NarnieSnyper:
I just don't get it, what's the big deal about being single like marriage is the final destination or greatest achievement for a woman.
This is typical Nigerian/African backward mentality and we need to stop this.

INI Edo, Chika ike, Tonto Dike all got married but never had the "happy ending".

See your role model. Smh

trustyshoess:

Such as?

your moniker is you

BIXYBABE:
This one weak me........d way OP package it as if marriage is d ticket to eternity

That's how you ladies see it. It's normal.

BIXYBABE:
So u must mention names to comment. When plenty of u guys u guys refuse to marry wetin we should do.

I agree, plenty men just refuse to marry for no legitimate reasons. Me too was in that category before, i'm now out sha...Praise d Lord.

timilinda:



My dear that attitude keeps irritating me a lot. Once a woman is a spinster, pple keep spewing trash. Is marriage an achievement?

Marriage is a good thing, stop deluding yourself

trustyshoess:

Companionship doesn't always need to be a relationship. If I find a man during my quest to achieve financial success, then great. If not, I've got my family, my friends, and the option of adopting a child since there are so many out there who need a family. I refuse to live my life with a tunnel vision of finding a man. There is so much more to life and you miss out When you place all your focus on one thing

You're trying too hard, stop it. What's the guarantee you will hammer or make the right decisions in your so-called conquest?

Shortyy:


Whether he was lying or nah. That is none of my bizwax boy. The only pained person here is actually who ever created this dumb ass thread. And y'all commending him.
Y'all have been rejected by women so much that you go around creating useless threads on NL.

Y'all should go get something doing. Probably by the grace of God you will make enough money to buy yourselves sex dolls. Ndi iberibe anokogheri.

Wow, don't worry, this year; a Rich and 'Godfearing' man will find you. Say AMEN to that.

Zykod:



You're trying too hard, stop it. What's the guarantee you will hammer or make the right decisions in your so-called conquest?

In life there are no guarantees, but if you work hard and smart, you'll always get somewhere. And until I achieve my goals, i won't stop.
If you like call it "trying too hard" that's your business. Why don't you try stop hustling and gear your whole life towards finding a rich woman who'll take care of your bills? Sound ridiculous to You? Yea me too

trustyshoess:

In life there are no guarantees, but if you work hard and smart, you'll always get somewhere. And until I achieve my goals, i won't stop.
If you like call it "trying too hard" that's your business. Why don't you try stop hustling and gear your whole life towards finding a rich woman who'll take care of your bills? Sound ridiculous to You? Yea me too

Lol. You're grinding my balls @ Why don't you try stop hustling and gear your whole life towards finding a rich woman who'll take care of your bills? Sound ridiculous to You? Yea me too


Stop playing smart, find a man, or rather, let yourself be found and stop all of these....

XingXhang:
your moniker is you

Yes I have trust issues, it's actually a good thing imo

Shortyy:


Whether he was lying or nah. That is none of my bizwax boy. The only pained person here is actually who ever created this dumb ass thread. And y'all commending him.
Y'all have been rejected by women so much that you go around creating useless threads on NL.

Y'all should go get something doing. Probably by the grace of God you will make enough money to buy yourselves sex dolls. Ndi iberibe anokogheri.

If i slap you. You call the ebst thread i've seen in years, a dumb ass thread. If i slap you eh

Zykod:



Lol. You're grinding my balls @ Why don't you try stop hustling and gear your whole life towards finding a rich woman who'll take care of your bills? Sound ridiculous to You? Yea me too


Stop playing smart, find a man, or rather, let yourself be found and stop all of these....

that's how Nigerian society dumb girls down and stops them from achieving their true potential. "Stop playing smart". No, thank you, I'll continue to play smart and work hard. I'm not stopping myself from being found or meeting someone along the line but that is never ever going to be my focus, even if I'm 35. When you give yourself multiple sources of happiness, one missing source won't make a big difference.
See how y'all get mad at a woman who wants to be independent, but will be the same ones to complain that Nigerian girls are too dependent on men for everything? It's a cultural flaw

trustyshoess:

Yes I have trust issues, it's actually a good thing imo

For whatever reason: I think we resent what we really are (psychologically speaking).

It states that if a person is not trust worthy, they won't trust others.

Scan through your values and make propositions according to wisdom.

XingXhang:


For whatever reason: I think we resent what we really are (psychologically speaking).

It states that if a person is not trust worthy, they won't trust others.

Scan through your values and make propositions according to wisdom.

Nope, that's not why. It's a defense mechanism actually. You trust no One, therefore you have little to no expectations of them so when they mess up (as humans do), there's no hurt or disappointment because you had no expectations in the first place

trustyshoess:

that's how Nigerian society dumb girls down and stops them from achieving their true potential. "Stop playing smart". No, thank you, I'll continue to play smart and work hard. I'm not stopping myself from beinf found or meeting someone along the line but that is never ever going to be my focus, even if I'm 35. When you give yourself multiple sources or happiness, one missing source won't make a big difference.

