some ladies are wicked,a guy chased you for good four good year and you now wanna get married after 6 months of dating... God cannot help you, lord of the rings is your portion.

walepackage:
Talking about "impressional formation".We tend to assume or imaginate in our 'mental realm' the awesomenes and satisfaction we might get when associating or relating with someone due to some external features available or depending on what impress the person.While,in the course of the interaction/association you found out that the latency outcome of the interaction is awful,unproductive and unsatisfactory below whats projected in the mental realm.Hence,man develop a switch personality,in which in the long run will change the impression that was formed in the initial stage.This will later alter his cognitive and behavioural tendency.I think he just want you to give him a space and dont nag or force it.Let him be, he can still'evaluate your worth' then decide his next line of action afterwards.

What the faq you typing

Exactly.

Yoshy:


Shikena.

Probably he has gotten a better opportunity while waiting. He just want to waka pass you

sweetetlove:
Don't play hard to get, play hard to forget

That makes a lot of sense. Love sensible women.

sweetetlove:
Don't play hard to get, play hard to forget

Excellent comment.

Bidobado:


Excellent comment.

GoldNiagara:



That makes a lot of sense. Love sensible women.

oya award me na

alexialin:
Lol@ the statement above

Anyways op, one thing about guys is this.
If they keep chasing for many years , say like this 4years, he's didn't stop chasing even when he knows, the love he used to feel for u is gone. All he craves is just to bed you, even if it's once. He will then become calm and reclusive. All those years of chasing is not love o.
It's just, in his mind a girl cannot turn him down.

After the chase, have some rounds of sexx, he's mind is off. Any slight opportunity, he will make you break up with him. He won't breakup with u o.. But he will frustrate you to breakup.. That's how guys think.

Even if you had said yes pronto! There is still a chance the relationship won't end in marriage. It's a risk one takes. It either goes well OR goes south.
There's no formula in gearing it towards marriage.

So be prepared for tough moments ahead.

That's the plain truth.

If u meet a better guy, don't push him off. Study and if u like him, don't waste time.. Do the needful Cos this your guy ehnn, don taya.. So no need wasting time.. Just free the guy, if a better one comes along.

If I were the one, this your guy said something like that. My feelings Wil just die off.

Mo raye oshi.

No need deceiving ourselves.. I don't have time hoping on what I don't have control in.. Especially another human being feelings.

So think and be wise.

What if a better one never shows up. Forget it,why the guy was hanging around for 4 years,the babe was sucking another dude ...,the dude dumped her and She jumped onto that four year dolt.The guy could see through the ruse. Laid the girl few times and gave her the kick. Women are just like Igbo, always innocent and playing the victim card.

sweetetlove:
oya award me na

What sort of award do you want?

GoldNiagara:


What if a better one never shows up. Forget it,why the guy was hanging around for 4 years,the babe was sucking another dude ...,the dude dumped her and She jumped onto that four year dolt.The guy could see through the ruse. Laid the girl few times and gave her the kick. Women are just like Igbo, always innocent and playing the victim card.

The sentence women are just like igbo got me laughing so hard, lol

Oh Lord.

My dear in this life, a better choice always comes up. You cant blame her for sucking another dude, because that dude she was sucking is her bf back then. And she can't just drop her bf, cos one guy is determined to woo her 4years!
You sef check am nah

Most babes with boyfriends, guys do woo them. So u can't tell me they should drop their existing bf to any guy who comes up to show interest. That Wil be highly gross and unfair to the existing bf. You sef won't like it nah, if your gf dump your assz or start cheating on you with any guy who is wooing steadily for 4years . You will say women are hoes . She did the right thing, stuck and stayed faithful to her bf, ignoring the 4years wooing bobo .

Which is normal and ideal but unfortunately at the end, her bf fucvked up. Which is not out of the ordinary.

Now, this guy now is behaving like Jagaban.

Abeg bust his Assz jor!

Better bobo will come, and this time no dulling.

Fear of the unknown is what's killing some people.

I Wil tell the babe, no fear! Whatever will be, will be.. Don't short change your happiness. If I were she, I won't even date the 4years wooing bobo. Cause I know, him coming back will not be pure. He go one do e own back.

Which is true.

D guy don get option b dat .. Buh 4yrs is much na

Considering he's been chasing u for 4 yrs,
it's understandable for him to want to slow down to catch his breath.

Ease up a bit yea

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Dear Jzhane,

Please help a sister out!

There is this guy that has been chasing me for close to four years now. When he started toasting me, I wasnt interested for a couple of reasons. I was not ready to settle down as I was just out of a bad break up. Secondly,I wanted to concentrate on my masters degree. Finally,I wasnt sure how serious he was.

Well,in August this year,I finally agreed to date him. He is nice,gentle and very understanding hence,I introduced him to my mom. All was going fine until the beginning of this month

We were at a dinner when I told him that I noticed that he has not been calling as frequently as before. I told him that he also does not respond to my whatsapp message on time. He then responded by saying he is busy at work and that if I am going to be nagging him like this,maybe we should take it slow.

I was like,what do you mean,and he goes he dosent like women putting pressure on him.

After that dinner...see more

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[/quote]

alexialin:






The sentence women are just like igbo got me laughing so hard, lol

Oh Lord.

