Hope they know they are the ones who will
`become pregnant and old
`have a lot of emotions with no one to share with because men aren't interested in emotional talks
`not make any major decision, career-business-personal, without first considering the home and kids, while the man is carefree, focusing on his dreams and pursuing it with all he has got.
`take care of the home and kids with no one appreciating and the man expecting to be appreciated because it appears he is the one slaving for the family.
`ask for money you won't spend on yourself but on the home, while you have lots of needs that you can't mention
`get blamed when the man cheats, when he doesn't have money to give his relations
`get blamed when there are no kids, when the kids are misbehaving or not well kept
`YOU CAN ADD YOURS

Hmmm. I think im liking you the more. Truth is I love emotional women. But on d contrary Naija women expects all men to have action and be rocky. No room/respect for emotional men and its such men dat can understand emotional women. And believe me one way u can know such men is theyre shy and timid when they see girls they love. But no girl likes such a man. All girls expect a superbold man who can do d do and talk d talk at all times, so such men keep to themselves

Secondly i think our culture is d major reason. In nigerian culture, theres no room for emotional people at all. Everybody respect extroverts, no much respect for introverts. And even if a girl sees a man dat appeals to her, she cannot toast him until he takes d first move which he may never take. Besides, marriage is over rated in nigeria.

RadicallyBlunt:
Hmmm. I think im liking you the more. Truth is I love emotional women. But on d contrary Naija women expects all men to have action and be rocky. No room/respect for emotional men and its such men dat can understand emotional women. And believe me one way u can know such men is theyre shy and timid when they see girls they love. But no girl likes such a man. All girls expect a superbold man who can do d do and talk d talk at all times, so such men keep to themselves

Secondly i think our culture is d major reason. In nigerian culture, theres no room for emotional people at all. Everybody respect extroverts, no much respect for introverts. And even if a girl sees a man dat appeals to her, she cannot toast him until he takes d first move which he may never take. Besides, marriage is over rated in nigeria.

Marriage is indeed over rated.

marriage=financial support
financially independent women=less interested in marriage

Most females are happy cus the have someone to depend on financially. While the so called ready made are just happy escaping pressure from family

Atleast we don't get to listen to lectures from our parents and entire lineage about getting old

RadicallyBlunt:
Hmmm. I think im liking you the more. Truth is I love emotional women. But on d contrary Naija women expects all men to have action and be rocky. No room/respect for emotional men and its such men dat can understand emotional women. And believe me one way u can know such men is theyre shy and timid when they see girls they love. But no girl likes such a man. All girls expect a superbold man who can do d do and talk d talk at all times, so such men keep to themselves

Secondly i think our culture is d major reason. In nigerian culture, theres no room for emotional people at all. Everybody respect extroverts, no much respect for introverts. And even if a girl sees a man dat appeals to her, she cannot toast him until he takes d first move which he may never take. Besides, marriage is over rated in nigeria.

I can relate with this. I was shocked when my babe, the girl I want to marry o, told me that her very good friend said I love her too much and because of that I won't be able to handle her. According to this friend, they expect guys to be authoritative, emotionless most of the time, rigid and stubborn. I just hope they are very few that share this view. And the girl in question is around 30 years.

Eghostwriter:
Atleast we don't get to listen to lectures from our parents and entire lineage about getting old

Lol

Xinjin:
Most females are happy cus the have someone to depend on financially. While the so called ready made are just happy escaping pressure from family

So it doesn’t have to do with love and companionship?

because dey cant tink nd make moni. so they see marriage as their only hope of survival

crismark:
because dey cant tink nd make moni. so they see marriage as their only hope of survival

And who told you they can’t think and make money? It’s just a society thing. The ones that are successful you will still tell them ‘go and marry’ or ‘when will you marry?’

JoyceMeyersFan:

And who told you they can’t think and make money? It’s just a society thing. The ones that are successful you will still tell them ‘go and marry’ or ‘when will you marry?’

d ones dat re successful dnt see marriage as a priority but d ones dat dnt want to do anything keep shouting marriage up nd down...


by d way i dnt say go nd marry to successful lady, i believe dey re smart nd matured enuf to knw wat dey want....dats wat made dem successful in d first place

Queensuccubus. Come and see Nigerian culture about marriage.

RadicallyBlunt:
Queensuccubus. Come and see Nigerian culture about marriage.

