The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by fordgreen(m): 5:08pm On Jan 05, 2018 |
The irony of life Let me just speak my mind... ....................................................................... The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties. The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be. At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age. So you are always left with anything that comes from them willingly. To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so much, you are 24 and she is 23. And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to. I mean where is the money?? You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet. Still putting hands into many things hoping God smiles on you. All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude. You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls. When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies. Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing. Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back. Then one day she calls you and askes you "where is this relationship heading to?. You don't even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship. Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her. And how age isn't on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it. You just hold yourself and play the good guy You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well". Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you. You have to be the cool guy and wish her well. One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself. She was talking to the guy a long time before now. Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle. You have been played. Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time. Would you have made it or not? She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it. In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already). I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend. No comparison there. And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about. And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else. Your heart is broken into smithereens. In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties. At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago. To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad. Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now. And that's your home and abroad. Can life be more unfair at this moment? 6 years later. You are 30 now. Congratulations, you finally made it. You are as rich as you hoped you will become. You are one of the happening guys in town. You go to a wedding. With your friends, the men on suit. Those guys that just intimidate everyone in the hall. You are seated scouting the hall, and the bridal train passes by. Of course, bridal train and ashoebi ladies always show themselves. That's part of the job description. Sampling. And you spot one, she is beautiful, elegant and tall. You walk up to her, chat her up. Exchange numbers and you leave. She is 24, ripe for marriage. Three months later, you are sounding marriage to her ears. She loves how it sounds. You are on chat with her always. And somewhere else, a 25year old boy still finding his way is wondering why the girlfriend is becoming distant these days. Why is he getting those one worded replies which is unlike her. Why do there chats seem more like interview. And fast fast, you have proposed and simultaneously she is asking the 25year old boy that question of "Where is this relationship going to". And then you marry her, and somewhere a boy gets heart broken. The cycle goes on... #IronyOfLife..... ���������#Copied.
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Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by fordgreen(m): 5:09pm On Jan 05, 2018 |
fordgreen: The irony of life Let me just speak my mind... ....................................................................... The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties. The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be. At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age. So you are always left with anything that comes from them willingly. To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so much, you are 24 and she is 23. And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to. I mean where is the money?? You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet. Still putting hands into many things hoping God smiles on you. All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude. You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls. When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies. Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing. Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back. Then one day she calls you and askes you "where is this relationship heading to?. You don't even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship. Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her. And how age isn't on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it. You just hold yourself and play the good guy You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well". Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you. You have to be the cool guy and wish her well. One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself. She was talking to the guy a long time before now. Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle. You have been played. Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time. Would you have made it or not? She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it. In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already). I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend. No comparison there. And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about. And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else. Your heart is broken into smithereens. In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties. At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago. To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad. Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now. And that's your home and abroad. Can life be more unfair at this moment? 6 years later. You are 30 now. Congratulations, you finally made it. You are as rich as you hoped you will become. You are one of the happening guys in town. You go to a wedding. With your friends, the men on suit. Those guys that just intimidate everyone in the hall. You are seated scouting the hall, and the bridal train passes by. Of course, bridal train and ashoebi ladies always show themselves. That's part of the job description. Sampling. And you spot one, she is beautiful, elegant and tall. You walk up to her, chat her up. Exchange numbers and you leave. She is 24, ripe for marriage. Three months later, you are sounding marriage to her ears. She loves how it sounds. You are on chat with her always. And somewhere else, a 25year old boy still finding his way is wondering why the girlfriend is becoming distant these days. Why is he getting those one worded replies which is unlike her. Why do there chats seem more like interview. And fast fast, you have proposed and simultaneously she is asking the 25year old boy that question of "Where is this relationship going to". And then you marry her, and somewhere a boy gets heart broken. The cycle goes on... #IronyOfLife..... ���������#Copied.
