fayahsoul:

To avoid misoverstandings that stem from semantics when we speak in a false tongue(english), it is important to frame a question as clearly as possible.

Dignity has a political and ethical dimension. The former deals with the human rights of underdogs and therefore sees dignity as determined by societal norms while the latter deals with virtues(self-respect, autonomy, self-esteem etc) which are an attribbute of the individual.

From an ethical dimension, dignity is independent of the level of formal education attained. In fact, it's undignified 4 an afurakan to take pride in attending these eurocentric schools that turn-out grads who are conformists and slavishly cooperative with western agenda. Where are the intellectual revolutionaries? Besides, we had a concept of dignity in pre-modern times.

As for self-hating chicken heads who put a price on the temple of God(their body), what I will say for now is that the means justifies the means. [color=#990000]Note also that prostitution comes in other forms like working for crumbs or having a boss. A slave, whether well paid or underpaid, is still a slave and one is a slave if one lacks autonomy.

I rather be a lion in the jungle than a dog in the city![/color] 

Theblessed:

Well, having read most of the commentaries regarding this aristos (whatever that meant). 
For all I know, the world is not a fair place - GOOD GIRLS' DON'T MAKE IT, BAD GIRLS' DO AND THEY USUALLY END UP WITH THE BEST! This is because, men generally like excitements and prepared to spend time and money for it.  Therefore, women who understand this and are prepared to give up their dignity and swim along are sure to catch the fattest worm.  Afterall, if not for curiosity and excitement why are very rich men with beautiful wives at home pay thousands of pounds for a minute shot on fun, huh!!  Would you want to be married to such men?  No, I'd rather be lonely and happy on my own than miserable in a marriage like this. Yes, we all have different values - some women would ignore such behaviour and stay in the marriage as long as money keeps flowing their way however, independent women like myself would flip and kick his URGLY A-S.  I am not 'a die in a marriage at all cost type' as I'm happy to answer my maiden name any time afterall, I am still my father's daughter, marriage or not, abi What't the heck if marriage wouldn't work?   Because, a rich man, wouldn't give a tosh and most of them don' care if they have wives at home or not and are prepared to fund these women in a like it or lump it manner.  They say DEMAND triggers SUPPLY and would I blame the single aristos girls for wanting a head in life?  No, I blame the men mainly married ones among them for paying attention to these ladies.  A prostitute is a prostitute.  It does not matter which Armani they decorated themselves with?  They are every man's woman - rich and poor, truck pushers, sh-t packers and all, it does not matter.  To them, what matters are, shine the dosh and, they go, go! 
To me, no truely decent guy would touch such women with a badge pole but how many of you guys on here can truely swear decency let alone men with money who could do as they pleases - IT'S ALL ABOUT POWER, people! 

I think nigerian gloomy economy has put a high percentage our women into alot of calamities in the name of education.

I tell you is not only ARISTOS that have taken a good sample of our brides-to-be in the name of getting a mean of survival. many PROFESSORS and LECTURERS have also contributed considerably in devalueing our tomorrow's wives in the name of awarding good grades.

These girls generally believe getting a degree is automatic to making it in life only to be faced with problems of unemployment after graduation and the harassment continues with employers.

Invariably, many ladies become used to using this "power of the buttom" to find their ways and the process continues. Really, I believe self dignity is important while not jeopardising eduaction. mind you, the education doesnt necessarily have to formal or a degree education.

we're in trouble. Cry

The roof is not just leaking anymore, it's been completely removed.

from buying WAEC questions, to sleeping with lecturers for grades, and now prostituting to earn a degree. What else after degree? A mother and wife who'd prolly sleep with father in law to keep her marriage if need be. As it's also very acceptable to use all avenues to keep your marriage, isn't it?

are we going to simply keep looking, move on like if this cancer will not affect us or our kids?