Im reading it thru & thru but my culture is different babe, so i can't relate to Nigerian marriage set up

JoyceMeyersFan:
Hope they know they are the ones who will
`become pregnant and old
`have a lot of emotions with no one to share with because men aren't interested in emotional talks
`not make any major decision, career-business-personal, without first considering the home and kids, while the man is carefree, focusing on his dreams and pursuing it with all he has got.
`take care of the home and kids with no one appreciating and the man expecting to be appreciated because it appears he is the one slaving for the family.
`ask for money you won't spend on yourself but on the home, while you have lots of needs that you can't mention
`get blamed when the man cheats, when he doesn't have money to give his relations
`get blamed when there are no kids, when the kids are misbehaving or not well kept
`YOU CAN ADD YOURS

The misogynist Nigerian society is the reason. Nigerian society has brainwashed its women into believing that their sole purpose on earth is marriage and child birth.

Today a lot of married Nigerian women are dead in their graves after being killed by their husbands. Many more are living poverty stricken lives raising families in face me I face you rooms the size of a chicken cage. Later they console themselves and their pathetic existence by looking down on their female counterparts that are single and think that they're better than them when in actuality Nigerian society does not respect anyone with a vagina. Period!

Go and see the way Nigerian society treats women who are married yet have no children or the ones with children that are all female or the ones who are widows. I can never allow any female child of mine reside in Nigeria. Nigeria is a horrible country. No wonder Nigeria is making no progress.

in this part of the world, getting married is considered to be an achievement among ladies.

RadicallyBlunt:


Secondly i think our culture is d major reason. In nigerian culture, theres no room for emotional people at all. Everybody respect extroverts, no much respect for introverts. And even if a girl sees a man dat appeals to her, she cannot toast him until he takes d first move which he may never take. Besides, marriage is over rated in nigeria.

I agree. Society has no room for extroverts unfortunately and most Nigerian marriages are scam. This is why even with all the marrying Nigerians do, they still can't raise Godly and productive members of society and the world at large. The average Nigerian parents end up raising future cultists, pedophiles, rapists, prostitutes who take their trade to Italy, drug trafickers, online scammers, ritualists, runs girls, thieving politicians, etc.

Can't you see there is something wrong with that picture? So much marrying going on amongst Nigerians yet Nigerians have such bad reputation home and abroad.

crismark:

d ones dat re successful dnt see marriage as a priority but d ones dat dnt want to do anything keep shouting marriage up nd down...

Ain't that the truth? Nigerian women who are not doing anything constructive with their lives and have nothing going for them are the ones shouting marriage up and down. And that includes the ones that get beaten up by their husbands and the ones nursing all manners of sexually transmitted diseases which they contracted from their philandering husbands.

Many of them are housewives with no jobs and no businesses binginging nothing to the table except their over expanded vaginas that came about as a result of child bearing and too much sex. And then they wonder why 99% of married Nigerian men cheat on their wives. They cheat because their wives' vagina has lost elasticity.

Xinjin:
Most females are happy cus the have someone to depend on financially. While the so called ready made are just happy escaping pressure from family

You know, family members can only pressure you if you allow them and if you live in Nigeria. When you live overseas in societies where marriage is an individual choice and not a societal obligation, no bomboklaat can force marriage down your throat. This is even more so when you keep nosy Nigerians at bay when you live abroad.

No bloody Nigerian family member can force you into what you not ready for. Just change your number and block obnoxious Nigerians including so-called family members and friends from your WhatsApp, Facebook and Twitter and have your peace.

dasparrow:


Ain't that the truth? Nigerian women who are not doing anything constructive with their lives and have nothing going for them are the ones shouting marriage up and down. And that includes the ones that get beaten up by their husbands and the ones nursing all manners of sexually transmitted diseases which they contracted from their philandering husbands.

Many of them are housewives with no jobs and no businesses binginging nothing to the table except their over expanded vaginas that came about as a result of child bearing and too much sex. And then they wonder why 99% of married Nigerian men cheat on their wives. They cheat because their wives' vagina has lost elasticity.

chai!!! bros pls its okay

RadicallyBlunt:
Hmmm. I think im liking you the more. Truth is I love emotional women. But on d contrary Naija women expects all men to have action and be rocky. No room/respect for emotional men and its such men dat can understand emotional women. And believe me one way u can know such men is theyre shy and timid when they see girls they love. But no girl likes such a man. All girls expect a superbold man who can do d do and talk d talk at all times, so such men keep to themselves

Secondly i think our culture is d major reason. In nigerian culture, theres no room for emotional people at all. Everybody respect extroverts, no much respect for introverts. And even if a girl sees a man dat appeals to her, she cannot toast him until he takes d first move which he may never take. Besides, marriage is over rated in nigeria.

Much sense in this statement. Not that I am saying we should totally adopt the western culture in terms of method to approach a lady and vice Versa but pick the positive side of it as being quite a shy, timid and emotional guy score a good point in ladies point of view.

Our ladies here love ruthless man hence the reason why the ones with human feelings had lost focus and have become more ruthless/wicked. Sometimes I blame the ladies. You can't eat your cake and have it. It is either you go for a ruthless or a soft minded man.

