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@Frustratedrat

You are still dependent on her. she house and feeds you. You are not supposed to
even think of hitting your helper.

Work hard and start living independently to avoid unnecessary confrontation..

You also need to solve your anger problems, because it is your mum today,
it could be your wife, friend or boss tomorrow.

Get this book: "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life" and read.

Whataworld:
mumu.others are buying cars and building houses for their mother you want to hit your own,please go ahead ok?don't even think twice just go and hit her ok?make sure you do it today o..and don't forget to comeback to tell us after hitting her o,good luck.

huh.. You making me feel like a devil. I really do love her in my own way.


Have you wondered the kind of distorted upbringing I had?

Afamed:

Lol

Yes lol I don't know why people are shy away from truth,this kind of children are always 1 in 10.000, we should be advising the mother to take him to a spiritual house for delieverance not this tout who is contemplating beating his mum

Kobicove:
OP face facts - You're a leech

What's a grown adult still doing living with and being fed by his/her mother?!

Move out and be your own boss so you can control your space

You don't even know how old he is and the opportunities he may have

Like seriously? You don't know what to do?
Oya slap her, or better still buy Cain or koboko for her, she will behave well henceforth

no try am ooooo

try and leave the house,if not possible.
anytime you see her open her mouth,before anything comes out switch on your deaf ear button(expert on dat) then in your mind,keep telling your yourself sweet and possible.and try to imagine how she will swallow her words after you finally made it.then smile a liitle.

it works.its well with you and yours poster

speeshless!!!!!!.... off to sleep zzZzz just woke up now guy just go into fasting and prayer, you might not believe but shey you have heard about demons... that's how they function...

Are you she or he?

Frustratedrat.
calm down, don't ever raise your hand to anyone, at all, (except in cases of self defence) that's completely wrong

Don't ever do that, stop thinking about doing that, that's very wrong,

I understand your anger but Moving out is the best option.

And stop being short tempered, learn anger management.

frustratedrat:
hmmm.. Will try. But she really says all sorts of things. She's currently ranting on how we made her miserable. The neighbours all think we're bad. I've got my own frustrations too. Everyone should hold their own

Where ave u been al dis while Mami?

Effiezynews:



Get a life! Hustle, hustle! If you are out of the house for hours daily doing something legit, she won't complain.. She is unhappy. Don't even dare raise your hand to hit her! Na die you go just die..

ok boss. I'm doing so currently. But the attacks come at any time. Be it night or day.


Sorry to say this but I think the events of the past has affected her mentally. Coupled with her religious inclination. She now reads meaning to everything. Thinking we'll abandon her, attack her or steal from her.


Only the good life I think can make her calm down

frustratedrat:
i'm short-tempered. I probably inherited that trait from my dad. Due to the way my dad handled his affairs, my mum was plunged into penury. Currently living with her. The situations of the past has made her bitter. She complains about everything.


I open the pot to take my meal, she raises her voice, i come back empty-handed, she runs me down as being a leech. I lie flat without touching anything, she comes back complaining of so many things. When she starts, i find myself exchanging words with her.


I feel bad afterwards but the cycle continues once she makes me pesky again. how do i salvage this situation? Sometimes, i'm pushed to the edge that my frustration about her slander and my predicament makes me wanna hit her.

Like father like son . . . .

frenzyduchess:
Well, all I can do is pity the woman that ends up with you, she go surely turn your punching bag for sure.
Self control is developed, some need to put in more effort than others to achieve some form of control over their anger. What you need is therapy and anger management. Your mum is not the issue, you are
By the way you never told us why your mum sees you as a leech?, she might be right for seeing you that way

Imagine say na wife, Op for done turn Mike Tyson. He'll say she was running mouth and NL guys will support him...but na mama now, he is learning self-control...

You are your father's son.
I'm not saying he beat her.
But he probably broke her, now you want to break her more.

