Okurin.... Uumuwoke... It's not fair. Please do not leave your home for any lazy, wicked, and selfish woman. The deed is done. My dear tell your family about it now!!!!! The earlier the better. Don't call the lady again take your cries to God and see what He will do. It is well.

Reliablejay,pls be strong dear,ignore the lady,dont call her,cry to God. Also in line wit what mamas have said get a job and save just in case!
How far with the fertility issues,have u seen a gynae,dont worry u will laugh at the end of it all! Just follow up with your medicals

Adejuve I just pmed u.

What women go though, God help us.
Reliablejay please take it easy, I know it can be devastating but very soon, you will be the one posing with your belly at 6 weeks! As other mamas have said, try to be steadfast in prayers now, save well, try getting a job so that if push comes to shove, you can move out. In the mean time, pray back your husband from that strange woman and tell your family. It is well with you! May we all have cause to celebrate our pregnancies soonest, amen

Reliablejay, this is so heart wrenching. I am going with what some mamas have said, do not keep this to yourself, tell your father immediately. That other woman wants your position, please do not give it to her. Fight for your husband by taking it to God in prayers. But start planning ahead in case your hubby asks you to leave (I pray this never happens).
It is well with you. Be assured of my prayers.

Reliablejay please speak to your family. You need to open up, I know you are hurt but let your family know. The strategy of the devil's incarnate he impregnated is to push you out of your home, this is a battle you must win. please keep those screenshots it will serve as evidence. Above all keep praying and be strong. huggs

Reliablejay:
Mamas I have to open this account for this purpose.

I can't tell my pain to anyone that is why I have come here to cry.
I have being married for 3yrs now and we are still looking to God for children. (I have fertility issues). Normally I don't go through dh phone because I trust him and no trace of cheating. But some weeks ago he was showing me something on his phone, and a Whatsapp msg dropped "us at 6 wks". He quickly cleared the screen, I pretended like I did not see anything, but I was worried what that phrase meant though my mind was pointing somewhere but I said to myself it is not possible. But I was not at peace, the next day I decided to snoop. And I got the greatest shock of my life that has ruin my life forever. He is expecting a child with a certain lady, I call her A. I was shattered and devastated. I confronted him, to cut long story he said I should give him 4 days that he would convince A to terminate the pregnancy and end the relationship. On the third day he told me that it over between them and he has give A Money to terminate it. I cried I wanted to die but I could not tell anybody because I did not want my dad to hear of it. And also could not tell a friend. Only told my sister that dh is cheating on me but could not tell her of A's pregnancy because she will tell my dad. I felt betrayed and was totally broken. I last my job last year have not been able to secure another one if not I could have move out of the house.
He apologised over and over said is was 1 big mistake. I tried to put it behind me and move on. I checked his phone one day and noticed he has put a password,immediately I knew something was wrong. on Thursday night I was ables to unlock the phone and saw A was still pregnant and they still keep in touch very well from his call log. He woke up and saw me crying and ask what the problem was I told him and he denied, I took a screen shot of their conversation so I show it to him. He started with another lie saying he is going to ask her to terminate for real and end it all, I said his cross but I am done with him, I can't deal with his betrayal. I have being crying all day I have little savings but it won't take me far. I have been leaving in a fools paradise for over 3yrs thinking I had the best husband. Note before the night I checked his phone our marriage has being hitch free. No quarrels just argument that will not last 2mins he is quick to say sorry whether he is right or wrong.
From their chat A told him a guy called her with an unknown number telling her if she thinks is all pregnancies you can give birth to and she heard a lady's voice on the background so she know it is me that she is scared. She lied against me because I didn't call her and have not discuss this with anybody. Since this morning I have started picking my important things I have no destination but I just want to live
Sorry for boring you people but I just need to let this out before I burst.

As long as he is not violent stay back and prayerfully fight back your home

Tell your father, let your family know

May God Almighty strengthen and encourage you

Please let's be prayerful the devil is attacking marriages more.

May Fire from heaven consume every strange woman in Jesus name Amen

Reliabljay
Plz don't leave your home
Your husband is just being c arried away because a baby is involved.
You need to involve both families to get him back to his senses.
You need to stand up for your family. Don't just give up so easily. Pray!

@Reliablejay, it's well my sister. I will advise you inform your dad, he's experienced in life and I believe he will give the right counsel. Please don't leave your home, I know it's not easy, resolve to prayer and fasting. I pray God will see you through and it shall end in praises.

@reliablejay, God will fight for you.

All I see, is a very scheming and cunny Woman with a wicked heart.

She is after your marriage, and she knows your husband loves you

She is out for a mission, it's left for you if you choose to let her succeed.

What better way to destroy a happy home.... Claim pregnancy, poison the husband's heart by lying against you in other to create discord. chase you out and become the next Mrs.

After reading your post something just told me that lady is not pregnant.
Don't be surprised few months later she will tell your dh she's had miscarriage, And they tell am say na you winch the Belle comot.

I would have loved to share my story but ...

