Her father called after the issue,asked me what happened.I could only say "Sir,please ask ...(her name)".I don't really love complaining or drama.I've never called him to discuss any issue in my relationship with the daughter.It's not going to happen now.It was something we both agreed on together.She has broken that agreement and had been discussing everything with her friends and family secretly,I now realize.Obviously,I don't like hurting people.It's better she is the one who breaks up with me.I'm still friends with all my exes,we communicate.
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TheArchangel:
what did I do now I just commented na

let your utterances pass through three gates
1.is it kind
2.IS it necessary
3.is it the truth?

Fake story.

mrwonlasewonie:
let your utterances pass through three gates
1.is it kind
2.IS it necessary
3.is it the truth?

chaii, free me na.
Is it kind
Is it necessary
Is it the truth........ok I don hear

dokwhot:
Her father called after the issue,asked me what happened.I could only say "Sir,please ask ...(her name)".I don't really love complaining or drama.I've never called him to discuss any issue in my relationship with the daughter.It's not going to happen now.It was something we both agreed on together.She has broken that agreement and had been discussing everything with her friends and family secretly,I now realize.Obviously,I don't like hurting people.It's better she is the one who breaks up with me.I'm still friends with all my exes,we communicate.
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so you expected/hoped that this would happen?

or maybe I don't get how this is relevant to the narrative, would you mind explaining what you mean by that?

PaperLace:
Our men and MY HOUSE, always ordering their girlfriends and wives out of their house. What she did was bad and painful, [s]but is the next line of action to order her out of YOUR HOUSE?[/s]

Both of you need to work on your egos. There'll be more misunderstandings in marriage,i don't know how long you'll keep ordering her out of your house, and how long she'll keep dropping her ring.[s] Some people are not sympathetic to sick people, worse if when the sick person puts up so much drama, they can't help their insensitivity. Is your girl that kind of person?[/s]

Are there accumulated misunderstandings you're not telling us of? If there's none, I'll suggest you call her and talk to her, you made mention of no other ill character.

LOL madam, I'm going to be Biased on this issue, because thats exactly what you are doing too. Since its a Gender based fight..Oya na, lets go !!!

If the man owns the House or vice versa, the authority belongs to the owner. Period. Besides whosoever the house belongs to has the right order anyone out. Doesn't matter if its sister or brother or Girlfriend.

Some people are not sympathetic to sick people? Yea right ! Is that how you treat your spouse when he was sick? I'm sure not.

He doesn't love him. Pure and Simple, She should get the Fvck out.

Acidosis:
You ordered her out of your house like a common thief?

Is there any other way to tell someone to leave your house? Abi na Email you wan send before she leave.

You should write an email and Copy her parents in the mail. Mtchew !

TheArchangel:
chaii, free me na.
Is it kind
Is it necessary
Is it the truth........ok I don hear

better

Now you're freed

Op you lost money but u have saved yourself from a self destructive marriage that would have made ur life terrible.
Just move on and forget about the money you lost. There is more money to be made in the future.that lady is not for you.

bro, there is one thing I tell people, don't let your happiness be a function of another person else you will be doomed. this is the foundation of many depressed, angry and sucidal persons. they put much hope, trust and love on others and that forms the basis of their happiness and when these fellas fail.. they fall like a pack of cards. bro..move on.. obviously she is not your type you did not see it early. am happy for you.. pls move on... if u are still interested in marriage, u will find someone else but like me.. I doubt that possibility...I don't think am willing to trust any lady anymore for such... enjoy bro. be happy so u can live pretty long

Evaberry:
op actually you are not understanding and indeed a terrible human being.


whatever happened to you telling her how you felt, some people don't even know how to take care of others, did you try to understand this.


you expected her to turn into a care taker and she didn't, why didn't you tell her how u felt before allowing your ego, and man pride, take over you.

[s]I personally don't like being taken care of when I'm sick, makes me feel like I'm about to die so it's really hard accepting anyone care for me, because of this I can't stand a sympathetic sick person as I feel you should be able to care for yourself and I will only do the smallest details[/s] but if I see someone that likes being dotted on then of course I will change this mindset because that is what love is suppose to be about. understanding and sacrifice.

That is a stupid excuse. If no one took care of you when you were ever sick. I'm sure you will dead by now. Like seriously dead. (No Joke)

So I guess when your parents were sick, you just ignored and sat down watching "Keeping up with the kardasians" right ? because like you said, I can't stand a sympathetic sick person

This thing is even more annoying that women here are giving excuse for a bad behavior as ignoring someone sick, Even if a girl cheated on me & i caught her. For the fact that she is sick at that moment, I would take care of her first. And then fight her later. Nothing compared to life mehn.

Ishilove:

I don't understand. So she should not watch TV again because you're ill?

