After explaining how things are to my brother his statement is THAT I SHOULD SORT MYSELF OUT IT HURTS because I SACRIFICED ALOT 4 THEM AS THEIR ELDER SISTER:i think its wickedness:because if u cant assist talk nicely:NOBODY KNOWS TOMORROW:

amprat:

I would have agreed with you if he was taking care of his mother at least and I would have agreed If we call him for help, but he is the one that just suddenly calls out of the blues,asking questions about how far you've gone in life like a monitoring spirit, then starts making promises you didn't ask for, like I'll get you another job, I have the connections, you should develop your talents I'll talk to someone blah blah blah .

characteristics of a cultist who has made a covenant with the devil......a condition for his blossoming wealth.Might be using the destiny of his sibblings

Rubbiish:

Oga shut up!!!
Stop trying so hard to justify evil
People quoted that guy because he included parents
Your parents took care of u when were young, it is your duty to take care of them when they get old...Neglecting one's parent at old age is sheer wickedness, it has nothing to do with entitlement mentality, It only shows what your heart is made of.
No man with a good heart will neglect his parents at old age...
There are certain things we should do for our parents, they are not even debateable...

You can as well choose not to bury your parents...Ingrate!!!

Who has stopped you from burying your parents?

Mrkumareze:
Op you should first check yourself and your mom very well to ascertain the spirit of hatred living within. The young man in question may wish to help but things turns around whenever he wants to carry out that promise. I was once a victim, whenever I have at heart to help certain person's my financial system crumbles until I decided to let them go.

Sir i think u are the one who first need to check your source of wealth, not your siblings.
God will never give u money u can't use to help those around u...Check yourself sir...

Reasonabledoubt:


Who has stopped you from burying your parents?

Brother fvck off!!!
Your are senseless & foolish
I Pray none of your kind exist in family

it's either his wife is controlling him or dat's d covenant he entered to become rich"not to render help to family pple".....
because no matter hw stingy u re, u can't abandon ur parents. .......
leave him and hustle for urself and take care of ur parents......dat's life for u....

Reasonabledoubt:


Bleep you! I will train kids with the intent that they will be self sufficient adults, and at same time plan my retirement. They are not my retirement plan.

Unlike like most of the retards in this country, procreation shouldn’t be a sport. If you had a lick of sense, you will plan for it.

God forbid that I become a liability to my children, they will give me coz they love me, not coz I will die of hunger if they don’t.

With your poverty mentality, you shouldn’t get married, all your kind do, is aid poverty.

If only procreation was regulated in Nigeria, then you will understand the privilege of having children.

Bleep you and all the other idiots that go on a birthing spree, without proper planning.

Ingrate!!!!
It takes a good heart to reciprocate good
You think it apply to your parents alone?
Your likes are the type that taunt those who helped them...

Rubbiish:

Brother fvck off!!!
Your are senseless & foolish
I Pray none of your kind exist in family

Rolling my eyes* you are quite daft. I wonder where in my post I said you should not assist your family. But I know your kind. Lazy ass bum. Leech!

Don’t go and work hard, your family members that are making money have 3 heads.
It’s your kind that will gossip and discuss all your wicked uncles and aunties that have money but refused to help you, like say na your right.

If they don’t exist you will die abi? Bleep you, retard!

Follysho707:


Gender-Bias again... The OP was sensitive enough to include both gender OR you could have said 'siblings'. You see dis world sef... why does the bad person has to be a guy sha. ? Ha, na wa ooo...

What's the gender bias here?The main subject here is the brother..... a he.

Rubbiish:

Ingrate!!!!
It takes a good heart to reciprocate good
You think it apply to your parents alone?
Your likes are the type that taunt those who helped them...

I am quite exasperated. To be an ingrate, don’t you have to have refused to show gratitude for something?

What have you done for me that I failed to be grateful for oga?

I don’t expect help from people, in whatever I do, I hope on no one. I plan my life based on me alone.

My family is one where everyone is self sufficient, when we come together to do anything, it is not out of obligation. We do it because we want to.

Emancipate yourself and your generation from mental poverty. Don’t be such a dunce!

