MissJoy29:

Hmmmm...I thought I was the only one. How do I bring this out? I get highly sceptical too about love interests. Reason why I put on hold so many things regarding love relationships. I get paranoid too. Not cos I have skeletons in my cupboard but cos I know how heartless and wicked human beings can be. It's getting increasingly difficult nowadays to find genuinely good people. Coupled with the fact that I have OCD, I'm a melancholic and a perfectionist, you really have your work cut out for you if I pick an interest in you and you in me. I have come to realize something however. Apart from God leading me, I have come to understand that the ones who fidget, freak out, hyperventilate, get defensive and aggressive when being tested(in the right way), have lots of skeletons in their closets. They reek of insincerity, deceit, lies & dishonesty. You don't need God to speak to you in this case. Just take a walk.

That's true though, especially the defensive and aggressive part. In my case, I often have terrible dreams eapecially a certain uneasiness/on edge feeling about them but I fail to take a cue and bolt. Learned my lessons though.

I'm highly observant & sensitive Spiritually by God's Grace. It's often a source of worry & frustration for most people who come near me. Won't elaborate more. But if I get to know you and get closer to you, and I stay like 1 month without getting confirmation from The Holy Spirit that you are a bad person, I relax. If not,....

I only became so recently oh for the most part online interactions. It's a new found place that things I ignore before I grasp them instantly now. No time to compromise...

A lot of people who cheat on their partners do so without knowing the consequences of what they do to the other person. And most importantly, without knowing WHO they do it to. There are people you hurt brazenly and you will never recover from it until you repent and confess. I'm talking about people who have strong Spirits and are God's own no matter what. That's why I am scared of hurting people intentionally. You don't know who is who. I'm a case in study and also a living witness.

That is very true though, but that strong spirit can go either way, some are evil some are good. I know a case of a dude who was attacked for having malicious intent to a female. The girl barely made a move to him but everyone went at the dudes throat. Funny thing is, the girl was herself a devil's spawn. Whenever I think back on it, I am just marveled. What was more funny is that, from an instant I knew the guy was bad news even before he revealed himself, just sounded too perfect and quickly swung into action to meet the girl. Little did I know, na evil dey play ping pong with each other.

As for the good peeps, theirs tend to be much slower to happen and it will really not have the hand of anybody involved. You will know for a fact, that it is God punishing the person for certain misdeeds.

In my own case, mine tend to happen much much later that I would have forgot sef, then something will just bring it into remembrance what that person did or I said to that person a long time ago and it often times turn out brutal.

Skyfornia:
Na waoo...that girl na professional olo***, see the way she packaged the conversations.

BTW who leaked this conversations sef? Abi na him wife use the girl set him up?

You noticed the quality of packaging too right ? This is certainly not her first rodeo.
I wish she would use her smarts in a more productive way.

mogboyelade:
.......and someone will expect a woman to live with this type of man in love and unity.

I hope you're not a celebrity or planning to marry a yeyebrity. Because our mothers could keep their marriage not because they're perfect or more godly. But they're patient, mature and understanding. This kind of rough game played out more in those even than now but nobody leaked anything. They allow lust die natural death and the husband (our popsi) crawl back home begging our moma to take them back. Today's gels just wanna fight for themselves. They wanna claim they're saint but they get blamed and played in the end.

DavidEsq:

Wen God has given us a clear line of standards, we choose to run after prophesies (stories). It's a wonder why we complain, wen prophesies (stories) fail us.

Issorite. Have a good day.

Rigel95:
when the banging before marriage is too much, you get tired of the borehole....

Leave the Mad ones with usual lyrics of "Say no to no testing"

Ladyhippolyta88:
You must be very sick to compare a woman to a commodity.

Oh it's a commodity..and it can be priced....ask the women at Allen avenue how market and the commodity they sell

Even you seff that is talking ..you still dey hawk your own depending on the niche market and Target customers

Abi no be lie

Alajiki:


I'm not supporting infidelity. I haven't said it's good. But that is the reality. There could be a scientific reason. Maybe in future, the real reason would be known.

Go and sit down.Since you have not realized that women also cheat these days and it is becoming a reality maybe the answer would be known in future.

Big time oloshonism

Personally I think knowing the type of person you are and attracting that kind of person.
When I was a single, there were some kind of women I don't even dear near. Most especially vain women. There is nothing attractive about them.

Well for this dude, I will not judge him, but this is the lifestyle of most of these socialite island big boys. Sleeping around is normal thing for them.

