naked on here.

LMAO, honestly some of the offenses you listed are hilarious.

"Leaves home before husband"
is this really offensive to you? Why is order in which you guys leave the house so important?

"Rides past husband"
I would really like to know what exactly the offense is here. She did not stop on the road to say hi? Or you are angry she got home before you?

She was wrong to have kept up the picture you didn't like.
If she has to leave the house at 5am, expecting her to do the chores is unrealistic
The both of you need to work on yourselves, you are both selfish and not willing to compromise.

BTW, I have NEVER heard of a wife's family going to beg a man after he physically abused their daughter, it's usually the other way around.

ijapa888:
So people want an update on the matter?
I'll provide more than that.
I want to let you in on some of my mistakes so you'd be better equipped when choosing a life partner.

Courtship
I entered into this relationship with wide open eyes despite the fact that i never met her mother.
She never showed up during the wedding and six years on I'm yet to set eyes on her or even engaged her in a phone conversation.
Reason is, she left her four kids (including Wifey) and their Dad at their tender ages and has since not returned.
She is alive and well, remarried and started another family with another man in same Lagos state.
News has it that she now has cancer or had a stroke or both.
Shouldn't i have bailed?
She was replaced with two other women who she grew up to know as step mothers.
Naturally, a mother will focus her energy on the upbringing/welfare of her own child not her step child.
Probably where she lost it.

Physical Abuse
Domestic violence here was initiated by yours faithfully.
No pride derived from doing that but i assure you some situations require a bit of letting out, some release, although they yield no good results.
No sane man in black Africa can pride himself of not having at least fantasized about hitting a foul tongued woman.

About the facebook account, it was not deleted but deactivated.
You can deactivate your facebook account one minute and be invisible to all your facebook friends.
Once you log on with your username and password you're back online with all your contacts,messages and pictures intact.
I found her account with the controversial picture on it and commented thus:
Looking so available.
Voila!
Facebook account gets deactivated.
Wonder what other comments must have followed or what prompted that quick action.

When you say career woman, I'd prefer a highflying woman who has a job with future prospects.
One with certifications to secure her area of speciality in her chosen career not first degree equivalent.
A seven digit salary if you like.
Official car to cap it all.
Why risk family for a job that hasn't given you a raise or a promotion in 5 years?

I'll have to sign out from this thread after this time out.
I'm feeling naked on here.

Because her job makes her happy and you don't...

Because she wasn't raised by a mother doesn't mean she'll turn out to be a bad wife or mother.
Some people lost their mothers from childhood/from birth, and they still turned out decent.
Because she's not earning a 7 figure salary doesn't mean her job is useless. You also probably don't earn such either. Maybe if you earned better, there would have been no need for her to work where she does. However, the bank is still providing the school fees and other basic needs for her children. Most bankers hate their jobs, and only just endure because there's nothing out there.
Marriage is a reality check for most men and women. Very few end up with their soul mates. You need to find inner peace before you can get peace out of anyone else. Focus on yourself Mr, do some honest self reflections. Be ready to accept your faults and don't make the same mistakes in your next relationship.
Your happiness shouldn't be dependent on another human with flaws like you, understand being married doesnt stop you from being an individual.
Understand marriage entails a lot of compromise, and support for each other
I'm not going to mention your wife, because you're the one here now.

The wife may have some flaws, but then beating her up was where you lost it man!Your wife is not as stubborn as mine, but then domestic violence is exactly what I can't tolerate. Go and apologize to her and her family, explain your grievances to them as well and take back your wife.

nkwuocha1:
The wife may have some flaws, but then beating her up was where you lost it man!Your wife is not as stubborn as mine, but then domestic violence is exactly what I can't tolerate. Go and apologize to her and her family, explain your grievances to them as well and take back your wife.

I've been apologising all this years for same matters that will happen again and again.
I can't contInue doing that.

eyinjuege:
Because she wasn't raised by a mother doesn't mean she'll turn out to be a bad wife or mother.
Some people lost their mothers from childhood/from birth, and they still turned out decent.
Because she's not earning a 7 figure salary doesn't mean her job is useless. You also probably don't earn such either. Maybe if you earned better, there would have been no need for her to work where she does. However, the bank is still providing the school fees and other basic needs for her children. Most bankers hate their jobs, and only just endure because there's nothing out there.
Marriage is a reality check for most men and women. Very few end up with their soul mates. You need to find inner peace before you can get peace out of anyone else. Focus on yourself Mr, do some honest self reflections. Be ready to accept your faults and don't make the same mistakes in your next relationship.
Your happiness shouldn't be dependent on another human with flaws like you, understand being married doesnt stop you from being an individual.
Understand marriage entails a lot of compromise, and support for each other
I'm not going to mention your wife, because you're the one here now.

