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What I Did When My Wife Refused My Sexual Advancement For 7 Months / “My wife denies me my sexual rights”, husband tells court / Is My Sexual Preference Unholy? (2) (3) (4)
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Re: My Sexual Experience by benabbey(m): 7:21am On Nov 30, 2017 |
mukhcech: I don't really understand what you mean but I think forum like this allow you to sample various opinion and share knowledge. Religious society have done a lot of damages by not openly discuss sex among themselves. Everybody cover it as if nobody is doing it yet we have 7 billion people on earth which is a result of seven billion intercourse. 6 Likes |
Re: My Sexual Experience by Acidosis(m): 7:23am On Nov 30, 2017 |
Your wife's low sexual drive has nothing to do with her religious beliefs. It is one of those lies we tell ourselves to encourage promiscuity. Every human being with the right hormones have the tendency to like sex. If she does not like sex, then her hormone is not right. Christianity does not curtail sexual hormones. What Christianity preaches is control over sexual hormones when you find yourself in difficult and tempting situations. Pastors have sex, and that's why some of them even cheat! So what type of Christianity prevents your wife from having adequate sex? As you can see, it is the "Christianity" some posters formulated in their heads. To the real issue, a lot of physiological factors are involved. It could also be a result of what her mom and all those grannies did back in the days (mutilation) in the name of omigwo. You should also discuss with your wife her sexual history? It is very important at this stage. I know you need a quick way out of this, but be very careful and know that everything that seems good has hidden disadvantages. What if you find a good kisser and a tigress in bed and she ends up cheating on you? What if you find a woman that has terrible and uncontrollable urge for sex? I advise you to mold your woman the way you want her to act. Finding an already molded sex tigress comes with plenty disadvantages too. So don't feel inadequate. Ask her questions, try to understand the reasons behind those things she dislike. Like you said, she's perfect in other aspects, that's a plus! You see this se x thing, we will all get tired someday. Unlike the food we take in daily, a lot of married folks will tell you that they spend a month, even two months without sex and they're fine. 15 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Sexual Experience by Nobody: 7:24am On Nov 30, 2017 |
smulti: Lies from the very PIT OF HELL. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sexual Experience by Nobody: 7:34am On Nov 30, 2017 |
sisisioge: Gospel according to sisioge. Get married to that guy browsing you now what are you waiting for? OP, you seem to be answering questions on behalf of your wife but this is wrong. If you are pleasing her there's no way she will refuse you, check yourself. 1 Like |
Re: My Sexual Experience by Nobody: 7:38am On Nov 30, 2017 |
smulti: How would you urinate? 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sexual Experience by Nobody: 7:40am On Nov 30, 2017 |
benabbey: You de pretend |
Re: My Sexual Experience by Acidosis(m): 7:41am On Nov 30, 2017 |
Pidgin2:via his mouth 2 Likes |
Re: My Sexual Experience by idu1(m): 7:41am On Nov 30, 2017 |
Go marry another wife |
Re: My Sexual Experience by smulti(m): 7:57am On Nov 30, 2017 |
Pidgin2: God would've made a provision for that while withholding sexual organ until wedding day |
Re: My Sexual Experience by sisisioge: 8:00am On Nov 30, 2017 |
Pidgin2: You this Warri girl, I know you would get it wrong I won't even explain 1 Like |
Re: My Sexual Experience by sisisioge: 8:06am On Nov 30, 2017 |
Acidosis: Pastor Jazi, the point is for all low, medium and high sex drivers to simply marry their counterparts. That way, the issue of marital wahala that stems out of sexual incompatibility will be highly curtailed. Does that not make some sense to the bluest nose? |
Re: My Sexual Experience by smulti(m): 8:39am On Nov 30, 2017 |
