dominique:
Why not let her go now that she's young so she can move on with her life and find someone that would love and appreciate her? If you don't see a future with her, stop wasting her time or at least let her know that the relationship won't go beyond dating and sex.



I agreed with you until I got to the last two paragraphs. A relationship is not a business venture or a form of occupation, anybody can call it off without having to compensate the other financially. What I don't support is wasting a person's time if you dont see a future with him or her. If it was the girl that wants to break off from the relationship, will you be suggesting that she compensates the guy?

Relationships are business even though most people deny it is not.
No sane person will chase a man or a lady unless they will benefit from the
relationship.
It is clear who is at a loss in this transaction, the girl who was being fooled.
The Op don't have to compensate her for anything but the reason why he opened
this thread is because of a troubled conscience.

israelmao:


What about inflating someone's hope and deflating?Yes,love and marriage is choice but we need not to feel agitated or uncomfortable if our conscience judge us well.

And he wants to retrace his steps. Even marriage proposal are turned down almost everyday by women, so what are you saying. Some men's hope have been always inflated only to have it dashed when they proposed! Stop this. He does not owe her anything, period.

OlivetBen:


I don't have anything with you bro. Thanks.

Simple. Answer my questions.

octopusfreaky:
Heyyyy, read his post well, he wanted her just for sex. He can al
ways get it from a slut. Men be playing with their future.

And who says she may not be a slut? She is having sex with a man not yet married to her. What is that one called?
It is you foolish women that are playing with their future.

Donjazzy12:

And he wants to retrace his steps. Even marriage proposal are turned down almost everyday by women, so what are you saying. Some men's hope have been always inflated only to have it dashed when they proposed! Stop this. He does not owe her anything, period.

But many of these people don't tell us stories that ensued thereafter though I'm not judging because we all make mistakes and God is merciful if we seek GENUINE repentance.

ReddingtonLeke:


At my brother who want advice, I won't av commented here at all if I don't see/feel d need to. I'll try nd be brief as much as I can, bcux d person I already quote already said it clearly. But I jex want to add few talk.
1) my brother, you don't love dix girl out of pity. You don't jex understand or know what love is Yet....you think you do!? You don't. Love is Commitment! Love is a Choice! Love is a Decision tin.... We tend to fall in love with what we give attention to.
2) do you know d value of a woman's true love!? She can burn the whole world, and at the same time give you d whole world. If she knows that it's genuine .
3) What's your priority? Success, love, money, or what? Define it. You're jex thru with your undergraduate level. You're in your building stages of life, you don't need a woman that will give you wahala like all dix slay queens. With good understanding and cards from you, you can build with dix girl. Unless tinx changes and she stops loving you.
4) you guys age 24-19 seems to be very okay, gives you enough time ahead to be prepared and ready, when she'll be ready too. No pressures.
5) I end with dix, you'll get to love her if you open your hear to love her....and the beautiful tin is you can groom, train and develop her to the type of woman you want. God bless. Stay real and keep making progress. I care....value Loyalty above all else.

May GOD Bless you more my brother... Good yansss

There are some oloriburuku somebody wey still dey for town and cheat girls...
Note: don't mention name



I don't think she deserve you Op kindly quickly let her go so that she can find her own ribs she is 19 already she would understand......don't compensate her let God so that for he pls..


I love my karmal it's will surely come and will regrets it...



Oloun ma jeun tun ji kan iru yin mon and even my enemy self

I find it difficult for you not to love a very good girl like DAT.you deceived her into loving you,and now you want to break her heart.why did you show her to your family the first place? Why did you waste her time? The truth is that you have had sex with her and you have seen everything, it nshe no longer attracts you. If you were in her shoes,and you loved her so much,and she lied to you that she loves you,and you planned to marry her,only for her to dash your hopes, will you like it? As an orphan her heart was yearning for love and you took advantage of that vulnerability and now you want to compound her woes...sex is sacred..before you go into a relationship, be sincere of what you want to your partner, let lies not be your foundation.. Because if you leave her now,she may curse you and you will be in a mess..sex is more than pleasure, if you want pleasure make it known..you two can strike a bargain from the beginning...

