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Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by dayokanu(m): 6:00pm On Jul 08, 2010 |
spikedcylinder: Thank God the poster is not blaming only men as most females would do. I agree people get married because thats what the society expect from people of certain ages. And this is not limited to Nigeria its all over the world The marriage thing is overrated self. Why would someone want to be with/fork just 1 person for 50yrs when we have over 6 billion people in the world. maybe open marriages should be it or renewable marriages where you decide every 2 yrs if you want to continue or not Be single and hang around married men and you'll become the husband snatcher! WHy would you want to hang around married men? |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by chinedumo(m): 6:02pm On Jul 08, 2010 |
spikedcylinder: if u are correct then it mean that women are just taking after their men but the way i see it people are not marring fr what marriage is worth but for certain other reason s cos their ought not to be problem anything worth doing is worth doing well |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by bawomolo(m): 6:04pm On Jul 08, 2010 |
WHy would you want to hang around married men? free lunch JaaizTech: women don't find it easy to maintain a single sexual relationships either. gender roles and societal expectations force them to act as if they aren't interested in sexual adventure lots of stellas do get their groove back maybe open marriages should be it or renewable marriages where you decide every 2 yrs if you want to continue or not what if kids are involved, can u back out easily? |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by chika98: 6:09pm On Jul 08, 2010 |
Marriage vows won't be that difficult to uphold if the people going into marriage know what they are getting themselves into. You have to really understand what being married means and be ready to fight for it. Sadly, a lot of men and women just get married for the heck of it. . . it could be to have children or to be more accepted in the society Whatever the case is. . Just like anything in life. . one has to be wise about these things. |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by dayokanu(m): 6:11pm On Jul 08, 2010 |
bawomolo: Decide on who gets custody and both parties contribute financially to the upkeep |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by Princek12(m): 6:36pm On Jul 08, 2010 |
Because marriage vows are difficult to uphold does not mean that wedded couples should not uphold those vows, for to act otherwise is an implicit acknowledgment that the putative wedded couple who failed to uphold the marriage vows is incapable of rising over difficult challenges. And to the faint-hearted, do not get married, for marriage, by its very nature, presents challenges and is for the brave at heart; that is to say, if you are not ready for marriage, or if you know you cannot keep your marriage vows, please do yourself, and your putative spouse, a favor by not getting married. |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by Elpieda: 8:14pm On Jul 08, 2010 |
@Bawomolo if u choose to go by that manual, thats your choice I go by the Bible and God's design for marriage is stated in there, one man one wife. The Q'uran says four wives if you can love them equally, lets see how possible that is. one is already a major issue, if u can take on four, pshh thats all on u man. |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by rman: 10:06pm On Jul 08, 2010 |
The truth is a larger number of married couples have cheated on their partner compared to those that haven't yet. It has always being like that. If our great grand parents were today, they will probably say they asked the same questions during their time. Forget technology and fashion, it has always being like this. Deep down, man is polygamus by nature. |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by vescucci(m): 11:14pm On Jul 08, 2010 |
You wan marry somebody ni, Spikie? Marriage vows are not the problem jare. It is the vowers, lol. I won't make a vow I won't keep. How many women don't cross their fingers when it comes to the , for poorer part? |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by Agbo2(m): 8:31am On Jul 09, 2010 |
The only aspect of marriage vow not easy to uphold is to remain faithful to each other from my experience. Loving and caring for each other for the rest of your lives can be upheld. |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by spikedcylinder: 10:58am On Jul 09, 2010 |
JeSoul: Hello luv. You feel what way? Committed? If you had the chance, will you blow off a wedding just as long as you know in your heart you'll be together forever and getting married is just a 'paper contract'? Will you? Do the same rules apply anyway? The ones for committed couples and the ones for married couples? |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by spikedcylinder: 11:17am On Jul 09, 2010 |