They are excited about the perks that comes with the marriage.
They're free from the reminders of menopause.
They also get a man to slave for them, all they have to do is be submissive. There is nothing exciting about most Nigerian marriages.
But in our society, just remain married...you will be given due respect as a woman.

Lil wonder most widows don't consider remarrying. Who wants to go through hell twice?

As Nigerian women achieve more independence, come back and ask this question... . Then we would reduce our sample size to genuine couples. Only the ones marrying a good man are truly excited.

I don't really know why women love marriage that much to the extent of snatching a man. Perhaps, because they are home builders. Now, I really would love to marry very soon ooo but sometimes I just feel it's a chain, more so women now have a lot of issues. Maybe, I've not met the right person. What am I even saying... Let me sleep jare

Another factor pulling us back is illetracy. Record says about 60℅ of nigerians are illetrates and if you check very well, its those illetrates who are not enlightened that blindly hold those cultural values in high regard. Even if a person is exposed and wants to remain independent, the illetrate family members would pose a menace. Youll notice in a family where over 80% of them are well educated with some who go abroad frquently, they dont over rate marriage and dont make unmarried family members feel neglected.

Thats where ghana is different, their population is small and they have a higher percentage of literates compared to nigeria. Theyve crossed some cultural lines and we even see it in thier movies. Thier presidents nowadays are well educated so are the administrators but our own president is d exact opposite who doesnt even have a good dressing sense let alone tackling some issues like an educated person.

dasparrow:


The misogynist Nigerian society is the reason. Nigerian society has brainwashed its women into believing that their sole purpose on earth is marriage and child birth.

Today a lot of married Nigerian women are dead in their graves after being killed by their husbands. Many more are living poverty stricken lives raising families in face me I face you rooms the size of a chicken cage. Later they console themselves and their pathetic existence by looking down on their female counterparts that are single and think that they're better than them when in actuality Nigerian society does not respect anyone with a vagina. Period!

Go and see the way Nigerian society treats women who are married yet have no children or the ones with children that are all female or the ones who are widows. I can never allow any female child of mine reside in Nigeria. Nigeria is a horrible country. No wonder Nigeria is making no progress.

I think every parent should teach their female child that they've got value and created for other purposes aside being a man's help meet and raising kids.

JoyceMeyersFan:
Hope they know they are the ones who will
`become pregnant and old
`have a lot of emotions with no one to share with because men aren't interested in emotional talks
`not make any major decision, career-business-personal, without first considering the home and kids, while the man is carefree, focusing on his dreams and pursuing it with all he has got.
`take care of the home and kids with no one appreciating and the man expecting to be appreciated because it appears he is the one slaving for the family.
`ask for money you won't spend on yourself but on the home, while you have lots of needs that you can't mention
`get blamed when the man cheats, when he doesn't have money to give his relations
`get blamed when there are no kids, when the kids are misbehaving or not well kept
`YOU CAN ADD YOURS

It's simple! "They get to share the man's name".

ubunja:
marriage=financial support financially independent women=less interested in marriage

you sure do have a calling in "womanology".

bobokeshington:


you sure do have a calling in "womanology".

lol bobo, there is formula with human sexuality that once you get it its like a key that opens all mysteries and makes everything clear as day.

Ephaig:

I can relate with this. I was shocked when my babe, the girl I want to marry o, told me that her very good friend said I love her too much and because of that I won't be able to handle her. According to this friend, they expect guys to be authoritative, emotionless most of the time, rigid and stubborn. I just hope they are very few that share this view. And the girl in question is around 30 years.

lol i don't know why ladies easily get influenced by their friends

dasparrow:


Ain't that the truth? Nigerian women who are not doing anything constructive with their lives and have nothing going for them are the ones shouting marriage up and down. And that includes the ones that get beaten up by their husbands and the ones nursing all manners of sexually transmitted diseases which they contracted from their philandering husbands.

Many of them are housewives with no jobs and no businesses binginging nothing to the table except their over expanded vaginas that came about as a result of child bearing and too much sex. And then they wonder why 99% of married Nigerian men cheat on their wives. They cheat because their wives' vagina has lost elasticity.

Your first paragraph made sense but the second paragraph didn't appear to come from the same person.
So it's actually the woman's fault that her man is cheating? It's selfishness on the man's side to cheat because the wife's vagina got expanded�. The children she gave birth to na for him, having no job or business na to take care of his children because he didn't create an environment that can enable the woman to escape being a house wife. And I think the 99% is an exaggeration. Because people who cheat are more than people who don't cheat it seems everybody cheats.

bobokeshington:


It's simple! "They get to share the man's name".

And of what use is Sharing a man's name?