Did she neglect you in anyway? Or perhaps she should hold your hands and sing 'lullaby baby don't you cry'? You seem the dramatic type. Lord knows personally I can't deal with drama

I think one of the problems we always have with issues is striking a balance when a case is brought her to which we were not present.

First, I assumed the guy already told the lady how watching the movie, the light and the sound feels yet she was inconsiderate. The guy on the other hand was not mature enough to understand that she needed to be happy too. What stops him from facing the other part of the room or the lady reducing the sound.

From comments from the OP, he has been played. I expected the lady to sacrifice Seeing the guy isn't in good health.

From the way relationships are going now, everything will evolve ND everyone will be on their own

truthsayer009:


That is a stupid excuse. If no one took care of you when you were ever sick. I'm sure you will dead by now. Like seriously dead. (No Joke)

So I guess when your parents were sick, you just ignored and sat down watching "Keeping up with the kardasians" right ? because like you said, I can't stand a sympathetic sick person

This thing is even more annoying that women here are giving excuse for a bad behavior as ignoring someone sick, Even if a girl cheated on me & i caught her. For the fact that she is sick at that moment, I would take care of her first. And then fight her later. Nothing compared to life mehn.

Bros the issue weak me. How this set of people reason most times is shocking. Imagine what she just wrote

OP learn to move on easily in life. It's important. Don't count what you have lost, it will make you feel depressed. Count on what you will gain. Atleast, she is out of the way for a better person to come in.

mrphysics:
OP learn to move on easily in life. It's important. Don't count what you have lost, it will make you feel depressed. Count on what you will gain. Atleast, she is out of the way for a better person to come in.

Thanks so much,your comments are smart.I've moved on.This thread is my first on nairaland,my own true life story-unbelievable,as somebody inferred in a comment but nonetheless,as true as breathing air.This is my diary,I'm not depressed.I can move on from here but social media has become a better family/friend than those who know you in real life.It is a sad moment.

dokwhot:
Thanks so much,your comments are smart.I've moved on.This thread is my first on nairaland,my own true life story-unbelievable,as somebody inferred in a comment but nonetheless,as true as breathing air.This is my diary,I'm not depressed.I can move on from here but social media has become a better family/friend than those who know you in real life.It is a sad moment.

This is the truth bro. I like to be friendzoned, the reason is that ladies that friendzone me offer me great counsel and time than those who said yes. Infact, studies have show that guys who accepted to be friendzoned live a happy life than those to whom yes was told. Ladies that offer you the best in life are those who you have nothing to do with while those that are parasitic are those whom you think you have a life with. Life goes on brother

mrphysics:


This is the truth bro. I like to be friendzoned, the reason is that ladies that friendzone me offer me great counsel and time than those who said yes. Infact, studies have show that guys who accepted to be friendzoned live a happy life than those to whom yes was told. Ladies that offer you the best in life are those who you have nothing to do with while those that are parasitic are those whom you think you have a life with. Life goes on brother

You try you hear...No sleep?


Very true at comments

dokwhot:
I fell ill today.My girlfriend was watching TV with earphones on,even as I was shivering seriously. I felt it was callous of her,especially since I take care of her well when she's ill.She didn't respond to me even after I called her attention to this. I had to tell her to leave my house since she was being inconsiderate.She left,dropped the ring I gave her 2months ago. I need advice on how to proceed. I feel it's over.Is it?We have done introduction, planning to marry next year.I intend telling her it's over.Am I doing the right thing?

Girls thesedays have fat ego, they don't wanna take it easy on us...take it easy bro...We can't advise you here. Take the decision on your own..If she listens to you, and there's love and compatibility, men both of you sit down and iron out issues. Truth be told, we all don't know the baggage that would come with the next one, so it's better to fix issues than be a quitter

You can force a horse to the river,you can't force it to drink water.

supersystemsnig:



You try you hear...No sleep?


Very true at comments

Lol. Something happened, it took away my sleep. Lol

What do you think of the post

mrphysics:

Lol. Something happened, it took away my sleep. Lol

What do you think of the post

My thoughts resonates with yours 100%... No need to add an extra word..I'm enjoying your intellectual buhahaha my brother..I deyyour side

supersystemsnig:



My thoughts resonates with yours 100%... No need to add an extra word..I'm enjoying your intellectual buhahaha my brother..I deyyour side

I just read yours, it makes sense.

My feelings,at the moment,are mostly positive.I feel I dodged a bullet,escaped a forthcoming prison.I always used to tell myself that marriage was a prison with a long sentence of give or take 30,40 years.Who do you want to be sentenced with? That's the real question?I believe that question is factor in high divorce rate and domestic violence.

truthsayer009:


LOL madam, I'm going to be Biased on this issue, because thats exactly what you are doing too. Since its a Gender based fight..Oya na, lets go !!!

