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Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by Lionessza(f): 7:46am On Mar 08, 2018 |
Not every woman is meant to be a mother and a wife . If she feels the best way she can add value to her society is by using her skill to heal people, then she should be left alone to do what really fulfills her not what society expects of her. The people insulting her are usually those who are caged by societal expectations , who are really afraid of choosing different paths , the road not travelled. The " you will change your mind in time and it will be too late , or " you will regret it later" people , are insecure people who feel they know better than the individual in question. There are so many women out there who have had kids and regretted it , some dump them in dustbins , some leave them with relatives etc. Some keep them but take out their frustration on them ( if it weren't for you , I would have been the top engineer at my firm). She will forget it's not the child's fault but her inner weaknesses that made her bow to the pressures of society. If you know motherhood and marriage aren't for you, then do what makes you happy and forget the hostages of religion and culture. Many are actually very miserable and want you to join them ![]() 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by eevich: 7:48am On Mar 08, 2018 |
Dear Madam, I agree with your message and totally agree that motherhood(or parenthood) Is not for everyone. but how about saying. “Having Children comes with responsibilities. For a career parent, you may be required to miss a few months of school or take that maternity leave(which you are entitled to in any working environment). Children's care, upkeep and education entail some significant financial investment. They also need alot of their PARENT'S time, attention, guidance and affection. It’s sad that some are carelessly brought into the world by people unwilling to make those sacrifices.” “Without a kid you typically have to mainly worry about yourself. With a child, you have to factor them into every decision you make. You are responsible for another, you can’t be as impulsive and frivolous, you adapt your way of living to the standards required of a parent.” My observation: Choice of words matter a lil more than we presume. Using words/lines like "burden", "time-consuming", "extra load", and other DISAPPROVING rhetoric in refering to children, reeks of 3rd-wave FEMINIST style or verbiage and seemed to taint what I believe would have been a beautiful message. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by kense88: 7:49am On Mar 08, 2018 |
lexy2014:The guy has no reliable source of income. He shouldn't have gotten married, in the first place. Now if the guy is actually rational, he would have given the same reason this lady gave, if asked why he has not gotten married. 1 Like |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by Nobody: 7:49am On Mar 08, 2018 |
DrinkLimca: You need to see the way i'm shaking my head for u. 2 Likes |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by MayhorE(m): 7:50am On Mar 08, 2018 |
Is this not a wasted precious sperm? If she had said it in another way, she might be right, BT like this, she's nay |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by Paulosky1900: 7:51am On Mar 08, 2018 |
eleojo23: so are you now comparing training you guys with your mum getting her masters degree earlier? trust me training you guys is more important and precious than that degree trust me even if the hand of clock is revised your mum will still choose to train you guys...children are priceless... |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by Tedassie(m): 7:54am On Mar 08, 2018 |
Well, if you see raising children to be a 'burden' ,sacrificing your time, personal comfort etc in order to bequeath a legacy for them, then you can't truly say you've lived! you are merely existing! People don't understand that the greatest reward or gratification in life lies in doing those things that challenge you to bring out your best. yes,and that also includes raising children. What is life, if all you ever do is live for yourself and yourself alone?that's a selfish way of life. I feel it doesn't grow and mature you as an individual. Responsibilities that come with parenthood often times come to test our humanity,our limit of endurance but it is not meant to break us, rather it is meant to stretch our capacity to give more of ourselves for a good course. 1 Like |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by olowobaba10: 7:56am On Mar 08, 2018 |
THEN YOUR MOTHER SHOULD NOT HAVE KEPT YOU emmayayodeji: |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by lexy2014: 7:56am On Mar 08, 2018 |
kense88:I get u boss, children must b given d best. But 2 call children a burden, that's way out of line 1 Like |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by Nobody: 7:56am On Mar 08, 2018 |
fSociety: He doesn't understand life at all....He's a still a kid probably |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by olowobaba10: 7:58am On Mar 08, 2018 |
THEN WHY DIDN'T YOUR MUM ABORT YOU? Elvixbeatz: 2 Likes |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by Nobody: 8:00am On Mar 08, 2018 |
Tedassie: One of the issues we have in nigeria comprehension 1 Like |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by kense88: 8:04am On Mar 08, 2018 |
lexy2014:The guy has no reliable source of income. He shouldn't have gotten married, in the first place. Now if the guy is actually rational, he would have given the same reason this lady gave, if asked why he has not gotten married. 2 Likes |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by Nobody: 8:09am On Mar 08, 2018 |
