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Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by mrphysics(m): 8:04am On Jan 09, 2018 |
Ladyhippolyta88: What is the above, abeg stop that. You really think you are talking to a dumb? This is Nigeria and we must be Nigerians and nothing. I am sure I will flog my kids when they do certain things. |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 8:08am On Jan 09, 2018 |
mrphysics:Nor be lie I talk "this is Nigeria" let the world know your country for great things, and you can flog them if you like they are your kids. |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by mrphysics(m): 8:08am On Jan 09, 2018 |
Ladyhippolyta88:I can't injure my child because I know the way and manner to flog. I have been flogged without injury and I have beating people without a single scar on their body. It did not start today ooo. I was a boarder all through secondary school days. I am an expert when it comes to flogging. I can use my hands very well and cane too. I know when and how to do it though I don't have the mind to do it to other people's children. |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 8:10am On Jan 09, 2018 |
mrphysics:Clap for yourself sir you would make a good daddy.Good for you. |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by mrphysics(m): 8:12am On Jan 09, 2018 |
Ladyhippolyta88: Now you come. My kids, my beating. ![]() ![]() ![]() But it's not always. And for the ladies, there are places you don't beat them. I am a professional when it comes to beating ![]() ![]() ![]() Secondly, it is not good to flog someone with belt, cultlass and the rest. Only use cane and use it effectively |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by mrphysics(m): 8:15am On Jan 09, 2018 |
Ladyhippolyta88: ![]() ![]() No be only clap but sing for myself. The point is, I have stayed with kids, the ones that they don't flog and the ones that gets flogged. How many Nigerians know how to raise disciplined children without flogging? If you must not beat them, then you must be equipped with the right disciplinary actions to help in managing their excesses. In fact, my wife must know how to us her hands in bringing those children to their right senses when they misbehave. Every other things from anyone isn't necessary. |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 8:23am On Jan 09, 2018 |
I don't support flogging there are other forms of punishment and I agree with you when you said there is need for other disciplinary actions,they are children nothing a little talk and some other forms of disciplinary actions cannot do for a child they can easily be corrected.You can flog them they are your kids and never forget to build the best relationship with them. mrphysics: |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 8:26am On Jan 09, 2018 |
mrphysics:Yes sir. |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by mrphysics(m): 8:35am On Jan 09, 2018 |
Ladyhippolyta88:Sure. Building relationships with them is very necessary and the best. Kids don't have the mental maturity to understand some deep things about their actions. Until they are 18 and take responsibility of everything they do, they are liable to be flogged ![]() ![]() Like I said, you can't exempt flogging by thinking talks alone can change anything. |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 8:52am On Jan 09, 2018 |
mrphysics:Other forms of disciplinary actions exist e.g. Pick pin,sit on the air they were effective to me more than flogging. |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by mrphysics(m): 9:14am On Jan 09, 2018 |
Ladyhippolyta88:Children will play with these things. |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by Nobody: 9:39am On Jan 09, 2018 |
Ladyhippolyta88:words dont make me cry but wen i remember how i was beaten i will start crying & saying dat they are not my biological parents,it was so funny but it was to make me a better person,they really tried in training me o |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 9:42am On Jan 09, 2018 |
Preetiex:Even my own parents tried. 1 Like |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by mrphysics(m): 2:20pm On Jan 09, 2018 |
SilverChinedu:Its completely wrong |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by jashar(f): 2:22pm On Jan 09, 2018 |
it may not be the best, but it is effective... ![]() |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by Nobody: 6:01pm On Jan 09, 2018 |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by BlueNnamdi: 4:00pm On Jan 16, 2018 |
There are better ways |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by valentineuwakwe(m): 7:31am On Jan 17, 2018 |
if you spare the rod, you spoil the child....it is good for a while when your child misbehave or do something wrong yoh smack him or her.this will instil fear and discipline in them....I was smack when I was a kid by my parents and it nelp me realise the good and evil in every situation and why doing the best thing at the right time pays..... |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 10:08am On Jan 17, 2018 |
BlueNnamdi:Yes. |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by DejiSantos: 10:42am On Feb 04, 2018 |
There are better ways |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by NonsoPlatinum: 8:02pm On Feb 05, 2018 |
I dunno about beating children mrphysics: |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by MIKOLOWISKA: 10:25pm On Feb 05, 2018 |
DejiSantos:beating should be a last resort after other forms of mental punishment |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by SakuraSimiola: 5:17pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
Agreed MIKOLOWISKA: |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by addictiv(m): 8:51am On Feb 07, 2018 |
I think a lot of parents want to flog and beat their child as a retaliation for how their own parents treated them. It's a subconscious Spiral. Those of us that went to boarding school will attest to the fact that one of the reasons we all looked forward to becoming seniors was so that we can punish and deal with junior students and give them the same treatment we got as juniors. If a child is stubborn or naughty it's a reflection of the parents parenting attitude. Most parents are lazy and go ahead to heap tasks that are beyond the child and expect them to perform wonders. Most parents heap insults on the child without minding the effects on his or her self esteem. it's no wonder a lot of children can't wait to leave home. |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by DejiSantos: 7:27am On Feb 09, 2018 |
I think you have a very good point here addictiv: |
Re: Is Smacking Your Children The Best Way Of Discipline? by Belafonte(m): 12:44pm On Feb 09, 2018 |
When done right, spanking is beneficial to a child's upbringing, and I say this from experience. If patents know what they are doing, the need to spank a child is almost non-existent. The first form of discipline a child should have is example because humans, children more so, learn through observation. So, your child has learnt to do certain things because they've observed you do them or observed someone else do them. In this case, you should discontinue behaviour you don't want to see from your children or remove them from the influence of people who they copy. It is really foolish, and abusive, to repeat a behaviour and expect that your own children will stop. Beating them for not stopping only shows you to be a mentally unstable parent. Secondly, you must learn to speak firmly with them, no stupid shouting like an uneducated market woman. Deepen your voice, look them straight in the eye and ask them to stop. Simple. Will they stop? Actually, most times they will. This is a good time to explain what you don't want them doing and why. Treat the children like they have a brain and can actually understand words, because thats the reality. Of course, this doesn't always work but done right, it will save you the need to spank them by, at least, 90% and you still get to pass the message across. Thirdly, raise your voice. Something along the lines of "hey, I already told you not to do that", "what is wrong with you, etc". What this does is jolt them and actually bring their attention to what you're saying because talking sometimes just flies over their head and they get used to it pretty quickly. So, give them a menacing look and raise your voice. This drastically reduces the need for spanking. Fourthly, spank. One hard smack to the bum. This is a proper hard reset. No continuous flogging like a crazed loon, your child hasn't been sentenced by a Sharia court. ![]() Also, you can set them on chores to do around the house. Something you know is beyond their abilities to do like making sure there is no single speck of dust in the house which is an impossibility. The idea is to just humble them by making them feel helpless and incompetent. Worthy of note is the fact that you must placate them for each level of discipline. They say, "when you discipline a child with the left hand, you console them with the right". The idea is to let them know they brought it upon themselves and you'd rather not punish them but they forced your hand. This lets them know discipline is nin-negotuabke no matter how much you love them, actions have consequences. By the time you need to start using canes and such on a child, you've already failed as a parent. Discipline is a progressive instrument that is required daily. |
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