Nice work you are doing here teddy boss! You have talked about many things. My concern is on activating their emotions through communication. Without this, we can't balance the investment from both sides and act the boyfriend role. Give us some pointers as an experienced player on what to talk about to elicit strong emotional reactions from them. Thanks boss!

Audacious19:

Nice thread by the way,seeing it for the first time thou, thumb up.
Meet this girl around November, we got talking ND stuffs were working out, well, we planned meeting on December when she will be out of school, she visited during December period we made love, amid our differences that night cos initially she thought i won't like her as i have seen her physically, fast foward to now, she has been acting strange, i do all the calls most time's unlike before, she isn't that romantic anymore, each time i call her to ask her why, she shifts the blame on me saying am treating her badly cos i have seen everything i wanted to see, am confused if am to ditch her or continue with these, i don't know how long am to try before she comes back to the person i felt in love with, what do you think bro??

please ditch her in a grand style and save your heart on time.

pls boss help me,their this girl that I normally see steady in church because I play d Piano @tyms in d church, so last year November I decided to met her.....I meet her i told her that it has bin long time I be being seeing, but we haven't met ,then told her that am crushing on her BT ve bin scared to tel her because I didn't knw what her reaction will be...so she exclaimed that is cool that am cute ,handsm and tall and ve a talent... so I asked her for her no she gave m...then I didn't cal her for a week ,then decided to call her d following week ,she picked up we talked bla bla...I told her that I wud luv us to see in a cool place, perhaps my huz,she said no p,jst that no chance on her side for now ....when she makes out tym...we kept getting in touch ,even d day she said she will come arnd ,then later said she didn't finish what she was doin in d bank...because I live in school from her side to my side shud b 30mins trip...so on 24th dec 2017, I lost my mother since then she have been checking on me...until on 31st evening she took me out ....she paid d bills up to 3500, we talked and talked ...she enjoyed d day Nd m too...we had an agreement because I agreed am going to teach her d piano, so we re to start our rehearsals on 1st being d next day....she didn't even call m because we agreed 1pm ...then I called pass after 1.... and asked her wstup abt what we discussed dh am waiting for her ,she said she is sick... then I said hope that she is getting beta...then checked on her several times that day....so she told m she will b going for work d next day tomorrow.... so I decided not to cal her ..lemme c her reaction if will she call...since that 1st til now she hasn't called Nd I ve already felt for her...I dunno what to do..I need to start dating her...because I think I deserve someone like her arnd m...am still on trying period

there is dis babe we wrk in d same organisation in abuja.we love each
other as a frnd.i kwn her ex-guy.she use to com
to me for advice.along d line issue came up wt d
guy
i chayk her she dint accept me.bt she love me nd
always introduce me to all her ex frnd.her ex distroy her fone due to jeliousness recevin call
frm frnd.she told me am not capable to tak good
care of her.and any body dat got her fone among
all her ex she will love d person..always tellin me
am not capable to tak care of her if i married
her..wat shud i do now to convince her..to remove attention frm dos guy.#

Bobbyvally:
there is dis babe we wrk in d same organisation in abuja.we love each
other as a frnd.i kwn her ex-guy.she use to com
to me for advice.along d line issue came up wt d
guy
i chayk her she dint accept me.bt she love me nd
always introduce me to all her ex frnd.her ex distroy her fone due to jeliousness recevin call
frm frnd.she told me am not capable to tak good
care of her.and any body dat got her fone among
all her ex she will love d person..always tellin me
am not capable to tak care of her if i married
her..wat shud i do now to convince her..to remove attention frm dos guy.#

PLEASE HOUSE A MOMENT OF SILENCE FOR OUR BROTHER IN THE FRIEND ZONE

Bobbyvally:
there is dis babe we wrk in d same organisation in abuja.we love each
other as a frnd.i kwn her ex-guy.she use to com
to me for advice.along d line issue came up wt d
guy
i chayk her she dint accept me.bt she love me nd
always introduce me to all her ex frnd.her ex distroy her fone due to jeliousness recevin call
frm frnd. she told me am not capable to tak good
care of her.and any body dat got her fone among
all her ex she will love d person..always tellin me
am not capable to tak care of her if i married
her..wat shud i do now to convince her..to remove attention frm dos guy. #

Bruh! You don't need help in focusing her attention on you, you need help in running far away from that gold digger. You are dealing with a thief, a coded olosho, you are better than this, throw her thoughts in the trash can where she belongs and turn your search towards better prospects

Cheers

E get one babe for my humble area wey be say I don dey reason am for my mind.