You're trying too hard. This is the essence of this thread. I know your kinds, you live and exist for the rules, and not for the essence of life, which is " living ". I'm 100% sure you will achieve all you dream of, even without a man, but when you have achieved it, you'll turn back, and wish you could have done things differently, trust me, a man the entire world once knew and recognized as the wisest man in his entire generation and 300 years more practiced this same principle of yours, towards the end of his life, he recorded it down, expressing his regrets, and how vain his pursuits were. Nothing beats a life with happiness, satisfaction, laughter, and the little positive things...I won't be in your future, i could be as well,but you'll remember this comment, you're on a path of vanity, and you're been misguided by vain rules and principles. True happiness exists, even though not through a man, but in moderation attaining the little things that fills our souls and makes us satisfied..

Shortyy:


And why are you quoting me stvpid It's hurting you that I'm stating the obvious? Get yourself a job and buy a sex doll. No one cares about you or your tiny dicks. Anuofia.

And constantly calling me hoe is so 2017. We all know that's what you call yo momma. Like I said earlier, get something doing. You won't be bothered about any lady who got married or not.

Which obvious ?


Go and read what the op posted
That's the truth i
And if you not pained by what he said, you will not be out here blabbing


so you have been constantly called an hoe
So you need a new name
What about "biach"
Is that 2018 like?

Me small Dick?
Biach
Go and tighten your vagina

I will buy a sex doll, thank yOu
Her Pussy doesn't smell like fish..

Also, Who cares about you?
Well the Oracle that the yahoo boys uses, may care though
My momma?
I don't blame you and that thing you call a mom
I blame your grandma who herself lacks home training ,how will she train your mother and your mother train you. So sad

Pained about what exactly?

Na me dey go Shiloh?
.or na me sey use cucumber?

You self go and get a butt and breast implant
Oloshi oniranu

P.S
Go and die

trustyshoess:

Nope, that's not why. It's a defense mechanism actually. You trust no One, therefore you have little to no expectations of them so when they mess up (as humans do), there's no hurt or disappointment because you had no expectations in the first place

But do you (inside you) wants others to trust you at least?

Zykod:



You're trying too hard. This is the essence of this thread. I know your kinds, you live and exist for the rules, and not for the essence of life, which is " living ". I'm 100% sure you will achieve all you dream of, even without a man, but when you have achieved it, you'll turn back, and wish you could have done things differently, trust me, a man the entire world once knew and recognized as the wisest man in his entire generation and 300 years more practiced this same principle of yours, towards the end of his life, he recorded it down, expressing his regrets, and how vain his pursuits were. Nothing beats a life with happiness, satisfaction, laughter, and the little positive things...I won't be in your future, i could be as well,but you'll remember this comment, you're on a path of vanity, and you're been misguided by vain rules and principles. True happiness exists, even though not through a man, but in moderation attaining the little things that fills our souls and makes us satisfied..

Read the last part of my previous post again. We're saying the exact same thing :

When you give yourself multiple sources of happiness, one missing source won't make a big difference.

trustyshoess:

Nope, that's not why. It's a defense mechanism actually. You trust no One, therefore you have little to no expectations of them so when they mess up (as humans do), there's no hurt or disappointment because you had no expectations in the first place

Psychological defense mechanisms, that's why this generation doesn't love right. All these insecure elements are the reason love is now complicated. You don't want to be hurt blah blah blah, see what ever actions protrudes from negativity can never be healthy, which is why y'all intelligent and seemingly sophisticated ladies can't find love, you make it too mechanical like it's rocket science. It is what is expected, when you all gather to listen to tales of good marriages turn bad, you begin to setup complex barriers in your mind, that unknown to your peers keeps you chained, in bondage and limited, imprisoned, when the less-intelligent ones are getting married, staying married, and being happy in it. Your complexities drives you to a state of confusion,a haphazard existence where you're tossed to and fro, never having peace, or being in peace, in constant watch against betrayal. Your minds needs cleansing

trustyshoess:

Read the last part of my previous post again. We're saying the exact same thing :

When you give yourself multiple sources of happiness, one missing source won't make a big difference.

When you give yourself multiple sources of happiness, one missing source won't make a big difference.


Hypothetical until proven. Marriage opens doors to multiple sources.... You just mumbled up rules to keep yourself in your self-limiting prison. Your mind's warped.

XingXhang:


But do you (inside you) wants others to trust you at least?

Legitimate question. Deep down inside, they have yearnings they can never confide in anyone. Leave them. When they hit 45, the regrets begin to come....If Solomon could regret his path and his ways, these ones are too small bro

maynia:



.or na me sey use cucumber?

You self go and get a butt and breast implant
Oloshi oniranu

Lol @ Na me dey go Shiloh? You wicked, i swear !

Zykod:




Lol @ Na me dey go Shiloh? You wicked, i swear !

