TheSuperNerd:
A REAL man won't throw tantrums or make a scene just because a lady rejects him or refuses to give him her number. Abi na by force?

And what is a man doing with the number of a woman in a serious relationship? Except it is for business.

A man will know this woman is in a relationship and will still wanna get her number and do what naa? Start the process of working on her mind to remove her thoughts from her guy abi? Such silly men who may even have a girlfriend too but will pretend they are single. Smh...

I don't care if the guy has been planning his move for five years.... Lolll.. If she says she isn't giving her number after several attempts by the man and even goes as far as saying she is engaged or in a relationship...then the man should back off.

Real men would leave and not be such an ass.

IamZod:
Who ask for numbers this days sef
We go just dey look our self.

That's how I met a girl sometime ago at an event. A very pretty babe like that.
In fact, she's was the one giving me all the eye contact and all. I just maintained my lane, as I wasn't about to be misinterpreted by some girl.

Somehow she found her way to where I was, and then we talked. But I wasn't in no rush to collect her digits.

So when it was time to leave the place, she simply ask for me number and that was it.

Today we are cool friends.

Sometimes, It's better to act like you no just send them.

Twoclans:



Yes its minimal in this side of the world. And my story was about a simple can I see you later this evening and I said No.

The guy went crazy. My cousin said I should have just told him I will think about it and get back to him. (can you imagine, something that I know if I think for a hundred years the answer will still be no)

Gangster1ms:

Girls that will eventually reap u off... supposing the girl said yes then what next? We are still in the loosing end cos the highest we fit gain na pussy. We guys too mumu abeg...

TheSuperNerd:
Awwwwwwwwn.... Please don't make me blush ma'am. Looolll

Appreciate the kind feedbacks. Thank you

lefulefu:
there was this story i saw on investigative discovery channel where this beautiful lady narrated how she was beaten up by a guy and eventually the guy used his Prado jeep to run over her three times all because she rejected his advances. Her spinal cord got broken and she's now a cripple for life.When i watched the story i almost cried.any man who feels like doing physical harm to a lady cos she told him she ain't interested is mentally sick and a psycho. If a babe say she no want just waka and let her be.other babes boku.

pocohantas:
LOL.
One was kinda 'cocky', he asked for my number and I declined.
He said something like, "I'm not a nice/patient guy, I won't ask you for this a second time". He kept to his words and I liked that. He is a NLder, nice guy, but I didn't want that 'closeness' .

There was this one that kept going on and off. Said so many nonsense, then he prophesied how I will never get married or have kids. My village people have tied me and he wants to help with my deliverance... more nonsense again. I couldn't keep up

petergriffin:
well its so annoying been rejected by a lady. you pick up the courage, walk to her, and tell her your mind and then she gave you rude response. that is totally not fair. she can simply be polite with it so you wont feel bad but they be like "excuse me?! i have no time and besides i don't date guys like you". you be like "what the fck??amma fck this girl up*.

alexialin:
Honestly some guys cannot take no for an answer.

There is this guy who came to visit his friend on my street, then saw me as i walked past. He said Hi, hmm av been watching u walk to and fro buying stuffs and all, and I like you and admire you. Please can I have your number? I looked at him, he looks OK. I then gave him my number. He started calling later in the evening, with small talks and it was cool. Then he asked me out, I replied, I will let u know when am. Less busy. He said ok. So one fateful day, I came back from work, pissed from one annoying customer attitude. I was trying to contain my anger. When I was close to my house, I saw him with friends. He waved at me, smiled. I waved back and walked home, then I called him, can u come to my place, I need to talk to someone. He said ok. He came. Have not even finished my story about the client, he was all over me and I was like WTF!
I quickly withdrew from his hands and say guy! I didn't call u here for sexxx. All I need is someone to talk to, and release my frustrations about an annoying client today. He moved closer, saying don't worry I will. Make u happy and relaxed. I was so mad! I was like see this guy o! Is he crazy or what? That's how we started struggling o. He almost overpowered me, so I relaxed and said Cmon? Take it easy? U want fun Abi? Then let's do it properly and I smiled sweetly and I said lemme go and change into a nice sexy lingerie. U will love it.
So he released his grip, as soon as he released, I ran out of the house

And screamed get out! Before I call security. Just get the fucvk out of my house!
He was like I knew u will play this stunt on me, Oya come back nw? I won't touch u I promise. I shook my head. Just get out! So u want to rape me? Are u mad? Do u think sexx is my problem? Please leave now! Then he left.
Since that day, he apologized on phone that he doesn't know what came over him and he's sorry and he loves me and all.
I said look I will never date u, if u are the last man on earth. Get it into your thick skull. So I stopped picking his calls.
One day he was knocking on my gate furiously, that I must answer him. And he's not going anywhere.
And that was on Sunday, the security guard was not around. Nobody in the compound even answered him. Then he got tired of banging the gate, then he left.
I was like God! Is this how this guy is?
Thank God I now know.

Later I called his number and warned him Severely if he doesn't back. Off, I will call my friend in the army to show him pepper, if he thinks am alone. Army guys will beat him black and blue! And have told my army friend already about him.

Since then he backed off but series of insults, he hurled at me thru phone. I just cut the call and blocked him.

Some guys are just stupid.