It's a pity to read how some of us are supporting a family member that refused to help his family. If he cannot help his siblings, why neglecting your mother that sacrificed to train you to become who you are? Had it been there was no input from the family in terms of educational training, I would have agreed. But your mother and siblings you grew up and suffered with, you neglected them. Remember to whom much is given, much is expected. He has no excuse not to support his family.

Reasonabledoubt:



Rolling my eyes* you are quite daft. I wonder where in my post I said you should not assist your family. But I know your kind. Lazy ass bum. Leech!

Don’t go and work hard, your family members that are making money have 3 heads.
It’s your kind that will gossip and discuss all your wicked uncles and aunties that have money but refused to help you, like say na your right.

If they don’t exist you will die abi? Bleep you, retard!

I know your kind
You don't even know me...
You are digressing including uncle & aunties, which i never included
I am calling u a fool because if u think it is not your duty to take care of your parents who passed through alot to care of a senseless ingrate like u, then i can say satan is just few steps from u...
Because u have one or two kids now mean they should neglect u when u get old?
No be comedian i go die build mansion for him mama? Is that not like a man like u?
No be skales build house for him mama?
Honestly i sorry for your parents, i can imagine what they are going through
No human would wanna have an ingrate like u for a child
FOOLISH INGRATE....

Rubbiish:

I know your kind
You don't even know me...
You are digressing including uncle & aunties, which i never included
I am calling u a fool because if u think it is not your duty to take care of your parents who passed through alot to care of a senseless ingrate like u, then i can say satan is just few steps from u...
Because u have one or two kids now mean they should neglect u when u get old?
No be comedian i go die build mansion for him mama? Is that not like a man like u?
No be skales build house for him mama?
Honestly i sorry for your parents, i can imagine what they are going through
No human would wanna have an ingrate like u for a child
FOOLISH INGRATE....

Well. My parents don’t need me to build them a mansion. I will build my mansions, my kids don’t need to build me these mansions.

My parents did not pass through a lot to train me, they planned for me, they know it was their responsibility. My father is of this mindset too. He drums this into our heads.

I will not make my children hawk, and suffer with them, train them, them blackmail them with my ineptitude later.

They will come when I can afford them, I will be grateful to God for giving me the privilege of parenthood, so I will make sure that they will not have to become adults overnight because they are hustling with me. They won’t grow up thinking I did them a favor.

While doing this, I will be planning my old age. So that they won’t have to shoulder the responsibility of their homes, my own home, and that of their siblings.

They won’t have to keep jobs that they hate because they have to pay my rent and theirs.

They will be free to pursue their dreams, and take risks, discover themselves because they know I won’t be calling to ask them to pay up, for bringing them into this world.

I will have children that will actually get to live, not exist, and they will pass this down to their own generation.

Reasonabledoubt:


Well. My parents don’t need me to build them a mansion. I will build my mansions, my kids don’t need to build me these mansions.

My parents did not pass through a lot to train me, they planned for me, they know it was their responsibility. My father is of this mindset too. He drums this into our heads.

I will not make my children hawk, and suffer with them, train them, them blackmail them with my ineptitude later.

They will come when I can afford them, I will be grateful to God for giving me the privilege of parenthood, so I will make sure that they will not have to become adults overnight because they are hustling with me. They won’t grow up thinking I did them a favor.

While doing this, I will be planning my old age. So that they won’t have to shoulder the responsibility of their homes, my own home, and that of their siblings.

They won’t have to keep jobs that they hate because they have to pay my rent and theirs.

They will be free to pursue their dreams, and take risks, discover themselves because they know I won’t be calling to ask them to pay up, for bringing them into this world.

I will have children that will actually get to live, not exist, and they will pass this down to their own generation.

Yeah....Because life is a movie & u are God directing it?
Do you know how many people are bed ridden now who never thought it could happen as last year?
Do u know there are certain illness that comes with old age?
You bigger fool than i thought, u are more of a spoilt brat...I pray u see the other side of life...

Rubbiish:

Sir i think u are the one who first need to check your source of wealth, not your siblings.
God will never give u money u can't use to help those around u...Check yourself sir...