Then for all this women Complaining, you are looking for a faithful man, are you faithful, are you virtous. Are you prepared to better a man's life? See you will only attract the kind of person you are. Simple

IkpuMmadu:


Oh it's a commodity..and it can be priced....ask the women at Allen avenue how market and the commodity they sell

Even you seff that is talking ..you still dey hawk your own depending on the niche market and Target customers

Abi no be lie

Hope that is not an insult you clown?So you know me very well to know my brand or kind of market?You must be an illiterate to have that myopic and chauvinistic view of women since you are not totally alright.Customer of Allen avenue how market?Broke guy going for cheap ones since you know the market very well you must be a commodity or a seller at the market.

djon78:
Personally I think knowing the type of person you are and attracting that kind of person.
When I was a single, there were some kind of women I don't even dear near. Most especially vain women. There is nothing attractive about them.

Well for this dude, I will not judge him, but this is the lifestyle of most of these socialite island big boys. Sleeping around is normal thing for them.

Then for all this women Complaining, you are looking for a faithful man, are you faithful, are you virtous. Are you prepared to better a man's life? See you will only attract the kind of person you are. Simple

See you giving excuses you attract your likes indeed.

Blackfyre:


Issorite. Have a good day.

U see una. We are the real cause of our problems. We just abuse the word "God's grace".

Ladyhippolyta88:
Hope that is not an insult you clown?So you know me very well to know my brand or kind of market?You must be an illiterate to have that myopic and chauvinistic view of women since you are not totally alright.Customer of Allen avenue how market?Broke guy going for cheap ones since you know the market very well you must be a commodity or a seller at the market.

I am illiterate but I can read and write...your stupidity is pristine and your unknowings legendary

How market anyway ? Did they subsidize yours

Ladyhippolyta88:
Hope that is not an insult you clown?So you know me very well to know my brand or kind of market?You must be an illiterate to have that myopic and chauvinistic view of women since you are not totally alright.Customer of Allen avenue how market?Broke guy going for cheap ones since you know the market very well you must be a commodity or a seller at the market.

Oh yours is for higher customers...now you are talking....so yours ain't in subsidy but VAT paid....that's okay but once it isn't fresh I am.not buying....take it to Opebi Allen peddler

IkpuMmadu:

I am illiterate but I can read and write...your stupidity is pristine and your unknowings legendary

How market anyway ? Did they subsidize yours

He be like say you never hear of educated illiterate before na that category you dey.How your own market na?You know say you na unfinished goods and no need to buy since you are non-durable.

IkpuMmadu:


Oh yours is for higher customers...now you are talking....so yours ain't in subsidy but VAT paid....that's okay but once it isn't fresh I am.not buying....take it to Opebi Allen peddler

Otondo your own nor be POS?

Ladyhippolyta88:
He be like say you never hear of educated illiterate before na that category you dey.How your own market na?You know say you na unfinished goods and no need to buy since you are non-durable.

We dey correct you ..you still dey make foooool of yourself. Do you even know.the meaning of illiterate to start with



All these girls wry use Toto go school

DavidEsq:

U see una. We are the real cause of our problems. We just abuse the word "God's grace".

How so?

IkpuMmadu:


We dey correct you ..you still dey make foooool of yourself. Do you even know.the meaning of illiterate to start with



All these girls wry use Toto go school

The way you write proves you are an educated illiterate wetin you use go school nor be through social vices otondooooo.

Ladyhippolyta88:
See you giving excuses you attract your likes indeed.

I am not giving excuses. That's the fact of life. You attract whom you are. You want to get a good man are you good? Don't you know of many nice guys that women messed up and turned them into beast.

That's why I laugh at women that will come and be bashing men online, how good, virtuous is there own life? They want a good thing, are they good. And for your information, there are plenty of responsible and faithful men out there, very many of them. But the women that deserve them get them. They are not for everybody, but just very few.

djon78:


I am not giving excuses. That's the fact of life. You attract whom you are. You want to get a good man are you good? Don't you know of many nice guys that women messed up and turned them into beast.

That's why I laugh at women that will come and be bashing men online, how good, virtuous is there own life? They want a good thing, are they good. And for your information, there are plenty of responsible and faithful men out there, very many of them. But the women that deserve them get them. They are not for everybody, but just very few.

Not 100% some people are good and still attract bad people so it doesn't go like that.

DavidEsq:

My dear it doesn't take the Grace of God. It takes u to make the ryt choice. Not the money-influenced choice; the ryt choice. One cannot make the ryt choice wen their sense of who is ryt is based on materialism and fückboy attributes.
Cc Blackfyre

Sincerely, is there anything like right choice? Or the grace of God?

Blackfyre:
So I decided to read the chat, the flows were quite smooth, the babe was quite eager tho. But na wah oh, the reputation of men has been bastardized beyond the point wey guy even fit carry shoulder up... Na wah oh....