** So what type of Christianity prevents your wife from having adequate sex? As you can see, it is the "Christianity" some posters formulated in their heads.** the above quote is an avoidable circumstances if they had sort to discover their sexuality preference before tying the knot I'm a Roman Catholic, the pioneer of Christianity, intending couple are advised to discover each others weaknesses before they are joined together as husband & wife Op predicament is an avoidable one if he had taken the right steps Acidosis . 3 Likes |
Re: My Sexual Experience by Jakasibo(m): 8:49am On Nov 30, 2017 |
pussygotlips:Energizers like?? |
Re: My Sexual Experience by Jakasibo(m): 8:50am On Nov 30, 2017 |
pussygotlips:Energizers like...? |
Re: My Sexual Experience by Wetlink: 9:03am On Nov 30, 2017 |
This is a very sensitive issue. Your wife might have had some very ugly opinion about sex while she was single. People develop this hatred for sex just so they can avoid pre-marital sex. The problem now arises when they cannot change that mindset after marriage... I believe this is where your wife is, at the moment. If you truly believe in the sanctity of marriage, you will need to put in a lot of love into your marriage instead of the pressure you are putting in (e.g reporting her to family members). The more love you show her the more she loves you and I believe a woman who have grown to love and trust her husband will be open to him... That way, she might be able on her own even without you asking, tell you what it is she fears about sex. She could have been a victim of some sort of sexual assault in the past, who knows? My point is, you need to get to the root of the matter and the love you pour on her can get you there faster. 6 Likes |
Re: My Sexual Experience by smulti(m): 9:13am On Nov 30, 2017 |
jusRadical:Can you respond intelligently with fact regards to Op's predicaments . |
Re: My Sexual Experience by Nobody: 9:20am On Nov 30, 2017 |
smulti: Satan sees not the truth. 1 Like |
Re: My Sexual Experience by smulti(m): 9:33am On Nov 30, 2017 |
jusRadical:I won't trade words with you, trust me. |
Re: My Sexual Experience by Acidosis(m): 10:24am On Nov 30, 2017 |
sisisioge: There is no such thing as sexual compatibility, or let me say I don't believe in that term. I believe in sexual growth as no individual is born to have good or bad sex. We are all born virgins, so when we talk about compatibility, we make it sound like "sexual destiny". Sexual satisfaction for me is earned through efforts, not finding a "compatible" sexual partner. How do one find a compatible partner without turning a h o e or contracting stds in the process? What if you love someone you're not "sexually compatible" with? Linking sexual compatibility or sexual destiny to sexual satisfaction is detrimental not only to partners but the moral values of an entire generation. Compatibility isn't something you have, so you can't find it too. It is something we make, in a procedural way, one that you negotiate as you go along. That you like sex today doesn't mean we will like it forever. We have seen some sexual tigress lose that vibe after a baby. So it needs continuous negotiations. I believe the society should teach people how to attain sexual satisfaction, not how to find/locate a "sexually compatible" partner. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sexual Experience by Nobody: 10:37am On Nov 30, 2017 |
Re: My Sexual Experience by Gloriagee(f): 10:51am On Nov 30, 2017 |
Hey bro, can u tell us if u have any fun with ur wife? Do u make her laugh? As a woman, i can only tell u that sex doesn't start that second ure on the bed. its an atmosphere u build up all thru the day. U've got to overlook some of her faults , chat with her in the kitchen n just generally bond with her. Try and inculcate talking to ur wife bout ur issues rather than escalating them to her folks. if indeed ure right that she has sexual hang ups, y do u think that reporting her to her family is the right way to go. She most likely would rather act like shes not having sex so i'm not surprised that u have reported her to her parent, Brother and Uncle without any change. Are you the type of guy that ogles every well endowed lady or forever watching porn as all these are mood killers as she may feel ure comparing her body with theirs and seeing her body shortfalls. N though this is not a popular option - bro, pray bout it. it helps. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sexual Experience by Divine67: 10:51am On Nov 30, 2017 |