Hit her and get cursed. U don't need advice pls. Y haven't ur temperament made u hit a police personnel or military officer?

chronique:



Never ever entertain those thoughts. There is no single justification for it. Work on moving out. I know things are hard in Naija but please, just try to be up and doing.

k bro. I can't double my hustle yet coz i've not sorted out my result. Kind of feeble due to some underlining ailment. So, i need her shelter. Staying with a stranger might not augur well. Most are hostile

fatymore:
i don't need 10 likes.. Give me a job

fatymore:
i don't need 10 likes.. Give me a job

which city do you reside?

frustratedrat:
i'm short-tempered. I probably inherited that trait from my dad. Due to the way my dad handled his affairs, my mum was plunged into penury. Currently living with her. The situations of the past has made her bitter. She complains about everything.


I open the pot to take my meal, she raises her voice, i come back empty-handed, she runs me down as being a leech. I lie flat without touching anything, she comes back complaining of so many things. When she starts, i find myself exchanging words with her.


I feel bad afterwards but the cycle continues once she makes me pesky again. how do i salvage this situation? Sometimes, i'm pushed to the edge that my frustration about her slander and my predicament makes me wanna hit her.

You want to hit the source of your life? Go ahead, just be ready for karma

don't ever think of hitting Ur mom. moms are second to God, u adore them, spoil them with good things same as dad's too. if u hit Ur mom that means u are closing your heaven door and opening the hell door. don't ever think of it again bro

Beat her and your own children will beat you too.

Just like most the commenters said, I'll advise you to move out. Or better still sit her down and ask her what exactly is wrong

pocohantas:


Imagine say na wife, Op for done turn Mike Tyson. He'll say she was running mouth and NL guys will support him...but na mama now, he is learning self-control...

my sister, this is what we are facing o, that's a potential wife beater in the making, no two ways about it.

Save your destiny, hustle find a place to sqaut and plan for a place of your own under the shortest possible time. Start your life of Independence and watch how she would come to adore and respect your individuality. Pls never hit a lady,God bless you

Clap for yourself that you are short tempered and feel justified by the assumption that you inherited it from your dad...

frenzyduchess:
my sister, this is what we are facing o, that's a potential wife beater in the making, no two ways about it.

LOL, they all know what's wrong. Even the ones with very annoying mothers, don't beat them. If say this thread na wife, you for see how their comments will be. God protect his children o...

oga o,when you think you have seen it all .potential wife beater spotted. you better work on yourself

frustratedrat:
ok boss. I'm doing so currently. But the attacks come at any time. Be it night or day.


Sorry to say this but I think the events of the past has affected her mentally. Coupled with her religious inclination. She now reads meaning to everything. Thinking we'll abandon her, attack her or steal from her.


Only the good life I think can make her calm down

It's understable. I am female. Good luck.

It's very simple. Get out of that house, hustle, get yourself a place and fend for yourself. You will like yourself afterwards. Thank me later

UjuJoan2:


Like father like son . . . .

please don't conclude. I didn't do it. Just that abuses/false accusations make me exasperated

fatymore:
you know we have a flexible mind.. Just try and show her care. Let her know you love her.. Whenever she gets angry don't talk..just calm your nerves down.. My mum can be annoying sometimes. Before I do reply her back but now I keep mute, don't argue with her at the end I say sorry.. Most importantly I do things before she says it to avoid her getting angry. But believe she loves you and would surely break her heart if you move away.. Good morning

i'm sure you and your dad are also responsible for your mum's intermittent annoying behavior. Do you think before you type at all? Itchy fingers!

You should be ashamed of your self at 18, I started paying my fees, at that same age I started supporting my parents, I always visit them on weekend. Is not a sin for your parents to be poor, but it becomes a calamity for you to follow same circle which your parents followed. go and be useful to your mum, the day you raise your hand on your mother will mark the beginning of your sorrow, space her for now or look for better thing doing. I hustle my self through University. thank you mister.