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Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by opsylojay(m): 5:37pm On Jan 05, 2018 |
OP just go copy my life manuscript somewhere come add the end to it by himself.... Nice one bro... you deserve a bottle of chilled origin for this 2 Likes |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by ubunja(m): 5:46pm On Jan 05, 2018 |
lol true my niggar 80% of men have the most cr@ppy 20s ever. and life really gets better at their 30s.thats why i always support guys in their 30s hooking up with gals 19-22. they deserve each other. 1 Like |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by opsylojay(m): 8:57pm On Jan 05, 2018 |
I wonder why this post is not getting many views and comments as expected 1 Like |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by Cowbuoy: 9:00pm On Jan 05, 2018 |
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Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by Nobody: 9:05pm On Jan 05, 2018 |
Post of the month.you just delved into a part of men's life that women aren't aware of.we go through this heartbreak and society expects us to be quiet about it.well that's just the cycle of life |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by Gofwane(m): 10:06pm On Jan 05, 2018 |
....... Bitter truth! I feel like telling bae "it is over" because i know she will eventually say that to me very soon. She told me that she must get married late this year or early next year. To make matters worse, she is one of all these slay Queens and me i'm a confirm ghetto cat struggling to make ends meet. Chai! I don die yehhh.... But where is Lalasticlala sef ? This thread suppose to make it to the headquarters nah... |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by mumumugu(m): 10:24pm On Jan 05, 2018 |
it has made front page before |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by fordgreen(m): 10:38pm On Jan 05, 2018 |
cc lalasticlala and mynd44 please move to front page fordgreen: The irony of life Let me just speak my mind... ....................................................................... The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties. The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be. At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age. So you are always left with anything that comes from them willingly. To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so much, you are 24 and she is 23. And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to. I mean where is the money?? You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet. Still putting hands into many things hoping God smiles on you. All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude. You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls. When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies. Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing. Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back. Then one day she calls you and askes you "where is this relationship heading to?. You don't even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship. Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her. And how age isn't on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it. You just hold yourself and play the good guy You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well". Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you. You have to be the cool guy and wish her well. One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself. She was talking to the guy a long time before now. Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle. You have been played. Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time. Would you have made it or not? She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it. In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already). I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend. No comparison there. And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about. And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else. Your heart is broken into smithereens. In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties. At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago. To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad. Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now. And that's your home and abroad. Can life be more unfair at this moment? 6 years later. You are 30 now. Congratulations, you finally made it. You are as rich as you hoped you will become. You are one of the happening guys in town. You go to a wedding. With your friends, the men on suit. Those guys that just intimidate everyone in the hall. You are seated scouting the hall, and the bridal train passes by. Of course, bridal train and ashoebi ladies always show themselves. That's part of the job description. Sampling. And you spot one, she is beautiful, elegant and tall. You walk up to her, chat her up. Exchange numbers and you leave. She is 24, ripe for marriage. Three months later, you are sounding marriage to her ears. She loves how it sounds. You are on chat with her always. And somewhere else, a 25year old boy still finding his way is wondering why the girlfriend is becoming distant these days. Why is he getting those one worded replies which is unlike her. Why do there chats seem more like interview. And fast fast, you have proposed and simultaneously she is asking the 25year old boy that question of "Where is this relationship going to". And then you marry her, and somewhere a boy gets heart broken. The cycle goes on... #IronyOfLife..... ���������#Copied.
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Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by fordgreen(m): 10:40pm On Jan 05, 2018 |
Na so we see am.....it has happened to most guys, me inclusive opsylojay: OP just go copy my life manuscript somewhere come add the end to it by himself.... Nice one bro... you deserve a bottle of chilled origin for this |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by fordgreen(m): 10:41pm On Jan 05, 2018 |
Lol...they deserve each other that got me ubunja: lol true my niggar 80% of men have the most cr@ppy 20s ever. and life really gets better at their 30s.thats why i always support guys in their 30s hooking up with gals 19-22. they deserve each other. |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by fordgreen(m): 10:42pm On Jan 05, 2018 |
opsylojay: I wonder why this post is not getting many views and comments as expected |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by fordgreen(m): 10:43pm On Jan 05, 2018 |
I had to humbly go through my own and still attend the wedding ceremony....at least to show say i no get badbelle djpriopry: Post of the month.you just delved into a part of men's life that women aren't aware of.we go through this heartbreak and society expects us to be quiet about it.well that's just the cycle of life |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by fordgreen(m): 10:47pm On Jan 05, 2018 |
That ur relationship na 1 chance...she be slay queen and you be kpako like me ...U don enter o Gofwane: ....... Bitter truth! I feel like telling bae "it is over" because i know she will eventually say that to me very soon. She told me that she must get married late this year or early next year. To make matters worse, she is one of all these slay Queens and me i'm a confirm ghetto cat struggling to make ends meet.
Chai! I don die yehhh....
But where is Lalasticlala sef? This thread suppose to make it to the headquarters nah...
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Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by fordgreen(m): 10:48pm On Jan 05, 2018 |
Thanks 1 bottle of Roman Schnapp for you and ur ancestors mumumugu: it has made front page before |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by Jman06(m): 10:58pm On Jan 05, 2018 |
That is why it is good to avoid relationships until one is financially ready. It is obvious that ladies won't change. They will always look for men with money. Don't listen to any of them telling you trash about love, she will not hesitate to dump you for the ready-made guy when the infatuation clears from her eyes. Hustle hard and guard your heart from being shattered by a girl.
