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Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by ogene144(m): 4:35pm On Dec 28, 2017
dahmie2013:
Y don't u & ur mum embark on a fasting & prayer session 4 her. Dere is nothing God cannot do, prayer changes things & people. Pls I will recommend u get dis book by Bishop David Oyedepo, "Walking in the newness of life" & "Conquering Controlling Powers". She has started beating ur mum, dis is no more a battle u can fight physically, take it 2 God, she herself will come begging.
It is well.
Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 4:35pm On Dec 28, 2017
I'll advice you to report the matter to the nearest police station.

Please, report it as threat to life and ensure that she write statement to be held responsible if anything happens to your mum (and you).

Also, she must enter an undertaking not to lay hands on your mom...


Save your mum's life first

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Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by whitebeard(m): 4:36pm On Dec 28, 2017
Omg omg op wtf wtf, u need help op.

First I would warn her not to beat mom again,

Secondly I would tell her she can be a cult outside but when she gets home she should change her behavior

If she won't listen to all my warnings which in ma mind are nothing but traps which I want her to fall Into so it can trigger the beast in me..omg..I love rampage..the next time she would see me the temperature will be very chilly for her.

If she threatens me or mom she is automatically a threat to me so what I can do is to extend my rampage to her group (cripple her ego) dont ask me how (I have a lot of neutral potential in me which I can turn negative).

This is my side.

if u take ur mum away from her she would be furious that her family neglected her which might prompt her into thinking of killing u and ur mom, u can't ask her to leave her cult group they would hunt her, the best bet is to take her and ur mom somewhere far..give her the beating/talk of her life..
Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by hysteriabox(m): 4:39pm On Dec 28, 2017
lifezone247:
guy you be Man at all? Man, as in MAN? So cos she’s cultists that na why you no fit beat the cultist out of her for beating your beloved mom? Dey there Dey form good boy while she keeps pounding the old woman, you hear me undecided
Listen to this dude at your own peril. Since when is beating up anybody a sign that you re a man?
A cultist and drug addict... Which version of beating ll he give? Or is the desired objective to bring the house down?
Guy, she can be counseled systematically. Find her weak spot and go in from there. I was once there- minus the cultism. I know taking substances and acting hard are signs of a deep seated complex. You can help her by applying systematic patterns and methods
Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by Enryking(m): 4:41pm On Dec 28, 2017
mamachildren:
she is lost don't fight her don't beat her show her love more than ever tell your mum to show her love it's is hard but turn a blind eye on her issues and then talk to God he will take it from there. She will find her way back on her own because it no more your battle it's of the Lord. You will be surprised. It has worked in many families I know


[/b]Look no further! This is the best advice. It will work, have always worked excepting if she's been used as a thorn in the flesh, an agent of torture. That, too, I believe can be surmounted given the prevailing and efficacious powers of prayers. Show her more love. Moreso, women are generally assumed and believed to be effeminate and soft-hearted. Any act of love and care towards her can't be quickly forgotten. You have been advised.[b]
Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by lazygal: 4:41pm On Dec 28, 2017
splenzard:


thanks bro, but she's a cultist like I said earlier, I've tried beating her but it's as good as flogging a dead horse, she's hardened


You need to be hard to be soft.. Iam sorry over what you are going through. I can imagine your confusion .this is really serious and most peopldwong know what to do.don't mind silly. comments
Hmmmm...I think you need to reach an agreement with your mum and church members ..you have to plan to have her arrested and detained for a very very long time a place outside your state