Whatever, I'm giving my unborn kids the best care & experience in life. I won't let them have the glimpse of 1% of the Adversities my parent made me went through in life. That's why I'm striving so hard to set everything in order before I venture into bringing them to this world. because I've really learn a lot from my parents. 1 Like |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by kokoboy4life(m): 8:12am On Mar 08, 2018 |
lexy2014: Your comment show how a typical Nigerian person think how would you say bearing children in numbers it’s an investment what about you as parent working hard to have a formidable life for yourself so that when your child grow up and still yet to have a better life you won’t pile pressure on him/her to start giving you money. This kind of thought it’s what bringing this country backward, we need to change the way we thinks 2 Likes |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by Nobody: 8:13am On Mar 08, 2018 |
onward4life:which beach? shey oniru or elegushi |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by kokoboy4life(m): 8:14am On Mar 08, 2018 |
lexy2014: Your comment show how a typical Nigerian person think how would you say bearing children in numbers it’s an investment what about you as parent working hard to have a formidable life for yourself so that when your child grow up and still yet to have a better life you won’t pile pressure on him/her to start giving you money. This kind of thought it’s what is bringing this country backward, we need to change the way we thinks 1 Like |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by Nobody: 8:15am On Mar 08, 2018 |
Partnerbiz2: Yes that's what the lady was trying to say, But poor thinking people won't comprehend. Children are blessings. 1 Like |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by maasoap(m): 8:16am On Mar 08, 2018 |
All her reasons are fact and true. But she too was once a child. Let's call it a sacrifice that parents had to make. |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by PrimadonnaO(f): 8:21am On Mar 08, 2018 |
cococandy: It's just the simple truth. People have chosen to be sentimental about it. But yes, we do want and love them still and won't trade that for anything else. ![]() 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by Nobody: 8:25am On Mar 08, 2018 |
KINGTELLER: God bless u sir. |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by KinzyeWriter(m): 8:29am On Mar 08, 2018 |
DrinkLimca: Typical Barca fan, Thinking Upside Down |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by Nobody: 8:30am On Mar 08, 2018 |
marvin906: Ok try and marry & have kids in this present economy without a Job. Pls go on and do It, E go better, Things will change as time goes on Ok. You were comparing your dad's era when Nigeria was still quite good to now. Even if u don't have a job Then, You can comfortably feed yourself & your family by doing some Minor jobs & still have some change to keep. Even Bankers now are complaining, To raise a family well now is not a child play. 1 Like |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by marvin906(m): 8:38am On Mar 08, 2018 |
Turkeelex: understand something.. i was not implying that you should have children when your broke.. and cant even feed yourself and wife properly all am saying is this many peeps want 100% financial stability before bringing children into this world.. which only few would achieve and even that few that achieved that success financially there's no guarantee that all will be well everyday even marriage my best friend said he wont get married until he has a minimum of 10 mill in hes account.. i asked him what if he never has that amount. and what makes him think having that amount will make him safe from financial troubles in the future. |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by Lsofdk(m): 8:39am On Mar 08, 2018 |
Chukazu:Buy baby milk. |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by Nobody: 8:44am On Mar 08, 2018 |
ImaIma1: Should i tell u something, The black race biggest problem & nightmare is not wanting to hear "The Bitter Truth" We hate people saying plainly truth direct to our faces. We so much despise it. We love to twist things, We love to Cut-Short the truth. Whether u like it or not, Raising children are "Burden" very big task & heavy load and a blessings as well. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by Chukazu: 8:44am On Mar 08, 2018 |
Lsofdk: You do six months breastfeed before baby milk |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by Nobody: 8:54am On Mar 08, 2018 |
lexy2014: Chai!!! how did u arrive at your own meaning of burden as Nuisance
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Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by Lsofdk(m): 8:54am On Mar 08, 2018 |
Chukazu:You should know not every child was brestfed(due to one reason or another) So I don't see why a mother can't switch or mix both(breast and baby milk) if breastfeeding alone is causing her health challenges |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by Nobody: 8:56am On Mar 08, 2018 |
Priscy01: Some women are just nothing but trash.. Any father with sons right now will lament at the future prospects of finding a decent woman.. Nothing but worthless daughters of doom parading everywhere. 1 Like |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by TheUpsetGirl(m): 9:01am On Mar 08, 2018 |
DrinkLimca: senseless and stupid... 1 Like |
Re: “children Are A Burden. They Slow Down Careers & Are Time Consuming” - Lady by Nobody: 9:03am On Mar 08, 2018 |
marvin906: Ok then those ones targets are outrageous N10million |
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