Now my advice is this,since the deed is done,you can't force yourself to marry anyone you don't feel like marrying but you must beg her for forgiveness and make sure she does forgive you...lest if she curse's you ,your life is in danger..if she is not financially stable support her and be in good terms with her..that's it and beg God for forgiveness too.

octopusfreaky:
hahahhahahaah, God my chest oooo. I used to face this issue but I let him know instantly I can't go ahead with it.

lol. the thing tire me o, the girl still wants me like that o, i no know if na small pikin de worry her, she no want break up

jaykorbs:
Hi nairalanders, this is my story, don’t judge me, just advice me on a way out, there is this lady I asked out towards the end of 2016, I will be frank with you, my sole aim back then was to hook up with her and for us to enjoy sex together, basically, I was just after sex. I know nothing about the lady.

She was teaching in one primary school in my area at that point in time, I said a lot of shit back then just to get her to say yes, as I got to know her, I found out she had lost both parent at a tender age and so many other things, she has really passed through a lot, herself and her junior sister.

As time goes on, the relationship gained an exponential momentum and before I could realize what was going on, my family and friends dan sabi her, calling her my wife, let me add that she is 19 and I am 24 (just wrote my last undergraduate exam a
couple of months ago, while she is currently working at one food canteen).

Over the course of 2017, I have picked up a lot of manly lessons and have decided to set my life in order in the coming year, yes, I have dropped a lot of boyish attitude and selfish characters, I can confidently call myself a changed individual, although a lot of improvement still have to be made.

As I mentioned earlier, I have decided to set my life in order this coming year, with her being part of it, the truth is, I don’t love her, but to my understanding, she really loves me, I am currently still in this relationship because I am afraid of making her sad, I am in this relationship at the moment because of pity, she will be devasted when I break up with her, my friends are telling me not to go ahead with it, that I am about to make a big mistake if I call off the relationship, I just know I don’t love her, I very much like her, but the love to consider her for marriage ain’t there. She is beside me as I type this, I seriously need help on how to call of this relationship without breaking her spirit because she is a fighter.

bro you better try and love her back cos what you got isn't that easy to get some guys are looking for what you have now, it is better for a girl to love you than you love a girl , she can't betray you maybe with time you will build up love for her......goodluck bro don't chase her away.

israelmao:


But many of these people don't tell us stories that ensued thereafter though I'm not judging because we all make mistakes and God is merciful if we seek GENUINE repentance.

His repentance is staying away from sex before marriage. Support him to repent from fornication.

Paulosky1900:


bro you better try and love her back cos what you got isn't that easy to get some guys are looking for what you have now, it is better for a girl to love you than you love a girl , she can't betray you maybe with time you will build up love for her......goodluck bro don't chase her away.

Weak man

Donemeritus1:
I find it difficult for you not to love a very good girl like DAT.you deceived her into loving you,and now you want to break her heart.why did you show her to your family the first place? Why did you waste her time? The truth is that you have had sex with her and you have seen everything, it nshe no longer attracts you. If you were in her shoes,and you loved her so much,and she lied to you that she loves you,and you planned to marry her,only for her to dash your hopes, will you like it? As an orphan her heart was yearning for love and you took advantage of that vulnerability and now you want to compound her woes...sex is sacred..before you go into a relationship, be sincere of what you want to your partner, let lies not be your foundation.. Because if you leave her now,she may curse you and you will be in a mess..sex is more than pleasure, if you want pleasure make it known..you two can strike a bargain from the beginning...

Now my advice is this,since the deed is done,you can't force yourself to marry anyone you don't feel like marrying but you must beg her for forgiveness and make sure she does forgive you...lest if she curse's you ,your life is in danger..if she is not financially stable support her and be in good terms with her..that's it and beg God for forgiveness too.

Have you begged God for forgiveness for all the girls you bleeped without marrying her, oh you hypochrite? Have the girl also begged God for forgiveness for other guys she bleeped before meeting him. I just hate weak men like you.

Prec1ous:
Marriage and relationship do not actually survive on love alone.

If you have grown truly, you should have become futuristic to see that this lady can earn you money from business, take care of your kids and never leave.

YOUR problem now is that, you feel you can do better.. Like get a more educated, cultured and pretty woman. It is called the shiny Object syndrome.

The best relationships is one where the woman loves the most, man's job is to complement with logic.

If you you don't need her again, tell her to go but mark this day, you just threw out a rare gem.

Post of the year

Funkybabee:
There are some oloriburuku somebody wey still dey for town and cheat girls...
Note: don't mention name



I don't think she deserve you Op kindly quickly let her go so that she can find her own ribs she is 19 already she would understand......don't compensate her let God so that for he pls..


I love my karmal it's will surely come and will regrets it...