Get rich quick mentality, greed, materialism, low moral standards, lack of ambition and drive. . .
These are just some of the reasons why more and more girls are into aristo runs, whoever said they do it to get through school obviously doesnt know anything. They'r greedy and feel the need to "fit in" by buyin expensive clothing and all the other stuff that are clearly beyond their means, some of them even come from well to do homes, but stiill want more
It is not only university girls that are involved, women in the corporate world as well, lot of them even married!!
Afterall there are very beautiful young girls who still take up low paying but decent jobs in eatries or whatever jus to see them selves through school, those aristo girls are jus a filthy and greedy bunch, did you know that alot of them employ fetish means to get and hold the attention of some of their "clients"?

what bullshit, perhaps boys from poor backgrounds should go into armed robbery to fund their education as well.

the long and short of it IMHO is that they are women who have decided to use their bodies as a source of financial aggrandizement , and you can bet they will continue to do it when they graduate, albeit in a more refined setting, there are plenty of high ranking women in corporate nigeria whose only marketable skills are toggling the MDs staff of office.



nigerians are way too found of using their circumstances as an excuse for any kind of reprehensible behavior.

FL Gators:

My education is my priority, and that, is my dignity.

JJYOU:

there is dignity in labour.

fayahsoul:

I knew someone would come back with that one.

Yes there's dignity in labour; however, the set  of rules(whether internalized or imposed) and established avenues through which an individuals' labour input can be used to acquire stuff determines if the work is dignified or not.

Example: Prostitution is also labour but just because it is labour does not mean that it's dignified.

Example: If someone cannot own their labour by having the power to determine(with full discretion) where, when and how much energy to expend  and  also be the sole beneficiary of the rewards from energy input, then that labour is not dignified since the worker lacks autonomy. Any form of labour that is done under externally imposed set of rules and proceedures that determines, among things, when your labour is needed, how it must applied and how much it's worth, is not dignified. Ever wonder why christ, buddah, krishna and other moral authorities did not have bosses?

So There is an intervening variable between labour and dignity.

Don't just focus on the action of labour on its own; consider also the underlying social structure in which it is embedded.

nezerst:

How do u define a LovePeddler?
WHETHER U R 4KING FOR LOVE OR FOR MONEY, THERE IS ALWAYS A GIVE N TAKE
TAKIING PLACE.
ME I FEEL SAY IF U WAN DO,MAKE U DO WETIN GO YIELD RESULT LIKE MONEY N DEGREE NO BE TO DE DO OSHOFRI COME DEY JUDGE PEPLE.

nezerst:

How do u define a LovePeddler?
WHETHER U R 4KING FOR LOVE OR FOR MONEY, THERE IS ALWAYS A GIVE N TAKE
TAKIING PLACE.
ME I FEEL SAY IF U WAN DO,MAKE U DO WETIN GO YIELD RESULT LIKE MONEY N DEGREE NO BE TO DE DO OSHOFRI COME DEY JUDGE PEPLE.

~Lady~:

I'll take my dignity anyday. My university degree won't stand before God for me, but with my dignity I can.

Also I can marry a man with a univeristy degree.

nezerst:

What is good n what is bad. I am d one who is going to pay for d consequences of my actions.
People always have there reasons for doin whatever(even though it doesnt make a wrong action righ). So dnt be so quick 2 judge.
@George, u no well. I no dey do anything oh.

lonelygem:
Many times, I crack my skull as to the genesis of the points most of our so called aristos (undergraduate prostitutes) make when they are caught in the act, some claim to go into prostitution to enable them secure their university degree, the question that bother ones mind is, 'what happen after the degree has been secured?' in due honesty, should a woman damn her dignity for the academic degrees? what about the future consequences, does Our country University degrees worth 'do or die'? what would you do as a woman if you find yourself in a financial instability in pursuance of your academic degrees? how would you advise the younger ones? should they let go their dignities for University degrees or the degrees for woman dignity.

women in the house, your response would be appreciated!

Lillyane:
Email me @Lillyeneogwe@yahoo.com or you chat me up on fb(Linda Eneogwe)

lonelygem:


I replied your mail immediately I got it. you may chat me up on Whatsapp 08062988830