I got married last year July and before that we were in a long distant relationship for several years(both in different countries) before coming together 6 months before our wedding.

I think that was why I never noticed or should I say all the times we were together he never oggled women in front of me. The first time I noticed it was we were at a wedding. I was part of the bridal team and we just finished and was getting food for him. I caught him oogling(not just staring) at a lady over and over again and staring at her legs, ass etc and just continuously staring at her that he never even noticed when I came up next to him. I was upset and I could see he was embarrassed about it and said nothing.

This happened a couple of times. Basically every time we step out of the house the first girl he sees it's like he steps into a trance and starts ogling right next to me sometimes even turning around. He literally does this to every single woman and it is starting to work on my nerves.

I have spoken to him about it that yes everyone, m and f, notice good looking people. Staring briefly and then going on is okay. But when you are in the presence of your wife and you constantly oggle women unashamely for so long is so disrespectful to me. It really makes me feel bad to the point I start to dread going out with him cos I know will have to deal with his ogling.

Not only is it uncomfortable for me but at times the ladies he oogles also notice and it can get uncomfortable too especially when they are with their partners.

I really don't know what to do about this anymore because if we were just dating I would have ended the relationship already but now we are married.

Sometimes I also feel like "ogling men" just so that he can see how it feels like so that he can stop it.

Am I the only one going through this? How do you deal with it? Men do you have to oggle other women like that especially when your wife/gf is present.

Make I read

Oh Mehn, you're in deep shit

please forgive me for laughing but your husband needs deliverance

Ahhh...........the beauty of being a man.
Your wife will beg you to please look small and commot eyes and she will pet you ontop of it. Imagine if it was the wife even smiling interestingly while answering greetings from a man while the hubby is there. Just one time o. Dem for Don throw her bags out through window. Man's life sweet o.

delishpot:
Ahhh...........the beauty of being a man.
Your wife will beg you to please look small and commot eyes and she will pet you ontop of it. Imagine if it was the wife even smiling interestingly while answering greetings from males while the hubby is there. Dem for Don throw her bags out through window. Man's life sweet o.

That is the hypocrisy. When men stare at me etc he doesn't really like it yet it is okay for him to do that with other ladies

elantraceey:
Oh Mehn, you're in deep shit


please forgive me for laughing but your husband needs deliverance

Girl I can't take it anymore

T3Amo:
Girl I can't take it anymore

I don't want to imagine myself in your shoes honestly, maybe you should just give him a slap the next time he tries it in your presence.


Follow this advice at your own peril o

Lol, he must be an ogre that ogles women. A little first accidental look is not bad. Taking a second look means u processed the 1st look and you wanted more. That is when Adultery dey start. Staring at a unknown lady’s body parts is disrespectful and means your husband is objectifying the ladies.....and women that flaunt their body parts anyhow are objectifying themselves ( had to put it out there too )

I will advise you to help him get over the bad habit. Keep discussing it with him and let him see how distressed you are about it.

Hi dear. I know how u feel. Truth is regardless of what anyone says here...the final decision to stop this habit lies in your husband's hand. Bit for now...
1. Have a heart to heart talk with it. Explain to him how it hurts. I'm hoping your husband is the listening type?

2. If no. 1 doesn't work out (and that's after doing it over and over again), look out for someone he respects. Make sure its not a female though. The person must be wise enough to explain how u feel to him.

Lastly put it in the hands of God. Don't feel like doing yours back to get at him. Two wrongs don't make a right.
Cheer up. Its gonna be all right OK.

Somebody cannot be a fan anymore again?

When we say women should dress properly, they say our own is too much after all its a free world.
When we say people should lower their gaze, they say we are too strict.
Your inappropriate dresses has crashed lots of marriages.
Your continuous staring has destroyed some other peoples home.

My point. Women should stop wearing provocative dress and men should lower thier gave and stop staring at women embarrassingly.

you cant stop him but you can help him to stop. He has ogling addiction and that is a serious problem. Ogling addiction is, most times, a product of porn addiction and sex addiction. What happens is that your husband objectifys women. He sees women as sex objects, so when he is ogling at them a lot of things are going on in his mind - things like; ahh with this size of laps what would d organ look like, with this shape of backside ... etc.

SOLUTION
First, find out if he is addicted to porn (you can check his phone and computer browsing history, that is if he is not going incognitio) and ensure he breaks free from the addiction.

Secondly,help him to understand that ogling addiction is a problem, actually a mental health problem, and offer to work with him in finding solution to the problem

Seek the help of a mental health expert

I wish u the best

Lalasticlala over to u