Neatboy:
I asked a lady out in church. As at that time I knew that like three other guys were asking her out. Instead of she to tell me say she no want, simple! But she chose to use the wrong words, "You are not in the picture." I cried inside ooo. In fact, I cried out then. And I loved her then like life itself. I knew that those guys didn't love her cause they all had serious dates. I was just begging for one. Now, all the guys had gotten married, not to her, except one that had left the church. Nevertheless I still kept her as a friend. Now we are so closer than five and six and she is dying that I talk to her again. She don show me green light tire. For where! I no gree. You know why? Because she had pushed me out, and I have gone wild in terms of my choice of woman. She even get scared with the kind of babes that come my way. My dear, indeed, The Beautiful Ones Are Not Yet Born. Chill! I am getting marries this year to one of the damsels. No kill yourself because of a woman!!!

oshaosha2014:
Any man that does that to any lady because she said no is a bastard!!! they need to hang him.

mrphysics:

Nice experience bro.
I always move on as fast as I am let go. No time to waste bro. When you keep pushing, then these ladies will all have stories like the ones they share here.

No time to give any lady the impression that my life depends on her saying YES or NO.

Jozzy4:


Don't mind the fellow, His reaction revealed his kind of person ... Also shows your not accepting such a person is a good decision.

#Take care , May Jehovah be with you .

Babyurgly1:
I refused to accept a guy's friendship proposal and d guy finished me up. He said" see as u be like eleganza pen, u think say any guy go see u toast? Na even force dem force me come toast u". I wan cry that day.

SoldierBoy1:
That kind thing no fit bother me sef, to get babe na stress for me, maa just dey free till when I wan marry....If I talk to girl and she treat me somehow, I go just shine am teeth forget her, I no too dey dwell on emotions no matter how I like her reach.

lefulefu:
bro the story happened in America. The way me say am be say white guys tend to take rejection very badly.look at what a colleague in my workplace was telling me last year about a cousin of his who lost her life in America. She told her Yankee boyfriend that their relationship is over cos d guy get drug problem ..naim her oyibo boyfriend just vex pull out gun then shoot her . The parents were just heartbroken when they brought the corpse home.sometimes i thank God say na man i be cos we men don't experience such when we say no.

pocohantas:





LOL. Give me ya own...

oshaosha2014:
Hmm.. what a sad story. Ever heard this song, life for rent by dido. that song inspires me alot. and it resonates with my believe, "never hold on to anything permanently, so when a reject or break up comes, you can still have your life intact in to time." I don't believe anything last for ever in this natural life. We should learn to let go when we realise we can't salvage a situation.

TheSuperNerd:



Well said lady Pocohantas. I admire such disciplined decision especially when you are in a serious relationship. A lady cannot keep giving out her number to every guy (no matter how cool or nice he seems to be- we always almost are on the surface because we wanna impress) just in the name of "friendship" when we both know that more than 85-90% of the time, these guys will provide unnecessary distractions and won't mind attempting to compete for your attention and time with your man or other important people in your life.

Our ladies must be disciplined because I know that naturally ladies enjoy the attention of having guys want to get close to them. But if they can understand that they must not open the door for every guy especially when they are in a relationship, then they would avoid a lot of drama and complications.

You have spoken well.

SOFTENGR:
One guy threatened my sister because she declined his proposal after he voluntarily paid her taxi fare. That he can't afford to "spend" on a girl without getting something in return. I spoke to the guy and advise him to be patient, perhaps the girl might come to like him someday. He warned and threatened me as well.
As a sharp guy, I did the needful and the guys brain went back to RESET.
I didn't take his pic, but this is what he looked like.

labanj1:

Same here. I've decided not to collect any girl's number on first meetings. Even on second meeting, it depends on the situation. If she like make she turn green lantern. I'm always happy doing that because I know it'll definitely get them thinking.

Jman06:
I learnt from nature! Nature has made more women available than men, and in our society men still have the advantage of being the ones to woo the ladies while ladies can hardly woo a man. So, why waste my time with one lady when i can easily move on to the next

blackbeau1:
This just happened a week ago.He said ' he only wanted to manage me as ugly and shapeless as I am. And that I've just lost out on the opportunity to hustle with him and get married in the next four years'. I was literally in tears because I was laughing so hard.

lefulefu:
u certainly don't look ugly and shapeless. ..or abi no be u dey dp?

Angelawhite:
By default, I'm not the type that walk up to a lady to drop few punch lines to woo her. But I can walk up to her and initiate a conversation. Trust me, when we get talking, she will have no choice than to leave her number.

I'm not the type of guy a lady sees as a devourer ( even though I might be inside). I like winning her trust and innocently request for her number.

You know,there's how you'll play your game and she'll be like, "this guy no wan collect my number".

On one occasion, I was about leaving a girl after a hot, argumentative, interesting chitchat and the girl asked me, "How are we going to meet again?" and I smiled inside. And pretended I forgot


I'm not an advocate of chasing women around... there are many ways to catch them... their shakara too much... I won't say much before these girls go use am against us

VampireeM:


@bold, I am glad you have learnt something. Men should not think a gal talking and smiling with him means she wants to keep you close.
The main reason she didn't give you her no is cause she doesn't want to extend the rapport after that moment. I don't see any greenlight from your chitty chatty at the ATM. You were just a good companion while waiting for it be her turn

manitobor:


Abeg finish the tori o.

blackbeau1:
na me dey dp. Bro was just 'pained'

Plolly:
I met one prophet like that he lied that he had placed thunderbolt on me. (magun) that all guys I have sex with will die cos i turned him down. I shake first ooo but I had to call my now ex we did the kini and nothing happened I day hale and hearty and the now ex too guys ehn