JaaizTech: Don't you think then that such men should not get married? In fact, such PEOPLE should not get married because with what my eyes see these days, no one is a saint. I mean, what's the point of taking vows before god and man and proceeding to desecrate those vows? dayokanu: No, I am not blaming men. Many many many women cheat on their husbands too. As I said before, humans are not monogamous in nature and it seems like the most difficult thing ever to be faithful to your spouse, then why do you do it?!?!? Perhaps, people should face reality and make their own vows to allow promiscuity. |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by IryNky: 11:21am On Jul 09, 2010 |
Marriage vow is the simplest vow to uphold if you follow the administrator's manual (The Bible) |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by bawomolo(m): 5:11pm On Jul 09, 2010 |
Perhaps, people should face reality and make their own vows to allow promiscuity. are you willing to accept such vows and what boundaries should be made with such vows, no unprotected sexx with others? friends off-limits? Iry Nky: here we go, na so him easy |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by spikedcylinder: 5:44pm On Jul 09, 2010 |
bawomolo: I suppose if I was a philandering LovePeddler, and my partner was too. . . .we could give room for err. . . allowances. |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by bawomolo(m): 6:07pm On Jul 09, 2010 |
spikedcylinder: he he so how many get out of jail free cards does your man get i wonder the amount of NL'ers raised in polygamous homes or parallel families |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by Nobody: 6:27pm On Jul 09, 2010 |
Yes, they are becoming more and more difficult to uphold because the society we live in is becoming more and more morally decadent, wat with the internet and globalization. No, marital vows should not be reviewed, because they CANNOT be reviewed. They are God made laws and are as old as creation itself. Except we want to change God too. I think the topic of this post shld have been- How can we reduce infidelity in our society? |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by dayokanu(m): 7:18pm On Jul 09, 2010 |
The whole Marriage shebang self looks like one is going to a prison in commuist Siberia |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by bawomolo(m): 7:22pm On Jul 09, 2010 |
zoelife: when was society not decadent? it's only broadcasted more now. you think prostitution and the likes just started 10 years ago? cassanova was born 20 years ago? larry flint and hugh hefner are older than the internet They are God made laws and are as old as creation itself. Except we want to change God too. humanity does that easily. we have gone from worshiping sango and amadiorha to worshiping jesus and allah in a matter of a few generations. gods change over time. Is polygamy a God made law, folks like Abraham and solomon had no problem having concubines. |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by Theblessed(f): 10:42pm On Jul 09, 2010 |
Obviously, marriage vows are not difficult to uphold and how could they when in a monogamous relationship what's yours, is your wife's and hers yours too? But, who said it is anyway, aside satan and his agents who have been putting selfish and evil thoughts in peoples minds? And, with the fear of God in you, why would that be difficult? Think, think and think when you go about violating your marriage vow remember, one day you will be answerable to God Almighty in Heaven. Don't ever forget that! |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by mutter(f): 1:25am On Jul 10, 2010 |
I think there are some vows that should no be made like till death do us part, for better for worse. My first marriage was a nightmare, a total disaster. I wish I had had the sense to run away much faster. I would have spared myself years of agony and humiliation. I think it is so terrible when one is scared to leave a marriage because of family or societal pressures, even worse when one stays because one has no where to go. Even after so many years I am still traumatised. |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by VPersie: 3:15am On Jul 10, 2010 |
What we need to do is to eradatice discrimination and myopic judgements. WORD! I wish I could afford not to get married, but my mama go kill me (first-son). Lol. Seriously though, if she was not in the picture, I would quite easily decide not to get married, have a child out of wedlock with a woman that does not want to be tied down either, and we will remain friends afterwards for as long as we like/can tolerate each other. |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by JaaizTech: 7:21am On Jul 10, 2010 |