Even at that, it still doesn't matter. No matter how careful an individual can be in the choice of spouse, ask all the questions, dig deep as you can into the persons life, if the grace of God is not there or his involvement, you will find out in the end you made the wrong choice. I have personally experienced it twice, only God knows the heart of man and the end from the beginning. No man can tell another mans heart, only God can.

Whatever anyone does is in the 'hope' that it goes well if he/she excludes God. It more or less a gamble no certainty whatsoever. For someone like me, my OCD will reach crescendo.

You are simply right.

This is suppose to be a young marriage, it is very unfortunate, because the young man is digging his grave so fast without him knowing it. I hope he will get a good counsel before it is too late. Mark you, his wife cant save him now as it is, it is his parent and family members. I really pity the young man and the wife because Yolanda is coming prepared, i"m sure of that.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Not 100% some people are good and still attract bad people so it doesn't go like that.

Then focus on yourself and ensure that you end up among those on the positive side, because having a good woman or man. Nothing can be equal to it

CioAngels:
Sincerely, is there anything like right choice? Or the grace of God?

There is a thing as "right choice". because Proverbs 27:15 tells us dat a quarrelsome wife is like a leaking roof on a rainy day, and Proverbs 5:20 warns men not to be captivated by a wayward woman. Proverbs 31:10 talks about finding a virtuous or capable wife. Lastly 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns us from being joined with another who is incompatible with us.
So, yes, there is something as right choice. Wat people refer to as the grace of God is actually supposed to be "God's standard of who is right for us, as clearly spelt out by God's word, the bible".

djon78:


Then focus on yourself and ensure that you end up among those on the positive side, because having a good woman or man. Nothing can be equal to it

True talk.

Blackfyre:


How so?

God's word spells out these things in black an white, u are there looking for vision, which the bible has long gone beyond. Visions have long ceased. 1 Corinthians 13:8-13.

DavidEsq:

God's word spells out these things in black an white, u are there looking for vision, which the bible has long gone beyond. Visions have long ceased. 1 Corinthians 13:8-13.

You peeps lifting verses out of context to back up what isn't so.

Check the link...

https://www.ucg.org/bible-study-tools/bible-questions-and-answers/what-does-1-corinthians-13-verse-8-mean-when-it-says

Blackfyre:


That's true though, especially the defensive and aggressive part. In my case, I often have terrible dreams eapecially a certain uneasiness/on edge feeling about them but I fail to take a cue and bolt. Learned my lessons though.



I only became so recently oh for the most part online interactions. It's a new found place that things I ignore before I grasp them instantly now. No time to compromise...



That is very true though, but that strong spirit can go either way, some are evil some are good. I know a case of a dude who was attacked for having malicious intent to a female. The girl barely made a move to him but everyone went at the dudes throat. Funny thing is, the girl was herself a devil's spawn. Whenever I think back on it, I am just marveled. What was more funny is that, from an instant I knew the guy was bad news even before he revealed himself, just sounded too perfect and quickly swung into action to meet the girl. Little did I know, na evil dey play ping pong with each other.

As for the good peeps, theirs tend to be much slower to happen and it will really not have the hand of anybody involved. You will know for a fact, that it is God punishing the person for certain misdeeds.

In my own case, mine tend to happen much much later that I would have forgot sef, then something will just bring it into remembrance what that person did or I said to that person a long time ago and it often times turn out brutal.

For the first part, I also have Revelations (that's what they are & not just dreams). Before or after that, I will be having this feeling of dread that all's not well with this person. I will be very uneasy like you said & troubled. After that, it doesn't take time before the person is shown for who he/she is. And like you too, I fail to heed the warning most times. I always wish & hope for change...Some lessons are bitter sha.

Yes, some spirits are evil while some are good. That's why we all have to be careful who we hurt.
Some people don't need to open their mouth and curse you when you hurt them intentionally. Depending on the level of hurt & how they feel it, their tears alone is enough to speak on their behalf.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Go and sit down.Since you have not realized that women also cheat these days and it is becoming a reality maybe the answer would be known in future.

Alright ma'am.

MissJoy29:

For the first part, I also have Revelations (that's what they are & not just dreams). Before or after that, I will be having this feeling of dread that all's not well with this person. I will be very uneasy like you said & troubled. After that, it doesn't take time before the person is shown for who he/she is. And like you too, I fail to heed the warning most times. I always wish & hope for change...Some lessons are bitter sha.

@ emboldened Indeed!

Yes, some spirits are evil while some are good. That's why we all have to be careful who we hurt.
Some people don't need to open their mouth and curse you when you hurt them intentionally. Depending on the level of hurt & how they feel it, their tears alone is enough to speak on their behalf.

Very true!