That word "shiloh"
They pepper them

maynia:


That word "shiloh"
They pepper them

I've noticed. Last time i was @ Shiloh, omo over 50 chicks had their eyes droolling over me and my buddy, like say them never see man before, i felt pity for them, all looking forward to something that may not come...

Damn, i've enjoyed this thread, see you guys later in d day, make i rush go sell pure water today

Zykod:


Marriage is a good thing, stop deluding yourself

U say I'm deluding myself? I'm happily married with 3 kids ok. I've been married for 10yrs nw.
All I'm saying is that marriage is NOT THE ONLY criterium to happiness.
Also y is it always a woman's fault if she's nt married before the age of 30 (I got married at 26 so dont think I'm "deluded" on that too).

Zykod:


Psychological defense mechanisms, that's why this generation doesn't love right. All these insecure elements are the reason love is now complicated. You don't want to be hurt blah blah blah, see what ever actions protrudes from negativity can never be healthy, which is why y'all intelligent and seemingly sophisticated ladies can't find love, you make it too mechanical like it's rocket science. It is what is expected, when you all gather to listen to tales of good marriages turn bad, you begin to setup complex barriers in your mind, that unknown to your peers keeps you chained, in bondage and limited, imprisoned, when the less-intelligent ones are getting married, staying married, and being happy in it. Your complexities drives you to a state of confusion,a haphazard existence where you're tossed to and fro, never having peace, or being in peace, in constant watch against betrayal. Your minds needs cleansing

My lack of trust doesn't only mean I won't trust a man I'm in a relationship with, it means I trust no One. Absolutely no one. I see nothing wrong with it, and of course I won't tell people that I don't trust them but I really don't.
Love has always been complicated, not just now and it isn't just a result of trust issues or psychological defense mechanisms
And by the way, as you might have noticed from our recent exchange, life to me isn't a competition for who gets happily married first so, so called "less intelligent" ladies finding a husband before I do (if I ever do, lol) doesn't bother me

timilinda:



U say I'm deluding myself? I'm happily married with 3 kids ok. I've been married for 10yrs nw.
All I'm saying is that marriage is NOT THE ONLY criterium to happiness.
Also y is it always a woman's fault if she's nt married before the age of 30 (I got married at 26 so dont think I'm "deluded" on that too).

Tell the young one the truth, the way you talk am, marriage is not an achievement is hypocritical and weird, are your lovely kids not a beautiful thing if we don't even talk about other attachments?

Whatever you lack or look forward to in marriage is okay, but your kids nko? No be achievement?

Zykod:



When you give yourself multiple sources of happiness, one missing source won't make a big difference.


Hypothetical until proven. Marriage opens doors to multiple sources.... You just mumbled up rules to keep yourself in your self-limiting prison. Your mind's warped.

You don't have to wait for marriage to open such doors. Having money will make me happy so I'll work hard, being a mother will make me happy so I'll adopt or visit a sperm bank, having my family makes me happy so I'll visit them often, I'll have friends at work and outside of work. These are multiple sources of happiness that one can get without marriage. To me, marriage is what they call "jara". Not a necessity (well not to me anyway)

trustyshoess:

My lack of trust doesn't only mean I won't trust a man I'm in a relationship with, it means I trust no One. Absolutely no one. I see nothing wrong with it, and of course I won't tell people that I don't trust them but I really don't.
Love has always been complicated, not just now and it isn't just a result of trust issues or psychological defense mechanisms
And by the way, as you might have noticed from our recent exchange, life to me isn't a competition for who gets happily married first so, so called "less intelligent" ladies finding a husband before I do (if I ever do, lol) doesn't bother me

I can relate, perhaps e belong to the same team, cool down on the hustle, i've been there, threw ladies away just to make money, in the end, it comes calling you need a partner, money doesn't fill that hole, i know so, cause i've been there, in fact crisis many times comes and take much of the same money self. Our associations can not be affected if managed right, but money, no guarantees babe. Nice chatting, i've gotta roll now

trustyshoess:

You don't have to wait for marriage to open such doors. Having money will make me happy so I'll work hard, being a mother will make me happy so I'll adopt or visit a sperm bank, having my family makes me happy so I'll visit them often, I'll have friends at work and outside of work. These are multiple sources of happiness that one can get without marriage. To me, marriage is what they call "jara". Not a necessity (well not to me anyway)

Anyone waiting for marriage as an access to open doors is a dimwit, i simply said marriage is a corridor to many open doors....Marriage isn't jara, you're fixated on your ideals, dildos won't satisfy ya bae

XingXhang:


But do you (inside you) wants others to trust you at least?

Would be like an honour to know that someone trusts me but I don't expect it and I don't mind if they don't

trustyshoess:

Would be like an honour to know that someone trusts me but I don't expect it and I don't mind if they don't

I would love to recommend a book for you, that's if you are the reading type.

Trust is a compulsory ingredient for any friendship to thrive.