VPersie:Avoiding marriage is not the solution, fornication / adultery is definitely a sin, And to build one's life on fornication will definitely be disastrous. I don't know what experiences you have, but Marriage isn't all about sorrow, I am married and I am enjoying every bit of it, I pray things never change, you can have a good marriage, only that as time goes on you are likely to desire an adventure (another woman); and this doesn't mean the love for your wife will diminish. I am one of those that believe you can love 2 different women sincerely at the same time. I think women need to understand the dynamics of the sexual / emotional / romantic desires of a man, they need to stop living in fool's paradise and come to terms with reality. And I don't believe it is exactly the same for women, women's sexual drive greatly diminishes as they age, but a man's own slightly diminishes even at 100 years old. |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by Theblessed(f): 12:33pm On Jul 10, 2010 |
bawomolo: Hey, man! You don't need to ask this question. God's intention and answer to this your enquiry is already in your face. Whether the writer is talking about a Muslim manual or a Christian manual - it doesn't really matter which one because: In the beginning, God created "Adam and Eve", period! And not Adam plus Eve plus Cecilia plus Jumoke as too many hands in the soup can not only make it too salty but highly contagious. Got it There you are and that's the manual you are asking about and don't enquire any further! |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by royalicon(m): 10:38pm On Jul 10, 2010 |
No. If entered with sincerity. |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by bawomolo(m): 11:37pm On Jul 10, 2010 |
Theblessed: not to bust your bubble but the tale of Genesis is a Judaic one and not universally accepted. To claim God's "manual" is the Christian one is myopic. |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by shanda(m): 2:01pm On Jul 11, 2010 |
Why should you make vows you can't uphold ? I can't make such cos I know I'm definitely gonna cheat on whoever I end up with. I don't deceive myself. |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by Theblessed(f): 12:11am On Jul 12, 2010 |
bawomolo: [b]You are correct not universally accepted but only by those who do not want the truth. One day they'd be sorry they didn't. You see, anyone can embrace which ever manual they choose. Surely, whether you and others accepted him or not its' irrelevant however there's no escape, you will meet him on the judgement day - like it or not, you will. At least, these two manuals embrace this belief there's going to be judgement on the last day. So, there's no escape for the unbelievers! Therefore, I urge you to be ready to meet him with your 10 wives/15 concubines and having received your rewards, blame it on Abraham. To you, Abraham took 2 wives therefore, it's normal and life must go on for this generation. But, under what circumstances did that happen? Was it what God intended? In the Christian manual, Genesis 21:12 confirmed God's intention on this matter and we accept God's will. Didn't you see how it all ended up? Hagar and Ishmael were sent packing as the full authority of God manifested in the birth of Isaac (the true heir and God's intended first son of Abraham) and the complete word of God stood fast. Why and how did it all happen? Impatience and lack of faith on the part of Sarah! Satan took advantage of her weakness and got into the family - by penetrating her defences urging her to give her maid to her husband so that they could have an heir. Sarah, being a loved wife was able to convince her husband of her good ideas and because Abraham would do anything for his wife, he succumbed to Sarah's point of view and Ishmael was born as first son. That wasn't God's intention - that Ishmael should bear the crown of Abraham - no! God intended Isaac through Sarah to be Abraham's heir - and God established it irrespective of satan's activities. So as you can see, a first wife, will always be first and a second wife will always play second fiddle, period. Reason being, they are thieves - there's no joy in stealing another woman's husbands. No joy! [/b] |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by spikedcylinder: 9:25am On Jul 12, 2010 |
shanda: Thank you. You are a good man. However, it'll be nice if you don't deceive any women into thinking you are marriage material when you are clearly not. bawomolo: I wasn't raised in the typical polygamous home as it has just been my mum and dad all my life but I'm the only child between my parents. As a result, I have 6 older half siblings whom I love gidi gan. So, there. Count me in your weird statistic. |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by Nobody: 1:49pm On Jul 12, 2010 |
bawomolo:So, my dear bamowolo, where do u stand and wat do u suggest? |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by bawomolo(m): 8:16pm On Jul 12, 2010 |
spikedcylinder: would you be willing to part of a polygamous setting i have 8 half-siblings by the way. zoelife: whether polyandry, polygamy, monogamy, or serial-bachelorhood , engage in what suits you best and makes you happy. if that means having numerous baby mamas go for it (i don't know how that can make you happy though) |
Re: Are Marriage Vows Difficult To Uphold? by Nobody: 8:24pm On Jul 12, 2010 |
spikedcylinder: bawomolo: sounds like a match made in heaven |
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