Whilst she is there ,arrangement can be made for drug rehabilitation ,preaching etc ..this is not arrest on thebookz but underground .she can ever know that it isn't legal ..
What else do you think can be done for as long as she is there her bad peers will be affecting her
Frustration and depression pushed her to this
You also can't let any one know where she is just pretend police came and u don't k ow where she is
Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by fuckpro: 4:41pm On Dec 28, 2017
Funkybabee:
Let sars handle her seriously u are going to thank me later...when she can't eat for 3days..sleep in poo hole and flog severally she is going to change that is what they did for one boy bearing Akin for my neighbour house....he is a thug then
...well-done are you not an animal to suggest such treatment then u later say #ENDSARS its illegal
Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by oderemo(m): 4:42pm On Dec 28, 2017
There is a real culture significance here, majority of reply are on the side of violence, like beat her up, talk to sars, check out the dpo. Guys we have enuff violence in our system on a daily basis, in fact since oyenusi was killed at bar beach in the 70s armed robbery been on the increase, evidence that violence dont work, will not work.
The problem could easily be sorted out, like destabilise her, take her out of her comfort zone, completely to a neutral environment.
Retrain her, show her other means of achieving her goals.
Engage her in one skill or multi skills.
I am not simplifying the issue but you can consider moving your mum to stay with other members of family for support and confidence.
These and other means are available options.
If violence work we will not have armed robbers in Nigeria.
If religion works we will not have mad men working freely nor poverty in our system.
Peace.

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Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by lazygal: 4:42pm On Dec 28, 2017
hysteriabox:

Listen to this dude at your own peril. Since when is beating up anybody a sign that you re a man?
A cultist and drug addict... Which version of beating ll he give? Or is the desired objective to bring the house down?
Guy, she can be counseled systematically. Find her weak spot and go in from there. I was once there- minus the cultism. I know taking substances and acting hard are signs of a deep seated complex. You can help her by applying systematic patterns and methods


Please tell us how you over came it ...and ma sureyou wanted to be healed before you accepted to be helped .this is more complex. We have cultism involved
Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by ichielynda(m): 4:43pm On Dec 28, 2017
dahmie2013:
Y don't u & ur mum embark on a fasting & prayer session 4 her. Dere is nothing God cannot do, prayer changes things & people. Pls I will recommend u get dis book by Bishop David Oyedepo, "Walking in the newness of life" & "Conquering Controlling Powers". She has started beating ur mum, dis is no more a battle u can fight physically, take it 2 God, she herself will come begging.
It is well.


i agree with you absolutely. just take it to God in prayers.
Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by stonecoldcafe: 4:44pm On Dec 28, 2017
splenzard:
Hello Fellow Nlanders,

Compliments of the season.

As this may be the season of happiness, not everyone partakes in the joy of the festivity, I am one of those. Let me cut the chase and go straight to the point.

I'm a 400 level student of civil engineering, I've got a younger sister, I'm older than her with a couple of years although she's yet to gain admission despite the fact that she has tried severally. she decided to start working pending whenever she gains admission.

Along the line, she became a cultist and she suddenly became a heavy smoker, drinker and a drug addict (tramadol, rephnol, codine,etc).

At this point my mum (she's a single mother, my dad died a couple of years back) did she least she could do by scolding, reporting her to the leaders in the church, kinsmen and everyone whom she thought she(my sister) would listen to but all these efforts proved abortive as she deteriorated further as she graduated to bringing men to the house at odd hours of the night.

As at last week, my mum called me and was sobbing over the phone, she told me that my younger sister beat her up because she confronted her about her behavior.


right now I'm confused, in order not to act rashly, i decided to seek for advice from this noble forum.


Please guys i need your matured advice here


Sorry about your mum's plight. She is not a single mother though, she is widowed.

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Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by manci(m): 4:51pm On Dec 28, 2017
lifezone247 pos63686939: good one sir, but there is this popular saying, that charity begins at home. Don’t you think so? At least that authority say I be the man for this house wetting Dey happen?
You can only Coil a tree when it crude Otherwise it brake broke compare this Hausa proveb with this one of white you just said now .
Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by hysteriabox(m): 4:53pm On Dec 28, 2017
lazygal:



Please tell us how you over came it ...and ma sureyou wanted to be healed before you accepted to be helped .this is more complex. We have cultism involved
Yeah, I overcame but my road isn't necessarily that which ll epp your sis. I think it's unrealistic to say it must be this way and that.