I've asked her to stay home years before now and the bolded is entirely my responsibility Ma.

nkwuocha1:
The wife may have some flaws, but then beating her up was where you lost it man![b]Your wife is not as stubborn as mine, [/b]but then domestic violence is exactly what I can't tolerate. Go and apologize to her and her family, explain your grievances to them as well and take back your wife.

You can't be sure man.

Ijapa888,

Go and bring your wife home. Do all you can to bring her home,sit her down and try to do a heart to heart talk with her.Your wife is not as foul mouthed as mine believe me.This is very natural of the kind of wife I have.

Me:Nkem are you sleeping?
Her: please can you look through the window?
Me(opening the window blinds)
Her;Now look on the roof of Mr Ade's house,you will see me there squatting, Rubbish question!!!

This are very annoying. She doesn't answer all questions tendered to her.There are times I end up asking her questions and then answering them myself. My wife have had me locked in the toilet, she went to market prepared my food then opened the door for me to come and eat all because she was suspecting I was cheating (I've never cheated)!
The last she did was so annoying that I had to break some few plates of food in anger.She used my clothe to wipe off my son's poo,all because I was too busy to clean him up.This same woman starved me for almost three months,I had to swallow my pride travel down to the East and told her parents of my intention to take another wife as it is.Women are foul mouthed,but then beating up your wife to me is cowardly. That's where you messed up,go and apologize. If she continue with her behavior, keep her as a wife but not as a lover,that way you won't care about those flaws anymore.

nkwuocha1:
Ijapa888,

Go and bring your wife home. Do all you can to bring her home,sit her down and try to do a heart to heart talk with her.Your wife is not as foul mouthed as mine believe me.This is very natural of the kind of wife I have.

Me:Nkem are you sleeping?
Her: please can you look through the window?
Me(opening the window blinds)
Her;Now look on the roof of Mr Ade's house,you will see me there squatting, Rubbish question!!!

This are very annoying. She doesn't answer all questions tendered to her.There are times I end up asking her questions and then answering them myself. My wife have had me locked in the toilet, she went to market prepared my food then opened the door for me to come and eat all because she was suspecting I was cheating (I've never cheated)!
The last she did was so annoying that I had to break some few plates of food in anger.She used my clothe to wipe off my son's poo,all because I was too busy to clean him up.This same woman starved me for almost three months,I had to swallow my pride travel down to the East and told her parents of my intention to take another wife as it is.Women are foul mouthed,but then beating up your wife to me is cowardly. That's where you messed up,go and apologize. If she continue with her behavior, keep her as a wife but not as a lover,that way you won't care about those flaws anymore.

Err.. Don't really know how to say this but your wife is abusive, emotionally abusive.

Truth be told,I can never marry from a broken home,especially one where the mother abandoned the children to remarry. As long as she remarried, its a no no for me.

shaybebaby:

Err.. Don't really know how to say this but your wife is abusive, emotionally abusive.

Now, that's crazy!
What about those ones I can't put in print? My wife is physically a strong woman, the only daughter in a family of seven, so she can fight like a man.When you say stubborn woman,na my wife.Where I cannot go and collect something that belongs to me,this woman will go there and take it,even when I don't want her too.She does what she likes.

When I want to eat,I now take the food from the pot myself. Because any left over will be added to the next meal,UNTOP MY MONEY OOO!!!

This is a woman that even common happy ending in cartoons, tears her up.NO WOMAN IN THIS WORLD HAS THE POWER TO TURN ME TO A WIFE BEATER!Instead I rent one room furnish it and stay there.Every day I visit my family and go back to my one room. I don't have time for nonsense.

nkwuocha1:
Ijapa888,

Go and bring your wife home. Do all you can to bring her home,sit her down and try to do a heart to heart talk with her.Your wife is not as foul mouthed as mine believe me.This is very natural of the kind of wife I have.