My dear in this life, a better choice always comes up. You cant blame her for sucking another dude, because that dude she was sucking is her bf back then. And she can't just drop her bf, cos one guy is determined to woo her 4years!
You sef check am nah

Most babes with boyfriends, guys do woo them. So u can't tell me they should drop their existing bf to any guy who comes up to show interest. That Wil be highly gross and unfair to the existing bf. You sef won't like it nah, if your gf dump your assz or start cheating on you with any guy who is wooing steadily for 4years . You will say women are hoes . She did the right thing, stuck and stayed faithful to her bf, ignoring the 4years wooing bobo .

Which is normal and ideal but unfortunately at the end, her bf fucvked up. Which is not out of the ordinary.

Now, this guy now is behaving like Jagaban.

Abeg bust his Assz jor!

Better bobo will come, and this time no dulling.

Fear of the unknown is what's killing some people.

I Wil tell the babe, no fear! Whatever will be, will be.. Don't short change your happiness. If I were she, I won't even date the 4years wooing bobo. Cause I know, him coming back will not be pure. He go one do e own back.

Which is true.

There is this Hillson's song,.it goes like this: I surrender, I want to know you more, I surrender!

I don't think you should be complaining after you have kept him on a lng leash. It's now your turn to show if, after all your 4 years of checking and balancing, he's worth your patience as well. Remember, he took 4 good years to prove himself, how far are you willing to go and how much are you will to take?

GoldNiagara:



There is this Hillson's song,.it goes like this: I surrender, I want to know you more, I surrender!

Ok? But how does it relate to this topic

alexialin:





Ok? But how does it relate to this topic

First, it is an indication that I agree 100 percent with your analysis. It is laced with practicality, knowledge, wit and display of feminine maturity.It relates to the topic as stated above. So I surrender and wish to know where this rarity issue from.

GoldNiagara:



First, it is an indication that I agree 100 percent with your analysis. It is laced with practicality, knowledge, wit and display of feminine maturity.It relates to the topic as stated above. So I surrender and wish to know where this rarity issue from.

Awwww


That's so nice of you.

At least, u are one supporter I have, compared to someone here, who says my statement reeks of pride.

Juxipter come and see ooo. you wey say am begining to sound proud

Shey u don hear nw?

GoldNiagara accepts my practical matured state of mind

That's it.

My dear, u truly understand where am coming from.

Yeah!

Am from delta but based in Lagos.. How about u?

alexialin:








Awwww


That's so nice of you.

At least, u are one supporter I have, compared to someone here, who says my statement reeks of pride.

Juxipter come and see ooo. you wey say am begining to sound proud

Shey u don hear nw?

GoldNiagara accepts my practical matured state of mind

That's it.

My dear, u truly understand where am coming from.

Yeah!

Am from delta but based in Lagos.. How about u?

Pride is when you don't accept superior arguments when you see one. It is my pleasure to meet you really. I am from Lagos, work in Lagos but live on the fringe border of Lagos.

GoldNiagara:


Pride is when you don't accept superior arguments when you see one. It is my pleasure to meet you really. I am from Lagos, work in Lagos but live on the fringe border of Lagos.

Exactly that's Pride. Thanks

Nice to meet you too.

But where is fringe border of Lagos?

alexialin:





Exactly that's Pride. Thanks
Nice to meet you too.
But where is fringe border of Lagos?

Berger axis!

GoldNiagara:



Berger axis!

Oh ok


Mine is Mainland axis , Obanikoro.

alexialin:




Oh ok

Mine is Mainland axis , Obanikoro.

Nice! Trust you enjoying the holiday?

GoldNiagara:


Nice! Trust you enjoying the holiday?

Yeah
I am..

Thank God for my lovely friends and neighbors .


We are one big family.. It's fun.




And you? How's the celebration coming up?

my sister you are a lady ooo, agreed he must have had it with her.and his persistence was to prove a point not because he really loves her

Amarabae:
No be only you sabi do shakara.
He must have had sex with you and is now Wondering if the 4years wooing stress was worth it

Yoshy:


Shikena.

lady take note, this is an eye opener to me

Wow! On point my broda, this makes a lot of sense

alexialin:






The sentence women are just like igbo got me laughing so hard, lol

Oh Lord.

My dear in this life, a better choice always comes up. You cant blame her for sucking another dude, because that dude she was sucking is her bf back then. And she can't just drop her bf, cos one guy is determined to woo her 4years!
You sef check am nah

Most babes with boyfriends, guys do woo them. So u can't tell me they should drop their existing bf to any guy who comes up to show interest. That Wil be highly gross and unfair to the existing bf. You sef won't like it nah, if your gf dump your assz or start cheating on you with any guy who is wooing steadily for 4years . You will say women are hoes . She did the right thing, stuck and stayed faithful to her bf, ignoring the 4years wooing bobo .

Which is normal and ideal but unfortunately at the end, her bf fucvked up. Which is not out of the ordinary.

Now, this guy now is behaving like Jagaban.

Abeg bust his Assz jor!

Better bobo will come, and this time no dulling.

Fear of the unknown is what's killing some people.

I Wil tell the babe, no fear! Whatever will be, will be.. Don't short change your happiness. If I were she, I won't even date the 4years wooing bobo. Cause I know, him coming back will not be pure. He go one do e own back.

Which is true.