What drove me deeper:
1. Perceived antagonism from parents n ppl
2. Loneliness and idleness
3. Terrible peers
4. Misplaced passions

What my aunt did that helped
1. She refused to antagonize
2. She showed me love even when she knew I was high
3. She gave me stronger and admirable elementary living
4. She talked to me and showed me why and how I must overcome
5. Then she pointed to Jesus.

Nobody fist jumped me, or pounded me. I was loved and talked to upon a platter of Christ. And on the 16th March 2002, I decided to be a beta man

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Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by jrusky(m): 4:53pm On Dec 28, 2017
Young man are you mad Your younger sister beaten up your mum and you are asking what to do? For real are you mad So if it's gf that beat up your mum.you will be here asking what to do Definitely I guess you must be those a r s e holes like bobrasky or madrisky male in female flesh idiot if not I can understand you be a real man standing and your younger sister beaten up your own mum that gave birth to you and you can't beat her mercilessly and damage her hands
Young man you are a fool I don't pray to have a child like you. God forbid.

This is so annoying. Sorry i don't joke with my mum and anyone who dares I will break to pieces with everything I know under this heaven. What a nonsense.

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Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by lovelynchioma92(f): 4:54pm On Dec 28, 2017
Buy her part time form where you're schooling or just workout admission for her in any school and let her live in the school hostel and make new friends, just take her far from the influence in that environment, God might lead a good friend to her who will make a good influence in her life. Cos it seems she listens more to friends than family
Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by ovanda(m): 4:57pm On Dec 28, 2017
Bro,I will advice u to apply caution. Back in my university days,I was a solid bb. My elder brother got in my way and my guys gave him a mark he'd go to the grave with. Man-handling this sister of yours could spell disaster for u. Force and violence will not achieve anything now,she will only get worse. Call her,sit her down and talk to her,highlighting the consequences of her actions and where it would lead her to.

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Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by hakimi1974(m): 4:57pm On Dec 28, 2017
tie the she demon and hang her sars police style for ceiling. by the time you bring her down and she massage her joint for one month with aboniki her brain go reset.
Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by ConcernedNL: 4:58pm On Dec 28, 2017
splenzard:
Hello Fellow Nlanders,

Compliments of the season.

As this may be the season of happiness, not everyone partakes in the joy of the festivity, I am one of those. Let me cut the chase and go straight to the point.

I'm a 400 level student of civil engineering, I've got a younger sister, I'm older than her with a couple of years although she's yet to gain admission despite the fact that she has tried severally. she decided to start working pending whenever she gains admission.

Along the line, she became a cultist and she suddenly became a heavy smoker, drinker and a drug addict (tramadol, rephnol, codine,etc).

At this point my mum (she's a single mother, my dad died a couple of years back) did she least she could do by scolding, reporting her to the leaders in the church, kinsmen and everyone whom she thought she(my sister) would listen to but all these efforts proved abortive as she deteriorated further as she graduated to bringing men to the house at odd hours of the night.

As at last week, my mum called me and was sobbing over the phone, she told me that my younger sister beat her up because she confronted her about her behavior.


right now I'm confused, in order not to act rashly, i decided to seek for advice from this noble forum.


Please guys i need your matured advice here


How old is she?
Stage 1
Firstly tell your mum to stop arguing with her, or else she will repeat it.

Stage 2
Call your sister and ask her about what happened, dont go gra gra on her, let her talk, tell her gently to apologise to your mum, tell her to stop doing stuff that hurts your mum.

Stage 3
Tell your mum to be your informant, whats happening at home etc

Stage 4
If your sister persists in bringing cultists home, without telling anyone, inform SARS, let them scoop her up, put her in there for maybe a week or two, flog stupidness out of her body. bail her out. After bailing her out, tell her that the SARS guys told you they are really keeping watch on her gang so she is better off reducing her relationship with them.