Oloun ma jeun tun ji kan iru yin mon and even my enemy self

See yeye face! Why haven't karma killed you for all the men you duped and collected their money? What of the men that you dumped. You don't deserve them you miserable looking worm. Get outta here!

vivalavida:


Post of the year

Roast of the year! Stop giving women the entitlement mentality. So he himself is not a rare gem. Keep rubbishing your own gender bobrisky!

Funkybabee:
There are some oloriburuku somebody wey still dey for town and cheat girls...
Note: don't mention name



I don't think she deserve you Op kindly quickly let her go so that she can find her own ribs she is 19 already she would understand......don't compensate her let God so that for he pls..


I love my karmal it's will surely come and will regrets it...



Oloun ma jeun tun ji kan iru yin mon and even my enemy self

Send you pm

efficiencie:


No be curse oh, you can never find love and you will always find people like the first three girls you dated...your case is mathematical and you have established a strong precedence already! Whatever rules your psyche determines what you are drawn to and what you are drawn to determines the outcomes of your life...whatever made you lose interest in the case of the past three ladies is still resident in your psyche and it will make you lose interest in 100,000 ladies that come your way no matter how great these ladies are!

Reality advises you to stay away from marriage...heed reality but if you choose to disobey na DIVORCE⁵⁰ you dey take play!

Back then it was all about sex, now it's about a soulmate.

jaykorbs:
Hi nairalanders, this is my story, don’t judge me, just advice me on a way out, there is this lady I asked out towards the end of 2016, I will be frank with you, my sole aim back then was to hook up with her and for us to enjoy sex together, basically, I was just after sex. I know nothing about the lady.

She was teaching in one primary school in my area at that point in time, I said a lot of shit back then just to get her to say yes, as I got to know her, I found out she had lost both parent at a tender age and so many other things, she has really passed through a lot, herself and her junior sister.

As time goes on, the relationship gained an exponential momentum and before I could realize what was going on, my family and friends dan sabi her, calling her my wife, let me add that she is 19 and I am 24 (just wrote my last undergraduate exam a
couple of months ago, while she is currently working at one food canteen).

Over the course of 2017, I have picked up a lot of manly lessons and have decided to set my life in order in the coming year, yes, I have dropped a lot of boyish attitude and selfish characters, I can confidently call myself a changed individual, although a lot of improvement still have to be made.

As I mentioned earlier, I have decided to set my life in order this coming year, with her being part of it, the truth is, I don’t love her, but to my understanding, she really loves me, I am currently still in this relationship because I am afraid of making her sad, I am in this relationship at the moment because of pity, she will be devasted when I break up with her, my friends are telling me not to go ahead with it, that I am about to make a big mistake if I call off the relationship, I just know I don’t love her, I very much like her, but the love to consider her for marriage ain’t there. She is beside me as I type this, I seriously need help on how to call of this relationship without breaking her spirit because she is a fighter.

U had a long time to end this yet u didn't...u let her get close to ur friends and family now u wanna break up cos u don't love her n wanna set ur life right. Good u realized it now but then ur a selfish person, just say ur tired of the sex then wait for ur karma pretty soon.

Donjazzy12:

Roast of the year! Stop giving women the entitlement mentality. So he himself is not a rare gem. Keep rubbishing your own gender bobrisky!

Who be this mumu?

I commented based on the wonderful advice given by someone and ur stvpiid sef appeared from no where to quote me.
Abeg shift

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Weak man[/quote

ok now let's put it this way, you broke up with her and she crys for you after engaging in sex with her and you just call it a quit my guy even the strongest man was killed by a woman, and karma is at your doorsteps....never underestimate the power of a woman nothing is more deadlier than an anger of a woman...
woman have killed men 10times stronger than you so MR STRONG MAN be careful life doesn't have duplicate once you are gone you are gone life continues.

I know you are also fvcking the slowpoke and if someone has told her that God hates fornication, she would raise curses. To you girls there who think fornication is an in-thing and that is the only way the deluded society has taught you to show love to the one you love, your own misfortune is doing press up

To you poster who has been drinking free milk from slayED girl, your bitter day is fast arriving.

Oh the world in bondage of darkness!

Donjazzy12:

Shut up! All this ugly men with low self esteem should stop talking here. That you found a poor ugly, empty girl who has nothing to offer except cling to you for life is not something worth celebrating!

Go out there as a man and get what you deserve.