Naso I dey waka one day hin follow her sibling yarn sey make d guy dey observe ma posture sey I go look her sight........ (I no dey do that thou)

Make I go follow am talk hope d tin fit pure abi mk guy no worry?

i need a piece of advice..
I work and base in abuja..a coleague of mine is so close to me dat.people start thinkin dat we are datin wer as we are not.she quit wit his guy..and always open up to me concerned her affair.some of her ex.guy she used my fone to call dem.his guy spoil her fone due to anger nd jelious..so she quit the relationship btw dem.she always ask small favour frm me.bt we hav nw creat a cordial closeness.bt i told her i will lik to tak her as my own.she always say am nt capable and she is the type dat love money so much.due to financial aspect.dat assume i am capable she will date me nd forgt all her ex.guy.she always allow me to romance her bt for sex no way.she always enjoy my love play..she nw told me if i get her a new fone dat she will give me wat i need verry well..
Pls hw will i convince dis nawty girl.for sex..she always ask for small favour..so tell me if any logic i can used

Came across this and felt I should share it.

It is commonly said that us women are complex in nature while men remain easy to understand and simple. Whatever be the reason backing the comment, in relationships both men and women follow slightly diverted paths. What men look for in relationships is not actually what motivates us women to fall in a relationship. The difference in mentalities, desires, passion, expression levels, etc. are resulted from unknown causes; might be social concepts, mindset changes or hormonal differences. Women get time to be settled in a relationship, but if settled down, they remain so dedicated and sacrificing for it; while men jump into relationships so easily and get out of it with some easiness. However, experts say that if provided with requirements and if matched with his desires, even men ardently remain in relationships!

xxxtedyxxx:


Calling a girl babe is normal. Babe is not only for a girl you are dating. Stop apologising, it makes you look week. If she doesn't like it, don't apologise- no matter how she feels or desires it. Smile and continue the convo. If you can't use babe, then use dear. But the sad thing is "dear" is cliche now - it's everywhere.

Concerning investment, Read this https://www.nairaland.com/4270363/one-little-secret-could-save

Don't forget a girl won't invest unless she is likes you, or is attracted to you, or she respects/values you.

Good day sir. I'm having issue meeting and starting conversation with a girl/girls on the way especially someone i am just seeing for the first time.
please what line/lines is good for someone you are just seeing for the first time on the way.

DTalented:

Good day sir. I'm having issue meeting and starting conversation with a girl/girls on the way especially someone i am just seeing for the first time.
please what line/lines is good for someone you are just seeing for the first time on the way.

hi.


The solution to your issue had Already been posted before you asked. Read; ages 0-9 , all the answers are there.

Bobbyvally:
there is dis babe we wrk in d same organisation in abuja.we love each
other as a frnd.i kwn her ex-guy.she use to com
to me for advice.along d line issue came up wt d
guy
i chayk her she dint accept me.bt she love me nd
always introduce me to all her ex frnd.her ex distroy her fone due to jeliousness recevin call
frm frnd.she told me am not capable to tak good
care of her.and any body dat got her fone among
all her ex she will love d person..always tellin me
am not capable to tak care of her if i married
her..wat shud i do now to convince her..to remove attention frm dos guy.#

stop wasting your time with a girl who doesn't value you.

A girl who doesn't invest in you is a total waste of time. In the event of a breakup, you will lose more.

Structure your investment plan based on her investment in you. Don't just go about buying stuff for her, calling her from morning to night, sending her airtime (cash), when she doesn't or won't do the same for you.

Great op and others...

Pls I need urgent advice here very fast..

I met one jewel like that unfortunately her phone got faulty & her contact wasn't collected thou I extended mine whc she gracefully collected.

I premise she gonna dispose the slip embedded with d number...... Voila I saw a call fr her same night via a neighbour's phone

So kindly show me next step to hook her and get her Yes....

And what shld be my action plan at current stage ?Thks

.

xxxtedyxxx:


hi.


The solution to your issue had Already been posted before you asked. Read; ages 0-9 , all the answers are there.

Didn't see it sir.