Keep praying for her.

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Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by ashjay001(m): 5:00pm On Dec 28, 2017
mamachildren:
she is lost don't fight her don't beat her show her love more than ever tell your mum to show her love it's is hard but turn a blind eye on her issues and then talk to God he will take it from there. She will find her way back on her own because it no more your battle it's of the Lord. You will be surprised. It has worked in many families I know



Splenzard, ds oga here, makes a lot of sense. Na this God matter wey full everywhere, na him dey tire man.


Tell u mom to stop being on her case. Probably, misses her dad/authority figure.



Also, find something for her to do. Idle hands n evil, are best of friendsgrin
Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by Goodpeoplegreat: 5:02pm On Dec 28, 2017
You're going to swallow your pride now as the elder brother.
Go to her speak to her with true love. Telling her how your father is no more hence, you're her loving father now.
Tell her the good plans you have for her as the father, including helping her to secure admission to the university of her choice and her desired course.
Handing her over in marriage to the best suitor who would take care of her absolutely.

Research and tell her some men and women Who indulge in cultism and what later became of them all.

With love in your disposition, enumerate for her the consequences and aftermath effects of drugs addition.

Research and tell her the step by step ways of freeing herself.

Show her excessive love.

NB: If you beat her and she dies, you'll still go to jail. Again, arresting her will end up hardening her the more.

Above all, prayer remains the solution to all challenges facing mankind.

My little contribution... Thanks.

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Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by Stevengerd(m): 5:03pm On Dec 28, 2017
See wetin frustration don cause. JAMB

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Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by ovanda(m): 5:05pm On Dec 28, 2017
jrusky:
Young man are you mad Your younger sister beaten up your mum and you are asking what to do? For real are you mad So if it's gf that beat up your mum.you will be here asking what to do Definitely I guess you must be those a r s e holes like bobrasky or madrisky male in female flesh idiot if not I can understand you be a real man standing and your younger sister beaten up your own mum that gave birth to you and you can't beat her mercilessly and damage her hands
Young man you are a fool I don't pray to have a child like you. God forbid.
people,jumping to very stupid conclusions. Guy,the girl in question don blend abd the brother na jew man. Does that mean anything to u at all?? With the snap of her finger and being a woman,she can maim her brother for life. I was a solid BB(I can shoot,I can stab) if u know what I mean,you'd know that its not always wise to resort to violence. If u were my elder brother and u no blend and u got in my way,guy e don red for u be that. I suggest I he applies soft power.

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Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by Pataricatering(f): 5:07pm On Dec 28, 2017
When will you people get tired of giving people useless advice ? Is God not already aware that the girl is beating her mother ? Im happy the op has even already told you that his mum has been praying seriously to God but no show !
dahmie2013:
Y don't u & ur mum embark on a fasting & prayer session 4 her. Dere is nothing God cannot do, prayer changes things & people. Pls I will recommend u get dis book by Bishop David Oyedepo, "Walking in the newness of life" & "Conquering Controlling Powers". She has started beating ur mum, dis is no more a battle u can fight physically, take it 2 God, she herself will come begging.
It is well.
Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by CandidNotes: 5:08pm On Dec 28, 2017
As sad as this sounds, you have to be careful. If she is truly a cultist, your whole family is in danger... Find another apartment, move secretly and cut her off. Change your phone numbers etc.
Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by adetayo234: 5:08pm On Dec 28, 2017
splenzard:


thanks bro, but she's a cultist like I said earlier, I've tried beating her but it's as good as flogging a dead horse, she's hardened

I think you should call the police and get her and her gang members arrested. They will pipe low by the time they are sued for cultism
Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by seuncyrus(m): 5:10pm On Dec 28, 2017
lalanice:
There's something you guys have missed right from the start, now it will be hard to go back there and fix it.
.