My dear no bad intention meant, am telling you the fact. They are people when you plan to help them things turns around . The moment you forget about helping them everything gets normal. Don't just blame your brother in this situation check yourself well. I can repeat it again.

Reasonabledoubt:


Well. My parents don’t need me to build them a mansion. I will build my mansions, my kids don’t need to build me these mansions.

My parents did not pass through a lot to train me, they planned for me, they know it was their responsibility. My father is of this mindset too. He drums this into our heads.

I will not make my children hawk, and suffer with them, train them, them blackmail them with my ineptitude later.

They will come when I can afford them, I will be grateful to God for giving me the privilege of parenthood, so I will make sure that they will not have to become adults overnight because they are hustling with me. They won’t grow up thinking I did them a favor.

While doing this, I will be planning my old age. So that they won’t have to shoulder the responsibility of their homes, my own home, and that of their siblings.

They won’t have to keep jobs that they hate because they have to pay my rent and theirs.

They will be free to pursue their dreams, and take risks, discover themselves because they know I won’t be calling to ask them to pay up, for bringing them into this world.

I will have children that will actually get to live, not exist, and they will pass this down to their own generation.

I think I this point you should stop replying these emotional thinking monikers. They would never understand what you saying.

Rubbiish:

Yeah....Because life is a movie & u are God directing it?
Do you know how many people are bed ridden now who never thought it could happen as last year?
Do u know there are certain illness that comes with old age?
You bigger fool than i thought, u are more of a spoilt brat...I pray u see the other side of life...

Maybe if we stopped waiting for God to do everything, things will get better in this country.

To each his own.

Not one single insult from Reasonabledoubt. Articulately presented.

I may not agree with everything he's said but he's laid out his points. Completely void of emotions but straight to the heart.

Maybe his mindset will change when kids start coming in, cos, you know life can be very funny sometimes but I got to say, he is trying to be his own man.

careytommy7:


I think I this point you should stop replying these emotional thinking monikers. They would never understand what you saying.

Yeah. I give up.its like beating a dead horse.

Mrkumareze:


My dear no bad intention meant, am telling you the fact. They are people when you plan to help them things turns around . The moment you forget about helping them everything gets normal. Don't just blame your brother in this situation check yourself well. I can repeat it again.

You can not help some close people if the source of your wealth is related to satan
It is the first rule for them...& u can't also use it for charity...That is why i am asking u to check yourself sir...No bad intention meant

amprat:
Do you have or know a brother or Sister,who willingly decides not to help out his siblings or parents financially despite being so rich, not caring or remembering you all suffered together, Worst is: do they let you know that they have the ability to help out but have decided they won't or they ask you to make your requests only to disappoint or stylishly insult you. I don't mean extended family members (I think that MIGHT be understandable ), I mean Immediate siblings and parents. what do you think might be the course and if you are someone who does this what are your reasons, please if you have no reasonable comments, skip (wakapass) Biko.

nigerians again with entitlement mentality

how did your brother get to where he is?
is it by magic? do you think your brother is not having challenges of his own?
are you that easy to 'help'?

or are you the type that after connection for interview fails the test, fails the interview, then grumbles about your selfish brother?

what have you done for yourself? or have you just sat back waiting for handouts?

Reasonabledoubt:



Maybe if we stopped waiting for God to do everything, things will get better in this country.

To each his own.

What has this got to do with taking care of one's parents?

Am not a fetish kinda person but am beginning to think he's into blood money and the condition for him is that he neglect his immediate family.

ur brother has join illuminati, I'm talking from experience here cos I have dem in my family. just bone dem.

Reasonabledoubt:


Yeah. I give up.its like beating a dead horse.

You dont give up. U keep drumming it. Preaching it ..shouting it until it gets into thick skulls.

Skales, i go die etc that he mentioned are frm very poor background. Davidos daddy will not wait for him to come and build him mansion. Falz daddy will not wait for him to come and huild a house or buy a car for him.

It is a childs responsibility to take care of his parent only if the parent is poor. And every parent pray dat their kids do better than them. But there are parents that their kids will never touch their feet in terms of achievememt. Exampl, Bill gates, Dangote etc.