Me:Nkem are you sleeping?
Her: please can you look through the window?
Me(opening the window blinds)
Her;Now look on the roof of Mr Ade's house,you will see me there squatting, Rubbish question!!!

This are very annoying. She doesn't answer all questions tendered to her.There are times I end up asking her questions and then answering them myself. My wife have had me locked in the toilet, she went to market prepared my food then opened the door for me to come and eat all because she was suspecting I was cheating (I've never cheated)!
The last she did was so annoying that I had to break some few plates of food in anger.

Your wife sounds like a very annoying nag.
Did she behave like this during courtship?

Your wife is not as foul mouthed as mine believe me.This is very natural of the kind of wife I have.

Still not convinced.

This are very annoying. She doesn't answer all questions tendered to her.There are times I end up asking her questions and then answering them myself

.
Same here.

The last she did was so annoying that I had to break some few plates of food in anger.

And you think this isn't domestic violence?

I had to swallow my pride travel down to the East and told her parents of my intention to take another wife as it is.

I've threatened to do this several times.
Without provocation, me sitting indoors watching the news she comes in and asked me to get a Lawyer and another Wife.

If she continue with her behavior, keep her as a wife but not as a lover,that way you won't care about those flaws anymore.

I've stayed out for days to avoid her trouble.
I've been denied sex for seven straight months.
She's not acting like a Wife, i pay a Nanny who does all the baby sitting from dawn to dusk.

valdovas:

Your wife sounds like a very annoying nag.
Did she behave like this during courtship?

Didn't bother for all those courtship ish.Its not about courting,her character isn't strange to me.She exihibited all before I married her.I hate women who pretend. And no!She doesn't nag.Nagging is when a woman talks too much. Its me that's doing the nagging oooo,because her silent treatment is terrible. If finally she opens her mouth, she end up using annoying proverbs that keeps giving me headaches for days.You will asking her questions and she will be staring ,mute into space,and she can be like that for an hour without blinking. Broz how you want take beat that one

nkwuocha1:


Didn't bother for all those courtship ish.Its not about courting,her character isn't strange to me.She exihibited all before I married her.I hate women who pretend. And no!She doesn't nag.Nagging is when a woman talks too much. Its me that's doing the nagging oooo,because her silent treatment is terrible. If finally she opens her mouth, she end up using annoying proverbs that keeps giving me headaches for days.You will asking her questions and she will be staring ,mute into space,and she can be like that for an hour without blinking. Broz how you want take beat that one

Lol
You dey laff and pesin dey here dey pity you
Is like its not so bad.
Your wife is like someone that has has mental issues, sorry. Maybe due to frustration or dissatisfaction with her life.

You're married to a crazy person
Wiped your son's poo with your clothes?

If I talk now they will say I'm a divorce advocate. How do people live with such partners? You can't keep enduring that. Do something about it. Of course as you have said no hitting. But the earlier she starts treating you like a respectable human, the better your marriage will last.
Polygamy is also not the answer. If you end up with another crazy woman into that mix, I don't know how long you could live.

nkwuocha1:
Ijapa888,

Go and bring your wife home. Do all you can to bring her home,sit her down and try to do a heart to heart talk with her.Your wife is not as foul mouthed as mine believe me.This is very natural of the kind of wife I have.

Me:Nkem are you sleeping?
Her: please can you look through the window?
Me(opening the window blinds)
Her;Now look on the roof of Mr Ade's house,you will see me there squatting, Rubbish question!!!

This are very annoying. She doesn't answer all questions tendered to her.There are times I end up asking her questions and then answering them myself. My wife have had me locked in the toilet, she went to market prepared my food then opened the door for me to come and eat all because she was suspecting I was cheating (I've never cheated)!
The last she did was so annoying that I had to break some few plates of food in anger.She used my clothe to wipe off my son's poo,all because I was too busy to clean him up.This same woman starved me for almost three months,I had to swallow my pride travel down to the East and told her parents of my intention to take another wife as it is.Women are foul mouthed,but then beating up your wife to me is cowardly. That's where you messed up,go and apologize. If she continue with her behavior, keep her as a wife but not as a lover,that way you won't care about those flaws anymore.

shaybebaby:

Err.. Don't really know how to say this but your wife is abusive, emotionally abusive.

Am sorry to ask o, but this your son looks biracial, is his father a white guy.