This is just the plain truth , i'm sure she'd shown signs when she was much younger and maybe you or your mom didn't do much to rebuke or correct her. splenzard her case isn't a lost one , as you can see beating her won't have any effect now ,that's a lost cause...I don't know how close you are but its time like this you need to really seat her down and talk sense into her , show her love , call her everyday when you're back to school , make sure you don't miss a day , ask about her day and all that , then ask her about your mom ( little things like this matter )

If you don't see any significant difference within 3 months send her to MFM prayer city or you and your mum should just leave the house without her knowing and make sure you don't contact her or pick her calls for weeks even months sef.
Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by phenylalanine(m): 5:11pm On Dec 28, 2017
splenzard:

Am so sorry for what your Mum is going thru, but pls roll out the history books in ur mum family to check if ur Mum ever beats her mum
Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by Pataricatering(f): 5:14pm On Dec 28, 2017
It’s the addiction to drugs - she will do anything to get a fix including collecting money from the men she is bringing home and beating your mum cause she probably refused to give her money . I think she needs rehabilitation. If you know anyone that can help you commit her to a mental facility where they can get her off the drugs ( you need to do your research) . After that try and remove her from the negative influences and environment and try and show her love while she is healing .
Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by bravesoul247(m): 5:14pm On Dec 28, 2017
splenzard:
Hello Fellow Nlanders,

Compliments of the season.

As this may be the season of happiness, not everyone partakes in the joy of the festivity, I am one of those. Let me cut the chase and go straight to the point.

I'm a 400 level student of civil engineering, I've got a younger sister, I'm older than her with a couple of years although she's yet to gain admission despite the fact that she has tried severally. she decided to start working pending whenever she gains admission.

Along the line, she became a cultist and she suddenly became a heavy smoker, drinker and a drug addict (tramadol, rephnol, codine,etc).

At this point my mum (she's a single mother, my dad died a couple of years back) did she least she could do by scolding, reporting her to the leaders in the church, kinsmen and everyone whom she thought she(my sister) would listen to but all these efforts proved abortive as she deteriorated further as she graduated to bringing men to the house at odd hours of the night.

As at last week, my mum called me and was sobbing over the phone, she told me that my younger sister beat her up because she confronted her about her behavior.


right now I'm confused, in order not to act rashly, i decided to seek for advice from this noble forum.


Please guys i need your matured advice here

Change of environment would help. Take her away to a new state
Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by thedondada(m): 5:18pm On Dec 28, 2017
Oyindidi:
Let your mother throw her out of the house.

Simple solution.

When ever her head clears she'll com3 back home. Body dey scratch am badly.
Re: My Sister Beats My Mum, Guys What I'm I To Do? by Nobody: 5:20pm On Dec 28, 2017
splenzard:
Hello Fellow Nlanders,

Compliments of the season.

As this may be the season of happiness, not everyone partakes in the joy of the festivity, I am one of those. Let me cut the chase and go straight to the point.

I'm a 400 level student of civil engineering, I've got a younger sister, I'm older than her with a couple of years although she's yet to gain admission despite the fact that she has tried severally. she decided to start working pending whenever she gains admission.

Along the line, she became a cultist and she suddenly became a heavy smoker, drinker and a drug addict (tramadol, rephnol, codine,etc).

At this point my mum (she's a single mother, my dad died a couple of years back) did she least she could do by scolding, reporting her to the leaders in the church, kinsmen and everyone whom she thought she(my sister) would listen to but all these efforts proved abortive as she deteriorated further as she graduated to bringing men to the house at odd hours of the night.

As at last week, my mum called me and was sobbing over the phone, she told me that my younger sister beat her up because she confronted her about her behavior.


right now I'm confused, in order not to act rashly, i decided to seek for advice from this noble forum.


Please guys i need your matured advice here

..oboy !!! ....honestly am not understanding... GO and BEAT HER

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