dokwhot:
I fell ill today.My girlfriend was watching TV with earphones on,even as I was shivering seriously. I felt it was callous of her,especially since I take care of her well when she's ill.She didn't respond to me even after I called her attention to this. I had to tell her to leave my house since she was being inconsiderate She left,dropped the ring I gave her 2months ago. I need advice on how to proceed. I feel it's over.Is it?We have done introduction, planning to marry next year.I intend telling her it's over.Am I doing the right thing?

Acidosis:
You ordered her out of your house like a common thief?

Acidosis:
You ordered her out of your house like a common thief?

dokwhot:
I expected a different response but I didn't know I was in a relationship with a selfish person. Now, I see her as a common thief.Why visit anyone if you can't even be present or helpful when they're in distress?

PaperLace:
Our men and MY HOUSE, always ordering their girlfriends and wives out of their house. What she did was bad and painful, but is the next line of action to order her out of YOUR HOUSE?

Both of you need to work on your egos. There'll be more misunderstandings in marriage,i don't know how long you'll keep ordering her out of your house, and how long she'll keep dropping her ring. Some people are not sympathetic to sick people, worse if when the sick person puts up so much drama, they can't help their insensitivity. Is your girl that kind of person?

Are there accumulated misunderstandings you're not telling us of? If there's none, I'll suggest you call her and talk to her, you made mention of no other ill character.

dokwhot:
I fell ill today.My girlfriend was watching TV with earphones on,even as I was shivering seriously. I felt it was callous of her,especially since I take care of her well when she's ill.She didn't respond to me even after I called her attention to this. I had to tell her to leave my house since she was being inconsiderate She left,dropped the ring I gave her 2months ago. I need advice on how to proceed. I feel it's over.Is it?We have done introduction, planning to marry next year.I intend telling her it's over.Am I doing the right thing?

Ishilove:

I don't understand. So she should not watch TV again because you're ill?

Did she neglect you in anyway? Or perhaps she should hold your hands and sing 'lullaby baby don't you cry'? You seem the dramatic type. Lord knows personally I can't deal with drama

dokwhot:
Maybe because I'ld have been more concerned if she was the one who was sick,shivering vigorously. Neglect is the import of the whole issue.Imagine treating your husband to be so callously.
Her attitudes after the act tell a story.Read that above. How do your friends respond when you fall ill?

dokwhot:
I'm not hurt emotionally.Just that there are expectations in all relationships.Probably this is just a bad case of incompatibility and I accept it if it is.Better a break up than a divorce,right?I'm very hurt financially though.That one is painful.As to why return her belongings while ill?I was ill,got better to an extent as is normal.Even much better this morning.And I wanted to find out why this happened so rapidly(too much trying to claim smartness).And I did from the messages,chats with her friends on the phone.Thanks all for your opinions.

Ishilove:

I don't understand. So she should not watch TV again because you're ill?

Did she neglect you in anyway? Or perhaps she should hold your hands and sing 'lullaby baby don't you cry'? You seem the dramatic type. Lord knows personally I can't deal with drama

dokwhot:
I fell ill today.My girlfriend was watching TV with earphones on,even as I was shivering seriously. I felt it was callous of her,especially since I take care of her well when she's ill.She didn't respond to me even after I called her attention to this. I had to tell her to leave my house since she was being inconsiderate She left,dropped the ring I gave her 2months ago. I need advice on how to proceed. I feel it's over.Is it?We have done introduction, planning to marry next year.I intend telling her it's over.Am I doing the right thing?

dokwhot:
I expected a different response but I didn't know I was in a relationship with a selfish person. Now, I see her as a common thief.Why visit anyone if you can't even be present or helpful when they're in distress? After seeing the handwriting on the wall,last night,I went to her house,returned her remaining belongings,demanded for the phone I got her.While going through the phone,she had already declared victory and told her friends(mostly married men)and mother that she packed out for good,said I'm a very terrible human being.She had been planning to do it for a while from what I see. In the last few months,I've been the one taking care of her needs while I encouraged and showed her how to save money,which she did while I spent mine on her,even for sanitary pads and food.Now,the only assessment to her friends is that I'm a "very terrible human being".I only admonished her to be more caring when I was sick when she preferred to watch TV with earphones on.
I never deceived her,never cheated on her,I did introduction,paid deposit for a wedding hall recently.I acted as a good man.I'm not pained,I only regret the money I've wasted on a train that decided not to leave the station.I give God all the glory and pray I find a marriageable woman soonest.

Nellychinma20:
U really sound childish ,sorry to say
And your own side of the story is really not convincing enough
U trying to tell us u were in good terms and yet she did that
U not matured enough for marriage ,so cos she dropped the ring u now have to send the rest of her belongings away .
And even have the guts to say u sent her out of ur house from the look of things she's being staying with u but u asked her to leave.
And u took back the phone u got her as a gift.
You remind me of when I was 7,I did just that too
Anyway obviously u don't even know what u want.

coolcatty:



Women and drama.... So the woman that dropped the ring is matured abi??


Smh.....

Nellychinma20:
Hey dude ,I never said that
Two wrong doesn't make a right .

mrwonlasewonie:
Has she always been like that or she suddenly developed that attitude?

dokwhot:
A week before the introduction I suggested postponing it because I noticed some attitude,date fixed,what will people say.I went along with it as she thought it should go on.I'm still the same person-not just "terrible",as she now supposes.Looking back,I realize I almost got hitched to a spoilt daughter.And I don't think she was keen on it.In summary,some people are wicked.Imagine introduction this week,moving materials cross country,the expense of stuffs and transport,my parents and family(I sent the money that was used to host them) with me,paid deposit of about 100k for wedding reception hall 2 days later.Her family affirming proudly that you've taken good care of his daughter in the one year.Happy fun moments,pictures,smiles.Exactly 5 days,you're referred to as a "terrible human being" via text you read by accident.It is witchcraft.But that's it.Moving on...

TheArchangel:
This guy is crying about the money he spent not that he almost died from some acute illness. Both of you are not meant for each other and........you are disturbing the cyberspace with your whine story cos I ain't seeing what you want us to do for you here.

mrwonlasewonie:
show a little empathy.the world is already filled with hateful,angry,bitter and emotionally inconsiderate people.at least let your religion (Christian,Muslim,Buddhist,humanist) or whatever reflect in your utterances

Don't you have blood flowing through your veins?