hungryboy:
ever since i join this forum,sister na only you and mamagee were dey always create topics were need translation for this nl , abeg who hear wetin she dey talk make him help me translate am

gabinogem:
Lol...do you feel you are actually lazy

onila:


i don't

but some people said i am

it hurts but i have to struggle, life ain't easy

onila:

i don't
but some people said i am
it hurts but i have to struggle, life ain't easy

gabinogem:
Do You Have Any Idea Why They Think You Are Lazy...or What Do You Normally Do That Makes Those People Say You Are Lazy?

onila:


because at the moment

i am not working . .not because I don't want to work

i am still deciding if I should go back to school or work

i want to think before i make a major life decision

so some people in the house think I am lazy because they think I have been thinking for so long

hungryboy:
ever since i join this forum,sister na only you and mamagee were dey always create topics were need translation for this nl , abeg who hear wetin she dey talk make him help me translate am

Diffident:
life is hard everywhere just that it seems harder here

onila:

thanks dear

onila:

thanks dear

olaboy1:
I think you are recently coming to terms with the reality of life, and the laid back approach of your Africaness is conflicting with the hard work ethics of the west, you suddenly realized that many people do 2-3 jobs to stay afloat compared to Naija lifestyle.

Don't let this overwhelm you or demoralize you and don't let anyone push your gas pedal faster than you could handle, take your time and soon you would start to figure things out and the journey becomes clearer. Make sure u are working at least 2 hrs daily just to keep you in perspective.

Ask yourself some basic questions like

>> what's the core reason why I feel less motivated
>> what steps can I take to feel motivated again
>> where do I want to be in 2-5yrs time

Write down all your answers and gradually walk your way up. I wish u good luck

Fulaman198:


If someone gets the right education, they only need to work 1 job in the United States, Canada, and other "first world" Western nations.

olaboy1:


Yes, I was referring to her post where she alluded to further her education or opt for jobs.
You agree with me that it is going to be a tough task to combine work and study in the west considering all the bills you need to pay and also especially if OP needs to pay tuition fees.

Fulaman198:


Oh I got you.

I agree that it is difficult to combine stud and work in the West. That is very true. But if she is in a situation where she can not go back to school full-time what she could do is work part-time and then go to school part-time. Many Western countries at big renowned schools offer their degrees online, so she could consider that (e.g. Arizona State University, Pennsylvania State University, University of Illinois, etc.).

There is a coffee company in North America known as Starbucks, if she works part time there, she could have her school paid for freely by them:

https://asunow.asu.edu/20170322-asu-news-starbucks-partnership-expands-pathway-to-admission

If I were in her situation, I would try to find a company like Starbucks, even if the pay is menial, she could attempt to work maybe 20 - 25 hours a week, and then pick a major from their online degree major that will be well-paying like Software Engineering or Electrical Engineering. Just my 2 kobo.

olaboy1:


Your advice is golden. Hope OP can seize this advice and look up that link.

Fulaman198:


Oh I got you.

I agree that it is difficult to combine study and work in the West. That is very true. But if she is in a situation where she can not go back to school full-time what she could do is work part-time and then go to school part-time. Many Western countries at big renowned schools offer their degrees online, so she could consider that (e.g. Arizona State University, Pennsylvania State University, University of Illinois, etc.).

There is a coffee company in North America known as Starbucks, if she works part time there, she could have her school paid for freely by them:

https://asunow.asu.edu/20170322-asu-news-starbucks-partnership-expands-pathway-to-admission

If I were in her situation, I would try to find a company like Starbucks, even if the pay is menial, she could attempt to work maybe 20 - 25 hours a week, and then pick a major from their online degree major that will be well-paying like Software Engineering or Electrical Engineering. Just my 2 kobo.

hungryboy:
ever since i join this forum,sister na only you and mamagee were dey always create topics were need translation for this nl , abeg who hear wetin she dey talk make him help me translate am

onila:

it just depends on if you want to work hard where ever you are

i live in the west but my housemates complain how lazy i am

Africa is not bad as I think it is

lastmessenger:
in Africa even the least paid job is difficult to get but there in the west u can always work if u are ready to work.
You can never compare the west to Africa. Make a decision quick and get going .there is no time staying at home thinking if u want to make it in the west.

olaboy1:
I think you are recently coming to terms with the reality of life, and the laid back approach of your Africaness is conflicting with the hard work ethics of the west, you suddenly realized that many people do 2-3 jobs to stay afloat compared to Naija lifestyle.

Don't let this overwhelm you or demoralize you and don't let anyone push your gas pedal faster than you could handle, take your time and soon you would start to figure things out and the journey becomes clearer. Make sure u are working at least 2 hrs daily just to keep you in perspective.

Ask yourself some basic questions like

>> what's the core reason why I feel less motivated
>> what steps can I take to feel motivated again
>> where do I want to be in 2-5yrs time

Write down all your answers and gradually walk your way up. I wish u good luck