This is a time to fight with your knees.

@ Reliablejay, take a deep breath.you need to get family members involved.Pls discuss with your dad. At this stage there's a need for family meeting. Pls don't walk out.it's a battle that can be fought n won. There's nothing impossible before God.let me tell u a short story.

My mum had 4 daughters n when my father couldn't stand it,he impregnated a lady n coincidentally my mum was also pregnant.she delivered first n had a n son that died shortly after birth while this other woman was bragging that she is carrying a son. Delivered n had a girl. My mum stayed back.despite the pains/distrust/batrayal/shame she stayed back.less than a year she delivered a son.Yeah a son.she won the battle n God wiped her tears.Then another daughter.in all 5 girls n 1 boy. God stood by her n fought her battle.

It may be very difficult but I assure you,you are fruitful n will give birth to male n female children for your husband. Children u both will nurture with love. BE PATIENT.

Also post this on family thread. All is well

@Reliablejay

Kai... This post is really heartbreaking. I just wish I can see u now so I can give u a long warm hug. I sincerely don't know wat I wud have done if I were in uR shoes. however as most mamas advised, I will also say u tell ur own family all dat is happening even d most sordid details & seek a more holistic approach 2wards d infertility issue.
Also, d lie she said abt u simply shows dat dh confides in her Abt d daily happenings in ur home & she is now using such info 2 her advantage. So plz guide ur speech, thoughts & emotions around dh dis period. I know its not easy.... But u must be strong!
Above all , seek God's guidance in order 2 direct ur footpath & thoughts on d best approach 2 overcome dis great challenge..[[[Ehugs]]]

@reliablejay,na dis kind thing dey make me vexooo,so a whole babe like u just decide 2 sit down n cry 4 ur husband just becos u see prostitute posing with a bastard @ 6weeks on watsup,wat if there was no watsup,now u want 2 pack out of ur beloved husband's house 4 a prostitute 2 come n cross leg n chew chicken where she did not sow.,WAKE UP GIRL!!!.let me guide u small,,(1)By crying and telling ur husband to abort d child,,u hv just recognise A and her child as ur husband's responsibility wen DNA has not proven.take note dat d only legal way a married wife should accept a child outside wedlock is via dna by ur doctor n by dat time anything can happen.(2)if u call a family meeting,u are only helping ur husband to anouce 2 d world dat he can pregnant a woman and dat u could bear children.ur husband will be very hapi,n i bet u there is no man,woman,pastor dat advice him to abort a baby dat he has seen with his eyes after waiting 4 3years instead they will just pity u n advice u 2 move on.(watch out 4 no3.)

Reliablejay when our backs are against d wall, it is not time to break d wall n run but time to stay n fight . Fight not with words but on ur knees . My dear sister though it hurts n ur heart is breaking, let it not be said of u in ur day of adversary, ur heart fainted. I speak strength to ur mind. I claim a sound mind for u . U will take d right decisions at this time. U have just witnessed d fallible nature of man . That does not mean he doesn't love u . But what u do from here will make all d difference. I speak peace to ur home . I destroy every strong hold of d strange woman upon ur hubby's heart. I knit ur hubby heart n urs together in love . Just as it was said of Queen Esther, ur husband loves u above all n are favoured in his sight . D road to recovery starts with u sis . U must forgive n fight for ur man . We all love u n our prayers are with u

@Reliablejay, please follow what mamas here have said and most importantly involve you family (Dad) cos this is not something you can handle alone.

@reliablejay, Ur husband knows very well dat u wil tell ur parent,ur parent wil never tell him 2 abort d baby,they will advice u 2 stay back or pack out.n they will be humiliated by ur husband.(4) if u pack out of d house ,d prostitute will pack into ur house,cross leg,chew chicken,drink redwine n balance in front car while u wonder in d street without even a job. ministry of women's affairs will advice women in ur shoes to; Pray! Pray!! Pray!!! (2) pls dont help him to anouce to whole dat he has a child outside by calling a family meeting ,if u do dat ,he will end up marrying d girl n raising more than one chid 4rm her.(3) if u tell ur parent,let it be 4 information not to call meeting ,else they will hate him n be fed up with d marriage.(4) Tell ur husband u are not leaving d house,dont give him reason 2 sleep outside,dont nag him.start telling him dat he is not d owner of child till ur DNA test proof it.i have alot of prostitute being put 2 shame by DNA test,n untill then anything can happen .

@Reliablejay,do u know dat ur husband is off balance now,waiting 4 u and dat prostitute to direct him, his friends will vote 4 both of u.pls try and Pick more vote by ur behaviour,be calm,be hapi ,dont threaten ur DH instead let me know u are not ready 2 scater ur marriage.i know a governor who has 4 boys outside but d wife is d first lady.Go 4 fertility test,dont deny him sexooo,God can just put a child there now.may GOD help out.AMEN.

