amprat:

lol, very good idea jare, just that I don't have the energy or liver , I will end up confessing before they catch me self.

Rubbiish:

Oga shut up!!!
Stop trying so hard to justify evil
People quoted that guy because he included parents
Your parents took care of u when were young, it is your duty to take care of them when they get old...Neglecting one's parent at old age is sheer wickedness, it has nothing to do with entitlement mentality, It only shows what your heart is made of.
No man with a good heart will neglect his parents at old age...
There are certain things we should do for our parents, they are not even debateable...

You can as well choose not to bury your parents...Ingrate!!!

Reasonabledoubt:


I am quite exasperated. To be an ingrate, don’t you have to have refused to show gratitude for something?

What have you done for me that I failed to be grateful for oga?

I don’t expect help from people, in whatever I do, I hope on no one. I plan my life based on me alone.

My family is one where everyone is self sufficient, when we come together to do anything, it is not out of obligation. We do it because we want to.

Emancipate yourself and your generation from mental poverty. Don’t be such a dunce!

thorpido:
Something is wrong somewhere.I hope his spouse has not turned his heart away from the family.

amprat:
people should please read the post and try to get the gist of what am saying :I haven't in anyway said he owes his siblings, maybe his mother if he so wishes, may I also inform all that I am married with kids, so is another of my siblings, another is working and earns more than 100k a month, only the last child is in university 400level,therefore my bone of contention is not we wallowing in poverty and needing his help for every and any lil thing, am just trying to understand his mindset, why promise things you won't fulfill, y call to check up on people when they mean nothing to you stay on your own Biko, why tell them you just moved into a duplex when you won't open the gate when they get there

zolapower:
guy u just gave u like for this statement ,my brother too was sorrounded by friends who foolishly advised him against his siblings as well.

delishpot:



Typical. A woman must be blamed for every wrong done by a man. If na woman abandon her family no one would blame her husband o, instead they will say she should have used wisdom to play her daughterly and sisterly role. But as it is a man zuzuing, we cant call a spade a spade again.

Gilbertase:
Ti okete ba dagba omu omo e lo ma n mu. some pple here are just funny i swear. One even said Davido cant buy stuff for his father cos he is rich. pls o, do you know thar Davido actually showers his dad with expensive gifts...wristwatches and such, even a car i think, at the man's last birthday..not because the father has ceased to be a bililonaire, but because whatever you become in this life, if you cant honor ur parents with it, you are just a vain waste. Now imagine what that same Davido will be doing for his mother!!! to those who owe their parents nothing, God bless u. To we who truly appreciate our loving financially okay parents, God bless us too, so much so we can spoil dem silly with thise blessings, not cos we owe dem, but cos we just adore and appreciate dem...yes and siblings too. I am blessed to a blessing starting with those ard me. Op, i still strongly advice that you only remember him in ur prayers, something is def not right with him, and he may harm yall, taunting you guys is enough proof that he doesnt mean well. When you keep contact with him, u are ver vulnerable to his machinations and manipulations. Cut him off and face ur lives! Cc amprat

DaudaAbu:
This is not new and in these life, you will always come across people who are like that with no reason at all.

Only dat we pray dat it not be someone close to us








Compare Eminems' "cleaning out my closet"

And Tupacs' "Dear Mama"

Rubbiish:

You can not help some close people if the source of your wealth is related to satan
It is the first rule for them...& u can't also use it for charity...That is why i am asking u to check yourself sir...No bad intention meant

Reasonabledoubt:


Bleep you! I will train kids with the intent that they will be self sufficient adults, and at same time plan my retirement. They are not my retirement plan.

Unlike like most of the retards in this country, procreation shouldn’t be a sport. If you had a lick of sense, you will plan for it.

God forbid that I become a liability to my children, they will give me coz they love me, not coz I will die of hunger if they don’t.

With your poverty mentality, you shouldn’t get married, all your kind do, is aid poverty.

If only procreation was regulated in Nigeria, then you will understand the privilege of having children.

Bleep you and all the other idiots that go on a birthing spree, without proper planning.

Mrkumareze:


It's you that knows their rules . For me I got nothing to do with Satan I believe it's you who knows their rules has something to do with them. Maybe too late By the time you realize it's the spirit of rejection in you that chases your bro away from helping you . Better go for prayers now

tifany89:

I just tire for that guy o, even saying he doesn't owe his parents anything . Mugu you owe them everything

amprat:

Yes everyone grew up together, I think it just his true nature because anytime he needs the family members like to be present at naming ceremony or introduction and those kind of stuff, he suddenly becomes friendly,calling everyone, reminding them they are all family members,making promises but once he is through he dumps everyone, won't pick calls, not even that of his mother until he needs them again . maybe we never really noticed

amprat:

Thanks, me I don't even send, coupled with the fact that the rest of us are more than united (if there's any word like that), while he might be richer it's not like we depend on him:as Yoruba ppl say, am not satisfied/filled yet but am not hungry either. I only pity mum who single handedly trained us as a young widow who refused to remarry cos of her children, I just wonder if this character is a normal and am just the one seeing it as unusual.

