lefulefu:
op all these feminism stuff i dey always dey avoid their discussion oo

tosyne2much:
Egbon Lefulefu, na the men wey go carry them put for house I pity ooo

Me sef dey always grab race the moment I don see any woman wey get "I don't take nonsense" attitude

These are ladies that are always right in their own path, they want to be in control of relationships/ marriage whereby the man will oblige to anything they do

tosyne2much:
Egbon Lefulefu, na the men wey go carry them put for house I pity ooo

Me sef dey always grab race the moment I don see any woman wey get "I don't take nonsense" attitude

These are ladies that are always right in their own path, they want to be in control of relationships/ marriage whereby the man will oblige to anything they do

Linux007:


Bro. I will borrow a leaf frm u.

Just watch from a distance

shaybebaby:

There is the saying "absolute power corrupts".

To prevent that, there is the need for checks and balances(independent) to curb this.

In the society, we have laws.
In corporations, we have external auditors, non executive board of directors who are not involved in the decision making(that is the responsibility of executive directors).
We have professional bodies providing oversight to keep these people in check in their positions of power

What is the equivalent for the power/leadership you say men should wield in marriages?

lefulefu:

its mostly efferminate men that date feminist.such men love being controlled

supersystemsnig:



What's my biz with either gender clubbing...I'm talking about couples clubbing...Who attends to the needs of the kids? Tell me, helpmates? But at what expense?


I could begin to break down reasons why clubbing destroys the " clubber ", but with you i wouldn't tow that line...

Enjoy the white spirits...

2buffagain:


My checker should be my wife, so long as she does it respectfully!
There is this thing we do at my office called a one-on-one. You and your manager go for a stroll or something and give praises and feedback to each other on how they handled certain things and how they can both improve.

To me, this is leadership.
But to you, you hear the word leadership, and you think "Donald Trump".
I think it's a reflection of the inner you.

tosyne2much:
Who be this one again? Hahahahaha

Nothing wey person no go see for this thread

BlazingAyomikun: TOSYNE2MUCH, HOW DARE YOU ADVOCATE SLAVERY FOR WOMEN IN THE 21ST CENTURY? TELL ME, WHAT WOULD BE YOUR REACTION IF YOUR SISTER IS IN THE KIND OF RELATIONSHIP YOU JUST DESCRIBED?

I want an honest reply.

tosyne2much:
Oooooh! Did you just say slavery?

This has nothing to do with slavery

BlazingAyomikun: Oh, really? Why didn't you answer the question?

tosyne2much:
Your question has no answer bro.

BlazingAyomikun: I'm very sure you're refraining from giving a direct answer due to what it would mean for your thread. I'm quite certain you won't like to see your sister in that kind of relationship, yet you're advising other ladies to put up with such. WHY? Isn't that unfair? To put it less charitably, isn't that simply CRUEL?

tosyne2much:
I think we should be more concerned about the write-up, not my reaction if my sister happens to get acquainted to such a guy

BlazingAyomikun: I'm trying to expose you as an hypocrite - obviously you want one rule for others and another rule for your own. This fact makes nothing in your write-up worth considering.

tosyne2much:
Hypocrite? Okay I agree I'm one

pocohantas:


I have never mentioned kneeling to serve food, I don't know where you got that from. It's not my business how they serve food...so far they are both happy with the arrangement.

Control means, rule, command, restrain. There are women who are okay with you reminding them you will control them, marry them.
I respect a husband and his position as the head of the home, but I won't tolerate him telling me he will control me. We will control and respect each other. This is the kind of man I seek.

Every organised set has a leader, be it office, religious or family. The day a leader comes out and starts telling his subordinates "I will control you", rather than saying "we are a team, but since we need a spokesperson...I am that person", there would be chaos. Dassall

shaybebaby:

Why should fun stop once you are married?
Kids do one thing, they suck the passion out of the relationship.
In fact, I recommend it to keep that reminder of who you both were before kids and responsibility. With everything else in life, moderation is key.

2buffagain:


My checker should be my wife, so long as she does it respectfully!
There is this thing we do at my office called a one-on-one. You and your manager go for a stroll or something and give praises and feedback to each other on how they handled certain things and how they can both improve.