My fellow mama's, pls can anyone help me with contact of a good gyno at Asaba

@reliablejay. Do you know that when God is directing you, he uses so many unimaginable avenues.....such is this thread where you just decide to rant but you know what we might not know you physically but we are all bond by a unique bond.....protecting ourselves n having each others back. Like you said your home as been peaceful for 3 yrs and you think shaitan will b happy despite your fertility issue.....NO, he would not. This is his doings to destroy your home please don't allow him win you. It is not was my sis....but the battle is beyond you.....seek Allah's help to fight this, do this desperately and please involve not ur family yet. Very soon your children will be celebrated

talltosyne:


How is bobo? God that did it b4 will also do it again. Am also TTC again

hello
sorry for quoting you but please I have a sister of 24 years going through fibroids problems and she was asked to do laparoscopic surgery cus it's safer than myomectomy surgery
I happened to bump into ur post where u stated that u did a laparoscopic surgery in Ibadan some years back, please can u give me the address and the doctor's number?
she's supposed to do it before the year runs out. thanks

2 weeks for the treatment. Had no choice with the smell o, I just wanted result [qquote author=uxman post=62703792]Pls how long did u use the therapy? And how did u control the smell from it.[/quote]

@reliablejay, mamas have sed it all... Don't allow any strange woman to kom and destroy your home, like mama fertilewomb sed, she might not be pregnant and looking for a way to dupe ur dh and tell him u caused her miscarriage.

But because she lied on u,and every lies she still have in plan to tell shall be her portion in Jesus name


See me dat m still thinking of telling dh to go outside if he is tired of waiting, i dunno if i will be able to face it if it eventually happens.

I pray that every woman that may want to use our situation to take over our dhs, may God change their direction, may our men see them as gabbage in Jesus name

May God answer us all

educonsultant:


hello
sorry for quoting you but please I have a sister of 24 years going through fibroids problems and she was asked to do laparoscopic surgery cus it's safer than myomectomy surgery
I happened to bump into ur post where u stated that u did a laparoscopic surgery in Ibadan some years back, please can u give me the address and the doctor's number?
she's supposed to do it before the year runs out. thanks

If you are in Lagos, I will give the contact of the doctor that did mine this month.

I don't even know what to say
ReliableJay, patience solves a multitude of problems.
Your husband loves you and wants this child. Don't ask him to abort because it would seem selfish especially as you are seeking for the fruit of the womb.

Tell your parents and his too.
You can't win this alone
Also know that what will be will be.
The child could be your husband's and might not be.
Be prepared for both situations.
Do not leave your house. Not now.
Not for her, not now.

missyblissy:


If you are in Lagos, I will give the contact of the doctor that did mine this month.

wow
for fibroids?
please where in Lagos

Reliablejay , hugs hugs. Pls feel free to pour out your heart here even after now. I wont say I understand your pain totally but my heart breaks for you. No need forcing dh to tell her to abort the child cos the deed has already been done. He, the other woman, your two families and others hearing this wont support it.

Let me leave you with this...
It's not over yet. God can still turn things around for your good. I would say wait and watch how things go. Pray, save, keep ttcing. But men cannot be trusted o. I have heard responsible men thinking of trying outside after several years of ttc. Some have tried and gotten children outside and re-married sef. One man I respect even said that if the wife of one man was good, she ought to encourage the husband to try outside cos they have waited for several years. What?! I weak for women that day.
Men will keep saying I love you but its we women that will keep trying to have our babies cos hmm...men ehh.
They are not the end of the world sha. Sis, hold on in faith first. If you eventually find your way out, you will go on to have a far better husband and children who will make you happy into old age. Your latter is sure to be greater.

Orney , mind yourself o with that statement about thinking of telling dh to try outside. Hmm. Don't give that 'innocent' man ideas o. After, u go turn round blame am.

Reliablejay, it's so sad what women have to go through in addition to Ttc, sabi mamas have said a lot of things, I pray God gives you the wisdom to handle this, and help u come out victorious. Stay strong dear.

Please mamas,i seriously need a tradomedical person for my hubby, one that can deal with men issues. Location is Lagos please, no jump and pass o .thanks..

yettybaby112:
Good morning fruitful mamas ,something strange happened to me last night immediately after bding, this severe pain started like never before, it was just like the hsg test pain( if not even more), I was feeling vein pulling on my entire pelvic region, vaginal, back and anus pulling. I couldn't stand nor move at all up till this morning.
I Dont know if any mama knows what that could be.
N.B :diagnosed with pcos( I have tried metformin &m2tone for over 3months), irregular AF, currently on vitex & folic acid, CD over 80

I think it's ovulation pain. I used to have it. Excruciating pain that will even make me scared to move. Throbbing/pulling pain around the anus, vjay, lower abdomen on one side. Doesn't last more than a day or 2.

Good evening mamas
Happy Sunday

Adejuve I pmed u it didn't go through.
Good evening happymummy!
Goodevening everyone

Janix2:
Adejuve I pmed u it didn't go through.
Good evening happymummy!
Goodevening everyone

Koyoh

happymummy:


Koyoh

Ihon dear