How mamy of Abiolas children are as known as him?

It simply means plan before having kids. Dont enjoy urself (having all kinds of fun) while you are still single and didnt plan properly and expect one of ur brothers dat was more frugal and had a plan and saved to go and bring all his savings to help you when things are not longer rosy and you now had children you dis not plan for.

Plan, plan plan. If God did not make ur plan work out ,well so be it. At least you know you tried.

Children should take care of their parent but parent should at least plan for their old age. That make things better for everybody

Ishilove:

Leave song first. The dude you quoted is very selfish. I pity his family members

He might not be as selfish as you are insinuating.

My parents prayer (esp my mum) is dat may God give each and everyone of us enough dat we dont have to depend on each other. She had 8 of us ,7 of us are living

amprat:

I would have agreed with you if he was taking care of his mother at least and I would have agreed If we call him for help, but he is the one that just suddenly calls out of the blues,asking questions about how far you've gone in life like a monitoring spirit, then starts making promises you didn't ask for, like I'll get you another job, I have the connections, you should develop your talents I'll talk to someone blah blah blah .

Maybe his baba told him not to help anyone, not even his family, else his jazz will fade.

Reasonabledoubt:
He is not you father. He owes you guys nothing. If he decides to help your mum, it’s coz he wants to do so, not coz he has to.

It is the responsibility of a parent to train his/her children, so your mum did not do him or you guys a Favour by not remarrying, that was her decision.

She did her job, you people were not consulted before she decided to have you. So training you guys was not a privilege, it was her absolute responsibility.

Get your own life and stop looking at him for help, as you come this life, na so him too take come the life.

Some of you siblings expect that your older ones or the richer sibling will die for you. Make your own money. He has his own family to think of now, and besides you’re not the one working for his money, so stop feeling entitled.

Nigerians and their entitlement mentality.

I used to think like this but i realised its because im broke. I mean whats the essence of being rich when your siblings cant enjoy part of the riches? Yes,its a the mothes absolute responsibility to take care of her children. What then happens when she joins the dependent ratio? At OP, I will advice you guys to show him more love despite his cursed behaviour. Call him more, call his wife to check their welfare etc. Dont expect any change dou...just keep doing it...esp ur mom

DaudaAbu:


He might not be as selfish as you are insinuating.

My parents prayer (esp my mum) is dat may God give each and everyone of us enough dat we dont have to depend on each other. She had 8 of us ,7 of us are living

Would any of you abandon your parents in their old age? The selfishness I was referring to was prompted by his statement "it is not by force to help your mother" (paraphraising)

How old is your mom OP?
If she's less than 70years, then she can still do some work like being a nanny for young couples who are both working.
As for you and your other siblings, my advice is for you to just strive harder and face your hustle. Your brother in question can equally say none of you have ever contributed anything to his success/life so he may feel he owes you nothing.
Don't take his attitude personal, he's decided not to share his money with anyone.
Most times, help comes from unexpected quarters

Reasonabledoubt:
He is not you father. He owes you guys nothing. If he decides to help your mum, it’s coz he wants to do so, not coz he has to.

It is the responsibility of a parent to train his/her children, so your mum did not do him or you guys a Favour by not remarrying, that was her decision.

She did her job, you people were not consulted before she decided to have you. So training you guys was not a privilege, it was her absolute responsibility.

Get your own life and stop looking at him for help, as you come this life, na so him too take come the life.

Some of you siblings expect that your older ones or the richer sibling will die for you. Make your own money. He has his own family to think of now, and besides you’re not the one working for his money, so stop feeling entitled.

Nigerians and their entitlement mentality.

I used to think like this but i realised its because im broke. I mean whats the essence of being rich when your siblings cant enjoy part of the riches? Yes,its a the mothes absolute responsibility to take care of her children. What then happens when she joins the dependent ratio? At OP, I will advice you guys to show him more love despite his cursed behaviour. Call him more, call his wife to check their welfare etc. Dont expect any change dou...just keep doing it...esp ur mom