Stanleysteno:

na this kinda people dey get small money, then start to dey spend for girls forget their parents n siblings

Stanleysteno:

na this kinda people dey get small money, then start to dey spend for girls forget their parents n siblings

Reasonabledoubt:


Well. My parents don’t need me to build them a mansion. I will build my mansions, my kids don’t need to build me these mansions.

My parents did not pass through a lot to train me, they planned for me, they know it was their responsibility. My father is of this mindset too. He drums this into our heads.

I will not make my children hawk, and suffer with them, train them, them blackmail them with my ineptitude later.

They will come when I can afford them, I will be grateful to God for giving me the privilege of parenthood, so I will make sure that they will not have to become adults overnight because they are hustling with me. They won’t grow up thinking I did them a favor.

While doing this, I will be planning my old age. So that they won’t have to shoulder the responsibility of their homes, my own home, and that of their siblings.

They won’t have to keep jobs that they hate because they have to pay my rent and theirs.

They will be free to pursue their dreams, and take risks, discover themselves because they know I won’t be calling to ask them to pay up, for bringing them into this world.

I will have children that will actually get to live, not exist, and they will pass this down to their own generation.

careytommy7:


I think I this point you should stop replying these emotional thinking monikers. They would never understand what you saying.

Reasonabledoubt:


Ode! I’m not from a family of leeches.

duduade:
Maybe he did money ritual..

Reasonabledoubt:


His siblings should go and hustle, and remove their eye from another person ‘s money.

Reasonabledoubt:


Well. My parents don’t need me to build them a mansion. I will build my mansions, my kids don’t need to build me these mansions.

My parents did not pass through a lot to train me, they planned for me, they know it was their responsibility. My father is of this mindset too. He drums this into our heads.

I will not make my children hawk, and suffer with them, train them, them blackmail them with my ineptitude later.

They will come when I can afford them, I will be grateful to God for giving me the privilege of parenthood, so I will make sure that they will not have to become adults overnight because they are hustling with me. They won’t grow up thinking I did them a favor.

While doing this, I will be planning my old age. So that they won’t have to shoulder the responsibility of their homes, my own home, and that of their siblings.

They won’t have to keep jobs that they hate because they have to pay my rent and theirs.

They will be free to pursue their dreams, and take risks, discover themselves because they know I won’t be calling to ask them to pay up, for bringing them into this world.

I will have children that will actually get to live, not exist, and they will pass this down to their own generation.

amprat:

Now I understand you better, I agree you should plan for kids but I wonder the reason we shouldz listen to you because from what I can deduce from your post you don't have any kids yet(correct me if I am wrong). your perception is that we are all poor in my family and hence need my brother's help for us to live and breath, wrong, very wrong read my post again.
I'll like to let you know that my mother is self reliant and self sufficient and a director in one of the ministries,lives in her own house. I don't understand the reason "you carry this matter for head" if you don't have kids yet, not planning to depend on them and as you say your parents wouldn't depend on you. Oga calm down and resolve whatever issues you might have with yourself . Thanks

eyinjuege:


Your mum doesn't need your brother's help financially, neither do any of you guys from your narrative.
So what is the problem in this case?
What is the purpose of this thread?
Why not give your brother a chance, and see if he proves responsible if there's really a genuine need for your mother?
For now, you mum may have even achieved more than the brother in question.
If you feel he doesnt call or ask after his siblings and mother enough, you guys can do the calling if you genuinely love your brother. Who knows what he's also going through in the closet of his home.

amprat:

The interesting but annoying thing about nairaland is people who can not comprehend a post but go ahead to comment anyway and later comeback to ask question about the post.
The essence of the post is to determine the reason(s) for my brother's behaviour, if he is just being wise,wicked or cursed, and I said he is rich I didn't say I imagine or think,except you know him more than I do.

Nosikebit:
you are 100% wrong .. you eventually become who you marry. Even the bible said it dat man and woman will come together and become one. If you get married to a stingy woman eventually you will start becoming stingy no matter how free giving you are. If you get married to a dirty person, you will start embracing dirtiness. That's why people change after marriage. The mystery that i am still trying to uncover is why couple start looking alike after marriage. Believe it or not marriage is a very powerful bond twining souls together

amprat:
people should please read the post and try to get the gist of what am saying :I haven't in anyway said he owes his siblings, maybe his mother if he so wishes, may I also inform all that I am married with kids, so is another of my siblings, another is working and earns more than 100k a month, only the last child is in university 400level,therefore my bone of contention is not we wallowing in poverty and needing his help for every and any lil thing, am just trying to understand his mindset, why promise things you won't fulfill, y call to check up on people when they mean nothing to you stay on your own Biko, why tell them you just moved into a duplex when you won't open the gate when they get there, why open your mouth to tell your own mother you Just took your wife to Dubai that she should have been the one but you changed your mind, why tag your siblings pix of you in different countries or celebrating birthday in an expensive restaurant with friends when you didn't invite your own nuclear family, the list is endless, knowing we were raised together with the same values and he turns out this way is what is confusing not how he chooses to spend his money.