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^^^ FOMO at play, it’s the worst element in the world of financial investment. She prolly sees this FOMO in you already and she is smiling she just nabbed a mumu to put on her short list of pay roll of beta bit$chassNG.

To answer your question, go and miss out from this opportunity and come back and thank us later. We are not going to teach you how to get this particular girl, the assignment for you is we want you to lose this particular girl first and come back and learn all seduction fundamentals before your next date attempt.

hmmm

Hello plz I really need your advice on dis matter. I met this girl on facebook, we became friends after that I told my intention that I want her as my gf. A week later she agreed. But before den I told her I will like to see cause have never seen her before. She agreed so we met at ozone. On that day we met I found out she is a very close friend of my friend gf. And this my friend dat am talking about is my close friend. Cause we both rent the house we're leaving together.. As time goes on we talked abt so many things. But what I found out is that I have always been the one to first sent her message on facebook, she has never for once send me a message.. We've been dating for months now.. I only saw her 4 times. And her house is not far from mine, just 4 street difference .. Last week Friday she told me on facebook that her ex is back. The word pissed me off a lot.. Since then I have not message her and she did not message me too.. Plz what do you think I can do cause I love her so much.. Should I let her go or what

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Hurlarzan139:
Hello plz I really need your advice on dis matter. I met this girl on facebook, we became friends after that I told my intention that I want her as my gf. A week later she agreed. But before den I told her I will like to see cause have never seen her before. She agreed so we met at ozone. On that day we met I found out she is a very close friend of my friend gf. And this my friend dat am talking about is my close friend. Cause we both rent the house we're leaving together.. As time goes on we talked abt so many things. But what I found out is that I have always been the one to first sent her message on facebook, she has never for once send me a message.. We've been dating for months now.. I only saw her 4 times. And her house is not far from mine, just 4 street difference .. Last week Friday she told me on facebook that her ex is back. The word pissed me off a lot.. Since then I have not message her and she did not message me too.. Plz what do you think I can do cause I love her so much.. Should I let her go or what

Don't waste your time. She doesn't worth the sweat.
Go find another girl. Girls yakpa

i fell in love when i was small....we went to the same pry school......and i fell in love back then....but i have no courage to tell her....
when she gained admission to university, i gave her one of my notes on music.... bla bla bla....
last two months....dec....we were chatting, then she asked.... "did i look unapproachable"
i replied no
then she asked why i did not tell her all my mind Nd if she can't give me what i want . ....then I'll know my fate.
.i replied......i can't stand the fact that you might say no... i am afraid you might disagree.....

she said....you don't know my mind,,,, i have known all this while...i saw all your articles in the book you gave me 2 yrs ago

then i told her... that is the truth.... i love you more than you could imagine... bla bla bla.....

then i got the reply that shocked me.....
"dan.....we are friends, more closer.... i really like it that way, you still want my happiness right let us stay as friends, i am already in a relationship...


i felt like dying....
i felt an urge to ask about her guy....but i decided not to ask... cos i believe i can still get out of friendzone ...

pls help me....should i approach her again or what can i do??

tedy i wan ask a questn u mention dt 2 chat wit a lady u must listen pick hooks nd ask open ended questns.my problem i dnt stil understand d open end questn hav google it but stil nt get understamd it so asking if u can giv us d lame man explanatn about open ended questn.other nairalanders u undastand open ended questn 2 giv me d lame explanatn of it.

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Ogaonos:
tedy i wan ask a questn u mention dt 2 chat wit a lady u must listen pick hooks nd ask open ended questns.my problem i dnt stil understand d open end questn hav google it but stil nt get understamd it so asking if u can giv us d lame man explanatn about open ended questn.other nairalanders u undastand open ended questn 2 giv me d lame explanatn of it.

sorry for the late reply. You are welcome.


Open ended questions are questions structured in such a way as to elicit a deep response from your target. A close ended question is the opposite. A close ended question is one that deserves a "yes or.no" reply. You don't have to think deep before you can answer a close ended question.

Do You like rice? Can You cook? Do you have a boyfriend? Do you stay alone? Do you like pink? etc.

For your target to answer an open ended question, she will need to do some thinking.

So what makes you happy? So how did your day go? So what and what do you do for fun?

Instead of asking do you like rice, ask her: so what do you like most about rice?