Well Bros there will be no family with out endurance. Every human being has his/her own weakness. No one is totally perfect. If you like divorce, And you will still find error in the next you will marry. Even those who had sex from their child hood still have their cases, some divorced and etc. As you Continue trying don't allow devil to destroy your family |
Re: My Sexual Experience by sisisioge: 11:06am On Nov 30, 2017 |
Acidosis: Oh dear! I can't believe Acidiosis wrote this. You just shocked me dude...it is well 1 Like |
Re: My Sexual Experience by oneolajire(m): 11:44am On Nov 30, 2017 |
Read books on Internet on raise a woman's libido. Try find our what turns her on. Seems you just bump into sex, cos you are always turned on. You are always ready when she is rarely ready. It may be her weakness, or she has wrong orientation towards sex. She is a course/project you need to study and work on if you want to succeed. Get food/fruits that can turn her on too, food that can increase her libido. Sometimes take sex leave without notifying her. Stay days/few weeks off sex and see the demand from her at the slightest touch . Every man can live without sex (it is only a fallacy that men can't do without sex). Your family is your first constituency, work out its success. Seems you are a Christian, focus on your Jesus when sex from your wife is there or not. Stop reporting her. |
Re: My Sexual Experience by Taal17: 1:45pm On Nov 30, 2017 |
benabbey: You should have gone through adequate marriage counselling which includes talking about sexual intimacy Your wife's reluctance or disinterest in sex are not related to obedience to no premarital sex Obedience is a sacrifice not a chain Stop 'reporting' her to her relatives you will just make her resent you. I mean she doesn't even want to kiss you..this is DEEPER than you think and it's not about you. She needs to get help, sex is intimacy and in marriage it's like glue. Research pschologists that deal with sex. Let her see that you want her to get help FIRST for her own benefit because you are HER FRIEND not just her husband In fact consider contacting the lady that writes for Punch Saturdays on sex matters or email praise fowowe. Note not every counsellor can handle sexual matters especially because there can be a unknown sexual abuse cause. 1 Like |
Re: My Sexual Experience by Dlionsheart: 3:00pm On Nov 30, 2017 |
benabbey: Right on point bro thumbs up 1 Like |
Re: My Sexual Experience by benabbey(m): 4:55pm On Nov 30, 2017 |
Acidosis: What a fine argument I find it difficult to pick a hole in the premises and the conclusion Sexual growth lovely one. I will also call it sexual evolution. A man may be more sexually evolved than his wife. The man may have to wait patiently for the wife to evolve Perfect 4 Likes |
Re: My Sexual Experience by Acidosis(m): 5:13pm On Nov 30, 2017 |
smulti: First, Christianity does not encourage anyone to discover sexual weaknesses in bed. I can't understand the exact passage of the Roman Catholic book you got that from.. However I'm sure that isn't in the Bible. If OP met his wife a virgin, then there is really no way he could have understood her weakness before the first sex; unless of course another type of Christianity encourages the breaking of hymen before wedding. Most virgins don't even understand their own body so don't expect any valid answer when you ask a virgin about her s.exual preference. When Pastors begin to ask unmarried singles their sexual preferences, then know that the world would soon end. It doesn't mean they don't discuss and advise good sex. That's the best they can do (advise!), they won't force anyone's dckk into an unwilling home. 3 Likes |
Re: My Sexual Experience by pussygotlips: 6:00pm On Nov 30, 2017 |
Dlionsheart:I couldn't reply your pm, hope all is well? |
Re: My Sexual Experience by Nobody: 6:09pm On Nov 30, 2017 |
smulti:By your interpretation anybody dat hasn't had sex before marriage can't enjoy marital sex? 1 Like |
Re: My Sexual Experience by braincool(m): 6:25pm On Nov 30, 2017 |
Asexuality, kind of a psychological thing 1 Like |
Re: My Sexual Experience by smulti(m): 6:27pm On Nov 30, 2017 |
Acidosis: Op.. kindly answer this question if truly you meet your wife a virgin then you need to be patient with her to master the skills of other room ..biko cc benabbey . |
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