The Vaseline crew knows better. 1 Like |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by Davedgr8(m): 11:19pm On Jan 05, 2018 |
99% true 99% true 1 Like |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by LessNoise: 1:10am On Jan 06, 2018 |
110% TRUE 1 Like |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by kenralph(m): 1:31am On Jan 06, 2018 |
Life of an average young man world over. 1 Like |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by Lillyane(f): 7:32am On Jan 06, 2018 |
fordgreen: The irony of life Let me just speak my mind... ....................................................................... The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties. The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be. At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age. So you are always left with anything that comes from them willingly. To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so much, you are 24 and she is 23. And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to. I mean where is the money?? You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet. Still putting hands into many things hoping God smiles on you. All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude. You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls. When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies. Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing. Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back. Then one day she calls you and askes you "where is this relationship heading to?. You don't even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship. Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her. And how age isn't on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it. You just hold yourself and play the good guy You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well". Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you. You have to be the cool guy and wish her well. One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself. She was talking to the guy a long time before now. Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle. You have been played. Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time. Would you have made it or not? She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it. In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already). I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend. No comparison there. And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about. And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else. Your heart is broken into smithereens. In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties. At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago. To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad. Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now. And that's your home and abroad. Can life be more unfair at this moment? 6 years later. You are 30 now. Congratulations, you finally made it. You are as rich as you hoped you will become. You are one of the happening guys in town. You go to a wedding. With your friends, the men on suit. Those guys that just intimidate everyone in the hall. You are seated scouting the hall, and the bridal train passes by. Of course, bridal train and ashoebi ladies always show themselves. That's part of the job description. Sampling. And you spot one, she is beautiful, elegant and tall. You walk up to her, chat her up. Exchange numbers and you leave. She is 24, ripe for marriage. Three months later, you are sounding marriage to her ears. She loves how it sounds. You are on chat with her always. And somewhere else, a 25year old boy still finding his way is wondering why the girlfriend is becoming distant these days. Why is he getting those one worded replies which is unlike her. Why do there chats seem more like interview. And fast fast, you have proposed and simultaneously she is asking the 25year old boy that question of "Where is this relationship going to". And then you marry her, and somewhere a boy gets heart broken. The cycle goes on... #IronyOfLife..... ���������#Copied.
mod; lalasticala This post really touched my soul,confam bitter truth...A bottle of sky vodka for you. |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by Teaser4(m): 11:59am On Jan 06, 2018 |
nothing but facts..... hustle on 1 Like |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by fordgreen(m): 7:35pm On Jan 06, 2018 |
That's even my brand...thumps up to you Lillyane: This post really touched my soul,confam bitter truth...A bottle of sky vodka for you. 1 Like |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by fordgreen(m): 7:36pm On Jan 06, 2018 |
That's the spirit.. [color=#990000][/color] Teaser4: nothing but facts..... hustle on |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by TIDDOLL(m): 7:45pm On Jan 06, 2018 |
At 25... Am yet to have a Girl An Irony for that please 1 Like |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by JONNYSPUTE(m): 7:47pm On Jan 06, 2018 |
You ve just stated the fact.Nice piece |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by moemindz: 7:55pm On Jan 06, 2018 |
Chaiiiii
This article makes sense....
I'm 25, my bae is 24 ...omoh...
She is talking about marriage. Her parents, family friends are asking her about marriage. Men in her church are also asking for her hand in marriage -atleast she told me the one of last sunday--.
I, on the other hand, is still trying to define where my life is headed.
Omoh! |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by Smony: 8:31pm On Jan 06, 2018 |
Op, nice 1. i remmember when men ar stl boyz. it wasn't easy 1 Like |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by Nobody: 8:46pm On Jan 06, 2018 |
As a woman age is not on their side especially during child bearing jare 1 Like |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by opsylojay(m): 9:38pm On Jan 06, 2018 |
fordgreen: seun modify and delete this...it's makes the post too long and scary 1 Like |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by DonMekino(m): 10:20pm On Jan 06, 2018 |
To be frank.....marrying a girl almost ur age is somehow too....women tend to age faster than men, in ur forties u still look youngish while ur wife in ur forties is all sagged down, reason men still go for younger women.....but its not always d case....life has no one way formula |
Re: The Irony Of Life>>>>>>relationship Matters by Nobody: 10:57am On Jan 07, 2018 |
fordgreen: I had to humbly go through my own and still attend the wedding ceremony....at least to show say i no get badbelle Bro that's the way oh,any relationship. I enter now I make sure I don't love the person,when I notice Am getting all lovey dovey I give her space for a while |