Instead of asking her " Can you cook", ask her: " So what kind of a cook are you? or " When was the last time you prepared something for yourself" or " what do you like most about cooking for yourself? etc

An open ended question is a two edged sword. It will get you the "yes or no" reply you want and also give you more things to hint on.

XXtedy

danielclef1:
i fell in love when i was small....we went to the same pry school......and i fell in love back then....but i have no courage to tell her....
when she gained admission to university, i gave her one of my notes on music.... bla bla bla....
last two months....dec....we were chatting, then she asked.... "did i look unapproachable"
i replied no
then she asked why i did not tell her all my mind Nd if she can't give me what i want . ....then I'll know my fate.
.i replied......i can't stand the fact that you might say no... i am afraid you might disagree.....

she said....you don't know my mind,,,, i have known all this while...i saw all your articles in the book you gave me 2 yrs ago

then i told her... that is the truth.... i love you more than you could imagine... bla bla bla.....

then i got the reply that shocked me.....
"dan.....we are friends, more closer.... i really like it that way, you still want my happiness right let us stay as friends, i am already in a relationship...


i felt like dying....
i felt an urge to ask about her guy....but i decided not to ask... cos i believe i can still get out of friendzone ...

pls help me....should i approach her again or what can i do??

No need to die brother. You have already invested, though emotionally, way more than her. You like her more than she likes you.

Investment bro.

Let her go. No need wasting your time on her.

Your best bet is to package and runs other babes. There are lots of girls like her, if not better. Let the abundance mentality rule your psyche.

It's better you didn't ask of her guy. Kudos
Never ask about her boyfriend please. Never ever do that. It's gets you deeper into the friendzone.

The best you can do, if you still want her, and I bet you do because of your level of emotional investment, is to take her as a gf already.

No asking out. Change your moves....call her babe irrespective of how she responds. Don't act like a friend anymore...take her as a babe..dont suggest it, don't tell her to be your gf, or bae, just act like a boyfriend. That's what she wants.


If all else fails...just fashi her and move on.

Hurlarzan139:
Hello plz I really need your advice on dis matter. I met this girl on facebook, we became friends after that I told my intention that I want her as my gf. A week later she agreed. But before den I told her I will like to see cause have never seen her before. She agreed so we met at ozone. On that day we met I found out she is a very close friend of my friend gf. And this my friend dat am talking about is my close friend. Cause we both rent the house we're leaving together.. As time goes on we talked abt so many things. But what I found out is that I have always been the one to first sent her message on facebook, she has never for once send me a message.. We've been dating for months now.. I only saw her 4 times. And her house is not far from mine, just 4 street difference .. Last week Friday she told me on facebook that her ex is back. The word pissed me off a lot.. Since then I have not message her and she did not message me too.. Plz what do you think I can do cause I love her so much.. Should I let her go or what

Let her go. she is not worth wasting time one.

Girls are everywhere.


Pls delete her number, and don't hesitate. You need good memories, not a babe who doesn't value your efforts.


Move ahead.

Don't ask a girl to be your gf nextime

osic:
Met this girl, couple of months ago, we've been talking, things are good, but the problem is how can I move from the talking stage to sex.

forget sex... it will come naturally as a byproduct of attraction.

xxxtedyxxx:



sorry for the late reply. You are welcome.


Open ended questions are questions structured in such a way as to elicit a deep response from your target. A close ended question is the opposite. A close ended question is one that deserves a "yes or.no" reply. You don't have to think deep before you can answer a close ended question.

Do You like rice? Can You cook? Do you have a boyfriend? Do you stay alone? Do you like pink? etc.

For your target to answer an open ended question, she will need to do some thinking.

So what makes you happy? So how did your day go? So what and what do you do for fun?

Instead of asking do you like rice, ask her: so what do you like most about rice?

Instead of asking her " Can you cook", ask her: " So what kind of a cook are you? or " When was the last time you prepared something for yourself" or " what do you like most about cooking for yourself? etc

An open ended question is a two edged sword. It will get you the "yes or no" reply you want and also give you more things to hint on.

XXtedy

ok wat of dis a created 4 my little undastanding about open ended questn.eg babe sup hope ur day was grt nd luvly wich is closed ended questn.when she rely yes.me:so babe tell me all about ur luvly day.open ended questn.hw u c am