Tell your father and mother to shut up!, stupid slowpoke... pig like you!, you'll remain single all your life till you die!!!... continue going for what you want stupid idiot! why don't you go and become the richest man on earth!?... May thunder seal your useless brain there!!!

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Another weak response. Men have also killed the strongest women so what is your point exactly? So she did him a favor by sleeping with him ba? So your girlfriend is doing you a favor by sleeping with you? Chaii, your head no correct I swear!

Mumu man. Was she a virgin when he met her? She wasnt. So why didn't she marry the men she has been sleeping with before meeting him?

You that is talking have you married all the girls that you have been sleeping you? Have karma killed you for all the girls you have been fucking before marrying them?

Caleycash:
Tell your father and mother to shut up!, stupid slowpoke... pig like you!, you'll remain single all your life till you die!!!... continue going for what you want stupid idiot! why don't you go and become the richest man on earth!?... May thunder seal your useless brain there!!!

Bobrisky is that you?

Donjazzy12:

See yeye face! Why haven't karma killed you for all the men you duped and collected their money? What of the men that you dumped. You don't deserve them you miserable looking worm. Get outta here!

Bro ego gan..very very oponu

I've come to realize that experience still remains the best teacher....certain lessons will eventually have to be learnt the hard way....I can boldly tell you @op that if a well to do guy(and I mean a guy more handsome than you are, and financially stable) comes right now and starts asking her out and you are aware of it, you would start to realize certain feelings you never knew existed and would be more inclined to be protective. She on the other hand(considering her age) might realize that what she felt for you was born out of self pity considering all she has been through in life. As a guy, it's only normal that you would want to experience what it feels like to sleep with other girls, right now it's more about body count for you. Eventually, one day you will need commitment, trust and loyalty, but won't find it(a probability). The truth is, you won't get the answer to what you seek right here, this is one of those lessons that you would have to learn through experience cause only you will have to live with the consequences of what ever decision you make on the issue. We can only try to provide answers based on our own experience and or opinion which most certainly differ. That being said, my advice would be for you to give it time. Do not make hasty decisions. Try to grow in the relationship while you focus on your future. Let time decide. My opinion tho.

you should have head to a brothel directly to satisfy ur sexual impulses instead of toying with the heart of an innocent girl........

my advice is that, you should sit her down and be completely honest with her as your explain to her..................b4 its too late.

Donjazzy12:

Bobrisky is that you?

who the hell is bobrisky!?... that's why I hate commenting with stupid and local Nigerians, I don't live in your useless country!, never in your life comeup to someone's post and utter rubbish, take that to your poor mother in the village!, am not your level kid!

dominique:
Why not let her go now that she's young so she can move on with her life and find someone that would love and appreciate her? If you don't see a future with her, stop wasting her time or at least let her know that the relationship won't go beyond dating and sex.



I agreed with you until I got to the last two paragraphs. A relationship is not a business venture or a form of occupation, anybody can call it off without having to compensate the other financially. What I don't support is wasting a person's time if you dont see a future with him or her. If it was the girl that wants to break off from the relationship, will you be suggesting that she compensates the guy?

Your last point is baseless.

It was the guy that went out if his way to get her consent with several sweet lies.

He has satisfied himself and wants out, leaving the poor girl to believe the blue lies she was told and you say she deserves no compensation for making her hinge on an empty hope?

Haba, pray it happens to your daughter!

Caleycash:
who the hell is bobrisky!?... that's why I hate commenting with stupid and local Nigerians, I don't live in your useless country!, never in your life comeup to someone's post and utter rubbish, take that to your poor mother in the village!, am not your level kid!

Keep quiet. You have nothing to offer! What are you doing in a Forum owned by 'stupid and local' Nigerians?

You are a very very ugly cheap village boy that has nothing to offer to anybody. Did I add that you are also very weak?

Donjazzy12:

Another weak response. Men have also killed the strongest women so what is your point exactly? So she did him a favor by sleeping with him ba? So your girlfriend is doing you a favor by sleeping with you? Chaii, your head no correct I swear!

Mumu man. Was she a virgin when he met her? She wasnt. So why didn't she marry the men she has been sleeping with before meeting him?

You that is talking have you married all the girls that you have been sleeping you? Have karma killed you for all the girls you have been fucking before marrying them?

MR STRONG MAN ride on , I don't know what you are advising the poor guy to do but he's just starting life......anyway I know you still thinking like a boy when you grew up you will understand I didn't expect you to understand now.