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Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Antoeni(m): 10:31pm On Dec 11, 2017 |
MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR SMALL BOYS! !!!!!! I used to interpret the saying "Marriage is not for small boys" to mean small boys in terms of age, until I visited a female mentor that has been in marriage for 47 years. I asked, so what is the secret of your over 47 years in marriage? Beaming, she retorted; My son, the expectations you bring into marriage will either spell its doom or success. I married my husband without expectations of enjoying his money or buying cars for me, but with time, my patience, hard work and God-fearing attitude yielded results of getting cars, houses, taking care of our children and all that. You see, if a married lady keeps on nagging in the house, she pushes the spirit of her husband from the home. If you make the man unhappy, you make the house uncomfortable. So, I married without high expectations from my husband but simply to make him happy always. Yes, for the past 47 years, I would be the first to get up from bed and the last to go back to bed. I bath the kids, do devotions with them, prepare breakfast for my husband and boil hot water for him to bath. I iron his clothes he would take to work, kiss him and wish him the best in his daily endeavours. I asked my old woman, so then what does the man do in return? She laughed all heart and hearty and replied; You see, this is the mistake you young ones make in marriage. YOU DO SOMETHING FOR YOUR HUSBAND OR WIFE AND EXPECT SAME REWARD FROM HIM OR HER, THIS IS WRONG! When it becomes your attitude to only please your husband or wife always, the other person responds naturally. Indeed, if nothing touches the palm tree, it doesn't rattle. She continued, my son, never carry "how rich or poor your family is" into marriage. After all, you knew very well the status of your family and decided to marry that man or woman. Love only compels/leads would-be couples into marriage but it doesn't sustain marriage. Rather, understanding, patience, communication and most importantly, forgiveness sustain every marriage. High expectations are the symptoms of divorce in marriages. Sometimes you hear, I want to marry a mother, a business partner, God fearing person etc. You cannot get all your expectations in one person. With time and depending on your relationship, you may get some. So minimise your expectations in marriage. To cut the long story short, as too many cooks spoil the broth, she concluded on the mistakes a couple should resist at all cost in marriage: 1) Never say you have made your wife or husband somebody from a nobody. It hurts. God only used you as an agent for transformation, give the glory to God. 2) Let the man be head of the home no matter the financial, economic, physical and emotional health situation prevailing in the couple's life whilst the woman exercises diligence in the use of the tongue. 3) Having children should not be the ultimate objective in marriage. They are given to enhance your marriage. When God delays in giving you a child, have every reason to live a happy marital life. 4) Sex is a major morale booster after a hard day's stressful life. Try to be sexual beings and not "Angels" in that marriage 5) Resort to God often and less to men to solve your marital disputes. 6) Let the women " Make up" their characters much more than they make up their body. Indeed, marriage is not for small boys because small boys struggle to forgive, demand everything speedily, lack the patience to wait, have so many friends etc. Make every effort to let that marriage work and may God help us. Kindly Share to Bless Others Written by @Isaac Owolabi #IsaacoMedia Nice reading!!! 9 Likes 2 Shares
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Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Nobody: 10:37pm On Dec 11, 2017 |
I'm scared of marriage..
can i ever settle down?
Its still unclear.. |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by habsydiamond(m): 10:38pm On Dec 11, 2017 |
this is what I call Oro Agba.....that's what most of our women will say whenever they have any disagreement with their husband.....if not for me the won't be here...or I suffered with him so much, or I did a lot in his life .....this kinds of words does not go well with men...na some women mouth dey pursue them for them husbands' house.... |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Nobody: 10:41pm On Dec 11, 2017 |
cant wait to get married |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by ThefemaleKing: 10:46pm On Dec 11, 2017 |
This is awesome. Very insightful. |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Nobody: 12:33am On Dec 12, 2017 |
So now there's a concoction for LONGER MARRIAGE LIFE eeehn.. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by pu7pl3(m): 12:49am On Dec 12, 2017 |
DrinkLimca: You na sEer now u go done see am by now |
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Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Nobody: 12:52am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Beautiful |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Gofwane(m): 3:07am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Emeraldgist1:ok, let's get married tomorrow |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by free2ryhme: 5:34am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Emeraldgist1: And you can't find it on nairaland |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by sirusX(m): 6:38am On Dec 12, 2017 |
IamKashyBaby:True that life had no defined template, but an understanding of what is required to navigate through is what matters. In our individuality, one needs to find out what works for them and their home, and they should always strive to be better than how they were yesterday |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by TheKINGSLAYER(m): 6:48am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Emeraldgist1:that's great....am ready, are you?? remember the op's words o. |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Nobody: 7:57am On Dec 12, 2017 |
TheKINGSLAYER: i never ready still young o |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Nobody: 7:58am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Nobody: 7:59am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Gofwane(m): 8:08am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Emeraldgist1:time waits for no one. All that matters is the luv we have for each other. |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Nobody: 8:10am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Gofwane(m): 8:14am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Emeraldgist1:the one we shared even before coming to earth. We were so in love |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Nobody: 8:16am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Gofwane: eehhh u and who uncle?..... |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Gofwane(m): 8:21am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Emeraldgist1:uncle? So you are now calling me uncle? When you were busy chopping my money you didn't know i was your uncle. Abi? |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Nobody: 8:23am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Gofwane: ah which kind uncle sef be dz......which money i chop?ehn uncle go and sleep |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by roarik(f): 8:24am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Interesting |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Gofwane(m): 8:30am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Emeraldgist1:ok let's go to the other room and sleep together. |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Nobody: 8:35am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Gofwane(m): 8:45am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Emeraldgist1:don't worry just follow me i will take you there |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Nobody: 8:46am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Gofwane: i dont follow someone to a place i dont knw |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by TheManofTomorrow(m): 9:00am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Emeraldgist1:You know he is teasing you. Boring girl |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Nobody: 9:18am On Dec 12, 2017 |
I will marry Evaberry next month, come and beat me |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Nobody: 9:19am On Dec 12, 2017 |
TheManofTomorrow: ah lively uncle u must be ..... TheManofTomorrow: ah lively uncle u must be ..... |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Gofwane(m): 9:32am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Emeraldgist1:you seem like a lady still in her teens. How old are you? |
Re: Marriage Is Not For Small Boys! !!!!!! by Nobody: 9:39am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Gofwane: #smile#.....and who told u am a teen...nt a teen o Gofwane: #smile#.....and who told u am a teen...nt a teen o 1 Like |
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