Though I praised her for not terminating the pregnancy when she was impregnated, but now I don't like the burden she has brought to our family. Some years back, she was impregnated by yet to be known guy (she knows the guy in question). She came home with the pregnancy and gave birth to a baby boy.
Seven years after she is still living with us and has refused to pack to where she belongs. This is even as I was told that the young man responsible has been calling her on phone to return to him. I was told that the young man was willing to come and introduce himself but she refused. This was read in her cellphone while she was away.
Folks, what would you do if your sister refuse to leave as in this case?
I'm running out of patience because I've endured her staying together with us for a very long time. Moreover she has no inheritance in my culture. The whole thing has been willed to me.

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Leave her alone if you cannot counsel her.

Moreover she has no inheritance in my culture. The whole thing has been willed to me.

Greedy man; useless culture! She's your sister and no matter what that your culture says, she shouldn't be treated like an outsider until she's at least established in her husband's house. There is alot that's just too wrong with African cultures.
That is not to say I'm supporting her indecisive attitude.

You most be a very wicket and greedy man. just reread what you have written

Mike4S:
Though I praised her for not terminating the pregnancy when she was impregnated, but now I don't like the burden she has brought to our family. Some years back, she was impregnated by yet to be known guy (she knows the guy in question). She came home with the pregnancy and gave birth to a baby boy.
Seven years after she is still living with us and has refused to pack to where she belongs. This is even as I was told that the young man responsible has been calling her on phone to return to him. I was told that the young man was willing to come and introduce himself but she refused. This was read in her cellphone while she was away.
Folks, what would you do if your sister refuse to leave as in this case?
I'm running out of patience because I've endured her staying together with us for a very long time. Moreover she has no inheritance in my culture. The whole thing has been willed to me.

A lot of problems can be saved if you actually confront them head on.

Call her to a meeting and ask why she doesn't want the father of her child in her life. If there is no legitimate reason, give her an ultimatum to call him to come and do introduction or you will call him yourself. Some people never mature no matter how old they become. Your sister sounds like one of them. Take charge of her life for her or you will eventually have a live-in spinster till your old age.

It's good you're in charge of the inheritance. When she has taken charge of her life, you can help her along with a few things. You have done well as a supportive brother. Keep it up.

Alexk2:

Greedy man; useless culture! She's your sister and no matter what that your culture says, she shouldn't be treated like an outsider until she's at least established in her husband's house. There is alot that's just too wrong with African cultures.
That is not to say I'm supporting her indecisive attitude.

I agree with you, useless culture, annoying thing is she moves to the man's house and then his culture too might be t
wives don't inherit anything.
@op have you even considered if the man is good for her or not, his character and background, if they love each other or if he can make her happy, you don't mind pushing her into the arms of a stranger you only read about on her phone as long as she's out of your inheritance, Biko go and advise yourself.

I will go out of your shoe and enter my own shoe

Have you or your family ever sat her down to ask why she has chosen to raise the now 7-year old child alone, instead of with him?

Are you talking about your blood sister from same parents or a house girl??
If you mean the former, you need more brain than advice.