To me, this is leadership.
But to you, you hear the word leadership, and you think "Donald Trump".
I think it's a reflection of the inner you.

shaybebaby:

Why should fun stop once you are married?
Kids do one thing, they suck the passion out of the relationship.
In fact, I recommend it to keep that reminder of who you both were before kids and responsibility. With everything else in life, moderation is key.

2buffagain:


This I agree with. So long as they trust and are doing it together mostly.

shaybebaby:

In as much as you give the same measure of respect. So now we back to equality.
Do not dish what you cannot eat yourself. Both genders.

supersystemsnig:



Them full around...That's the norm thesedays, what's left with their kinds is to grow beards and detach uncle's d*cks each time he's going out of the home....

Hahahahaha Lmao.. Abeg no use take kill me ooo

2buffagain:


This I agree with. So long as they trust and are doing it together mostly.

shaybebaby:

One common ground alas. If you can party with mates, how much more the person you share your bed with.

supersystemsnig:


If both parents club till midnight, who instills moral principles in the kids? Baby sitter?

tosyne2much:
In your own mind, nothing positive can ever come out of control right?

Thanks for making me understand that the word "control" has to do with selfishness, cruelty and self-centeredness.

Anyway, I agree with you

tosyne2much:
Hahahahaha Lmao.. Abeg no use take kill me ooo

2buffagain:


That takes nothing away from the fact that these are still 2 different roles.
One is still the manager. The relationship could just be full of so much trust that there is no micro-management.

2buffagain:


I personally won't be that parent, but I won't judge those who do.
They could just as well go to a casino, A hotel lounge, whatever helps them remember that they are more than just their children.

supersystemsnig:



I feel you...It's the norm in many societies..anyways nothing wrong in partying with a spouse..It's perfectly normal...

shaybebaby:

Both requires mutual respect and roles do overlap, depends on the task/industry.
Not withstanding, the manager cannot do as he pleases either. But in appointing managers, experience, and technical ability is part of the criteria. Not gender.

So tell me, what qualifies a man to always be the leader that a woman does not/cannot possess?

shaybebaby:

Both requires mutual respect and roles do overlap, depends on the task/industry.
Not withstanding, the manager cannot do as he pleases either. But in appointing managers, experience, and technical ability is part of the criteria. Not gender.

So tell me, what qualifies a man to always be the leader that a woman does not/cannot possess?

2buffagain:


Buy the ring, get on your damn knees, Propose to the man, pay for wedding, bride price, lists, etc.
Then from there we can even start to talk about that. Till then, you are not ready!

ZandhaZaraZ:
What's funny? What makes you believe being male makes you inherently superior to females? Because of your penisss? Rubbish! I like playing with chauvinists---kicking their pile of nonsense around like a ball.

Who is this one? Do you remember this thread:
www.nairaland.com/3809392/ladies-10-ways-keep-peaceful ? Yeah, that's who he is.

Just tell me that you're an hater because it's funny how someone will come from nowhere making reference to an erroneous article I published.

Of course, I once wrote an article titled "10 Ways To Keep A Peaceful Relationship With Broke Guys", so what has that got to do with this thread for christ's sake? What correlation does that thread have to do with being a chauvinist if not that you're just trying to score a cheap point

Abeg no I get time to dey reply you jawe

2buffagain:


Buy the ring, get on your damn knees, Propose to the man, pay for wedding, bride price, lists, etc.
Then from there we can even start to talk about that. Till then, you are not ready!

supersystemsnig:



Go baby, I wanna hear the reply to this.....So tell me, what qualifies a man to always be the leader that a woman does not/cannot possess?

pocohantas:


If being controlling is so much fun, the fight for control won't be one sided. You, Tosyne, would be very open to being controlled by your wife.

You can keep generating words to soothe yourself, I made no mention of the coloured.

tosyne2much:
Just tell me that you're an hater because it's funny how someone will come from nowhere making reference to an erroneous article I published.

Of course, I once wrote an article titled "10 Ways To Keep A Peaceful Relationship With Broke Guys", so what has that got to do with this thread for christ's sake? What correlation does that thread have to do with being a chauvinist if not that you're just trying to score a cheap point

Abeg no I get time to dey reply you jawe