If the man owns the House or vice versa, the authority belongs to the owner. Period. Besides whosoever the house belongs to has the right order anyone out. Doesn't matter if its sister or brother or Girlfriend.

Some people are not sympathetic to sick people? Yea right ! Is that how you treat your spouse when he was sick? I'm sure not.

He doesn't love him. Pure and Simple, She should get the Fvck out.

How is it my fault you failed to comprehend it was a question I asked? Get it into your head, I will say same to a woman and this isn't about me. Your "how I treat my spouse" analogy makes no sense to me. I am not perfect, I have some attitude that OP would also order me out of his house for, same applies to my spouse _but we've learned to reach a compromise.

Gender biased indeed, popular quote when people can't argue constructively. You better go to the section/people you do that gender fight with.

When you guys keep giving them " heads " thesedays, why won't they have an inflated egos..Yeye Mgbekes

dokwhot:
My feelings,at the moment,are mostly positive.I feel I dodged a bullet,escaped a forthcoming prison.I always used to tell myself that marriage was a prison with a long sentence of give or take 30,40 years.Who do you want to be sentenced with? That's the real question?I believe that question is factor in high divorce rate and domestic violence.

There's joy and happiness in marriage, the problem many times are our thoughtlife...You can't dissociate your thoughts from how you want your future to be. Why do we choose to compare things against the worst, than consider them against both the good and the bad? We need to be in the right perspective and by this, we need to become less negative, but rather open, take things a step at a time and see if they will work out.

I wouldn't stick with anyone who treats me like that while I am ill. You did the right thing, now move on

dokwhot:
We had our little issues,nothing major.I would have left her months ago if I had noticed this behaviour.It's over already,she has declared it to her friends.

I read your other posts and her subsequent attitude was worse _but let me ask you: you didn't notice the attitude because you weren't observant or because they weren't there?

I'm also very concerned with her friendship with married men. I think she's spoilt, and not ready for marriage (with you) or she needs someone to talk senses into her head. How old is she?

Pause the wedding, you both should take your time to reflect on the relationship and yourselves. I must be truthful with you, you don't sound easy yourself _ordering your woman out of your house is bad(that's for future purposes), but I do understand you did what will make you feel better at that moment. No matter how terrible she claims you are, something has kept her with you for however long. Something has also kept you with her. If there is still love, you both can always work things out _take things easy, don't be too fast to pull the plug.

PaperLace:

How is it my fault you failed to comprehend it was a question I asked? Gender biased indeed, popular quote when people can argue constructively. Get it into your thick skull, I will say same to a woman.

No insults please.All opinions are welcome and right here.What's gonna be is gonna be,regardless of our viewpoints.

dokwhot:
No insults here,please.This is not a way to make intelligent responses.

There was nothing intelligent or courteous about his response.

PaperLace:

How is it my fault you failed to comprehend it was a question I asked? Get it into your head, I will say same to a woman and this isn't about me. Your "how I treat my spouse" analogy makes no sense to me. I am not perfect, I have some attitude that OP would also order me out of his house for, same applies to my spouse _but we've learned to reach a compromise.

Gender biased indeed, popular quote when people can't argue constructively. You better go to the section/people you do that gender fight with.

You said something obviously wrong. I called you out. Simple as that. Your opinion is 100% gender based. Stop trying to hide the obvious truth.

Obviously because It was a female being sent out, you focused on why he had to send her out. Your post was centered around that

You were asking if there are accumulated misunderstandings you're not telling us of? --- So If people are having issues prior to their illness, must they hold that grudge EVEN WHEN THEY ARE SICK?

Its like saying If your parents are sick & you are currently quarreling with them, you won't attend to their needs atleast for that moment of illness.

truthsayer009:


You said something obviously wrong. I called you out. Simple as that. Your opinion is 100% gender based. Stop trying to hide the obvious truth.

Obviously because It was a female being sent out, you focused on why he had to send her out. Your post was centered around that

You were asking if there are accumulated misunderstandings you're not telling us of? --- So If people are having issues prior to their illness, must they hold that grudge EVEN WHEN THEY ARE SICK?

Its like saying If your parents are sick & you are currently quarreling with them, you won't attend to their needs atleast for that moment of illness.

What is wrong in what I said?
His post was vague, except there are underlying issues which he finally agreed to, calling off a prospective marriage over a one time experience is not right to me!!!

Yes, (some) people do. Don't act like you don't know it happens, that would be very myopic or pretentious. The earlier you all that think marriage is a walk in the park know it isn't, the better for us all. Everything, break-up, separate, divorce, jokers!

My post was centred on understanding what led to that issue _take your gender biased talk to people who have the time. I addressed the wrong of both parties,while asking for clarifications.